In order to be successful in any kind of relationship you must establish boundaries and stick to them no matter what. On this episode of Liquor Talk I Vic welcomes Simplee Bree, the host of the Don't Judge Me But podcast. They discuss the importance of authenticity in conversations, the challenges of instant gratification in relationships, and the realities of podcasting. The conversation emphasizes the need for patience and hard work in achieving personal and professional goals. In this engaging conversation, Simplee Bree and Victor Jones delve into the complexities of podcasting, relationships, and personal growth. They discuss the challenges of being a podcast host, the importance of setting boundaries, and the necessity of self-work in both personal and professional realms. The dialogue also touches on the dynamics of modern dating, the significance of vulnerability, and the role of therapy in healing from past traumas. With humor and candidness, they explore societal expectations and the importance of self-love and accountability in relationships. So, if you're ready for a dose of real talk mixed with laughter and relatable anecdotes, grab your favorite drink and tune into this insightful episode of Liquor Talk! Please follow and support both platforms. Interested in being a guest? Hit the link below. https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17418936411040311c94a81a3
00:00:00 --> 00:00:05 Liquor Talk, a brand new episode, is right here, ladies and gentlemen, and it starts right now.
00:00:06 --> 00:00:09 Welcome back to another edition of the Liquor Talk Podcast.
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00:00:20 --> 00:00:24 But ladies and gentlemen, my guest today, she is the host of the Don't Judge
00:00:24 --> 00:00:29 Me But Podcast, podcasting out of Atlanta, Georgia. She is Simply Brie.
00:00:29 --> 00:00:30 How you doing today, Brie?
00:00:31 --> 00:00:35 I am good. Thank you so much for that intro. I feel the energy.
00:00:37 --> 00:00:40 I'm glad you feel the energy because that's definitely the goal.
00:00:41 --> 00:00:44 Whenever I'm recording with somebody, I always want to bring that energy.
00:00:44 --> 00:00:48 I definitely, definitely want to bring you. And also, thank you for guessing.
00:00:48 --> 00:00:51 I know you told me it's been a while since you were on the other side of the
00:00:51 --> 00:00:53 mic. So I definitely appreciate it.
00:00:54 --> 00:00:58 Thank you. I am excited. I'm ready to get this conversation going.
00:00:58 --> 00:01:03 Don't judge me, but hopefully you guys can deal with my answers.
00:01:04 --> 00:01:09 Yes, yes. But let's get into it. Tell people about the Don't Judge Me But podcast.
00:01:10 --> 00:01:18 Yes, so the Don't Judge Me But podcast is a show where myself as well as now
00:01:18 --> 00:01:23 two other co-hosts, we recently had one co-host leave and we picked up another.
00:01:23 --> 00:01:26 So it's three of us total and we basically
00:01:26 --> 00:01:29 have conversations that other people want
00:01:29 --> 00:01:32 to have but they're afraid of being judged for it
00:01:32 --> 00:01:37 so we talk about relationships self-growth self-care
00:01:37 --> 00:01:40 career growth I mean you name it
00:01:40 --> 00:01:43 we talk about it and we're just brutally honest
00:01:43 --> 00:01:46 and raw with our answers and our you know and our guests
00:01:46 --> 00:01:49 and our audience they appreciate it so
00:01:49 --> 00:01:53 yeah yes yes we definitely appreciate it
00:01:53 --> 00:01:56 on we definitely appreciate the podcasts are definitely raw and
00:01:56 --> 00:01:58 honest and unfiltered and that's honestly a
00:01:58 --> 00:02:01 goal for any podcast to be that be
00:02:01 --> 00:02:06 unfiltered and unspoken and not care what someone else think because a lot of
00:02:06 --> 00:02:10 people out there they're just scared to tell the truth but you got you can't
00:02:10 --> 00:02:14 be scared to tell the truth right you have to live in your truth that's the
00:02:14 --> 00:02:20 thing like if you're so focused about or worrying about what other people are going to say,
00:02:20 --> 00:02:25 I feel like it affects your ability to be authentic.
00:02:26 --> 00:02:30 And you end up, instead of speaking the truth, you're only going to talk about
00:02:30 --> 00:02:33 things that you feel people are going to like.
00:02:33 --> 00:02:39 And that's not really doing a justice for your audience or even for yourself.
00:02:39 --> 00:02:42 So yeah, real and authentic is the way to go.
00:02:43 --> 00:02:48 Yes, always real and authentic. So what inspired the Don't Judge Me, but podcast?
00:02:49 --> 00:02:56 Oh, so I was looking for a new show that I could find to engage with the audience,
00:02:57 --> 00:03:03 where it's not just my opinion as a woman, but also to deliver that balance.
00:03:03 --> 00:03:07 And so one of the guests that I had on, which was James Sweat,
00:03:07 --> 00:03:09 he and I was, you know, just talking about it.
00:03:09 --> 00:03:13 And he said, you know, I think that would be a really good idea.
00:03:13 --> 00:03:17 We have to think of something that is different than what's already out there.
00:03:18 --> 00:03:23 And so we were brainstorming and we decided, okay, we might need one more person
00:03:23 --> 00:03:25 just to kind of throw the balance off.
00:03:25 --> 00:03:29 And so that's when we ended up getting with Dame Irv.
00:03:29 --> 00:03:35 And so we all collectively sat down virtually because they're up in Connecticut. it.
00:03:35 --> 00:03:41 We sat down and we talked about what the overall purpose is.
00:03:41 --> 00:03:46 And don't judge me was the first thing that came to mind.
00:03:46 --> 00:03:49 But of course, it's easy to say, don't judge me.
00:03:49 --> 00:03:55 But when you add the but, it's like, okay, you're going to say something that
00:03:55 --> 00:04:00 I'm probably not going to really be comfortable with because that but cancels out everything.
00:04:00 --> 00:04:04 And so that's how we ended up collectively creating
00:04:04 --> 00:04:08 the don't judge me but podcast that's that's
00:04:08 --> 00:04:12 definitely amazing because i always know whenever somebody says don't judge
00:04:12 --> 00:04:16 me you're giving me room to judge but but nine times out of ten it's like i
00:04:16 --> 00:04:20 don't even judge because i'm i'm thinking the same thing in the given moment
00:04:20 --> 00:04:24 so sometimes i'm like you just say what i'm thinking i just i have to agree
00:04:24 --> 00:04:28 with you you know yeah you're like i can't even be mad at you.
00:04:29 --> 00:04:32 Yeah, because sometimes you may come out and say it, but I was thinking it,
00:04:32 --> 00:04:34 you know, you may have just beaten me to the punch.
00:04:35 --> 00:04:40 Okay, talking about on your latest episode, which is the microwave era.
00:04:40 --> 00:04:44 Like, why is our generation, yes, I was paying attention.
00:04:45 --> 00:04:51 Why is our generation the goddamn microwave era? It's like nobody can be patient for anything.
00:04:51 --> 00:04:57 At all. And it's unfortunate. I feel like this time that we're in,
00:04:57 --> 00:05:02 the reason why we're in this microwave era is because we're so used to getting
00:05:02 --> 00:05:04 what we want when we want it.
00:05:04 --> 00:05:10 And it's not even like it's impossible because we've seen people actually do it.
00:05:10 --> 00:05:15 You have influencers overnight. You have people who have gone viral,
00:05:15 --> 00:05:19 excuse me, just for something based off of what they said.
00:05:19 --> 00:05:26 So it's not far-fetched that it can happen, but when you make it almost as if
00:05:26 --> 00:05:30 it's the norm, everything is now affected.
00:05:30 --> 00:05:36 The relationships are affected where you're overlooking red flags because you
00:05:36 --> 00:05:38 want a relationship right now.
00:05:38 --> 00:05:42 And you only want the relationship because society says if you're single,
00:05:42 --> 00:05:46 there's something wrong with you. So I need to be in a relationship.
00:05:46 --> 00:05:53 You want the career that pays the six figures plus because if you don't make
00:05:53 --> 00:05:55 six figures, then guess what?
00:05:55 --> 00:05:58 You're not winning. so I feel
00:05:58 --> 00:06:01 like it's just society itself that
00:06:01 --> 00:06:05 has painted this facade of
00:06:05 --> 00:06:10 what success looks like and unfortunately the way that we are with technology
00:06:10 --> 00:06:17 today things are happening at the drop of a dime where why why can't I have
00:06:17 --> 00:06:21 it there's there's so many things that are able to give it to me why can't I
00:06:21 --> 00:06:23 have it I want it and I want it now.
