Episode 2: Wonder Woman and Limping Fred Sanford

[00:00:00] Talk To Me Talk To Me Real Conversation Shoot Me, Talk To Me Talk To Me, Life Said Insights Wait And See With Michele Welcome Back To Talk To Me Podcast with Michele I'm back y'all, it's time.

[00:00:45] You guys have been inboxing me and I appreciate everybody's support for the first episode of the Talk To Me Podcast with Michele. It was a venture and I am so glad I got the feedback that I did.

[00:00:57] And I just want that to keep coming in because when I get feedback, that's how I improve. That's how I get this show really, really popping y'all. So I know y'all were on a cliffhanger as my girl Princess was saying when she listened

[00:01:13] to the first episode dating in my 50s. Well this is a continuation because you guys did not hear about the date. You didn't hear about the date so first let me just say we're going to continue this

[00:01:29] journey of me dating in my 50s and delve into this very memorable but cringe worthy date that left me questioning my own choices. So to everybody, it's story time. Now if you may recall in the first episode I was getting back out in the dating scene.

[00:01:48] I signed up for a free dating app and I met a guy who was two years older than myself and lived about two hours away. Now I don't know if you guys remember, I was a little reluctant in the last episode to meet him.

[00:02:02] I had even told him to postpone his trip but he was persistent. So a day before his arrival and that's when I should have just told him dude I'm not picking you up. But a day before his arrival he sent me this photo.

[00:02:19] What was the photo of Michelle? What good question. So glad you asked me. It was a photo of a Wonder Woman engagement ring priced at $50. That's a five zero period zero zero. Now I don't know what he was thinking because see when we were engaged in conversation

[00:02:45] and sometimes I had to kind of go along the Comic Con conversation train since he was a big fan of Comic Con like we previously discussed and he was a major Green Lantern fan. That's why I titled the episode the way I titled it.

[00:03:01] So with this Wonder Woman ring, I'm thinking oh that's cute. You hear my response? That's cute. Was it going to be like a keepsake or something? Because I'm not a woman to put a major price tag on engagement rings.

[00:03:18] I do think that sometimes an engagement costs more on your way to the altar. So I don't put a big stick on that but a comic book ring my dog. It was almost like a Cracker Jack box effect.

[00:03:33] If you guys old school you know a Cracker Jack used to be that little caramel covered popcorn that would come in these small boxes with a little sailor on there and they would have like a little mini prize in the box.

[00:03:44] So if they were doing a promotion for Wonder Woman that week and I happen to have one of those boxes with a ring in it, oh yeah I would have a different effect but an engagement. I don't know you know already he's digging himself in the hole

[00:04:00] before he even hits the ground in my city. He may have thought it was a romantic gesture. He might have but this is our first date and see this is one thing I want men to stop doing. Stop playing like women are stupid.

[00:04:18] Some of them do fall for it but don't be thinking because you say I want to get married and you sending me pictures of engagement rings. Well see a picture is not on my finger and number two if it was on my

[00:04:29] finger I would really tell you I would like to keep this for a keepsake. I'm not going to accept this as an engagement ring. I'm sorry. You guys can call whatever you want it's just when I think

[00:04:40] when a man is proposing to the woman that he wants to spend the rest of his life with and build and grow I don't want to make that statement with a Wonder Woman ring. I'm sorry let's get to the first impressions.

[00:04:53] So of course I'm picking him up from the bus station. I pull up he almost blends in with some of the homeless folks I'm not going to even lie he almost blends in he was just a little groomed

[00:05:08] facial wise and I pull up and he starts walking toward my car. This is when I realized when he used to complain about his knees when we were on the phone calls yeah I see why because he was

[00:05:23] walking with a very severe limp in my mind and I know this is low of me but when I saw him start coming to up my car with that limp that Fred Sanford and son music started playing in my head.

[00:05:40] He wasn't dressed like he was ready to meet a woman that he had been talking to and had the intentions of a relationship or dating whatever you want to put out there so I'm like oh god Michelle stop being so judgmental stop being judgmental

[00:06:03] you've been talking to him all this time let's see if the in-person interaction meshes. Not gonna lie to you with me already checking him mentally before he got to my car I already knew it was gonna be downhill from there whenever you meet up with a

[00:06:22] person and you're really not vibing them in order to vibe them you have to make these inside jokes mentally at least I do so we decide we're gonna go out to lunch we go out to lunch and one of the things I

[00:06:43] know is as we're sitting across the table from each other he was like rambling ended doing a damn complaining shit again this is what I don't understand so you travel all this way to complain and something I was already in your ear about when we

