Nigeria Williams on Trauma, Healing, and Breaking Generational Cycles

Yeah, yeah, we live ladies, gentlemen, Ladies and gentlemen. We talked weeklies after they talking w P P M m P Philadelphia one O six point five film. We talked weeklies after the Talk with your boy Charles Gregor and Beautiful and the Beautiful And we are here, y'all. We talk weekly. We are definitely in the building. Uh, jam pack show and uh we got two dynamic interviews, which I can't wait. We have some good news and bad news. We got some sizzle. Let's see. I think we got some breaking news too. I've seen something come across my uh my phone. Uh, and so we could talk a little bit about that. But you know, before we do anything, how would you think? How would you think? I had a crazy day. I had to get a little high. I was cleaning back done and you know, a bunch of stuff going on. But I'm super excited. This is the first time in a little while that we have all been back in the studio. Yeah. So I'm just excited about that. Yeah. Yeah. So it's like, you know, just putting the icing on the cake of a great weekend. Shout out to Ladys dot for the Ridgerton wedding. Yeah, she just got married, so shout out to her, and yeah, I had a I had a Today was a good day. Just say what. Like Sissu said, I'm recovering from that beautiful, gorgeous, amazing wedding. I was like, that's it's not even I said. At one point it was up in my top three, it's up in my top two, and Ladys Dot one like it. I mean, if you've seen the details. Of what was on the plates and our names and. The gold tags, and even when you left, like the. Cheese steak, everything was gorgeous, you know, like a soloist live like, it was just gorgeous. It was gorgeous. It was gorgeous. So I had a day. A day. I am going through a lot my mother. It'll be a year next year that she's not been with us, and she left me property. And you know, a lot of stuff come out. They say, weddings, speaking of Ladys Dot, weddings and funerals a lot. Like you know, they say, money don't change you, money reveals you. I feel the same way about those type of. Situations, absolutely, like it's just crazy. So I've been dealing with some you know, some stuff with that and I'm just I'm giving God grace with it because I'm gonna do what I need to do to protect myself. But at the end of the day, it's something that if it's in writing, and that's why a lot of people, when your loved ones are here, get a lot of stuff in writing. Make sure you have those conversations to say, hey. We need a living will, we need a power of attorney, a trust. You know, all that stuff is extremely important. And I know you don't want to talk about it, but you have to, especially not even if you're younger, not even if you're oh, my parents are still young. No, it still needs to be a conversation that needs to be had, especially when you have parents or family members who have assets. Absolutely, that's it, and that's all. You could become a beneficiary on their bank account. When I say beneficiary, it just means that any event something happens to them, they'll release. All funds to you. Yes, it's a form, sign. Your name, and that's it, because guess what, you won't get that much. It'll be out there and you're gonna have to go through a whole lot of stuff just to get it. So just sharing, y'all, Yeah, my mom. She works, well, she's retired now, but she was a stenographer for thirty something years and she spent some time in orphans court. And then she was just talking about a lot of the fighting that goes on with families after you know, the parent has passed away or something like that, and then the children are fighting, and so many different things happened. So she was just like, you know, just make sure you same thing you said, she said, everything you said. Put it in writing. That's it. You can even make a video documentary, however, getting it in writing, because you need that notarized, you know, day you know that document notarized by a witness, two witnesses to be exact. But these are forms you can go right on Google and do. You don't even need lawyers anymore. Trust used to be like a big thing. You don't even need that. The verbiage is what you need, copy and paste, put your family's information in there, and you're good to go. What about the time they found that will from uh, what's her name in the couch from Aretha Franklin. They found that and then they decided based on that and I think it was being written or something like that. Yeah, yeah, and remember what was it soul food when they found the money, Mama's money and the refugeral and the TV that uncle Haaris or something. Yes, ruth Is I forget his name, but it's just a it's a it's an example of and honestly, I have stuff that's in place, but mine is not ironclad, and I need to do it. I don't need, you know, because I'm a product of what what that looks like. So I know better. Yes, all right, se how was your day? Long long? I'm super tired. He was working yesterday. Uh lady started in the building. Uh, yeah, you know what I mean, married time to not Yeah, I was, I was unfamiliar. What was new to me was that pearl kind of like that pearl, oh. The lace, the uh the last Yeah, yeah, I've never heard of that before, so that was Yeah, I've seen them. I think people do some really interesting things, you know, to commemorate that next step, like jumping the broom. The candles, fighting the candles, it's sand. They do that one. They even muscle tall stamp on the glass. There's a there's a lot of different rituals to make people, you know that they put in to uh like you said, commemorate them and be as one. Right, So I think I think it was so cute. She looked gorgeous. It was just yeah, it was an excellent, excellent time. Not shot lady, Yes, lady. She's an honest woman. Now. Yeah. And so all those who's out there that's ready to get married, good luck, you know, have a great time, good luck, congratulations or what do you say? Don't say good luck? Don't get strike that that does put like a little good. Godless. Well, I take that back, and just do you that don't sounds good? You don't know what to say he's talking about. Do you. What you're supposed to say? I don't know what you're supposed to say. To each his own right. His zone, right, Because some people I was just watching something before y'all walked in, and they were talking about that when you get into different marriages, some people like the union of energy, right, So they don't believe in marriages per se, getting married under the institution of this kind of white privilege piece and not. And I get that, right, And so you know, I don't know, I mean, everyone have different points of views. And what I'm starting to see lately is that what I do like however that's going on. People are expressing more of themselves as opposed to falling under these structures, right, these you know said structures that has been placed on you ever since you were small, Right, the structure of Okay, you have to vote Democrat because you're black. People are fighting against that same thing. If you're Republican, if your parents are Republican, you gotta know, I don't want to be a Republican. Or now you know, they feel independent, right the constitution of marriage, right, you know, they feel like, well, I don't have to get married under you know, this this governmental piece you know, or in the church. Right, yeah, that's like, hey, I'm doing it wherever I want. So I like that. I like the idea that people are making more kind of decisions to set their own future up as opposed to how it was set up for them. But the world is shifting there, you go. We I mean, we're talking about cloning, cloning, holograms are being done. If you think about it, in eleven years, we'll be in twenty thirty four, is right. That's crazy, Like come on, yeh, that's like, yeah, I've been with y'all for almost eight years, Like you know what I mean, Like time goes so quick. Eleven years will be twenty thirty four, and it's crazy. So the world is shifting and we're not going back. So what you just said, see is it's so important. It's gonna be so many different things. I just said that holograms is gonna be. They're gonna take biopsies. I think of of people who passed away. Take some blood drops. Put that deal doing it. See, they're already doing it. They're already cloning. They successfully cloned pigs and goats and not successfully. The man that had the pig heart the big cause. You know, they were talking and I was part of this discussion, this French bulldog discussion, and they were talking about this bulldogs. They're successfully cloning dogs right, cloning Say for example, you really like this blood that came from this particular bulldog. Well, if the dog isn't alive, they successfully was able to pull off traits prior to it passing and clone that dog. So you can. Get if they're doing that with burst ups, you can get this. You can tell them what gender you want, the eye colors, the height, And I mentioned the cloning of your past. The way relatives, because I think people go to pay enough if they miss their pass away relative. Just clone them, that's right. Even if it's not that person, they're going to say, oh, we need recordings, we need their hair samples, all while they're alive, so when they pass away, they can clone them and still have a copy of them. I don't know, it sounds crazy, It's just it feels like something I. Want, especially when you have this conversation based around AI. Right, AI being able to you know, you're having this conversation with AI, and it's able to interpret your feeling is not necessarily feeling an emotion physically per se, but they can interpret what you want to say based off of your own algorithm. So AI is creating this memory of you. So they're what they're saying now is that they can or what they're what they're putting together is headstones, right, infusing the AI and the headstones of your parents or whoever. Memory. So you're talking to this thing over time and. It's picking up the algorithm aka their assax right wow. Right, And so over time what you able to do is after said person pass away, now you can kind of visit this person at the gravesite because. It's still that's I wouldn't even want to partake in that, and that's just scary. So I mean, it's one of those things though, I mean, it is what it is. And the thing, especially when it comes to AIS like AIS here, whether you like it or not. It's always been here. It's just steroids now understood, understood, absolutely one hundred accurate. So if and to you ladies and gentlemen, if you are not at the very least understanding AI, you need to right now because if you don't, you're gonna get ran over, passed over. The train is going to leave too far ahead if you for you to catch up, and what you don't want to do is get either replaced or get so far behind and understand the AI that you get left or again replaced by someone who does understand it. So at the very least get some type of understanding of what AI is so you can have the conversation as it relates to what you need to do or shouldn't do, because there are some things that you shouldn't do when it comes to AI. So with that said, I'm your boy, Charles Gregory, the Beautiful. Lauren Sizzle and the beautiful Classic Lady Sparkle, it looks like one of our first guests are here, So I don't want you guys to go anywhere. When we come back, we're gonna have a dynamic interview, and then we're gonna get into some good news and bad news, and then we gonna get into who knows we're gonna get into. We're gonna talk a little bit about let's talk a little bit about some politics. He ain't. We're not gonna get too far into it, but we're just gonna tell you some things that's happening, what the world is talking about. And then we're gonna have another interview, and then we're gonna have the sizzles. So I don't want you guys to go anywhere. We'll be right back after this show. Ill h. Bluck up, pluck up, knock up, luck up, flucked up, slucked up, sluck slucked up, snuck up, ducked up, snuck luck duck. Or Philadelphia one of six point five. That's when we talked week after the Talk with your boy Charles Gregor and Beautiful Lawrence and beautiful Oh I don't hear these classic games. Give me one more again, Classic lady spots should go that voice right there. And so yeah, man, so you know, we're about to definitely get into some of the things that we like, especially especially my favorite segment of the show, and why is this My favorite segment of the show are the interviews because I get to