00:06:23 --> 00:06:27 Yeah, and I understand that. But sometimes we may want something,
00:06:27 --> 00:06:30 but really we might not be ready for it.
00:06:30 --> 00:06:34 So sometimes it's like many people need to realize that, hey,
00:06:34 --> 00:06:37 you may want something right now, but you'll fumble it.
00:06:37 --> 00:06:40 And because how people you see in relationships or in society,
00:06:40 --> 00:06:42 they did get the job, they might
00:06:42 --> 00:06:45 get the relationship, but in two or three months, they done fumbled it.
00:06:45 --> 00:06:50 Or they just happened to move on because you weren't ready for it. Exactly.
00:06:50 --> 00:06:55 When you think about when COVID happened, you've seen so many relationships
00:06:55 --> 00:07:00 fail because they were stuck in the house with one another.
00:07:00 --> 00:07:04 You're literally living under the same roof with this person that you said I
00:07:04 --> 00:07:07 do to, and you're like, I can't stand this one.
00:07:07 --> 00:07:15 Like, so you haven't been put through the trials long enough to really know
00:07:15 --> 00:07:18 whether or not you truly want to be with this person.
00:07:19 --> 00:07:26 And so microwave era relationships, like tonight I actually coined a reference,
00:07:26 --> 00:07:30 the ramen noodle relationships, because that's exactly what it is.
00:07:30 --> 00:07:32 Ramen noodle relationship.
00:07:32 --> 00:07:37 Ramen noodle relationships. Like, you put it in the microwave and it's like,
00:07:37 --> 00:07:40 hey, I love you, even though I've only known you a week.
00:07:40 --> 00:07:45 Like, it's, I don't know. I think, I think these...
00:07:46 --> 00:07:56 I want to say the things that we want instantly, I feel, is a way to take the
00:07:56 --> 00:08:00 focus off of the work that we really need to do, right?
00:08:00 --> 00:08:07 Like, you want a six-figure job, but have you really put in the effort at work?
00:08:07 --> 00:08:10 Have you done the hard work, the labor, the projects, the overnight?
00:08:11 --> 00:08:14 You know, have you done all of that, the relationships?
00:08:15 --> 00:08:20 Have you worked on yourself? Have you healed? Are you okay where you are?
00:08:21 --> 00:08:26 Are you prepared for that person when they come into your life that you're able
00:08:26 --> 00:08:28 to treat them the way that they should be treated?
00:08:29 --> 00:08:34 Like, we don't want to do the work in any way that you look at it.
00:08:34 --> 00:08:37 And so we're just throwing temper tantrums. I want what I want.
00:08:38 --> 00:08:42 Yeah, we want what we want, but don't want to put the work in.
00:08:42 --> 00:08:45 That's perfectly it is. it's sad it's sad
00:08:45 --> 00:08:48 it is because people want to look at previous generations well
00:08:48 --> 00:08:52 previous generations they shut the fuck up and they put the work in they didn't
00:08:52 --> 00:08:56 bitch about everything on social media that's what previous generations did
00:08:56 --> 00:09:01 and also and if they did have secrets they kept it a secret everybody knew their
00:09:01 --> 00:09:08 role and they weren't out here being messy yes secrets were actually secrets back then.
00:09:08 --> 00:09:14 Now, they're just placeholder until I get upset at you or until I feel like
00:09:14 --> 00:09:16 being messy. Then I'm still the bees.
00:09:17 --> 00:09:22 So yeah, relationships, everything was so much better back then than what it
00:09:22 --> 00:09:25 is now. And I don't know if we're going to get back to that time.
00:09:25 --> 00:09:30 Yeah, I highly doubt it because the way technology is going nowadays,
00:09:30 --> 00:09:35 they got everything. And then you got people in relationships demanding off-rip,
00:09:35 --> 00:09:37 I need to know your location.
00:09:37 --> 00:09:40 I'm like, sir, ma'am, you don't know me like that.
00:09:41 --> 00:09:45 How are you asking for my location when you don't know me like that? No.
00:09:46 --> 00:09:52 No, I want access to your phone. Why can't I see what's in your phone? I need the code.
00:09:54 --> 00:09:59 Why you need the code? Man, listen, I see the TikToker, the guy that go around.
00:09:59 --> 00:10:01 He be making people swap phones.
00:10:02 --> 00:10:04 Man, look at here.
00:10:05 --> 00:10:08 That's so much mess. I'm like, oh, my goodness.
00:10:09 --> 00:10:13 Yes, because if you say no, you're suspicious. What are you hiding?
00:10:13 --> 00:10:15 You're suspicious. What are you hiding?
00:10:16 --> 00:10:19 And then on top of that, then you say yes. And then it's like,
00:10:19 --> 00:10:23 now you're digging through everything. And it's like, wow.
00:10:24 --> 00:10:28 He's like, no, no, no. Go to the deleted. Go to the deleted.
00:10:29 --> 00:10:32 Who's John? Who's John? Actually, who's John? Uh-uh.
00:10:32 --> 00:10:39 It's like he gets a kick out of digging into people's personal lives.
00:10:39 --> 00:10:48 And unfortunately, this is microwave success for him because he is now known for doing this.
00:10:48 --> 00:10:54 And people, you know, I just don't get it. I'm sorry, if I was in a relationship
00:10:54 --> 00:11:00 and I've seen him, I don't even want, I could trust my partner.
00:11:00 --> 00:11:05 I don't even want to entertain that because it's going to blow things out of
00:11:05 --> 00:11:08 proportion because it has to look good for the camera.
00:11:09 --> 00:11:13 Pretty much, pretty much, because it's like, because I bet he does that.
00:11:13 --> 00:11:18 And it's just like reality TV. I bet they have a lot of cases where maybe you're
00:11:18 --> 00:11:22 telling the truth or maybe it's nothing, you find nothing.
00:11:22 --> 00:11:27 But that's not the one that's going to make it onto social media or that's not
00:11:27 --> 00:11:31 going to make it to, you know, reality TV like Mario or Cheetahs back in the day.
00:11:32 --> 00:11:34 You're not going to, that's not the one that's going to make it.
00:11:34 --> 00:11:38 The one that's going to make it is, oh, who's this? Who's that? Why is this going on?
00:11:39 --> 00:11:43 And then he'll be like, call him, call him right now, call him.
00:11:43 --> 00:11:46 So, yeah, no, I couldn't do it.
00:11:46 --> 00:11:50 I couldn't do it either. I'd be like, sir, me and my lady are in a healthy relationship.
00:11:50 --> 00:11:55 And it's just, it's like, and I would say this, I bet, look, I trust my partner.
00:11:55 --> 00:11:59 But if my partner does something, eventually I'm going to find out.
00:11:59 --> 00:12:03 Not right then or there, because when y'all women are a lot smarter than we
00:12:03 --> 00:12:06 are, and a lot of y'all, y'all know how to hide y'all shit.
00:12:06 --> 00:12:12 And it's like, but y'all make mistakes. Y'all are human. Y'all do make mistakes.
00:12:12 --> 00:12:15 And when the time is right, you will slip up.
00:12:15 --> 00:12:20 That's it. What I say, what's done in the dark is going to come out into the
00:12:20 --> 00:12:23 light. Regardless, male, female, it doesn't matter.
00:12:23 --> 00:12:26 It really, it really doesn't matter.
00:12:26 --> 00:12:31 And so what's your advice to people in this microwave era? Like,
00:12:31 --> 00:12:33 how do we just keep going?
00:12:33 --> 00:12:36 And do we just have to put our head down and just keep putting in the work?
00:12:36 --> 00:12:39 Because I know it gets tough because we're putting in the work,
00:12:39 --> 00:12:41 but we see these people out of nowhere.
00:12:42 --> 00:12:46 Oh, they're a happy relationship couple or or somebody on social media went
00:12:46 --> 00:12:50 viral and they got all these contracts and all these sponsorships and stuff
00:12:50 --> 00:12:54 like what do you say to people to try to be patient in this microwave era?
00:12:55 --> 00:13:01 Listen, put in your time and be appreciative of whatever it is that you get.
00:13:02 --> 00:13:06 You might not get that relationship right now. Are you ready for it?
00:13:07 --> 00:13:12 Are you truly ready for it? You might not go viral and, you know,
00:13:12 --> 00:13:14 become famous overnight.
00:13:15 --> 00:13:20 That's okay because what's meant for you is meant for you and it's not going
00:13:20 --> 00:13:22 to be stopped by anybody or anything.