[00:07:03] were consistently on the phone I don't want to hear that shit I don't want to hear you complaining I don't want to get into no need deep conversation about comic con especially now because so you've had that window it is time to get to know

[00:07:17] each other vibe each other personally but I'm noticing the lack of eye contact he has with me when you're on the spectrum eye contact is one of the things you struggle with and that's why I started wondering okay is he autistic maybe you know

[00:07:35] he's been diagnosed didn't tell me maybe he didn't want to tell me these are just me trying to reason within why he's not looking at me whatsoever while we're talking and eating and again with the redirection of conversations

[00:07:53] so we wrap up lunch and my sister made sure she said look I'm going to be at work that day I need you to swing by so I can at least meet him before you guys go out

[00:08:05] you know what I already had a preset notion in my head because my sister and I we are homies for life and we know how we may react to certain things before it even happens

[00:08:18] so I already knew I said oh my god she gonna look at this man and it's not going to be good I already knew it was not going to be good so we get to her place of business and as we're crossing the street to get to

[00:08:31] the building because she works like on a retail strip we're walking to get to her building which is a very short walk he is limping his ass off I'm telling you he is limping to the curb taking a second or two to get

[00:08:45] up the curb hit the sidewalk and I see my sister walking towards us now my sister's face is classic for when she doesn't verbalize it her face is going to say it for her and it was a very short

[00:09:01] distance I want to say I can't even tell you less than 100 feet okay so her face is squinted now the sun was out that day so I'm thinking please let that be the sun in her eyes please let that be the sun in her eyes

[00:09:19] because her face right now is very obvious so by the time she gets up to us her face is like maybe in the 75 80 range of being fixed she meets him and again you know she shakes hand you know speaks to him no

[00:09:38] eye contact so we go inside her place of business and you know she meets she introduces us to I believe her manager or one of her co-workers and I could tell by her co-worker that was my first time meeting her co-worker how you doing

[00:09:55] introduce him again no eye contact and I was like okay we need to go ahead and wrap this up because I was ready for a break at that point and it hadn't even been a number of hours it was a short period

[00:10:10] of time and I'm like okay from the bus station to lunch to here I'm ready to drop your ass off period so we get back in my car and I gotta say when I when we get back in my car that takes a moment because

[00:10:26] he is struggling to get in and out the car I don't have a small vehicle I got a mid-sized SUV and I had the seat all the way back you could pretty much be sitting in the back seat

[00:10:39] it was a moment for him to get in and out the car I was like this is a handicap situation I'm like if you was going to be doing all this you should have brought at least a handicap sticker with you my brother

[00:10:52] it would have made parking so much more convenient so after meeting my sister I said okay I'm gonna drop him off I take him to his hotel thank god it wasn't far and I'm getting ready to wrap it up I say hey I'm gonna go home I'm gonna

[00:11:08] go shower maybe two three hours we'll meet back up for dinner oh I got a gift for you oh I'm praying in the back of my mind I said oh please don't let it be this

[00:11:20] Wonder Woman ring because if he gonna try to do that situation right here right now is going to be an automatic no he pulls out a wallet I'm like we gonna give me some gas money or something he hands it to me

[00:11:39] his gift for you now I'm gonna reiterate conversations we had we knew a little something about each other and he knew I liked the New York Yankees because I mentioned it it was a man's gray New York Yankees wallet it had the symbol of the Yankees

[00:11:58] on the front of the wallet first of all it wasn't in a box it wasn't in a shopping bag and when you looked at the edges of the wallet you could tell it had been worn and used oh my this

[00:12:10] looks like a rummage sailed this damn wallet or he was digging in that room he live in and just found some treasure but as a gift I didn't know how to react I'm because my face I'm sure was like my sister's face

[00:12:34] what you this this is not good oh I was ready to go home and shower for a long time just being in his presence I want to shower so I left and ain't gonna lie when I got in the car I threw that damn wallet to

[00:12:55] the side I was just like anyway I should have waited and threw it in the trash but I was being petty in the moment y'all know so I go home I had I'm not going to lie

[00:13:08] I had to get me some some cannabis I was a edible something had to take place a hot shower um got on the ground for a minute got me a couple of chuckles and at the moment I start looking at the clock

[00:13:24] and I'm like okay it's getting closer for him to get his ass ready so we can go there was a minute I hadn't heard from him I wasn't and the thing about it I hadn't heard from him I knew his ass was sleeping because his ass was