talk to the good old people. I get to see and hear the things that they're doing in those streets, right, A lot of people on the streets, because they're the real people, right. And so without further do who's gonna give me? Who's gonna do the intro? That's your classy lady. Tell me who we have today? Who do we have today? Today? We have Nidria. Am I pronouncing that right? Nidrea is such a beautiful name. We have Nidrea Williams. She's a certified trauma Empowerment coach and experienced trauma focused cognitive behavioral therapists with twenty plus years in the mental. Health Oh, we're gonna get into this. With an in school counselor at a public high school in Havertown, she guides teens through the use of trauma based techniques and focuses on the well being state of emotions. Her mission statement is revitalized Hope and Healing is committed to empowering women and overcoming their past trauma by offering trauma empowerment, coaching and motivational speaking services. Y'all already know what to do. Let's give a warm we talk weekly. Welcome to Nidria Williams. They give a round of applause, rand of applause. How are you? How are you? I'm doing great? Why don't we move that mike a little closer to you? Just kidding little? Can you help her out real quick? We just want damn We just want to make sure we hear that beautiful voice. Got we sound great? You sound great? So first and foremost before we start anything, you know, I got to ask how was your day? How was your day to day? My day was. Good, it was quiet, was good, I was home. Okay, okay. So the world has been talking about pretty much mental health, right, and trauma and all of that, right, especially as it relates to the political sector right now, right where would you tell somebody to start filling torn with what side to take or just getting involved into this push and pull of politics. I just want to start there because there's people arguing back with each other over this stuff. There's people are I've seen it today. I'm deleting this person. I can't believe they said they was okay with some of the things in Project twenty twenty five, and I looked at some of the things and I was like, No, some things in there that I feel like needs to happen, you know, you know, just as a tongue in cheek moment. But what do you what do you tell people who are feeling just kind of in today's world to push and pull and you know, feeling like I need to just this is just way too much. How do you approach. That Sometimes you have to turn things off? Children? Let me around the plus for that. There you go. You can just delete somebody up, absolutely help just stop scroll? No, you do like social media is a lot right now? Everything you see is not what it is. Like. My husband can watch the news all day long, and I grew up like. That with my parents, and I can no longer do it. Like I in a line of work that I do, I just cannot start my day anymore watching the news. I just can't. And he'll be like at work or on his way home. Did you see this on the news? Did you see that he'll send me stuff and I cannot do it anymore. I have to decompress. I have to separate myself for the work that I do. So sometimes you just have to disconnect and turn things off and not get in bobbed or have a time and a place. Where it right. So like if you know you're going to go into this environment and it's going to be talked about, and you're going to go and this space is going to be talked about and at home, I'm not going to bring it up. I'm not going to look at it because I know when I go here it's going to have to be a topic and I can't avoid it, you know, because some spaces you cannot avoid it. It's just going to happen. So you have to have your own space set up where you can have a piece of mine and you can turn your phone off. You can turn your phone off. You have the power. Like I tell clients, the best thing about the phone is you can turn it off. You don't have to answer it. You can hang up, You put it down and be done. Like when someone is talking to you out of their face, you can end the call and be done. Like it doesn't have to go any further. It's not like face to face, you know. So it's a shame because kids are children. I was watching a special and the children were saying how much they're affected by the phone and social media and all the different forms of social media that they use, Like Snapchat is a big thing for the teens, and they said that their moods are dependent upon what they wake up to on their phone, if someone has replied, if the message is so and so on social media, to whatever they posted. It is contingent upon their mood. If something has transpired that they don't like, it sets off their whole entire day. Yeah. I think that's really sad because especially now in Philadelphia. You know, Philadelphia is such a small city, I guess when it comes to like different clicks and and different gangs and all that, and social media plays a huge part in what we're seeing now when it comes to crime, and especially with youth's. I just remember, you know, during the pandemic, students weren't in school and and everybody was out, and then when they went back there was this huge influx of just you know, violence and different things. And I was hearing from cause you know, my son was still in school at the time, and I was hearing from him that, yeah, that he just knew all the beefs and how they started from social media. It was just it was just terrible and just being able to disconnect from And I feel like that's what young people need. What started you to get into this field? Like these are unsung hero occupations and careers like where did where did that see get planned? That made you want to be in that career. I kind of fell into it, to be honest. I was pregnant with my son and I knew I needed to go back to school because he had to go to private school. So I needed to ask. I needed to make some more money, and I chose the wrong phil honestly, because you know, it's a struggle. But I went to school undergrad for business and. I fell into this. I said, I'm going to go back in my master's and I had other plans to start a business, and I just fell in love with this major clinical psychology. I love psychology in high school when I took the course, and I think nature versus nurture, to be honest, I started to figure out what was wrong. Growing up when I was learning things. What was going on with my family from what I was learning, and I just wanted to learn more. And then I realized like what I could do in helping and I just became like a permanent student since so it's not easy by far, and I pulled, you know, concentrated towards the trauma because that's what I was attracting, like in every role in position, because I've pretty much done it all since I've been working in the field for over twenty years. In the community, it seemed like I was always getting the heavy trauma clientele PTSD, you know, sexual assault, all that kind of stuff. And during the pandemic, I was the busiest. I got laid off and then that's when I kind of just went full fledged with my business at home and I was like doing PRN work for Penn at that time, and you want to talk about every story that you saw on the news, I was getting those women. I remember I had one woman who had lost four sons. To gun violence. And a lot of the women, a lot of the stories that I had were women that had experienced something in childhood and now it was manifesting in adulthood. So it was like one thing after another, and then all the cause I was getting privately for my practice were the same things. So I'm like, let me just go ahead and change my title. Let me just wrap this up in one I mean, because realistically, a lot of the issues awesome from trauma. So I want to talk I want to talk a little bit about that, because your specialty is a long time title trauma focused cognitive behavior behavioral therapist, and so let's talk a little bit about that. What does that actually mean, right, and how would that support someone who would be I guess supported under that school. So I was trained under trauma focused cognitive behavioral therapy, and that's an actual model that you use mainly towards the children, like helping them work towards their trauma story and their narrative so that they can be able to at the end of the like twelve weeks, be able to write their narrative, like actually it's not like inside of them anymore. They're able to write out the whole story and be able to verbalize it and come together with their caregivers and talk about it. The trauma empowerment is the coaching part. So I kind of moved on to the coaching part to where I'm just working towards helping women. That's my niche down deal with the things that happen to them that they don't normally talk about that's really causing them to be stagnant and stock and getting them to work towards speaking about that and healing from that. A lot of the cognitive behavior. Things, you know, doing exercises, working on changing thought patterns and reframing things, because the big thing for me is letting our women know that rejection is really redirection. So big thing with CBT is reframing. So we reframed it. You know, rejection, You really weren't dismissed, you were just redirected. So that led you to let's talk a little bit about vitalized hope and healing. Right, So all of that, I guess led you to kind of create this, you know, this organization that's specializing that, and you know what is what is your direction or what's something that you would hope to achieve based off of this new organization. So revitalized hope and healing is helping women revitalize the hope that's been lost. So the thought was, you know, I talked to God when I was coming up with a name, and hope and healing is what normally gets attacked, right, we lose hope for the moment, but it's not totally lost. So when folks have come to me, it's at that point of you know, I'm feeling hopeless. I don't know what to do. All these things have happened and everyone's left me, or you know, I have nowhere to turn. I didn't know who to call. You know, I landed upon you, and now can you help me? Right? And then we work tourds to healing, and then at the end of it, you know you are alive again like that. So that's where the name came from. And you know, established in twenty twenty, twenty seventeen, but I really didn't get started till like about twenty nineteen. Now we're working more tours like the coaching and empowerment. I on a speak a tour. We just came. We just came from the DMV. So I'm really just letting God lead, just showing up and letting God take over. Like I'm a real like type a personality. So I tried, like February is like God said, We're gonna go on a move we were here in Philly and I told everyone, we're not coming back here till twenty twenty five, and I said, it's first stop is Atlanta. And we went to Atlanta in June. And then my plan and just went. God just took over. So whatever God. Is saying, he's saying, and then we show up and then He does the work. So women have come to the events and they've left hill. I got my healing in Atlanta, So it's been really powerful. Wow. Now you spoke about like growing up not knowing what not to do from family members or whomever. That's considered generational trauma. How and tell us what techniques have you given far as how to overcome generational trauma. One, we have to learn how to speak about it generationally. We have learned culturally as a people of color, of the color that I have, that we don't talk about it. It stays in the house, it stays in the church, We don't go to therapy. Therapy has become a little bit more normalized since the pandemic. It's been more of a I could sit on my couch and get therapy, Neil, because it's virtual. It's at bit a little a little trendy because it's now, it's in culture because it's in the songs and everything. Now everybody's getting therapy, so people feel a little bit more comfortable. But here's the thing. I learned this while we were away in the DMV over the weekend last weekend. Our generation is like the thirties forties, we're going to therapy, but the fifty sixties, seven years, seventy year olds or like what you're doing doing it? We don't talk about that. You crazy, Like what's wrong with you? Why? Why are you going to therapy? Only crazy people go to therapy because they're still stuck. So we've come to grips of it's okay to go to therapy. I want my child in therapy because my child's in school going into crises. So I'm aware and now I need to go to