00:13:23 --> 00:13:26 Take your time. don't rush and
00:13:26 --> 00:13:29 establish your foundation whether it's a relationship whether it's
00:13:29 --> 00:13:32 business whether it's you know it's anything
00:13:32 --> 00:13:36 build that foundation and from
00:13:36 --> 00:13:39 there the world is yours it's just
00:13:39 --> 00:13:43 whenever your time is here that's it yes
00:13:43 --> 00:13:46 you got to stay patient continue to put the work in and also
00:13:46 --> 00:13:49 continue to support others that they they may
00:13:49 --> 00:13:52 have got their time continue to support your friends um be
00:13:52 --> 00:13:55 there for your friends if they if it is their time because i've
00:13:55 --> 00:13:58 seen people it feels like they're their jealous friend they they only
00:13:58 --> 00:14:01 love you when they're above you but then when you're doing better
00:14:01 --> 00:14:04 than them they want to be a hater no you gotta continue
00:14:04 --> 00:14:07 to support people for because you just gotta believe that
00:14:07 --> 00:14:10 your time is coming because that's why i've been telling myself this whole
00:14:10 --> 00:14:13 time you know that's why i've been still pushing the podcast even
00:14:13 --> 00:14:16 though i try my heart is not to be one of these red pill
00:14:16 --> 00:14:20 people you know it's like or or the
00:14:20 --> 00:14:26 people that just go viral for saying dumb shit on the podcast you know because
00:14:26 --> 00:14:31 gotta believe the time is coming yeah and then keep in mind whatever you put
00:14:31 --> 00:14:34 on the internet is going to stay on the internet like people screenshot people
00:14:34 --> 00:14:37 screen record so imagine right.
00:14:38 --> 00:14:46 Victor, you go viral because you went on this tangent, this red pill manosphere tangent.
00:14:46 --> 00:14:54 And then years later, you establish a contract with iHeartRadio.
00:14:54 --> 00:14:57 They want your show on their platform.
00:14:57 --> 00:15:02 And now you're doing it. You're living it up. You know, people know who you are.
00:15:02 --> 00:15:07 And then somebody reposts that video of you when you went viral.
00:15:07 --> 00:15:11 And now all that you've worked for comes
00:15:11 --> 00:15:15 tumbling down simply because you at
00:15:15 --> 00:15:19 that time thought that was the way to get the recognition yeah trust
00:15:19 --> 00:15:23 me that's not that's not that's not something we plan for and then it's like
00:15:23 --> 00:15:27 you got that's where you got to have a good PR team to be like listen and then
00:15:27 --> 00:15:32 also one have a good PR team or two come right out and say it like look I'm
00:15:32 --> 00:15:35 I this is how I felt four or five years ago.
00:15:35 --> 00:15:38 I don't feel that way now. I've been educated.
00:15:38 --> 00:15:41 That's not how I feel now. And if you want to terminate my contract,
00:15:41 --> 00:15:44 that says more about you than does me.
00:15:44 --> 00:15:49 Because every saint has a past and every sinner has a future.
00:15:49 --> 00:15:52 So look. Get out of this PR. Hell yeah.
00:15:53 --> 00:15:57 Because I see it happen. There's so many people that go viral and then somebody
00:15:57 --> 00:16:00 leaks their old tweets or some dumb shit.
00:16:00 --> 00:16:07 I'm like, Twitter was a reckless place back in the day a hot dumpster mess yes
00:16:07 --> 00:16:11 it is people don't understand that so it's like people always want to try to
00:16:11 --> 00:16:15 create somebody's downfall i'm like don't you know that's affecting your own
00:16:15 --> 00:16:20 come up you add it's how you're delaying your own come up when you try to prey on someone's downfall,
00:16:21 --> 00:16:29 Exactly. So let me ask you this. If this incident popped up where somebody pulled
00:16:29 --> 00:16:36 up a video of you going wild and crazy on one of your episodes and iHeart said,
00:16:37 --> 00:16:45 we're going to release you from this, we're going to say $500 contract.
00:16:46 --> 00:16:56 Unless you apologize. But at that time in that rant, you believed everything
00:16:56 --> 00:16:58 that you said. Like it was very valid.
00:16:58 --> 00:17:05 Would you stand 10 toes down and say, hey, I said what I said and that's how
00:17:05 --> 00:17:07 I felt and that was the truth?
00:17:07 --> 00:17:13 Or would you go ahead and release an apology statement to the public for your behavior?
00:17:13 --> 00:17:16 Here i would oh that's good that's that's a
00:17:16 --> 00:17:19 very good question what i would do is i
00:17:19 --> 00:17:22 would i would reevaluate do i feel the same way that
00:17:22 --> 00:17:25 i did now because it's like i said click came out
00:17:25 --> 00:17:29 a few years ago i'm like i'd have to have an evaluation with myself be like
00:17:29 --> 00:17:34 do i feel this way now if i don't feel this way now then i will say look i apologize
00:17:34 --> 00:17:38 i was reckless back then but if i still feel this way then i'm like no it's
00:17:38 --> 00:17:42 10 toes now because i'm looking at i already like look with without y'all I'm
00:17:42 --> 00:17:43 going to be all right, you know.
00:17:43 --> 00:17:47 I'm going to make something happen with or without y'all, you know. So, yeah.
00:17:47 --> 00:17:51 Okay, that's a good way to look at it. Yeah, he said, listen,
00:17:51 --> 00:17:55 we got to play the clip. How was I feeling? What was happening that day?
00:17:55 --> 00:17:58 Yes, because you never know.
00:17:58 --> 00:18:01 You may say something in the heat of the moment because I know people in relationships,
00:18:01 --> 00:18:02 they do this all the time.
00:18:03 --> 00:18:09 They say something they don't mean at the right time and then you can't take it back. Yeah, no.
00:18:09 --> 00:18:16 And that's, ooh, that is the most important thing about not speaking while you're emotional.
00:18:17 --> 00:18:24 Like, you have to find a way to remove emotions and speak either logically or
00:18:24 --> 00:18:27 rationally. But you have to remove those emotions.
00:18:27 --> 00:18:30 Because if not, you're going to say some wicked stuff.
00:18:30 --> 00:18:34 And you gotta go back and apologize
00:18:34 --> 00:18:37 and you gotta do damage control because you
00:18:37 --> 00:18:40 can't pull the words back so it's just
00:18:40 --> 00:18:43 not worth it yes and that's why that's why i've
00:18:43 --> 00:18:46 always in previous relationships i've always been passive i was like you know
00:18:46 --> 00:18:50 what i'm not gonna let this get to me because if i say something oh baby you'll
00:18:50 --> 00:18:54 be ready to break up but looking back at it if i would have known what i know
00:18:54 --> 00:18:58 now maybe i should have said something but hey those still growing pains you
00:18:58 --> 00:19:02 know it worked It worked for you at that time, so you had the formula.
00:19:02 --> 00:19:06 Yes, it definitely worked at the time. Ladies and gentlemen, this is Liquor Talk.
00:19:06 --> 00:19:09 The more you drink, the better we sound. So go ahead and get that liquor poured
00:19:09 --> 00:19:11 up if you haven't done so already.
00:19:12 --> 00:19:17 All right, Bree, what is your favorite liquor to drink or do you even drink? Oh, man.
00:19:17 --> 00:19:21 Okay, so recently I decided to stop drinking.
00:19:21 --> 00:19:25 However, my drink of choice is two different ones.
00:19:26 --> 00:19:31 The mild one is any type of frozen margarita.
00:19:31 --> 00:19:37 And then that hardcore one that would put hairs on your chest was a Long Island iced tea.
00:19:38 --> 00:19:43 Oh, good choices. Oh, I like this. So what made you decide to,
00:19:43 --> 00:19:45 what made you say I'm gonna stop drinking?
00:19:47 --> 00:19:50 Because so, and the bad part about it is I'm not even really a drinker.
00:19:50 --> 00:19:56 I'm like a social drinker, but it's really if I go out, I'll have like one drink and then that's it.
00:19:56 --> 00:20:01 But the reason why I stopped is because I did not like the feeling that it made
00:20:01 --> 00:20:05 me, you know, that I felt when I was under the influence.
00:20:05 --> 00:20:09 I'm the type of person where I like to be observant of my surroundings.
00:20:09 --> 00:20:15 And so I know that alcohol kind of puts a stunt to that, slows it down a little bit.
00:20:15 --> 00:20:19 And I just didn't feel comfortable because I'm the type of person that I go
00:20:19 --> 00:20:21 out by myself. I don't roll with a crew.