[00:13:38] struggling to get back at four fall damn day so I'm going to allow you that because maybe if I wait late enough maybe your ass won't want to go out but he eventually calls I could tell he just woke up hey

[00:13:53] I'm sorry you know I'm like this is the most apologetic person because everything and I didn't even say nothing he's like I'm sorry right right off the bat I'm like okay so you already know you went the wrong so I'm like well I'm ready

[00:14:09] so we still going out yeah yeah give me the you know give me this this much amount of time I was thinking I'm like you actually you can actually take the night off if you like and I'll give me a damn tv dinner

[00:14:21] or I'll whip up a sandwich in my kitchen that was the mindset I was in because I was just agitated at that point but I'm trying to do the right thing because the man didn't travel out here

[00:14:35] even though I told him not to I'm like okay I'm just gonna save my appetite for this dinner on the way to the restaurant this fool was reading every restaurant name as we went down the damn

[00:14:49] street like I had never been there before I live in the neighborhood oh Chick-fil-A five guys Torquitacos I'm looking at him like why are you announcing all these retail spots so that that was part of my

[00:15:02] irritation already beside him being lazy about the effort he was putting for for this date so I'm like okay so again we're at the damn the booth that we're sitting in and they had a like a nice size aquarium in there and he started talking

[00:15:20] with me he was almost like a kid when we get in there ooh you know how kids get excited when they see a big ass aquarium now I enjoy aquariums my sister has a nice aquarium

[00:15:31] but I just don't react that way I'm just like oh it's very nice aquarium I wonder what kind of that saltwater fish you know I'm doing it like that but he's like ooh ooh so I'm like okay we get into this booth

[00:15:41] we sit down he has to sit so he can look at the aquarium like a child so that's like a back to the chit chat trying to drum up some chit chat no eye contact uh we order and I wanted to make my dinner

[00:15:59] quick I was not going to be explicit and be up in there all night I said let me give me a salad and a cocktail put as much alcohol as you can in that cocktail and I need that to hit me mid-diner so the drinks come

[00:16:20] place our order it's taking a minute for this order to get here because I'm ready to wrap this shit up I'm like I should have just had an appetizer and bounced so he orders um this country fried steak you would have thought this Negro had just

[00:16:39] never eaten and he's a big dude but he the what his table mannerism I'm just like oh I almost lost my damn appetite I'm not going to lie then he starts talking again about how some women they will go out with him but they don't

[00:16:59] usually want to go out with him a second time I'm thinking to myself I see why where is that damn go fund me account for that shit because I'm going to endorse and donate to that fund I see why they don't want to go back out with you

[00:17:16] then he has the nerve to mention well you know it costs a you know a lot more to pay for two people than it does for one okay hold on hold on hold up you dry begging you want me to reach in my purse which will not happen

[00:17:32] because I did not make this arrangement number one so we ain't doing no dutch shit number two why would you say something like that on a date because from my recollection you were the one that wanted to go out wanted to

[00:17:52] travel out here take me out and now that we out you complaining who and this is why I got pissed with the waiter see because why he complaining scarfing down this country fried steak he orders dessert you want some dessert I don't want

[00:18:11] shit else but the goddamn check that's all I want right now check please I want to strangle the waiter because see I should have requested we said and that's what I'm gonna do on future dates I'm going to request to sit in a section that is served

[00:18:27] by a woman because you know why the woman would have been more efficient and she would have read my woman body language as a woman you can read when a woman is not having a good time

[00:18:40] she would have read that shit I would have given her hand signals and she would have wrapped that shit like this I will tip you behind the scene if you rush this motherfucker in order okay please

[00:18:52] so we sit in there waiting on this waiter because I'm looking for his ass at that point I I even did like a little quick reel on my stories and on instagram I was joking but I wasn't

[00:19:04] joking where's this damn waiter had and this man is scarfing down this carrot cake and I'm looking all over the place for this waiter I'm like where the hell is he where is he and I see his trifling ass he's just and he's within an eye shot

[00:19:21] I'm like dude can you not see this smoke signal he ain't gonna take him long to eat this dessert you saw what happened to the goddamn fried steak that shit was gone within five seconds and I didn't mention how he was dressed

[00:19:37] I thought he was getting ready to go to the gym here I am I had gotten all cute hey my sister had just hooked my hair with my braids my face was beat I had worn his little uh sundress

[00:19:53] it was cute I had my shoulders out girl my little wedges and this nigga will come out here with a matching green knee length shorts and a green matching top I'm like either he taking either that's his favorite color or he taking this