therapy too. But we still have our elders that are still looking upon us like something is wrong, and we still so we still had that generation to teach, and it's really hard to teach them. You can't teach them, so we have to be encouraged to speak out about it. And you know, I had an event the other day and it was so empowering for the women to just be able to talk about I started off with like when it was the first time you remember being rejected and they sit and they're like, oh, you're gonna make me cry. But it's like the thing that you. Held in all this time because no one was able to listen to you, no one wanted. To hear you. You could never share anything like that because you never had the space. So it's getting the ability to be able to speak about it, to talk about it, to say that it happened because it happened to you. It's nothing wrong with you, but it happened to you, And a lot of times we weren't even believed that something happened. I wanna talk. I wanna uh, I wanna. I wanna not necessarily push back, right, but I do wanna ask is there a thing about sharing too much? Right? Is there a thing as it relates to the idea of this this social media piece of putting everything out there to everybody. Right, that's not necessarily therapy. Right. Therapy is coming to someone like you and saying, Okay, I'm giving you my world, versus let me run a social media and give the world the world. Right, So what's your position on that, cause I do believe there is a argument on both sides. One to say that people need to talk about what those issues are that's plaguing them because it's other people that actually are going through that same thing, Right. But I see the other side when someone argue that what that every everything isn't for everybody, so to speak, right, And so how do you walk that fine line of sharing but not sharing too much? If that makes sense? No, it makes a lot of sense because what you're saying is that some things you share can. Trigger others, absolutely right. So you have to be careful what you're sharing and everything is not the appropriate place. Right. So again we talked about like turning off social media because people do that and it's not safe. So social media is not a safe place. Social media is not a safe place. You never know what you're going to scroll through when you scroll, right, So I am very much aware, like I only follow certain people. I make sure that only certain things show up in my timeline so I'm. Not triggered in that way. Right. That's one thing. That you all should be doing so that you don't have those occurrences because you can't control that right, And then two, social media is not the place for you to like. Have your therapy sessions, right. Right. You can follow people that can give. You some good tips and tricks, right, but like it's not for you to actually have those venting sessions. This kind of stuff is stuff you have a safe space, yeah, where you feel comfortable. Like those ladies I met with, they wouldn't have shared that kind of stuff or social media. They felt comfortable in a safe space. Like those are the topics that you share in safe spaces. Social media is not a safe space. So those folks that are sharing those kind of messages, it might be good to privately message them and say, hey, I have a person that you know you might want to talk to, Like, I have some information, have you you know, thought about just and it's not being facetious. It's just saying, hey. You know, here's some information, here's some referrals for you, here's some resources. Because they're struggling, obviously they're struggling, and some people don't have the people to talk to, so you can't judge them, right, Some people like so they look to social media for a community, so you cannot judge them. They don't Some people only know what they know. It's alds like a cry out to some people. Some people are crying out, and some people are that close to making really poor decisions. So we can't say they shouldn't be doing it, they should know better. They might not know better, and they might need some want to like. Say hey, I got you and I saw I did see something that was really nice. A lady that was losing her home and they said on TikTok she had posted it, and so many people reached out from the area and like Dallas and offered help to like help her put things in storage. Oh that yeah, I saw that she was being evicted and all these people showed up. Yeah, and like things like that do happen, Like you can you know, cry out and people can help. I got, oh, go ahead. Oh no, I was just gonna say, I just had like a vision. I just kind of you know, popped into my head, a sneaker to myself, because I see that all the time, somebody's just getting on there and then they're just going on this whole tangent personal stuff, even about other family members, and there's no one ever says to them, like don't do that here, or you can get help or like they may say, don't post us on here, but they don't offer the alternative of getting help. So that's just so important. You know, I personally think that people are now trying to go viral, like the woman who is crying out and then it was her relationship and now she's making money, you. Know what I mean. So it's like they still have the mental health, but now it's like it's it's. Cool to do. But my question was, with that being said, it's so many people who are now I'm real, I'm gonna tell you how it is. I'm a body shame. You know, you should just you know, take the realness, and it's becoming abusive. So now you've got these people who because the internet or the media is now saying be real and just tell it like it is. But now you're becoming the brutal person, which gives another person the trauma. So now it's like there's this seesaw. Now where people are being real based on what the media says about not sugarcoating stuff. But now you got someone who's receiving this cyber bullying and now dealing with trauma. You know, like even with our politicians right now you got Joe, Biden and Trump, and it's almost like with the media is hyping it up to say, you know, someone who can't really speak not far from age with each other, but it's kind of a bully with you know, the sleepy Joe or you know what I mean. Control in the narrative. So what do you tell your your clienteles to you know, I know it's like stop with the you know, social media, But is it also another kind of confidence thing that you can build in them, or what advice would you give. The exactly what you're saying, like, how do you value yourself? Like a lot of times we can differentiate like what's real and what's not. Right. Yeah, if we are high on our. Self worth, so it affects us the most. When we're not thinking really good about ourselves, like we. Don't think well about ourselves, then it's easy for us the spiral down. But if we're working on our self worth and we think that we're worthy and I don't, that doesn't that doesn't apply to me. I don't Like I'm not in that situation like that body shaming doesn't. I don't even think that way, Like I don't fit in that category, you know, like I don't even see that. I'm not talking about myself, but I don't see that because I think of myself differently. I value myself differently. So we work on that like self worth and value and not dealing with the self doubt, you know, And that goes back to the rejection. Like if we're working on that, then we're not affected about that because we kind of work through the rejection. We navigated through all the nose. We know better. Like people are going to say that, like people are going to do that, people are going to challenge us in that way. But we have to toughen up because we know who we are. You know, God said who we are. You know, God has told me who I am, and I don't really care who else has to say what, you know. So if we go back to that, and that's that's another thing about me, you know, I can never denounce got in it. So if. I remember when I was starting my practice, I debated or whether I was going to have anything about, you know, my religion, and you know, someone said to me, well if you don't, then who you want to track? You know, So it was like something because when I did, I chose to. And because I never denounced. Got everyone that called me was like, you know, because I was looking. For someone that was a black Christian woman. You know, so and I couldn't find anybody, you know, and when I found out you was black and you was Christian, you know, they were excited. So if we have the fear in God and God. Only, it doesn't really matter what anyone else has to say. And I think if we go back to that first and foremost, you know, and I bring my people back to that, you know, if we are valuing ourselves and our worth, if that is in you know, check, we can start there and then we can work further down. But when that is low and tainted, that's where it's easy for all the other things to just come in and seep in and destroy. I agree with that. I agree with that, you know what. And as you say that, right, I'm gonna read a couple of different behaviors, right, and I want y'all to just think about this, right one, mood modification, silence, tolerance, withdrawal symptoms, conflict, and relapse. I just gave y'all behaviors of it. Sounds like substance abuse, but this is actually diagnosed as social media addiction behavior. That's wow, right, And so when it comes to right us understanding those behaviors, we have to think about are we truly understanding what we think? Because most of us say, oh, I ain't addicted. That's the criteria's addictive social media disorder. Wow, that's crazy, right, And this was I'm on the Addictioncenter dot com if y'all want to look this up, and it's just social media addiction is a behavior addiction that is characterized as being overly concerned about social media, driven by and uncontrollable urds to log on to or use social media and develop so much time and effort to social media that it impairs other important life areas crazy? Right, Wow, there's certain things that we look over right, And that just goes back to your point, right, what do we feel about ourselves? Right? And are we. Conscious enough to see where we're falling short identifying it and kind of just logging off so to speak? Right, most of us don't know re addicted. So if you feel like you have to always pull out your phone, unfortunately, it looks like you have social media addiction disorder. It's crazy, right, Try one thing, right, yep, let's just sit for a second. And what do we do when we. We don't even brush our teeth, Like, nobody brushes their teeth. They just go right to their phone. Like, yeah, I used to I realized it was becoming a problem over and I said, this is yeah, but we're surrounded by everything electronic, everything AI is from your alexas to your cars. It's it's that's exactly what it is. You're opening your door, you're opening your vehicles. You can't even. Buy modern stuff anymore because of how the way it is, you know, And it's they're programming us to be human computers. Because here, think about this. When you use GPS and you're going somewhere, as soon as you turn it off, now you've been to this destination five times. You can't even get there without turning GPS, and you've been there five times. So when people realize that, why don't you go look at landmarks turn it off? Because back in the day they had to, like you had to print it out. Do not use it, but challenge yourself. Yeah, so what was you about to say? No, I was going I was ingreeed with you when I was saying, is that are we being programmed or are we allowing people to program us. I think it's both. I think two things could be right at the same time. Yeah, So I'm gonna I'm gonna challenge you. Right, think about this. If I said that you had to wake up and think about five things you're grateful for each morning, and these are the five things that if you didn't announce those five things that you were grateful for, they would be taken away. M hmm, I'm breathing, waking off air air your lungs. Think about it, like, so you can't pick up the phone, but you had to start the morning with five things that you're grateful for, and if you don't do this every day, they're gonna be guys gonna take them away from you. Wow, a challenge. That's a challenge. Like we can always think about what we don't have right, what we need, what's missing, But what do we have to what is God said, I'm taking this from you because you don't think me for it. And all you was worried about was your