00:20:22 --> 00:20:26 And so I need to be aware of my surroundings when I'm out and about.
00:20:26 --> 00:20:31 And then also just thinking, you know, the number of things that could possibly
00:20:31 --> 00:20:35 happen when I'm going home, you know, if I'm still intoxicated now,
00:20:35 --> 00:20:38 I can get pulled over, you know, I have a son to worry about.
00:20:38 --> 00:20:44 So just trying to play the better hand and, you know, just looking at it from
00:20:44 --> 00:20:52 a more not only safety perspective, but just a more healthier perspective for myself and my family.
00:20:53 --> 00:20:58 Hey, that's so responsible. I really appreciate how responsible you are because I'm like you.
00:20:58 --> 00:21:03 I go out solo, which is why it's like if I'm out by myself, I only have like one drink.
00:21:03 --> 00:21:07 And even if I'm out with people, now if I'm out with people and I don't have
00:21:07 --> 00:21:13 to drive, I'll have multiple drinks. But if I'm out with people and I got a
00:21:13 --> 00:21:15 drop, I'm still only having like one drink.
00:21:15 --> 00:21:20 Because like you said, there's so many things that can happen where it's like you just don't know.
00:21:20 --> 00:21:24 And I remember one time I was in Tallahassee. I was really intoxicated.
00:21:25 --> 00:21:28 Somehow I drove home and I made it home. But I said to myself,
00:21:29 --> 00:21:33 never again. I said, if I ever do that again, I will definitely make sure that
00:21:33 --> 00:21:35 I get an Uber or something.
00:21:35 --> 00:21:40 Because I can't be out here taking these risks. because it's
00:21:40 --> 00:21:43 a lot of money to pay for a DUI and then
00:21:43 --> 00:21:45 to pay for a lawyer and then that insurance you got to
00:21:45 --> 00:21:49 pay for it's too risky yeah it
00:21:49 --> 00:21:52 adds up and then like not only are
00:21:52 --> 00:21:55 you having to worry about yourself driving but
00:21:55 --> 00:21:58 you have to worry about the other drunk drivers that's on
00:21:58 --> 00:22:00 the road like so you got to be responsible for
00:22:00 --> 00:22:03 yourself and for them and all it takes is
00:22:03 --> 00:22:06 one like delayed response or
00:22:06 --> 00:22:10 reaction and that costs somebody their
00:22:10 --> 00:22:12 life or even your life so it's just it's not
00:22:12 --> 00:22:15 worth it like if you want to drink drink at
00:22:15 --> 00:22:18 home make sure that you are drinking enough
00:22:18 --> 00:22:25 water as well because don't nobody like the smell of no alcohol pee and you
00:22:25 --> 00:22:30 know just drink responsibly that's yeah if you know that you get angry when
00:22:30 --> 00:22:36 you drunk just don't drink leave it alone yes uh yeah just Everybody drink responsibly.
00:22:36 --> 00:22:40 For every two drinks you have, make sure you get some water in there.
00:22:41 --> 00:22:44 That's why Crown Royal back in the day had them water break commercials.
00:22:44 --> 00:22:49 Hey, everybody go take a sip of water. It made sense because you need to.
00:22:49 --> 00:22:54 Yeah, that's how you get hangovers. Like, I didn't know hangovers came from,
00:22:54 --> 00:22:59 of course, if you drink drinks that have a high amount of sugar in it, it also dehydrates.
00:23:00 --> 00:23:03 Like, if your brain is dehydrated, that's where the hangovers come from.
00:23:03 --> 00:23:09 So, you know, why have to sit here and think about all of that when you can
00:23:09 --> 00:23:10 just go without drinking?
00:23:10 --> 00:23:16 Yeah that's true that that's definitely true so like i've i admit i've cut back
00:23:16 --> 00:23:20 on drinking a lot like you know one time i would see if i'm recording or if
00:23:20 --> 00:23:24 i'm just out with friends but nothing like in my college days where it didn't
00:23:24 --> 00:23:26 it didn't matter it was going down.
00:23:26 --> 00:23:30 I could imagine college days for anybody i'm
00:23:30 --> 00:23:33 listen i remember oh my
00:23:33 --> 00:23:36 gosh and this wasn't even in college days for me but
00:23:36 --> 00:23:38 when i lived in north carolina and i
00:23:38 --> 00:23:42 stayed next door to a college campus and those
00:23:42 --> 00:23:46 bars would have penny nights where
00:23:46 --> 00:23:48 the drink only cost a penny so you
00:23:48 --> 00:23:52 can literally fall out with a quarter yeah greenville north
00:23:52 --> 00:23:55 carolina ecu oh my
00:23:55 --> 00:23:59 goodness i remember me and my homegirls would go and
00:23:59 --> 00:24:02 we i got everybody how many drinks do you want put a quarter
00:24:02 --> 00:24:04 put a quarter on the bar and everybody got like
00:24:04 --> 00:24:09 three drinks like yeah those were dangerous oh
00:24:09 --> 00:24:13 damn i bet those were dangerous and those were probably low quality drinks because
00:24:13 --> 00:24:19 ain't no way though juice yeah it was it was no top shelf shit it was i i know
00:24:19 --> 00:24:23 because i remember there was a bar in tallahassee called bullwinkle's from like
00:24:23 --> 00:24:28 7 p.m to 1 a.m you pay like ten dollars and you get unlimited drinks.
00:24:29 --> 00:24:32 What yes unlimited that's
00:24:32 --> 00:24:35 even more dangerous unlimited yes and then
00:24:35 --> 00:24:38 they it was bad when but it was always
00:24:38 --> 00:24:41 a white spot but then then i could tell when
00:24:41 --> 00:24:44 the black folks started finding out about it it got even more
00:24:44 --> 00:24:47 crazy yeah you know what
00:24:47 --> 00:24:50 i don't understand is those type of establishments when
00:24:50 --> 00:24:53 they have these specials and stuff and you know people are
00:24:53 --> 00:24:56 going to get tipsy and then they got police officers
00:24:56 --> 00:24:59 guarding the door as security i'm like so you're
00:24:59 --> 00:25:03 gonna let people drive off like this
00:25:03 --> 00:25:06 like it didn't make sense to me it never made
00:25:06 --> 00:25:09 sense to me yeah that never made sense to me because i remember
00:25:09 --> 00:25:13 i always see the police officers right there where
00:25:13 --> 00:25:16 at every bar you go to and then i remember when
00:25:16 --> 00:25:19 the fraternities have their little juice parties the police
00:25:19 --> 00:25:24 officers be there at the beginning but i'm like when shit goes down y'all asses
00:25:24 --> 00:25:28 done left yeah you're on your own that's it they said we ain't got nothing to
00:25:28 --> 00:25:33 do with that yes they said they we ain't got nothing to do with that now getting
00:25:33 --> 00:25:37 back to podcasting what is something about podcasting you wish you would have
00:25:37 --> 00:25:38 known before you got started.
00:25:40 --> 00:25:48 One thing you can't bring everybody with you like everybody can hello like they can't unfortunately,
00:25:48 --> 00:25:54 you're going to find times where because it's your dream and it's your passion.
00:25:55 --> 00:25:57 Other people, they may want to jump on board.
00:25:58 --> 00:26:01 But if it's not their dream and their passion, they're not going to put forth
00:26:01 --> 00:26:02 the same amount of effort.
00:26:03 --> 00:26:11 So spare yourself the stress and the troubles and understand that these are
00:26:11 --> 00:26:17 some of the things that come along with podcasting that you have to identify at the very beginning.
00:26:18 --> 00:26:21 Like, just because of your friends don't mean that they need to do a podcast
00:26:21 --> 00:26:23 with you. And that's okay.
00:26:23 --> 00:26:27 They can still support you, but you don't have to do a show with them.
00:26:27 --> 00:26:33 Yes, that's so true because that's why I've been a one-man recruit for like the last five years.
00:26:34 --> 00:26:37 I mean, I still have my fellows who come in regularly, but I've been a one-man
00:26:37 --> 00:26:41 recruit because people who were friends, they've shown me that I can't count
00:26:41 --> 00:26:43 on them when it's time to do the podcast.
00:26:43 --> 00:26:48 Like, if I tell you this time and this day, they're nowhere to be found or they going ghost.
00:26:48 --> 00:26:52 I'm like, come on now. Or they got 50 million excuses in the book.