[00:20:16] green lantern shit too damn far I think it was option B not going to lie so once the waiter finally gets a clue and brings the check back to us I want to slap shit out of him I'm not going to

[00:20:31] lie I was just like dude what took you so long where you been we get the check he hobbles his way out to my car yes hobbled and I was just like dude I told you this before you got here I'm just reading you know just re-enacting everything

[00:20:52] these conversations I'm like I told you was not in a space to date financially or mentally you're not in either space don't come out here but you came out here and you complaining about paying for my fucking salad in my drink oh yeah it's time to go

[00:21:17] now when I drop the mug let me know I'm a very verbal person because when I'm not vibing something or I need to express something I will make sure it is known I necessarily don't go ham unless you know the

[00:21:31] temperature takes me there but I'm going to get my point across regardless and I let him know my due today tonight's date was the worst you complained then you looking at and then he had in there while we was eating

[00:21:46] let me I wonder what kind of ring thing you wear I'm like wait a minute wait a minute you complaining about paying for dinner and you looking at my wedding ring finger get the hell out of here

[00:21:57] I told him I said I was just tonight was just a waste because the whole time I was out I honestly was thinking about oh when I get back home with my sister we're gonna smoke one we're gonna watch some such-and-such I'ma call my girl

[00:22:12] Jules you know because I know she gonna want to update oh yeah I was going to make sure it was gonna be that type of evening once I left his ass but I just told him I said dude I'm not cool with

[00:22:23] this I said maybe we'll try this again I said maybe I already knew what my I wouldn't go hook back up with him I already knew it I knew it then when I said it

[00:22:33] I don't even know why I gave him a ray of hope but that was my nice way of getting out the damn hotel and getting my ass back in my car headed right back to the crib showered and rolled one and hung out with

[00:22:51] my sister and I said look we got to call my girl Jules so I can tell y'all this shit at the same time and had you know when you got good girlfriends and good family members and you tell them some of this crazy

[00:23:07] stuff you can't make this up the facial expressions they both had throughout that whole conversation was classic so the next day come by and I'm supposed to get back with him or at least follow with him nah you know what I did is that I went

[00:23:29] ubering I made sure I still got up early and I said I'm not gonna be out here but by hour or two and I ubered he text me hey girl you know I'm thinking about you

[00:23:42] I'm like well you know the funny thing is you wasn't doing that last night to make sure I made it home okay no one I was upset so you got time to think about me now oh how convenient

[00:23:56] um then he tried to call me I didn't answer and I just texted back I said look I'm working right now I will call you momentarily now after I do a few rides I'm good

[00:24:08] I said okay now it's time for me to head back home but first let me pull over first let me pull over and call him I call him oh hey baby you know I was thinking about you I say you know what

[00:24:22] I'm gonna get to the chase I did not enjoy myself again last night and it left me feeling some kind of way that I'm at a point where I am willing to give you funds to get a uber

[00:24:36] back to the bus station so you can go home I don't think we should hang out no more silence and then I start to proceed because I want him to have closure and to let him know hey I ain't using you for

[00:24:50] no damn 12 dollar salad and cocktail and a used wallet let me make sure I let you know why I am ending this and never hear from you ever again and I just told him I said you complain

[00:25:07] throughout this whole thing you come out here I'm thinking we're supposed to get to know each other it's a lame ass time then you appear you know giving me used wallets and shit and then sending me pictures of fucking comic book engagement rings I'm like this this

[00:25:21] shit is not cool and this is why you will always have a problem with women and I told him at the end I say you know right now I think you're looking for a nurse yeah I could have been wrong for saying that shit but fuck it he

[00:25:36] he ruined hours out of my day I cannot get my time back okay so charge it to the game I tell myself I think you just out here hustling for a nurse what we call a hospice wife and we talked about

[00:25:52] someone in my life a couple weeks ago a hospice wife is when a man gets in his 50s and up or his health is declining he been around good women all this time had opportunities to settle down but said nah now that he got to have

[00:26:08] somebody to watch for him because most of these men end up in nursing homes and they kids either don't want me bothered with them they never got married and it's just strangers taking care of them so that's what you looking for

[00:26:19] he didn't come out and say it but I shall set it I said it looks like you looking for a hospice wife again it's no rebuttal no feedback no denial I said well look do you have a zeal or a cash app

[00:26:34] because i'm going to send you some uber money so you can get a ride back because i'm done oh I ain't got that what we in an age of digitally transferring money you ain't got no type of system set up where you

[00:26:49] can electronically send funds I hung up I hung up I was just so like irritated I'm like I'm not even gonna talk to this man no more you're wasting more of my time and if you thought