phone when you first woke up this morning. So therefore, if you worried about your phone, you can have your phone. But I'm gonna take everything that you didn't think before this morning away from you. What you want to do. Then that's so that's that's a good that's a good challenge, and it's I mean to that point, it's probably a good exercise to start thinking. If you don't already do this, wake up and name five things that you're thankful for as soon as you wake up. That's an exercise I give my clients. There you go, let me get you around. What's the ripple effect? What's that meaning? Meaning? Like? Is there I read it in the bio like a ripple effect? Is it where it's almost like see says it all the time? Teach one, each one teach three. I used to say each one teach one, but each one teach three. So is it? The ripple effect is that you make sure that with one client that you're able to pour in and invest in, knowing that they're going to spread that along. So for me, like. For me, I want the women to be healed because I was once that woman that was struggling mental health wise. Right, I thought I was hiding it front my son, but I wasn't you know, when he was struggling at sixteen, he said, Mom, I know what depression is. That was when I was eight and you was in the room in the dark. Emotional intelligence. So we as women, we have the most contact with our children. Right. My heart is with the kids because the children are our future, right, and that's our legacy. So that's the ripple effect for me. So if our women are mentally sound and we are, infants pick up on our emotions, and infancy the facial expressions, they pick up on emotions, and uter row they can pick up on anxiety. Right, So if we can get our women mentally sound, mental wellness together, that builds on our legacy, right, because the more women we have women, how many women are in a daycare center versus the men? Okay, so how many infants? How many infants are in a daycare center? Yep? And the infants pick up on emotions. How many women come to work at a daycare center not emotionally sound? You no bringing that right into the daycare. So that's the generation after generation after generation. You talk about breaking generational trauma, so we can get these women mentally sound. You're talking about our legacy, and I'm all about legacy building, right, me. Started talking about give me started talking. That's one thing we as a people don't focus on enough. It's our legacy. You just hit on something. My background is in healthcare and it's called it's epigenetics. But even before procreate, before you pro create, let's just say a twenty year old and she doesn't have children until she's twenty two. If she's in a stressful environment at twenty, once that seat is in planet, it's now that embryo is now in a sack, the amnio sack of stress. So when this child is born, even if it starts to wear off, that muscle memory for that child is now going to be stressed. So even if they grow up in suburban or whatever, this child can still gravitate to a familiality of stress. So what you just said is absolutely true that it starts. Within even before the sperm or the embryo is made, because now this woman is stressed, and now this is where this child is growing. I'm living proof. I said that I wanted to send my son to private school, so I paid lots of money for him to go to private school from the time he started right naycare on and I cried every day during my pregnancy. Yep, my son had to get. Assessments to go to private school, pay a. Lot of money for those, and he scored high on a social emotional issues. How I just told you that social emotional. But it was an issue. I had him in a Montessori school wider scored up School of Philadelphia, right, and they wouldn't promote him to the first grade because it was like three and a half to five and a half six and a half or something like that, because they were afraid because it's social where he scored there, he wouldn't be ready to move forward with the older kids because of his emotions, his emotional states. He's still that way, no matter how much money I paid, no matter what he had access to, He's still that way. He's twenty something years old. And that was in utero that developed. Does he cry a lot, No, he doesn't cry a lot, but he talks a lot. I don't want I don't want to pivot. I don't want to pivot the conversation, right, But there's there's conversation when it comes to relationships, right of women wanting men to be more emotional intelligence, but they can't handle it when he's really emotional intelligent. Because now they're calling them, oh, you lame or you're giving me too much. But you just said he wanted them to be in touch with his feelings and emotions, right, And so that just goes back to the point of what we really want and what we identify and saying what we really want. We have to truly be in tune with what we really want, otherwise we'll be getting something that we thought was cool to say that we really wanted, right, yeah, yeah, And so what I'm that was something that you mentioned that I just want to jump on to. Right, Oh yeah, real quick this time flu already, it's already nine o'clock. I could talk to you all day. I think we're going to bring you back. But what would you say to someone? Because I like to allow space for not only say spaces and growth, but to be able for people to come on. We talk weekly and get resources, get information. Right for someone who may come to the show, come to the come to our page right and watch this interview, and they may feel broken, They may feel you know, uh, toxically traumatized, so to speed. They might have PTSD. They may feel like it's over with me and this is the last moment, right, can you give a word or have a conversation real quick for someone who might be watching this if they feel like that, sure. That person needs to know that they're not alone, right mm. There's always someone that you can talk to. Now we have the crisis line. I think it's like text. You can text AA eight. Anyone there can text you back or call. You and talk. You can call them and then you can talk to them about anything. You don't have to be like in a full crisis. They'll work and talk to you. They can even come out to assess you. If you're in danger, you can go to the police station. You have to see a lot of times and I have to go here. A lot of times. People are scared to let others know that they need to help. And when we are a strong person, we think that someone is supposed to know that we need to help because we might be you know. Stepping off, stepping back a little bit or whatever. But we have to like speak out, you know, we have to. Speak up and say hey, I'm not feeling myself right Neil, And don't do it through social media, but like pick up the phone. And another thing this came. Up a few days ago to pop up on some people, like check in on some people, like if someone is, you know, trying to let you know something is not sounding right, Like don't just keep texting them, pop up like go knock on a door, be evasive because they it might not be able to verbalize it, but the little hints and clues might. Be letting you know that they need you to stop by. I've been that person before, you know, and it's hard being that strong friend because you know, being professionals, you guys know a lot of times you need that person. Some of the people watching this probably need that person, but they don't want to let the other person know. Some of the males don't want to let another person know they're struggling. Right, If you see one of your brothers like distancing himself, not showing up like he used to pop up on him. You know, if somebody's on here that is feeling that way, let someone know. Don't just be like giving the hints. Sometimes you're strong your other friends. If you're a strong friend or not a strong friend, people don't know how to approach you, and. They just need to know that you do need the help. Just ask great advice. Great advice one of the things that I like to say that that was excellent advice things for that. One of the things that I tell men is because we have we have this issue where and the ladies too. But for the most part, men we always all right. Right, Sometimes we have this thing where someone be like, hey, what's going on? Everything good? And we'd be like, yeah, everything good, and we might have just lost someone, right, And so I would just say, you know, believe or not be honest for once. Exactly, be honest for once, let someone know that you're not doing really good, because maybe they can help, right. And sometimes it's economics, like they can't pay their bills, they trying to get a job, and they don't want the world to see them in that state because they feel like they're less than so they don't talk about it. Yeah, and you never know who has. The resources, right, You never know, Like sometimes people don't tell me is what they need and if they just say like, hey, do you know, and like I know something like and the same thing for me, Like I've been in the season of just asking, so. I'm like, listen, do. You know, do you know something? And people do have the answers like you just never know, And I like that. Just be honest, because I think a lot of times people don't want to tell the truth. One thing about that too is stick around for the answer. I can't stand I can't stand it. Yes, don't ask me how I'm doing. And it is today you just said, I really want to tell you the truth. I want to say, listen, actually I'm not doing okay, and you keep going by Yes, Dad burns my soul. Yes, because I really got up the nerve to tell you how I. Really feel and you didn't want to hear it. Don't fake ask me, like stick around to hear the answer, like seriously, that is something that you could really do for somebody. Stick around like that. Ask the question when. You really have time, you know what. To that point, I want to ask you your your thoughts on this. Someone recently and I felt them with this because I lost my mom, Spark lost her mom. But this young lady uh lost lost a parent and she said, and I felt her. She said, don't ask, don't don't don't say to me. I'm praying for you. I know you're talking about And it hit me and I was like, I. Hated when someone told me that when they found out that my mom passed away. I can't put my finger on it right what what triggered me to to you know that that irritated me so much. I can't still to this day, can't articulate why that angers me. But what do you say to people? What would what type of advice would you give to someone who who want to pay respects to someone a dear the dear friend that may have lost a relative. What will be the appropriate response or what do you think things should do in that manner? Grief is long lasting, right, it comes in ways. Right, The best thing that you can say is I'm here. Like I think we're in a rush to say something, yeah, and we never know the right thing to say, right, But at any capacity, if you need me, I'm here. And I think sometimes the person just needs you. To pop up to call. I will pop up a call at the right time, like to just show them, like how you really feel. But like you might not have to just say it, like if you if you're gonna pray, pray, like you don't have to say I'm gonna pray for you, like just pray, you know, Like you don't have to say it, but you could just say I'm here for you. However you need me, know that I'm here for you. Call me if you need me, and then you do the calling. Sometimes they're not gonna answer, you do the popping up. Sometimes they might not answer the door, but you're letting them know that you're there, and you're still giving them that space. Because there's no right thing to say. There isn't there's no right thing to say. I think everyone that has lost someone gets irritated at almost every attempt, every attempt, there's no right thing to say. So just letting the person know that you're there and then the action of it. And sometimes you are going to get dismissed, But if you're that type of person to that person, it's not going to matter to you. Hurt your lese hurt clause round them for plause. Excellent, excellent, excellent. Jeez, Tom Flies, I want to thank you for coming to the show. One thing that was said, absolutely one thing we say is once you come to the show, you a friend to the show, so you're always welcome to come back. But before excuse me, before I let you go, why don't you tell everyone real quick do you have anything coming up that people can kind of watch