00:26:52 --> 00:26:55 I'm like and you know something when something's
00:26:55 --> 00:26:58 your vision your branch out you tend to be an asshole about
00:26:58 --> 00:27:01 it you know yeah like this is my
00:27:01 --> 00:27:04 baby be rightfully so though like this
00:27:04 --> 00:27:11 is literally your baby this is your your dream come true so you should take
00:27:11 --> 00:27:17 it like that for me I always have an issue when people don't take podcasting
00:27:17 --> 00:27:22 seriously they look at it like it's a hobby No, it's not a hobby.
00:27:23 --> 00:27:25 You put in the same amount of
00:27:25 --> 00:27:30 blood, sweat, and tears for yourself as you do when you go to your 9 to 5.
00:27:30 --> 00:27:32 So why should you shortchange yourself?
00:27:32 --> 00:27:36 Why should you not be consistent with your work schedule?
00:27:36 --> 00:27:41 When you're working for yourself, we tend to shortchange our own selves,
00:27:41 --> 00:27:46 but somebody else's dream, we're there 5, 10 minutes beforehand.
00:27:46 --> 00:27:49 Like it's it's unfortunate but
00:27:49 --> 00:27:52 when it comes to podcasting everybody doesn't treat
00:27:52 --> 00:27:55 it professionally you know you're right
00:27:55 --> 00:27:58 they don't and i have
00:27:58 --> 00:28:01 one i have one episode that i did and it
00:28:01 --> 00:28:04 was audio only at the time and i
00:28:04 --> 00:28:08 remember having a guest come on
00:28:08 --> 00:28:12 and he was intoxicated he was
00:28:12 --> 00:28:15 intoxicated to the point where you heard
00:28:15 --> 00:28:19 him burping and farting in the background and
00:28:19 --> 00:28:22 then it got to the
00:28:22 --> 00:28:25 point where he got up and brought
00:28:25 --> 00:28:27 his phone with him and went into the
00:28:27 --> 00:28:30 restroom to urinate while we're
00:28:30 --> 00:28:34 live this wasn't even pre-recorded I
00:28:34 --> 00:28:37 had to end that show and the bad thing about it was
00:28:37 --> 00:28:40 I had a dope artist who was
00:28:40 --> 00:28:44 also a guest on the show and we
00:28:44 --> 00:28:47 couldn't we couldn't keep that out there we had
00:28:47 --> 00:28:54 to take it down because we had to do the image control for his image so understanding
00:28:54 --> 00:28:59 with podcasting everybody isn't going to take your brand your craft seriously
00:28:59 --> 00:29:05 and that can be a problem so you have to protect it like it's your baby Thank you.
00:29:06 --> 00:29:11 Yes, yes, I feel you on that because I've had to delete episodes that didn't
00:29:11 --> 00:29:14 even see the light of daylight because sometimes,
00:29:14 --> 00:29:20 no, I've had people come on the platform and they're trying to take the conversation
00:29:20 --> 00:29:23 to places where I wasn't trying to take it to.
00:29:23 --> 00:29:27 And people had to tell this person, hey, sir, you need to calm down.
00:29:27 --> 00:29:31 And also bad enough that this gentleman was talking mad shit about somebody
00:29:31 --> 00:29:35 and the person wasn't even there. I'm like, how the fuck you sit here and talk
00:29:35 --> 00:29:38 about this person and the person can't even come on and defend themselves.
00:29:38 --> 00:29:40 And defend themselves, yeah.
00:29:40 --> 00:29:43 And it's like, that was a fucking headache on me because now I got to cancel
00:29:43 --> 00:29:48 this episode. And now I got to see, can I bring back everybody back home to see?
00:29:48 --> 00:29:50 And guess, of course, nobody showed up a second time.
00:29:51 --> 00:29:55 Yeah, because it's like they've already been traumatized.
00:29:56 --> 00:30:02 And see, that's the bad part because it affects your brand. It affects your
00:30:02 --> 00:30:07 image. It affects the relationship that you have with those other people who were guests up there.
00:30:08 --> 00:30:12 You know, now, you know, it's going to tarnish or it's going to make them think
00:30:12 --> 00:30:14 twice before they come back onto your platform.
00:30:14 --> 00:30:20 And you can have the best platform hands down. All it takes is one experience.
00:30:20 --> 00:30:22 That's it. Yeah, that's true.
00:30:23 --> 00:30:26 All it takes is that one experience. And it's like, luckily for those people,
00:30:27 --> 00:30:31 I'm still cool with them and we're good and all. But I know it takes one experience
00:30:31 --> 00:30:33 to be like, hey, I don't want to do this platform again.
00:30:33 --> 00:30:39 And also, from this perspective as well, like, I'll say I've had some of my own as guests I've had.
00:30:39 --> 00:30:42 I know you've done this as well. You probably had guests that you're like,
00:30:42 --> 00:30:46 in the back of your mind, you're like, okay, this is the last time I'm bringing them on.
00:30:47 --> 00:30:51 Yeah. Yep. Yep. Definitely have had that.
00:30:52 --> 00:30:57 And it is, you know, I call those free-for-alls. And the reason I call it free-for-alls
00:30:57 --> 00:31:00 is because at this point, I know you're never coming back on my platform.
00:31:01 --> 00:31:04 I'm about to let my co-host just go in on you.
00:31:04 --> 00:31:08 Like, whatever they want to say, free-for-all, because chances are,
00:31:08 --> 00:31:11 like you said, this episode will never see the day of light,
00:31:11 --> 00:31:13 ever, or the light of day.
00:31:14 --> 00:31:19 So yeah, we about to be real ratchet. And there's going to be a whole bunch
00:31:19 --> 00:31:21 of swearing and insults.
00:31:21 --> 00:31:27 Because I feel like for someone to come onto your platform and show their butt...
00:31:28 --> 00:31:33 That's disrespectful. You're disrespecting my platform. You're disrespecting
00:31:33 --> 00:31:36 me and my co-host. You're disrespecting my audience.
00:31:37 --> 00:31:40 So let's stoop down to your level and speak the language that you understand.
00:31:40 --> 00:31:46 And, you know, I think every podcaster, every host has that time where they're
00:31:46 --> 00:31:48 like, I just want to cuss her in my F out.
00:31:49 --> 00:31:51 I just want to cuss. It's just built up.
00:31:52 --> 00:31:55 So, do you have those moments? Yes, I do. We all do.
00:31:55 --> 00:31:58 We all do. And that's why a lot of people, that's why there'll be some people
00:31:58 --> 00:32:00 reaching out to me, hey, I want to come back home.
00:32:00 --> 00:32:03 I'm like, I'm making some bullshit and not even hurt their feelings.
00:32:03 --> 00:32:05 I'm like, hey, I'm already booked up.
00:32:06 --> 00:32:10 Booked up for the rest of the year. I'm already booked up, you know,
00:32:10 --> 00:32:13 because it's like you crossed the boundary. And you know what?
00:32:13 --> 00:32:15 And I was supposed to tap away.
00:32:15 --> 00:32:18 And I was like, you know, and I had to drop two episodes that we,
00:32:18 --> 00:32:22 because I didn't like that episode we did. So I had to drop two.
00:32:22 --> 00:32:25 I had to dump love on episodes because of your dumb ass.
00:32:25 --> 00:32:31 Right exactly so let me ask you this have you ever been a guest on somebody
00:32:31 --> 00:32:37 somebody's platform and you said to yourself what the hell was i thinking i
00:32:37 --> 00:32:39 will never come back to this,
00:32:40 --> 00:32:43 it was it was a few years ago i was on somebody's platform
00:32:43 --> 00:32:46 the person was organizing stuff but their
00:32:46 --> 00:32:50 technology kept breaking down it's like hey they hit
00:32:50 --> 00:32:53 me up the next day they were like the episode didn't record can you please come
00:32:53 --> 00:32:58 back on i'm like i ain't doing nothing i'll go ahead and do it and then they
00:32:58 --> 00:33:04 then need to say that episode never came out never came out but then i was gonna
00:33:04 --> 00:33:09 have that person on my podcast they're the show i don't hear from them so i'm like wow what.