[00:27:08] I was going to swing by your hotel to drop off some money you ass I think not either you got some way for me to get it to you because it was offered to you I hung up

[00:27:19] didn't did not hear back from him not another text because I think I did block him I blocked his ass I couldn't do it I'm just like no I'm just but the moral of this story is I've got to start

[00:27:40] trusting my inner gut and not cramming myself into something that doesn't fit yeah I was trying to do something different but there was just too many signs flags it was a damn fire engine rolling down the street on fire

[00:27:57] that's what I got in this scenario but I just said oh look at that fire that's how I reacted to it that's the truth so that's just what i'm going to do moving forward it does not dampen my

[00:28:09] hope in the dating game is just filtering a lot better and not being you know wanting to entertain something that you really ain't vibing now my advice for men don't think y'all getting off the hook please be in a good mental space

[00:28:28] that is just so important because I know a lot of black men don't really feel emotionally connected when they can express themselves sometimes um but just be in a good mental space prioritize character over appearance I always say

[00:28:43] that there's a lot of men out here that are passing up on a herd of good women yeah I said a herd a herd of good women good women only come across your life only a few times it's not as back to

[00:28:57] back as you think and a lot of men that I see that have these issues with women they usually go for the thoughts I mean that's just and I'm like well because you keep selecting the the all the apples with the worms that's why

[00:29:16] this is why you have this attitude so look for you know character over appearance because see y'all relying on these bbl heifers and don't know how to cook because it lashes it's covering a fucking view it's just that type of thing y'all

[00:29:31] get your stuff together y'all and love yourself first I would recommend that for both men and women love yourself first love yourself so much that you know that you don't have to deal with certain energy you don't have to entertain every situation that comes across your table

[00:29:50] everybody don't deserve a response that's how I've been really moving on social media I might look you just disrupt my piece you out I'm not going back and forth I'm just bye so I gotta take that same attitude when it comes to me dating at my future plans

[00:30:07] I did talk to my homegirl drama who was a stand-up comedian her ass is ignorant about her dating process because she's in a real good space and I said you know I need to get some advice from

[00:30:19] drama I really didn't even have to ask we would have the conversation it just came up about how she met the guy she's singing now and she was like you need a character reference you need to get with somebody

[00:30:28] who knows somebody you know I said you know what girl I that is a good idea because he at least when this is one of my people and I you know if I need a character reference they're gonna keep it straight

[00:30:41] with me they're gonna keep it straight with me I don't have to have no guessing games I pretty much know what I'm getting into beforehand so with her saying that all things consider why did I reach out to comedian Alistair Deake because I only know a handful of

[00:30:57] people in Houston really I'm just I told you me and Houstonians you know it's just something in the water but Alistair Deake being a cool laid-back very talented comedian you know I say you know I talked to him about some business could I am

[00:31:12] doing comedy management with my client comedian Mookie G you guys make sure you follow him at Mookie underscore G underscore comedy on instagram but I was getting some advice in that department from him and not to say we're wrapping

[00:31:24] the conversation up I said well look Ali I want to let you know I'm out here and if y'all ever heard Ali to Deake talk which all his domino effect specials on YouTube check them out what you mean you uh out here

[00:31:42] I'm out here if there's somebody you think I would you know mingle with well and vice versa you know just keep me in mind and that's all I said now I'm am I expecting Alistair Deake to make a

[00:31:54] love match no I'm not but I will put it in his ear just in case it may come across something that he said oh that might be Michelle's flavor in my homeboy Michelle might be his flavor

[00:32:06] so something like that will be real nice but like I said I'm taking it day by day it's not off it's not on my to-do list every day it is what is I'm just keeping my mind open about it

[00:32:18] you know even though it has closed a little bit since that last situation but that was my own damn fault so I ain't gonna blame the dating game for that shit but I appreciate everybody tuning in to this episode I make sure you guys have all the

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[00:32:59] there as well as family stories and memories the next episode we're gonna go uber because I got so many things I need to bring to the table when it comes to people who ride uber and how your etiquette

[00:33:16] really can affect your experience and I know we got some stank ass uber drivers out here trust me I've heard nightmares but see I'm talking from my perspective because I am a respectful driver I make sure that you get to your destination safely and timely

[00:33:30] I don't be blasting my music I don't be on my phone so I make sure I provide a certain etiquette to my clientele when I'm doing that but I want the passengers to realize still my car thank you guys again for tuning in I appreciate your support

[00:33:47] I will see you guys next week peace