for But also, why don't you let everyone know how they can find you, how to get in contact with you, all that gooddle stuff. Sure, we're still touring. So the next stop on the tour is the Demand What You Deserve Tour. Will be in Dallas August twenty fourth, Jersey City September twenty eighth, and then we'll be in Houston November two. You can find me at. Reholp Coaching dot com, Rehope Cope, Rehope Underscore Coach, Williams on i G and Rehope Coach on Facebook and Rehope Coach on YouTube. And you can find my books on Amazon. And yeah, that's it. Do you take health insurance? I do not? Probably pay only okay? Accepting clients okay? Do they have a number or something? Sure? Two six seven five seven four O six three four one more time two six seven five seven. Four O six three four website or anything. Rehope Coaching dot com, Rehope question. One more thing before you go, Just let everyone know that if there is someone out there, uh, you know, struggling, what advice would you give them to speak up? To speak up up? Let someone know, did you need the help and don't be afraid to call down AAA to text and you can call that number as well to speak to someone and let someone know. It's okay to say that I am struggling, because no one is going to know unless you say something and it's okay. And keep talking about it until you get the right person, because sometimes you talk to the wrong people. Make sure that you talk to the right person. There are people out here qualified for you. To speak to, not you real Yes, reach out to her, no doubt. All right, ladies and gentlemen, we have to go. I like to thank you for coming to the show. Thank you excellent. Absolutely we talked weekly after the talking WPP MLP Philadelphia. One O six point five left when we talked weeklies after the talk with your boy Charles Gregy and. Beautiful Lawrences and beautiful classic ladies Sparkle and beautiful. So I want you guys to go anywhere when we come back. We had good news and bad news with class Lady Sparkle. We'll be right back, y'all. Hollo. We just want to get a little background as to who the fantastic noises and the noisemakers. If you can let us know, Yes, absolutely, so once again. I am fantastic noise. I am the original noisemaker. So no one's gonna make as much noise as me. Okay. And right here we have the Noisemaker Band. This is only half of it. The other stuffs are upstairs, the my My, Kevin, Kevin Lamar, Lannie and Dobbs, who are the actual band members. These are the background singers and we can to make some noise. We can to bring that noise today. So that's that's what we do. That's that's right. How did you guys get together? Man? So it started with I've been doing this on my own for almost three years now, and man, I bet each of these people here have different background stories. Most of us went to the same church together, and we just kept going. This one her, this is my one of my assistants, said one of like the my my biggest supporter and my biggest suitar to hear some assistant. So we just been building and the same thing with upstairs with the band, just meeting through. People kept networking, kept saying them it was just like God or dang bam here we are awesome. Yo. Well could you guys do we talked weekly? A favor? Can you give us a drop in a melody type way, a type way. Okay. So we talked weekly. Okay, so we're gonna do something like this. We talk weekly. Come in here with us, we talk. We we come in here them we talk. We we come in here now we talk. We come in here them we talk. We come in here, now we talk. Wee me comeing. Okay, give beautify because already cord Yo. We talked weekly after the talk with the w P P M l P. Duffia one on six point fives. When we talked weekly after they Talk with your boy Charles Girk. In Beautiful, classialated Sparko. Lawrence was letting the guests out. That was a great interview. Boutish cheer talk a little bit, but. That was a great interview. She definitely hit on a lot of different things that are our world. It's not even a generation thing anymore. It's our world. You have adults, you have children who can't put their phone down. The first thing they think about when they wake up is to get on their phone. I was actually one of those people, and I would I would not allow it to control me. So I don't grab my phone first thing in the morning. I did those same activities that she just challenged everybody with, So do it for your psyche because years to come, you're gonna wish that you did it. You don't want to be programmed because it just like an addiction to nicotine, foods, fashion, it's still an addiction. Yeah, and we hate I think what it is is that we hate that word addiction. We hate the word addiction. Right, We addicted to our phones. Ninety percent of the people on the planet are at this point. If you feel that, yeah, as soon as you wake up, yeah, go to your your addicted. Challenge yourself because anytime as a kid, I used to suck my thumb and my mom was like, you're gonna have to get braceist. And because she challenged me, I'm like, back then, braces wasn't cute. So I said it was an addiction to my to my thumb as to soothe me. I was like, nope, I'm not doing it. And I found myself doing that in life. When you feel like there's something controlling, you. Challenge yourself to make sure that it doesn't. People need to go off the grid. And I'm not saying go away, but shut all that, shut all that stuff down. Definitely it'll still be there and. It definitely still be there. We talked weekly, have to talk on WPPMO P Philadelphia. Want six point five film, We talk week. You have to talk with and beautiful and beautiful class. I want to touch you on something. Let me read something real quick. Let me while we're doing that, because I don't want to go into good news and bad news and a guest come in. But I think this is a good time to do maybe some more quick news real quick. So something that just popped up, Uh, breaking news story and this is where is this? This came on news. This is on newsweek. Kamala Harris get bad news in three battle ground states. This is this is interesting. Vice President Kamala Harris does worse than President Joe Biden and hypothetical matchup with GOP nominee Donald Trump in three battleground states. Polling shows after Biden's week showing against Trump at the first presidential debate last month. Late last month. Uh, they have been calls from Democrats in Congress and other prominent members of the party of the President to step down and let someone else like Harris receive the nomination. But this is a big butt. Biden has reportedly vowed to stay in the race, and Harris has made it clear she supports him as the party candidate. Since the debate, concerns about Biden's age and perceived mental acuity have not subsided. The eighty one year old president struggled to give Cohara answers at the debate and at times seemed to lose his train of thought. Harris is fifty nine, nearly two decades younger than Trump seventy eight, but according to the survey conducted by Insider Advantage from July fifteen to the sixteen, more voters in Pennsylvania, Nevada, and Arizona would want Biden as a Democratic nominee over Harris based on who can best defeat Trump. That's interesting. Yeah, and there's a lot of speculation. God, I see you was about to say some good. Let me tell you something. I have so many different mixed feels about when it comes to what the Democratic Party is doing. Is kind of and I hate to you know, I'm not trying to be on any side, of course, but like I think it's a disappointment to a lot of to the party. You know, a lot of what I'm saying, and I'm trying to say things. What I was saying is but like a lot of what I'm saying is very disappointing. I think I was trying. I'm just trying to make sense of it, and it's very you can't. And that's the problem, like very aggravating because I just don't understand. And I get that out of fear Democrats. So like Biden needs to step aside, or he needs to pass the torch to somebody else. But who is that someone else? That thought real quick, because I want to talk about this little comment that someone posted which I think voters are concerned about Kamala's liberal policies, and I agree with that. Some orders are so much of the country is done with the extreme liberalism anymore. And there are a lot of people who actually feel that way. Go ahead, that they're done with liberalism. They're done with the hyper the hyperliberal kind of position, and a lot of people are I'm hearing a lot of that on even both sides. I'm hearing some you know, moderate Democrats feeling like, yo, it's just too liberals. They're losing structure to me, you know, the Democrats to me, yeah, because they are allowed there. There has to be some type of law and order, you know, you have to have something. It feels like everything is such a free fall now in my opinion that so do you allow everything? Is that with the policies or just like the way they're going about I. Mean, even down to the border, like certain things shouldn't shouldn't happen, like certain things need. An order or some type of structure in place. Is biting the one not saying that, you know, we're voting for Biden based on you know, being a Democrat, but if he's not the man to do the job, then you know, I don't. Know, well, I think Biden he has been trying to and I can't think of the initiatives right, you know, at the moment, but he has been trying to do some things. When it comes to like the border, he got a lot of pushback from the Republicans and and dj T did say, like, let's he wanted the Republicans to hold off on it because he wanted to be able to address that when he got into the office. But like, I don't know, I don't know, this is just it's just it's just very frustrating to me because I think people want to see what Democrats are going to do versus now and when the meet, the media is showing what they want to show. Mainstream media is shown what they want to show. There they're only they're not focusing. No one's focusing on the issues right now. I feel I feel like it's just democrats. Democrats are fighting about getting Joe Biden to step down. Republicans are just whatever Trump says. You know, he's told I don't know how many lies, and it's just people. The American people are like, what the heck is going on? It is I want to say this other I want to say to read this other comment too, by Liberty Twitter. He says there would have been plenty of options, but Biden assumed Trump's conviction would allow him to win. Now, I'm assuming, Liberty that you're a Republican, right, and we welcome anyone and everyone to comment, right, And so I appreciate you commenting. I don't want to I don't want to assume if I'm wrong, you can kind of correct me. Oh, he said, No, I'm a Democrat or cheek, I don't know who you are. No, I'm a Democrat. Okay, cool? So that that goes back to the point that even some Democrats are feeling this way about fighting. It's not just Republicans. That he's not addressing the issues. And he said, but I can't tolerate the extreme liberal liberalism anymore, which goes to the and I and and to a degree I. So, so we have to allow space for these differences of opinions right there. There can't be We're not monolists, right, and so we have to allow people to have an opinion. Right. I think when people are saying extreme liberal liberalism, I'm the type of person where you have to break things down. Now. I just want to know, like what they feel like is extreme liberal loberalism, examples. And they are giving examples and liberty anytime you feel like Because I want to always preface the show we get we allow safe spaces for everyone, even Republicans and so and this is democrat. You affirmed that you was a Democrat. So I'm reading your comments and this is for everyone to see. So I just want to let you know that I'm doing that if that's okay, right, And so some of the things he said, oh my god, open borders is crazy to buy Uh, that Biden has let millions of people come into the country illegally. Why it's crazy, go on to say, and the refusal of liberal prosecutors to prosecute criminals. We are the victims of that. And last, but not least, he say, and the liberals are now lowering educational standards because supposedly people of color can't achieve. That hurts us. Okay, So that's some of the examples that the. Lowering educational standards. Uh, that's I mean, they didn't get that's that's just kind of what he was saying. Yeah, because supposedly, uh, and the Liberals are now lowering educational