00:33:11 --> 00:33:13 Yes people are interesting you
00:33:13 --> 00:33:16 know i'm i'm never surprised it's just like people are
00:33:16 --> 00:33:19 going to people at the end of the day people are going
00:33:19 --> 00:33:22 to talk a big game but then when it's time for them to show up
00:33:22 --> 00:33:25 they go ghost i'm like and i've had
00:33:25 --> 00:33:28 people i've networked with and in or within the city and
00:33:28 --> 00:33:30 i'm like they i've told them hey um i
00:33:30 --> 00:33:33 do a podcast they're like oh you need to have me on you need to have me on but
00:33:33 --> 00:33:39 time comes where you at or they got some kind of excuse of oh i'm tired man
00:33:39 --> 00:33:43 if you don't shut the fuck up and go get a damn damn red bull because i've had
00:33:43 --> 00:33:48 to do this podcast tired a number of times where i was tired from work i'm like
00:33:48 --> 00:33:51 how the hell am i gonna get this interview but i told myself shut up pulled
00:33:51 --> 00:33:53 over got me an energy drink and i was ready to go,
00:33:54 --> 00:33:58 make it happen that's it and that's what comes with podcasts and people people
00:33:58 --> 00:34:05 see they see the end result and because you've been doing it for so long and
00:34:05 --> 00:34:06 you've perfected the skill.
00:34:07 --> 00:34:10 They think oh well anybody can do that i can do i
00:34:10 --> 00:34:13 can do a podcast how many times have you had people who
00:34:13 --> 00:34:16 have seen your podcast and been then they're like i can
00:34:16 --> 00:34:19 do that you make it look so easy i can do that and you're like
00:34:19 --> 00:34:22 yeah okay yeah i've had that happen
00:34:22 --> 00:34:25 too i've known a number people that have been like hey i'm gonna
00:34:25 --> 00:34:28 start my podcast and then though it messes me like hey i'm waiting for you to
00:34:28 --> 00:34:34 help me i'm like this is your podcast what the hell you waiting on me for you're
00:34:34 --> 00:34:37 the one that said hey i want to start a podcast which it should have been like
00:34:37 --> 00:34:42 hey when are you available that's how you approach somebody not some oh i'm
00:34:42 --> 00:34:43 waiting on you to get started no.
00:34:44 --> 00:34:50 He's gonna be waiting for ever then shit listen because uh i ain't i ain't got the time for you,
00:34:52 --> 00:34:55 nope especially if you if you can just tell that it's not something that they
00:34:55 --> 00:35:00 really want to do they're just doing it because that's the thing that everybody's doing.
00:35:01 --> 00:35:05 Yeah, definitely. And it's crazy out here. But ladies and gentlemen,
00:35:05 --> 00:35:10 if you truly want to start a podcast and you want to start a work, put the damn work in.
00:35:10 --> 00:35:12 If you know you're going to put the work in, it ain't just getting on the mic.
00:35:12 --> 00:35:16 It's a whole bunch of things that I don't think people realize.
00:35:16 --> 00:35:20 It's a whole bunch of things that going to. It ain't just getting on the mic
00:35:20 --> 00:35:23 and talking your shit, but it's a whole lot more than that.
00:35:23 --> 00:35:26 Oh yeah it costs money too huh surprise
00:35:26 --> 00:35:29 just in case you didn't know you gonna put in
00:35:29 --> 00:35:32 some money for some equipment like if you not if
00:35:32 --> 00:35:35 you not serious about it the quality of the
00:35:35 --> 00:35:41 equipment then I mean you're gonna be putting out trash and I ain't gonna lie
00:35:41 --> 00:35:48 at the beginning I started podcasting on my cell phone and I quickly realized
00:35:48 --> 00:35:53 oh I need to invest in an actual like.
00:35:53 --> 00:35:56 Set up so that comes
00:35:56 --> 00:35:59 with research you can't just jump on and say i'm gonna
00:35:59 --> 00:36:02 be a podcast so you have to do the research too yes you
00:36:02 --> 00:36:05 definitely got to do the research because i remember there are
00:36:05 --> 00:36:08 a few episodes where i was doing literally doing it from
00:36:08 --> 00:36:11 a cell phone too so i was right there with you doing
00:36:11 --> 00:36:13 it from the cell phone but then i realized let me get a
00:36:13 --> 00:36:16 computer and let me get some equipment and stuff
00:36:16 --> 00:36:19 and then let me use these platforms that yeah we
00:36:19 --> 00:36:22 gotta pay money for it's it's it's gonna cost you
00:36:22 --> 00:36:25 but you know that well if it's
00:36:25 --> 00:36:28 worth it it's gonna come out in the end so that's why i'm like i'm
00:36:28 --> 00:36:31 putting in the work and not counting on this being a microwave generation unlike
00:36:31 --> 00:36:36 some people there we go there we go it ain't gonna happen overnight you gotta
00:36:36 --> 00:36:40 build that foundation yes you gotta build that foundation you gotta keep making
00:36:40 --> 00:36:46 connections and you also gotta be open to suggestions from people as well too
00:36:46 --> 00:36:49 because sometimes maybe people trying to help But a lot of times people are like,
00:36:50 --> 00:36:52 oh, I got this. I'm like, okay, you got it.
00:36:53 --> 00:36:58 Right. You got to let people fall sometimes. Like, that's why I say you can't
00:36:58 --> 00:37:00 take everybody with you.
00:37:00 --> 00:37:05 The amount of energy that you spend trying to save other people who don't want
00:37:05 --> 00:37:10 to be saved, you could be investing that into something that you love doing,
00:37:11 --> 00:37:15 whether it's podcasting, whether it's having your own TV show.
00:37:15 --> 00:37:18 Whether it's writing, art, whatever.
00:37:18 --> 00:37:21 You know you there's going to come a time where you're
00:37:21 --> 00:37:24 going to have to realize that some people have to
00:37:24 --> 00:37:27 learn how to swim on their own and that
00:37:27 --> 00:37:31 that's what thing is whether it's podcasting relationships because
00:37:31 --> 00:37:34 i see a lot of women and men trying to be
00:37:34 --> 00:37:37 with a bum like man sir ma'am
00:37:37 --> 00:37:40 sir you're with a bum why are you with this
00:37:40 --> 00:37:43 bum and what's bad is they will tolerate so much
00:37:43 --> 00:37:47 crap from the bum then they get somebody good and
00:37:47 --> 00:37:50 then they putting them through all the hell why you think
00:37:50 --> 00:37:53 people do this shit i think because
00:37:53 --> 00:37:59 it's a sense of codependency to know that this person is not capable of taking
00:37:59 --> 00:38:05 care of themselves so they need me they need to rely on me i think it's the
00:38:05 --> 00:38:13 ego stroke for said person whereas if you get with someone who is on your level or above you,
00:38:13 --> 00:38:17 they're going to have certain expectations of you as an individual.
00:38:17 --> 00:38:22 And you might not want to meet those expectations or meet those standards or
00:38:22 --> 00:38:29 put in the time and effort or do the work on yourself because you just,
00:38:29 --> 00:38:34 you rather just be the mama bear versus the student.
00:38:34 --> 00:38:39 I think that if I had to take a guess, I would think that's why like people are just lazy.
00:38:39 --> 00:38:44 They don't want to do the work. So it's easier to control someone than to actually
00:38:44 --> 00:38:47 sit there and learn and work on yourself.
00:38:48 --> 00:38:53 Yeah, it's like, and to those people, I have no sympathy for them because if
00:38:53 --> 00:38:56 you with a bum and this bum shows you who they really are,
00:38:56 --> 00:39:02 I'm like, you knew this kind of person is, you knew that this man or this woman
00:39:02 --> 00:39:06 didn't have, like, say this person, they might want to use your car to drive
00:39:06 --> 00:39:09 around while you at work and then you get mad with them because they're not
00:39:09 --> 00:39:11 on time to pick you up. I'm like, what were you expecting?
00:39:12 --> 00:39:14 Seriously, what were you really expecting? I was bumming.
00:39:15 --> 00:39:21 Right. It doesn't make sense. It's like I feel in those type of situations,
00:39:21 --> 00:39:29 the level of just being naive and in what's the word they call it? Denial.
00:39:30 --> 00:39:36 Being in denial, it makes you not have to confront or acknowledge what's really
00:39:36 --> 00:39:38 happening before your eyes.
00:39:38 --> 00:39:44 So you can play dumb and say, oh, I didn't know. Because if you knew better, you do better.
00:39:44 --> 00:39:48 Always. Yeah. Or also. I don't feel mercy.
00:39:48 --> 00:39:51 I don't feel mercy either because also people might use a cop out.
00:39:51 --> 00:39:53 Be like, oh, they'll use their strength.
00:39:53 --> 00:39:56 Like say this person is really good in bed. I'm like, I don't give a damn how
00:39:56 --> 00:39:57 good you are in a bedroom.
00:39:58 --> 00:40:01 I don't care if you a damn porn star in a bedroom. You're not about to be sitting
00:40:01 --> 00:40:06 here bumming around using me while I'm out here getting and I'm out here grinding.
00:40:07 --> 00:40:10 But people, they just, I don't know what people.
