[00:00:00] Talk To Me Talk To Me Real Conversation Shoot Me, Talk To Me Talk To Me, Life Said Insights Wait And See Let's Michele Welcome In to the first episode of Talk To Me with your host Michele that it be myself okay.
[00:00:43] I thank you guys for tuning in join the conversation subscribe and listen to a weekly dosage of my perspective because that's pretty much what it is. It's my perspective. You don't have to agree or disagree but we're going to have some fun while we're here.
[00:00:57] Little background information from Memphis, Tennessee currently in Texas where it's hot as hell there's only like one season that's mainly summer 99.9% of the time here in Texas but hey life is good. I am a former co-host and producer of the Gospel and Health for this podcast
[00:01:17] which ran for several years and I co-hosted that with my sister and I want to thank my baby sis Rocky for devoting her time, her talents and wit to that podcast. We put a lot of blood, sweat and tears into that project. It was hard to let go.
[00:01:33] I'm not going to lie to you it was hard to let go but it was just time for another chapter so thank you baby sis. I'm also a mom. I have a son he is autistic high functioning so I'm an autism mom and I'm very proud
[00:01:45] of my son. I'm definitely going to be sharing some of those experiences with you as a mother with a child with special needs and his development through the processes, the podcast is officially started you'll be all in my business anyway.
[00:01:58] So in this first episode I have to tap on life experience and this is mainly what you're going to be hearing from me because I want to bring some conversations to the table with this podcast.
[00:02:09] No interviews we're just going to have a great conversation because these are the conversations you have at home or with your friends and your close family members or even maybe some co-workers you never know but it's just conversations that usually you can entrust
[00:02:24] somebody with and you can actually just hey no judgment zone we just going to talk. That's what we're doing here. So in this podcast I'm going to be bringing some of my life experiences, some topics that are trending that affect mainly the black community.
[00:02:36] I'm not going to lie if you haven't guessed by now I am black okay so hang on. Occasionally I'll be bringing on a guest with me to co-host to talk about something that's on the table so I'll make those announcements as the show goes along but
[00:02:51] the topic I wanted to tap in on my very first episode is dating in your 50s. Do you understand that don't even sound right together? When you say it out loud I'm dating I'm in my 50s. My dating experience has been nonexistent and that was my choice.
[00:03:12] When I had to step back from my last relationship I had to stop and look at myself. I also wrote a book to kind of guide me through that process. It is basically walking you through being in love with a narcissist which I was and
[00:03:30] it was a healing process. It's called Breaking Free and that really was therapeutic for me so I took like a little over a year off the dating scene. I'm just like okay I cannot it is too much. I didn't feel like dealing with this when I was younger.
[00:03:47] I was hoping I didn't have to deal with it at this stage in my life but here I am. So I got a spiritual advisor spiritual essential I love her she's been advising my family for over five years and when I tell you this woman's the
[00:04:02] truth she's the truth and I know for those who are not spiritually driven look we all have gifts this woman got a real gift I'm telling you but she told me last time I had a consultation with her she's like you know I see you dating
[00:04:17] I see you know I'm like girl you know what you must have a wrong deck on your table right now because I don't really have that on my agenda I mean if it happens fine but I'm not going to put forth any effort in it right now.
[00:04:30] A couple months go by I said okay fine let me give it a try because you know everybody wants companionship it doesn't necessarily have to lead to marriage that'd be the a nice outcome but if you can have somebody that you can
[00:04:42] consider a friend your lover your counselor it may be even your business partner because I like people with ambition so basically what I'm looking for in a man is common sense I know that's not so common it's a tall order
[00:04:56] right there so I'm starting off big but good conversation supportive understanding respectful great yeah you got a you got to have a great sense of human with me because I crack them off all day and that's just the basics you
[00:05:12] know employment will be nice and you know some source of income I don't want no illegal income in the mix just a legal source of income some reliability as far as transportation I'll get to that later but stuff like that is just the
[00:05:27] basic things I would look for so I put myself back out there I start on the social media dating app which is free because right now I'm not even in a mental space where I want to invest into a dating app so I'm like let me just
[00:05:41] try this free one give the role get a couple responses and the filtering process is the hardest part you're always trying to you got in mind what you want what you're looking for and then when you pull up some of these
[00:05:54] profiles like it is just that kind of respond oh my god what the hell's going on here some of these men look like they just got out of jail I'm talking about Alcatraz type of you know I just that's the kind of look and some of them are
[00:06:10] younger than myself and I usually do attract young men I'm not gonna lie but they look older than me I'm like dude I can't be you can't be younger than me and looking like you're an elderly relative you can't do that it's not gonna
[00:06:25] look right so finally I get a match the match is two years older myself so I've never dated anybody who's older than myself so I'm okay this is something new he lives two hours away convenient he's kind of a black geek that's that's
[00:06:44] right of my alley I consider myself a black geek I'm not going to lie because I'm into all kind of shit behind the scenes so we start chatting on the app and then after a couple of days I'm like okay when is he going to ask for my
[00:06:59] phone number because you know I'm like you know men I know how I am about stuff I want I do have an aggressive type attitude toward it and I will keep doing
[00:07:11] that until I get the kind of response or at least an answer so I was like dude are you serious because you know my numbers right here finally start talking on the phone and we're talking every day and one thing I start noticing I'm like