standards because of police Oh yeah, the sea in college in California, so they must be in California. Yeah, but that's true. Like they're taking certain things out. What was it. What's it called the acronyms? Uh, as far as the history of Black Americans, and it said. They got rid of the set tests and are removing algebra. Yes, that, but it was something else. It was the it was the thing about knowing your history. They were taking that out, the black. History, critical race theory, critical race theory. They took that out based on. Now the thing about that is and you know in my master's program, I did a research paper on this. Critical race theory is not taught in in in a secondary education. It's not that's something that they teach in posting secondary education. And I remember when they came up with this, you know, as a way to I'm not going to get. Into and in law criminal justice. I just want every want tom taught a secondary education. It's not taught and that was just something that they use to get people ground up. And you had these parents showing up at schools. I don't want my kids learning critical race theory and they're learning how to hate, you know, they hate themselves because it wasn't even taught in schools. And that was one of my good news bad news. Can I just elaborate more on what you already said, President Joe Biden babes So this. Is good news bad news. Yeah, let's just get ready to go into good news and bad news because before you cut, because I want to make sure that you can give context after you do your story. Okay, all right, So but I do want to give this last comment because we allow on space for people to have conversation. He says they got rid of high school exit exams because too many minorities couldn't pass it. So instead of improving a ducation, they lower standards. California, I believe, so we are a joke to the rest of the world now as kids are the least educated ever. Now for context, I just want I just want to know. You don't have to answer this because we give c spaces. I just would like to know if you're black or not. If you're black or not, that gives some context, right, doesn't matter. If you don't want to answer that, that's fine because again we give spaces, but we allow open dialogue. And the reason for this is because if we don't have these uncomfortable conversations, we won't get anywhere. We talk. We talk Latin. Oh, there you go, californ There you go. Yes to California. Thank you for that. Thank you for that. Turn to Latino schools or no, no, no, they refer to he said California, not a specific school, but I have heard that they got rid of SATs. I'm you know for sure. Thank you, Thank you for that. I appreciate you, uh giving that context. So again, for for anyone who watches we talk weekly, we are solutions based platform, So we don't just point fingers at one party at another party. We try to give true dialogue, true understanding. Uh, we try to allow, like I said, allow safe spaces and have these uncomfortable conversations because if we can't, if we can't agree to disagree and move forward. Were always going to run in place, always going to run in place, and that's where we're at. Oh, go ahead, Susan, So let's let's go in. You want to go, Let's let's go into so you can address kind of your position. Let's go ahead. Well, it's basically just piggyback and adding more information to what you and pretty much what you just mentioned. It states that the reason that Biden may be stepping down is because of his medical edition condition that arose the COVID. Yeah, that he's looking to maybe step down. However, his comment was that that the only way he's stepping down is if he dies. Okay, that's what. Yeah, But his team is saying if he does exit the race before the Democratic National Convention in August, will his next will the next candidate be Kamala Harris? Like, is there a policy or are there? Is it not? Now? If something happens to the president. We know that the vice president takes as successor to that, but what happens in this instant, because it hasn't never happened. I believe that the party I'm not even talking about Republicans at this point. I'm talking about I believe that Democratic Party dislikes the idea of Kamala so much they would rather Joe Biden completely step out of it and let another person run for the party. That's my that's my I was just I was just discussing that with someone else and I couldncur I agree with that. I don't think they want Kamala Harris there. I believe that they would. And I've been here and I you know, I kind of look at trying to look at everything in all different aspects, and one thing that I really can't understand. I'm back to this I can't understand. But I can't understand for the life of me, is why, First of all, I feel like the conversation about him stepping down or stepping aside should be a private conversation. I don't understand why it's so public, because it's overshadowing everything like it's it's just it's just crazy. And then the other thing is that Biden Biden, the the Biden Harris administration, they are the ones that are basically saying like, he's not uping aside because this is what he's saying, you know, he's not stepping aside. He's gonna continue campaigning and all that, and he feels like he can run, he can win this race. They have their own polling that they've been looking into that shows and I've seen some other polling that kind of mirrors somewhat similar to what they're saying, that shows that he has a chance. It's a really tight race, but he does have a chance to win. The Democrats, the politicians, they are getting together in separate meetings and I don't know if Kamala Harris is included in these meetings, but they're the ones that are calling for him to step aside. And it's to me, it just seems like so separated. Yeah, it's divided, and it seems like they're divided within their own party. And I feel like it's based off of this huge fear that they feel Biden is going to lose and they feel there are going to going to lose their positions if Biden is. I want to so I'm gonna let you. I got you sparked, but I believe this is something I disagree with. Liberty. He says the party can choose at the convention. I'm saying the party will choose at the convention. But this is something that I agree with that it's become a public conversation because he's refusing to step down. This is this and at the same time he does have the right to stay in the right. It becomes divisive if they know that you're against the commander in chief, Like a house divided can't stand. So why should it be public that know that they're having a squirrel at home that you. Know what I mean? Like the first thing you say is keep it at home. Don't let the world know that the family is at quorums. And I think this is exactly what they wanted though. They wanted it to be public. So there's like public outcry and there's public you know, the public also joining them and calling on the president they step down. They do have two Democrats likely that they look at potential potential alternatives, Governor Gavin Newsome and then Gretchen Whitmark. Neither one of them. The other thing I wanted to say is they are humanizing Trump. Whoever his team is, are saying, don't be a bully anymore. Trump like, he's not cut If you notice during the debate, he wasn't cutting off, he wasn't really aggressive and abrasive. He was like, oh okay, well you know it was more then it was more Biden becoming aggressive out of that conversation, and he you know, if the if the moderators would say something, he was now being bro calm. Whoever is instructing Trump, they're telling him now to bring it down, don't be so aggressive, and to be humanized. Because even at the RNC, they're bringing out his grandchildren. Yeah, they're bringing people out to now humanize them. So now they we're taking advantage of the fact that the Democratic Party is being divided, as if they don't, they're not competent. So now they're playing a game on the defense side to say, we're taking advantage of where your weakness is. So Liberty said that Newsom looks great and is super smooth, but California is a wreck. He can't escape that. And the reason he said that Knewsome's huge problem is that California is a financial disaster under so liberty is from California. This is why I say, right when it comes to what we do, is very important because people are already have feet on the ground, right, liberty is there. I'm not speaking for California, right, and so to be able to give platform for people to actually be in those spaces and see newsom may sound great to us, but in California the like, maybe we need to think. Remember we were talking about I think we was talking about we were talking about about the Prime minister of uh. Where was it where we was talking about I can't know. It wasn't is real, but not Canada, Canada, Canada. We was talking about Canada, and we were saying how much we like the prime it's the prime minister, Like that's the word, it's prime minister. Right. We were saying how much we like the prime minister. But someone commented like, yo, oh. Yeah, I remember that we talked about the guns at one point. I think it was just I can't remember justin Trudell. I can't remember what the conversation was about because I don't want to misspeak. But what I will say is that someone actually commented from who was watching our show from Canada, and it was like, no, it's here. Yeah, we're here on the streets right. So it's important for us to allow spaces for people who's truly on them streets to be able to have access in the platform to talk about what's really going on. And that's why we're good at what we do. And we talked weekly ahead. I'm sorry, you've done with your story. Go ahead, you can finish your story. Not you, I mean, go ahead. I didn't even start yet. Oh, I'm sorry saying I'm going to. I want you to finish. I want you to finish the statements and we can we can. Come back to this later. I'm just gonna make a comment, but I just, I just I feel like the Democrats need to come up with a plan. I know that if they do decide like, hey, we're gonna put if Biden does step down, we're gonna put somebody in, there's not enough time for that person to raise all this money. And then the money that the Biden Harris administration has is their money. It's not like they can transfer that to another can raise Yeah, exactly, that's their money. And I think they need to come up with a plan. Because the other thing too is that people need to the Democrats need to also continue to bring awareness to this Project twenty twenty five. And I think all this he needs to step aside, and this and that and the other is taken away from the time that they have to continue to, you know, make people aware of Project twenty twenty five. Because it's almost a thousand page document. Who's going to sit down and read that? And I think the other point that I'm hearing a lot of people talk about from the Democratic Party is that although it's Biden that is not given a good strong stance as the commander in chief, but we have to understand that the tentacles and the branches that lead to other things within local and state as well, are going to once you pull for you know, the Republican even though you're and I'm not saying that I'm Democrat or Republican. I'm just saying that once you pull the lever to Republican, a lot of the things that are in place democratically as the like you said, for Project twenty twenty five, they automatically are now going to start, you know, push them forward based on So that's why it's so important for the Democrat Party to get a plan to make sure that they have a strong front because Biden ain't it. He just not, unfortunately, And it's just it's like you you're saying that you're gonna you're gonna vote for somebody who who's who's weak, you know, like you know how many wars have started under his leadership. I agree, however, but. The subset underneath of him is strong. I agree in theory of what you're saying. I think, however, that if they got rid of we gotta remember we are where we are because Biden is the president. Right. What do you mean in terms of having a position to Biden is the president? Right? We beat Trump because of Biden? Correct? So the reason why we have Biden as the president because people voted for him to put someone else in there that we don't know if the people will like him. We're only speculating by these fictitious polls that a new president might be the best candidate to run the country. Yeah, and