00:40:10 --> 00:40:15 I don't know what people either. It's weird. Weird times that we're in.
00:40:15 --> 00:40:23 I think it's more so whatever it takes to pacify their accountability and pacify
00:40:23 --> 00:40:26 whatever it is that they lack.
00:40:26 --> 00:40:31 Because when you think about it, right, if you get with someone who needs you,
00:40:32 --> 00:40:34 they're not going to have time to point out your flaws.
00:40:34 --> 00:40:39 They're not going to have time to set expectations for you because who are they?
00:40:40 --> 00:40:47 Like, you need me. I don't need you. So how can someone who needs you also have
00:40:47 --> 00:40:51 expectations of you as a person. It doesn't work that way.
00:40:52 --> 00:40:55 Yeah, it doesn't work that way. And to the people that would rather be with
00:40:55 --> 00:40:58 somebody that needs them, I'm like more power to you.
00:40:58 --> 00:41:00 Because I want somebody that's going to make me better.
00:41:00 --> 00:41:03 Like, make me better. Like, iron sharpens iron.
00:41:04 --> 00:41:07 Like, hold me accountable. Help me get back. Because if you're holding me accountable,
00:41:08 --> 00:41:10 that tells me you care about me. And you see something in me.
00:41:10 --> 00:41:11 And you see greatness in me.
00:41:12 --> 00:41:14 When you're not holding me accountable and you just let me do whatever,
00:41:14 --> 00:41:16 that tells me one or two things.
00:41:16 --> 00:41:20 You done checked out in a relationship or there's somebody else you're entertaining.
00:41:21 --> 00:41:26 Right. Or you're just here for materials or just to get whatever it is that
00:41:26 --> 00:41:30 you need so you can get yourself on your feet and then you're gone.
00:41:31 --> 00:41:34 Yes. And then once you go on your feet, you're gone.
00:41:34 --> 00:41:38 That's why people can't be out here, can't be kept in safe holes nowadays.
00:41:38 --> 00:41:42 You can't be out here saving people. You just you got to let people suffer.
00:41:43 --> 00:41:49 Right. Because at the end of the day, right, do they really need saving? What if they don't?
00:41:49 --> 00:41:53 Imagine how many, imagine we'll use a guy and a female.
00:41:53 --> 00:42:00 Imagine how many women this guy can be running this game on to make them think
00:42:00 --> 00:42:04 that he's incapable or he needs help and he needs a place to stay.
00:42:05 --> 00:42:11 That's like the people that you see panhandling at the end of the highway exits and stuff.
00:42:12 --> 00:42:17 You do that so much that you literally, that's a full-time job And you're really
00:42:17 --> 00:42:19 living better than people who are giving you money.
00:42:20 --> 00:42:23 Like, it's a hustle. It's a hustle.
00:42:24 --> 00:42:28 Yes, it's a hustle. But, you know, people will do that and they will still fall
00:42:28 --> 00:42:31 for that person. But then they won't play victim when it blows up in their face.
00:42:32 --> 00:42:36 I'm like, ma'am, sir, you knew this person was this when you got with them.
00:42:36 --> 00:42:40 You just don't want somebody better or you'll use the cop out as,
00:42:40 --> 00:42:43 oh, they're boring or they don't do this.
00:42:43 --> 00:42:46 I mean, give me the boring person. We'll have some fun together.
00:42:46 --> 00:42:48 You know, we don't need to be.
00:42:48 --> 00:42:51 Let's create some fun. we don't need
00:42:51 --> 00:42:53 to be doing toxic fun or running in front
00:42:53 --> 00:42:57 of popo kind of fun i don't know these people this generation
00:42:57 --> 00:43:00 that's a different type of fun yeah no the the
00:43:00 --> 00:43:06 morals have gone down the drain and i think at the end of the day what are people
00:43:06 --> 00:43:11 what people are looking at is the end result they want the end result right
00:43:11 --> 00:43:16 now back to the microwave era they want the end result right now because this
00:43:16 --> 00:43:20 is something that I can prove to everybody else.
00:43:20 --> 00:43:25 If I have a man, I don't care if he a bum, I got a man. So I'm not single.
00:43:25 --> 00:43:29 And if I'm not single, then that means that I'm not lonely. I'm not miserable. I'm lovable.
00:43:29 --> 00:43:34 It's a whole bunch of things that tie to the image of having someone,
00:43:34 --> 00:43:37 regardless of whether or not you're happy.
00:43:37 --> 00:43:40 Happiness doesn't matter at this point in the
00:43:40 --> 00:43:43 society that we live in that's the sad we're in
00:43:43 --> 00:43:46 a sad society and they wonder why people out
00:43:46 --> 00:43:49 here are taking their lives or they've just mentally checked
00:43:49 --> 00:43:55 out on life it's a sad reality we're living in just to say you you have somebody
00:43:55 --> 00:43:59 because people would rather have a piece of someone than to have someone for
00:43:59 --> 00:44:03 themselves and it's like and then that makes me wonder do you really love yourself
00:44:03 --> 00:44:08 do you love yourself in the mirror to be like because if you really love yourself.
00:44:08 --> 00:44:12 You're not selling to be or have a piece of somebody. You want the whole thing.
00:44:13 --> 00:44:16 Right, exactly. You should feel like you deserve the whole thing.
00:44:16 --> 00:44:21 And that's why you see a lot of people nowadays are single because they've done the work.
00:44:21 --> 00:44:29 And so because I've done the work, I'm not going to tolerate or stand for just a piece of man.
00:44:29 --> 00:44:33 I'm not going to stand for someone who doesn't or hasn't done the work.
00:44:34 --> 00:44:38 They don't deserve what I know I'm capable of delivering.
00:44:38 --> 00:44:41 And you know that's just
00:44:41 --> 00:44:44 that's the society that we're in right now so either
00:44:44 --> 00:44:47 you're single because you choose to be
00:44:47 --> 00:44:50 single or you're in a relationship because
00:44:50 --> 00:44:53 you choose that you don't want to come off looking
00:44:53 --> 00:44:57 lonely basically because that's what people for
00:44:57 --> 00:44:59 some reason correlate singleness and loneliness together like
00:44:59 --> 00:45:02 oh we're all just lonely and it's like no it's a
00:45:02 --> 00:45:05 party over here it is i mean don't get
00:45:05 --> 00:45:08 me wrong we do we have our weak moments yes but it
00:45:08 --> 00:45:11 you like you said it's a party over here shit it's like yeah
00:45:11 --> 00:45:14 i got freedom i got free reign i ain't got somebody blowing off
00:45:14 --> 00:45:17 home be like where you at or somebody no it's
00:45:17 --> 00:45:20 us i got time to do whatever i want to do
00:45:20 --> 00:45:23 it's like yeah it does get disappointing when the couple
00:45:23 --> 00:45:26 friends they be having their little events and stuff yeah
00:45:26 --> 00:45:28 it'd be nice but you know i'll still take but i know they
00:45:28 --> 00:45:32 go home to their issues as well there's issues that they're not even talking
00:45:32 --> 00:45:36 about so and tell you happy couples out there i hope y'all keep being happy
00:45:36 --> 00:45:41 and keep putting into work because it ain't really worth that out here i'm telling
00:45:41 --> 00:45:44 you the grass ain't greener on the other side so if you got somebody that's
00:45:44 --> 00:45:47 holding you down you need to hold that person down too.
00:45:48 --> 00:45:51 Yeah, yeah, yeah. And go all in.
00:45:51 --> 00:45:59 Don't be afraid to love that person wholeheartedly. And don't be afraid to be loved wholeheartedly.
00:46:00 --> 00:46:05 Just as is great on the single side, it's also great when you're in a relationship
00:46:05 --> 00:46:08 because you have someone that can hold you accountable.
00:46:08 --> 00:46:14 You have someone that wants you to grow. And they appreciate both you as a partner
00:46:14 --> 00:46:16 as well as you as an individual.