[00:07:26] damn you available I mean I know you employed but you a little too available now I'm explaining that because I know all women were you fussing about him being a bit yes I am because before he walked into my life my life was on a
[00:07:42] schedule okay I got things to do I can't chit chat on the phone all day so I had to let him know hey I'm working between this time and that time it'd be a little
[00:07:54] bit more convenient to talk to you after I get through of my work day okay do that and the conversations were semi-interested and I say semi-interesting because he did have a great interest he was a big fan of comic con he had
[00:08:09] this obsession with the Green Lantern he would go to comic con every year dressed as this character get costumes custom made I understand because I know a lot of people are into that you know me I'm Halloween and I'm good that's all I need
[00:08:24] so we get on that topic and he won't shake I'm trying to shake it off I'm like okay yeah I've heard about this shit already I've heard about comic con can we move on so I have to redirect the conversation I was appreciating
[00:08:40] the consistency and the clarity about his intentions which you know he said hey he wasn't here to play around he's actually looking for that foundation a wife I'm like okay and he was previously married wife passed I'm like okay so
[00:08:55] he's got a little sense of stability if he's been previous previously married yeah but other than that I was you know just getting to know him but I started having this gut feeling and then I you know when you get a gut feeling and you
[00:09:14] need confirmation my sister already told me she was like look if you're not totally into it don't do it and then I talked to my spiritual advisor she's like well I'm getting a weird vibe not weird bad but just a weird vibe I'm like
[00:09:32] well all this motherfucking no serial killer you know I won't end up in no lake or something or you know missing for a couple days long it ain't that kind scenario I maybe I can get around the awkwardness all right so we continue to
[00:09:48] talk and then he starts talking about oh well I'm gonna make my way out there I'm like okay cool how you gonna get here take a bus what you two hours away you don't have a car then I find out he's renting the room I'm like this ain't
[00:10:11] no halfway house type of thing is it you know and he's explaining all this financial hardships and he's already got three grown sons don't like thinking to myself and I could be misjudging cuz I'm always looking at things from my
[00:10:23] perspective again and how my family operates so I'm like so you're not living with none of your sons ain't none of them got they don't open you do you talk to him at all I mean I'm not getting really too much but the run around on that
[00:10:35] conversation so okay you want to come out here and we continue to talk and it was getting to a point where it was an irritation I was like you know you're not letting me get a word in one of my biggest turnoffs is a chatty ass man I'm
[00:10:55] not gonna dominate the conversation but I need to intervene or you need to have some type of curiosity about what's going on with me like I do with you wouldn't like that it was just like okay and I told him I say you know what
[00:11:07] don't worry about coming out here because you seem like you're not in a space to be able to maintain a relationship let alone dating and I'm not just talking from a financial perspective that's a big part of it but
[00:11:22] right now you don't seem like you are in that space so he postponed we continue to talk and I'm just like you know what maybe I should cut this off I got maybe I should cut this off are you such a nice guy he's such a nice guy
[00:11:44] you know you dated all the bad boys you dated of those you know edgy men you need something tame you know that's how you do when you start trying to adjust to something that really shouldn't be the fit for you you start talking to
[00:12:00] yourself about you should not listen to sometimes you should tell her to shut the hell up you tell her because that's what I'm gonna say next time I hear a little voice in my head oh you need something different you've done something
[00:12:19] you know what with those particular type of man you need to try something different damn that I'm going to like what I like and I had to filter their red flag shit out along the way I'm just telling you how it goes so I'm
[00:12:35] telling him to postpone this trip because I'm not really thinking they were in a space you're not really in a space for relationship and then he's like well I'm entitled to some happiness and I shut up I felt shitty after I said you
[00:12:51] know you're not really in that space and I was like well look at it you rent a place not even a place in the room have no car that's in the shop or something and you're gonna take a bus here so that means we take a bus
[00:13:04] here I gotta pick you up but he starts talking and he really starts I mean he starts laying on a little bit thicker the the catering the conversations are more focused and I'm like oh my god is he actually listening this is wonderful
[00:13:21] okay so right before this trip is taken and I think he had this had to be like layout that I don't know what processed in his mind how it was gonna turn out but I'm gonna wrap this on up the good stuff comes later in the next
[00:13:43] episode when we actually go out on a date because he does make his way my way and I promise you I should have stuck to my first instinct and let that motherfucker stay in that room this bus pass that's what I should did I really
[00:14:03] want to save this for the next episode because y'all are not gonna believe how this date went and you can already tell by the tone of my voice you know it was not a fun date at all alright but look we are gonna get to that next
[00:14:21] episode so make sure if you have not hit that subscribe button hit it now hit it now because I got more stories I got more experiences more conversations come on your way I wanted you know to have some people on for certain topics so
[00:14:36] it's gonna get better and better so I'm thinking about topics like I you know I drive Uber that is a grind of mine that I have along with my home business so yeah I'm working through jobs money but I definitely want to get to Uber
[00:14:51] etiquette and when I say Uber etiquette I'm talking about the passengers since I'm a driver that will be one of the topics I will be bringing up but the next episode we're gonna return to this damn disastrous date that's coming up y'all
[00:15:03] gonna be laughing y'all ass off I'm not gonna say no more but look make sure you guys subscribe thank you so much for tuning in for the first episode and make sure you go to Amazon and grab you a copy of my cookbook mama's
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