a lot of these go ahead, go ahead, Now, I was just gonna say a lot of these polls are flawed. Right, So what I'm saying it may be suicide to remove Biden and Kamala Harrison put someone else in there. That's what I'm thinking, That's. What I believe, right is And I don't think the country. I mean, I just think that we are so divided with all of this that. Do you. You think Biden is really running this country? No, not at all. So it's like if you put somebody else in there, the policies and stuff are already Biden. To me, I don't even know if he a past eight o'clock. Biden is the only president that has gotten so much done in three and a half years his you know, I guess resumes so to speak, for lack of a better word, right now at this point is like it's incomparable, Like there's no president that and I'm not talking eight eight years, two year term, two terms, but in this little time, and you can compare and I'm not saying us, but like people can compare the former president Donald Trump's what he got done in his four years to what Biden got done in his three and a half years. I think I think that more people are I'm gonna just say this because I agree with you. However, how Ever, it goes to the point of what someone said earlier, is all of that that he has done seems to be hyper liberal, right, and so they're having a problem with those things that he has done that doesn't necessarily support certain demographics. Well, compare that to they can compare that to Trump's administration. I'm not denying it. I'm not denying it. I'm just giving content, right, Yeah, I know what you're saying, because and I feel like with each presidency there's a good or bad and ugly and people are not going to agree with any president from you know, from Bush to Barack Obama to Clinton to you know, even back to Reagan. Like, people are not going to agree one hundred percent what any president does. And what they found is that, you know, the American people are I don't know, the fickle or whatever it is, Like they flip flop back and and it just seems like every time there's an election, people are for someone and then if they're back up again there against that person. But it's just it is what it is. All Right, let's jump right into were talking too much. We're gonna jump into that to That's why we're going to continue this conversation, Ladies and gentlemen. I love it I. Jumping all right? Neighbors watch as police investigated the scene in front of forty eleven Marridon Street in Philly, where a seven month old baby was shot in a drive by on Thursday evening. Dominique Phillips can y'all hear me? Yeah? Good? Dominique Phillips, twenty eight, of Northeast Philly was charged with three counts of aggravated assault and other offenses in the shooting, which stemmed from one hundred dollars drug debt with the infant's parents. Now follow this, the surveillance video release showed Billups firing three shots at close. Range at the parents. At the baby's parents and so she was basically spraying. The shooter reportedly yelled explicit words and then she fled. The infant was struck in the leg and was taken to the hospital by a nearby resident, but in stable condition. Both parents, who had open warrants, fled the scene so they left their child, but later cooperated with police. Officers arrested Billups. They turned themselves in. You said later the parents did okay, but no Billups, which was the shooter. She actually fled and was later arrested. It was Alan Billups b I L. L. Ups, twenty eight years old of northeast Philly. Last year, twenty four. Children were killed in Philadelphia. Over one hundred and sixty were shot in the city, with eighty children already shot this year as of July, and now the child is in with the Department of Human Services. We talked about trauma, you. Know what I mean, seven month old, but they feel like, oh, that baby's not going to remember, okay, that baby's going to have memories or subconscious, unconscious type of dreams, and like where are they coming from? You know what I mean? You got what they call infantile amnesia, which usually you can't remember anything from two and under. Some people remember three and four vaguely, but still it's it's trauma. Our next story as he was a guest on our show as well, Uh, Mike Gerrick. A lot of people, yeah, a lot of people. Uh missed him on Good Day Philadelphia. He was missing for a few weeks, but he made a brief appearance with doctor Mike Sigliano to explain his absence, and he shared his diagnosis of prostate cancer. He discovered it through a PSA blood test and we've talked about this before that when you get it's called a prostate survey antigen. I believe. They just take blood and they look at your gleasing scores and basically your gleasing scores are like one plus one is two, two plus two is four. They want to see how high it is. The higher it is, the more you have that antigen in your blood cells, that is cancer. So that's a good preventive measure, especially if you have you know that in your family. You know, prostate cancer could be in your family, or if you're having symptoms. Just like women go for their mammogram testing, men should go for PSA's a lot of times it's food that you eat, or it could be free radicals of living in an environment you didn't even know asbestos was there, you didn't know radio radioactive stuff was there. All that stuff can be factors. Anyway, Mike talked about the surgery and he underwent robotic prostate removal surgery and he basically you know, his co host Alex hollywoods there. He expressed his gratitude to the team and he's doing well and he's letting people know, Hey, this is we talk about these AI things and this is one of the good things that these computers and these AI systems, innovative therapy has taken, I mean. Huge steps to curing people. It's more people living, which is kind of becoming a problem to a degree that now you're living longer based on all of the technology we have, because you're able to get preventive measures and diagnose people faster. And it's okay, ladies and gentlemen. It's about using things as a tool. A tool, use a hammer to drive it. Now, think of it like that. God, yeah, all right. The American justice system, especially the probation system, often unfairly targets black people, trapping them in cycles of incarceration. Well, Philadelphia's rapper Meek Mills story highlights the issue. After several probation violations, including a two to four year sentence for popping a Willie, Meek, Mills became a national symbol of this problem. His efforts, along with the reform alliance he co found it led to the passage of Pennsylvania's Act forty four. Are you all familiar with that, yes, ma'am. This law seeks to ease the harsh rules of probation. This was a big thing because even the judge who was on that case was. Like, she was giving egregious type of sentence and you popped a willie, like come on, come on. Basically cutting down on the minor technical violations that often. Send black people back to jail. At forty four clarifies that what counts as. Technical violation limits when jail time can be imposed by these violations and sets maximum penalties, marking a significant step towards a fairer probation system. So not only are they at one time putting people in jail, it was like, Okay, now you've done your time, you're getting released, and you're still getting set up to go back. This is where you ask our private are some jails privatize as far as monetizing, like how much are you getting for each each criminal, each inmate? Because you're setting people to go back and that's just that doesn't. Make sense to me. Meek mil twenty eighteen, released from prison, was celebrated by many of the music and social justice communities. You guys remember that he he used his platform to advocate for criminal justice reform, and he's real passionate about it. He got real emotional tearyod and hopefully he's uh, as this reform. Goes, he's paying it forward. That was your good news and your bad news from your girl Classic Lady Sparkle. Now was your good news and bad news by classic Lady Sparkle on your boy Greg with the beautiful Laurence and the beautiful classic Lady. And next up, you already know what we got. I guess we got the. Ladies and gentlemen. It's all over the place. So y'all gonna get what y'all get today. Well, uh, all right, so let's let's start with this little mini story. But before we do, make sure you guys subscribe to We talk weekly on all social media and major podcast platforms, and if you want to support what we do, you can make a donation on caship dollar sign We talk weekly and guess what, no donation is too great or too small. We like the. Donation that folds, but we also take the donation at jingles. Just all right. So Rick Ross is still trolling Drake after Drake posted a video of his flooded Toronto mansion. After Rick Ross saw the video, he had a few things to say about it. He said, he commented one time and said, auction it. You probably get two ms, just kind of insinuating that Drake's mansion isn't worth that much. But all this is coming after weeks after Rick Ross was attacked following his performance at a Vancouver consent. For those of you who don't know, Rick Ross had played during his performance, he had played Kendrick Lamars not Like Us during the performance, and after walking off the stage, he was greeted by a mob of people who just did not take kindly to you know, he's in Vancouver, he's in Canada, this is Drake Town. So they just did not take kindly to Rick Ross playing that song. So he was There's a ton of video that's been you know, kind of it's surface and it's all over social media, but it just shows Rick Ross being cornered, him and his small security team being cornered. They were one person was knocked out and you know Rick Ross was was uh kind of roughed up a little bit. And then you have people saying like, oh, uh, Rick Ross got I'm gonna leave that part out of it. But yeah, it just was crazy. But obviously Rick Ross still is not going completely down without a fight. As Amber Rose, you remember. That goodness, my go ahead, dance old man, man man man ahead. So Amber Rose a former Democrat, and we're back on this again. I tak yeah, please tell us about yes. So you know, Amber Rose, a former Democrat who came out as bisexual back in two thousand and nine, stated I realized Donald Trump and his supporters don't care if you're black. Well, she let me just backtrack a little bit, because you know she she's battling battling some major backlash, backlash after delivering a speech at the twenty twenty four Republican National Convention and in support of Republican presidential nominee Donald Trump. So if you remember, she did come out as bisexual back in two thousand and nine, which in her speech she stated, I realized Donald Trump and his supporters don't care if you're black, white, gay, or straight. It's all love. And that's when it hit me. These are my people, this is where I belong. I'm here tonight to tell you, no matter your political background, that the best chance we have to give our babies a better life is to elect Donald Trump president of the United States. I'm no politician, and I don't want to be, but I do care about the truth and the truth is that the media has lied to us about Donald Trump. I know this because for a long time I believe those lies. So she had some other things to say, but MSNBC's Joy Reid criticized Amber, saying, I don't want I don't want to say she's black. And this is what Joy Reid is saying about Amber. She's saying, I don't want to say she's black because she said she's not. So I don't want to say this black woman, this woman whoever, who is of whatever race that she has claimed. She said she's not black, but the RNC brought somebody whose whole career is based on black culture. And Joy read you know, she was saying, basically saying like she doesn't know anyone who takes their political cues from Anne Barrose, but just in case you do, you might want to do your research, because she didn't do it thoroughly. And Joy also said yeah. Joy also said the fact that she is now the person you're using to try to recruit young people of color, and to say that this is the person who is the endorser of Donald Trump, who you should trust, when she won't even claim the culture that brought her back to the table. I'm dubious that this will work. So she's just talking about just kind of I guess insinuating that the you know, Republicans are using Amber who is not not claiming to be black. She she does go claim her biracialness. Don't let doctor Umar hear that she does claim her by her biracialness. So my my question is like, what do you does Amber deserve this backlash? Yes, a hundred percent. First of all said what pisses me off about Amber? Mm is that uh so she she she goes back to our time right, uh South Philly, South Philly High And there was a time where she claimed that she was black, her her mom is black. Well she I believe her mom is is is mixed, her dad is her dad is white. But she will always lean towards the black side and and claim her blackness when it when she was coming up with us so to speak, like she's she's she is from Philly. A lot of people, No, she's from scran She is from Philly. Yeah, you know, and but we don't. We don't do Philly claim her that's Philly. Don't necessarily you have some people, I mean, if we being. Sounds like an opportunitist to make. That's the problem. That's what people have a problem with, because you want to claim Philly when it's necessary, when you want to cred from it. You want to claim your black side when you got the cred from it, right, you want to claim uh, your standing in how good you are when you got the cred from it. Now you on the other side, and you don't even want to claim but you're black anymore. You went from biracial to now literally claiming that you're white so to speak, which is a problem. It shows how fake you are. And so that's what I got a problem with her, Like, if you like it's okay to be it's okay to be bi racial, it's okay to be biracial, right, not the flip flop, but not the flip flop. Stand on your position, right, So that makes me believe what you're doing is a flip flop. That's why I have a problem. And just for conversation too, I don't know where that I claimed by racial bi racial family members. You're black and and I know it's going to be a shift maybe years down the line, but am but right now you're considered a black woman. She doesn't what the world does. And if you looked at how she looked at the army picture. Right, and the people were saying that, like, I don't know, yeah. She didn't look like how she looked when she was on uh what high school? What is it? What's the reality show? She told her all she said, no, you don't want to be black. There you go, And everyone shout out to Justine because it's it's as crazy as people deem her to be. She was one hundred percent accurate talking to Amberols during that time, So kudos to her. Kudos, I love you, joh. Yeah. And and. It was it was a few people of course that were saying like, oh, she should be able to vote the way she votes, and and everybody, everybody is allowed to vote the way they vote. I don't think anybody should get any backlash because they choose to vote with a certain party. But I think when it comes to black culture, because they brought her out and said like she's a rapper influencer, wrong and wrong, wrong and wrong, which which is rap is what culture. Right? And even Eminem will sit and say that I'm white, but I give her march to Black culture of hip hop. That's why Eminem deserved the accolades that most Black people. All you want is credit. We just want our just acknowledge it, acknowledge the f stuff that you did, right, and we are heart with it. The problem we have when they start denying, oh that's not yours. We stole that, but it's not yours. Right. I hate that type of thing, right, So all we want is the credit and it accolades for what we did. What we deserve. You give that to us, and we cool. That's why reparations are so important. But go ahead, absolutely jump off. Yeah, and you know, just to close it out with a lot of people have problems that she. That you know, the. Everything that Project twenty five stands for it and then go ahead, well, you know, the Republicans are pro life, and people were saying she is not, and the Republicans are anti LGBTQ. Yeah, and she is. She came out as bisexual, so people were just comparing, you know, those things and just kind of calling her out on that. All right, So the celebrity sizzle of the day goes to Arihanna. Rihanna has announced that Feny Beauty has partnered with the Paris Olympics and Paralympics. The pars Paris Olympics is going to run July twenty sixth through August the eleventh, and then the Paralympics is going to be starting August twenty eighth through September eighth. But Rihanna posted the announcement saying, tried to tell y'all we outside twenty twenty four and she shared a photo of her in front of the Eiffel Tower holding a huge adult height sized slip gass. And then, according to the press release, the fenty Beauty is going to give makeup kits into toos to six hundred volunteers between ages of eighteen and twenty one and they're going to present those present metals at the Games. So there's kits and things that's going to be giving out, which includes the a lot of kits from I mean a lot of products from the fency Beauty line, the glass Bomb, Universal Luminizing, all this good stuff that's going to go out. So shout out to her. This is huge for her line. So yeah, so I'm Lawrence Isle and that was a sizzle. Now it was related to gentlemen, I'm your transgred. The beautiful Lawrence, beautiful class. As we talked weeklies after they're talking to w PP MLP Philadelphia one on six point five's when we talked weeklies after they're talking. That's all show, ladies and gentlemen. Great. Yeah, we got about about six minutes left until If I'm gonna just see this, whatever issue topics that you have, or whatever position that you stand doing as it relates to politics, it's okay. Don't let anyone bully you into believing you have to lean on one side or another. Believe what you believe, have some morals, has some ethics, and vote that way, and vote that way, and. Do your research, both parties or even if it's independent, do your research, and also do your research as to if you do not show up to the polls, what are the repercussions of those actions as well? Can you guys enlighten me. I don't know much about what happened as far as the sniper, like the young guy who did it. Did did they find out more information? And yeah? And I just feel like when it comes to him to that sniper Thomas, I can't think of his last name right now, but I just feel like what they were expecting to find they really did not find because they were combing through his social media and they didn't find much about because usually they're signs and I think they were looking for signs that he's, you know, posting extremist stuff and. They say these different things. Yeah, and they didn't find that. But they did find that he's a registered He was a registered Republican. I think he did donate some money to Act Blue at one point fifteen. They said a substantial amount. So I'm hearing a lot of different. Oh, I initially heard fifteen, so I don't know if they found other donations after that. But then he was a part of the honor society. He was bullied in school. He was a loner, typical signs of I guess. He had like a letter or anything, journals. Or I don't think they found any of that yet. So has his parents been interviewed. Or well, the father, as far as I've heard, he's cooperating. I know that the day of the shooting, the young man did ask his father who was on the rifle is a rifle society or the rifle team in his school? He was on it, but he was trying to get on it. Or something like that, but they said he was a bad shot, so he didn't He wasn't selected, but he wanted to go to rifle practice, so he did ask his dad to borrow his rifle. So the dad gave it to him, and then I guess when he didn't come home or anything, and then the dad started hearing all this stuff on the news. He called the police and then learned about what was happening. So I pulled up this is news eighteen dot com. So I'm reading from news eighteen dot com and that's what it says. So I'm not I didn't vet any of this, but you can kind of go here. So I'm giving you the source so you know where it's come from. So it says one in a million, sniper shot, drone surveillance, new details emerging Trump assassination bid. He says, you look. US law enforcement officials have revealed that Thomas Matthew Crooks, which was the shooter, the man who attempted to assassinate former President Donald Trump at a campaign Riley and Butler Pennsylvania, had flown a drone over the event grounds earlier that day. I did hear that Crooks twenty conducted surveillance at the Butler Farm shown fair grounds on July thirteen, before trump appearance. The Wall Street Journal reporter officials indicated that Crooks had meticulously, particulously planned attack, starting his research on July third, shortly after the event was announced. He reportedly resigned or registered for the rally on July seventh, and visited the site days later to scope it out. Hmm interesting. The fatal shot ended the cooks. I just was reading, so y'all can kind of go here. I'm not going to read everything because it's pretty long, but I'll read this last paragraph. The fatal shot into Crook's attempt was described as a one in a million shot. Fox News reported, citing and insight of familiar with the probe. The report said that a secret Service counter sniper, hindered by the roof's lip, managed to hit Crooks with a single shot, which was cool. It was a good shot. However, the local tactical team missed their target. Crooks was observed pacing next to a warehouse building as a crowd gathered for Trump's rolly. So apparently people were seeing this guy and they gave the information and they just ignored it. So and that's I think, No, no, you go, I was gonna say, I think this is where liberty Twitter was talking about with the liberalism, like it's when have we ever had our security so lax? Why this is the US? Like it was it was a lax system for security and you had two presidents there, one former president Trump was a former president and one current president. Like this just should have been like Fort Knops. It's always we have to do something after. It's like, why don't we think about preventive measures opposed to let's take medication after we've already been sick. Now it's going to just be like a nine to eleven. Oh, we're gonna make sure every time. But you know what I'm saying, like there were two presidents in this this this arena and you let somebody come through, Like what does that say to our securities? Yeah? And I I mean I had my own little theory on this, and I kind of think like what happened was, you know, because they had the secret Service that was within the arena of the rally and all that, and then that separate location was like the staging area for local police and you know, local authorities, and when it comes to and I don't know much about Butler, PA. But when it comes to like local authorities, you know, some areas have like a small township, they have a small police police force. Now if this had been Philly, they would a Philly would have had that area type because we have a huge police force within the city. And I think the Secret Service probably assumed that they I feel like there wasn't like a tight connection there because the Secret Service probably was assuming that, like they you know, local, they have their job, they got that. You know, they're over there and they're handling it. But I feel like they were And that's. The whole point. You see it in so many movies that it's the small counties, it's the small this, oh, we don't need to really worry about it. It's the bigger cities that we need to know. That's where you always get. That's where you get got in the parts where you feel as though you don't even need to. Be that concern, and you have those people that are looking for just that tiny breach where they can get in and do something. Because cause I saw where the snipers were up there, and it's. Like they had their eye on him for twenty minutes. Right, But he shouldn't even got a shot off. People died, there was there was casualties. There, there was you know, collateral dances, guitarrible. I don't condone any type of violence on any political landscape at all. Well, do you have ladies and gentle Honie boy Charles Gurdon with the beautiful and the beautiful Classic ladies spoklan we out here Y'alllet should we talked weekly? After they talk to people five? Let's when we talked. We have to talk with y' out of here? All of our amazing shows, our interviews and event coverage. Why would we talk weekly on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter and subscribe to our newsletter on our website We talk weekly dot com