00:46:16 --> 00:46:19 So there's perks to everything there's
00:46:19 --> 00:46:22 perks to all situations you just have to
00:46:22 --> 00:46:24 identify with which one it is
00:46:24 --> 00:46:27 that you fall into place with and and just go
00:46:27 --> 00:46:30 from there and tune the world out please tune
00:46:30 --> 00:46:33 the world out yes please tune the world out
00:46:33 --> 00:46:36 because it's like you gotta know a lot we got
00:46:36 --> 00:46:39 a lot of followers in this generation we don't have enough
00:46:39 --> 00:46:42 leaders in this generation we need we gotta go
00:46:42 --> 00:46:45 by the beat of our own drum man i'm at a
00:46:45 --> 00:46:47 point where i'm just like man i don't care what nobody says i'm gonna
00:46:47 --> 00:46:50 i'm gonna do me and it's just it is what it is
00:46:50 --> 00:46:53 because society want to tell you this want to tell you that i'm
00:46:53 --> 00:46:56 just like man who are the
00:46:56 --> 00:47:00 people making the rules even happy i don't even know right probably
00:47:00 --> 00:47:03 not probably not they're just i think at this point they're just throwing spaghetti
00:47:03 --> 00:47:08 strands at the fridge to see what sticks like oh okay they're going with this
00:47:08 --> 00:47:12 one all right we're good meanwhile they're probably doing that because they
00:47:12 --> 00:47:17 have some kind of distraction or something else they got brewing to where it's
00:47:17 --> 00:47:19 going to really fuck some shit up.
00:47:20 --> 00:47:25 Right. Meanwhile, in a lab somewhere, they got your DNA and they're merging
00:47:25 --> 00:47:30 you together with a goat to see how does this come out. So, yeah, you know.
00:47:31 --> 00:47:34 Um just just focus just
00:47:34 --> 00:47:37 be focused that's what it's all about at the end of the day you gotta be focused
00:47:37 --> 00:47:40 yes it's definitely gotta be focused once again ladies
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00:47:52 --> 00:47:55 right talk to me about being vulnerable people and
00:47:55 --> 00:47:59 it's like people nowadays they're scared to be vulnerable because sometimes
00:47:59 --> 00:48:01 we've been getting burned by being vulnerable with the
00:48:01 --> 00:48:04 wrong people so how do you know if somebody's okay
00:48:04 --> 00:48:10 to be vulnerable with them i mean it just it's going to take time it's going
00:48:10 --> 00:48:15 to you have to look at their actions because just because someone verbally tells
00:48:15 --> 00:48:19 you or verbally expresses themselves yeah that's good and everything that's
00:48:19 --> 00:48:23 a start But it's the actions that show, you know.
00:48:23 --> 00:48:28 Are they having those deep felt conversations with you?
00:48:28 --> 00:48:33 Are they, you know, letting you into different spots in your life where,
00:48:34 --> 00:48:36 you know, it's not their typical?
00:48:36 --> 00:48:42 Are they bringing you around friends and family to show that they really do trust you?
00:48:42 --> 00:48:48 You know, so I think in order for you to know whether or not this person is
00:48:48 --> 00:48:52 worthy of you being vulnerable, you just have to pay attention to the signs
00:48:52 --> 00:48:56 and trust yourself, like really, really trust yourself. You have to know yourself.
00:48:57 --> 00:49:03 But once you are aware of who you are and what vulnerability looks like for
00:49:03 --> 00:49:08 you, then I think you'll be able to spot whether or not this person is,
00:49:08 --> 00:49:11 you know, someone that you can open up and let your guards down with.
00:49:12 --> 00:49:16 Yes, that's true. You definitely got to pay attention to a person's actions.
00:49:16 --> 00:49:20 And you don't have to sit in there and do these little tests on them and stuff
00:49:20 --> 00:49:26 with hypothetical scenarios or say something intentionally just to get a rise out of them.
00:49:26 --> 00:49:31 Life will tell you whether they're worthy of being vulnerable or not,
00:49:31 --> 00:49:34 you know, because, and also if you were vulnerable with the wrong people,
00:49:34 --> 00:49:37 get over it. You're still standing at you.
00:49:37 --> 00:49:41 Like, it didn't kill you, so it just made you stronger. so don't
00:49:41 --> 00:49:44 punish i think one thing you've got to do is quit punishing
00:49:44 --> 00:49:47 others for the past don't punish somebody new for
00:49:47 --> 00:49:50 what someone else did right yeah that's
00:49:50 --> 00:49:53 important because it shows growth right
00:49:53 --> 00:49:56 if you are sitting here and you're holding something from
00:49:56 --> 00:49:59 your past against me and i haven't done anything
00:49:59 --> 00:50:02 that shows me that you have
00:50:02 --> 00:50:05 not healed you have not done the self-work so you really
00:50:05 --> 00:50:08 shouldn't be dating so if anybody is mindful
00:50:08 --> 00:50:11 of that they should hey this is
00:50:11 --> 00:50:14 a i enjoy getting to know you
00:50:14 --> 00:50:18 i think you're a cool person and everything but i think that there's some unhealed
00:50:18 --> 00:50:23 trauma or just things that you've gone through that need to be resolved before
00:50:23 --> 00:50:29 i'm able to actually move forward and date you but i wish you the best and keep
00:50:29 --> 00:50:33 it moving yes you know if If I would have,
00:50:33 --> 00:50:36 and I'm beating myself up because I sometimes try not to beat myself up.
00:50:37 --> 00:50:40 But if I would have just said that to somebody last year, I wouldn't have gotten
00:50:40 --> 00:50:42 ghosted. But it is what it is, you know.
00:50:43 --> 00:50:49 Because you learn. You live, you learn. And you don't deal with somebody that's
00:50:49 --> 00:50:52 fresh off of getting out of a divorce who was married to a bum.
00:50:52 --> 00:50:56 And they spend the time telling me stories about how this person was bummed
00:50:56 --> 00:50:58 and how their dad didn't like this person.
00:50:59 --> 00:51:02 And it's like, I understand you're being vulnerable. You'd be honest,
00:51:02 --> 00:51:06 but you don't need to be telling certain. Some details need to stay to yourself.
00:51:07 --> 00:51:12 Yeah, because that's a lot to unload onto someone. And then you're unloading
00:51:12 --> 00:51:14 it with the intentions of what?
00:51:14 --> 00:51:19 Like, what are you expecting to get out of a conversation like that?
00:51:20 --> 00:51:25 Other than, I don't know if this person is really ready, you know,
00:51:25 --> 00:51:30 doubt, you know, you're going to get judgment, you're going to get a lot of different things.
00:51:30 --> 00:51:39 So I think dumping your past onto your present can really have a negative effect.
00:51:40 --> 00:51:46 And that person doesn't deserve it. Yes, nobody deserves to hear that.
00:51:46 --> 00:51:50 You know, that's why you need to get a therapist before you're getting into a relationship.
00:51:51 --> 00:51:54 But there's a lot of people that instead they're ready to just be vulnerable
00:51:54 --> 00:51:58 with new people instead of going to a therapist and going to talk to somebody.
00:51:58 --> 00:52:00 And, you know, because that's what they're there for, right?
00:52:01 --> 00:52:08 Yeah, they're licensed professionals. You know, I have a therapist and I absolutely
00:52:08 --> 00:52:09 my therapist is a black man.
00:52:10 --> 00:52:15 And I love being able to have conversations about whatever I might be thinking
00:52:15 --> 00:52:20 or feeling, because then I don't have to load that on to anybody else.
00:52:20 --> 00:52:24 You know, this is this is what he is hired for. So
00:52:24 --> 00:52:31 I think therapy definitely is a really strong resource that people can use in
00:52:31 --> 00:52:36 hopes of getting through whatever trauma they may have experienced or whatever
00:52:36 --> 00:52:37 heartbreak they may have experienced
00:52:37 --> 00:52:42 so that they can go into a new relationship with a fresh start.
00:52:42 --> 00:52:45 Yes you definitely need to because i get
00:52:45 --> 00:52:49 it's not easy to be vulnerable with people but you can't
00:52:49 --> 00:52:53 make people you can't punish people for your past
00:52:53 --> 00:52:55 transgressions because some people you might get those
00:52:55 --> 00:52:58 people like why didn't you spot them red flags like
00:52:58 --> 00:53:02 why why did it get to this point you know so it's
00:53:02 --> 00:53:05 crazy yeah it's a lot
00:53:05 --> 00:53:09 it's a lot like i said emotionally dumping onto someone
00:53:09 --> 00:53:12 whatever you've gone through it's that's
00:53:12 --> 00:53:15 not what they're there for they're not your punching bag they're
00:53:15 --> 00:53:20 not your release pawn that's part
00:53:20 --> 00:53:25 of the work that you should be doing before you move into dating that's that
00:53:25 --> 00:53:29 self-work that we were talking about earlier yes yes people y'all need to do
00:53:29 --> 00:53:35 the self-work and now last thing now why is it that some women get mad with
00:53:35 --> 00:53:38 men for Or establishing boundaries.
00:53:38 --> 00:53:40 They're like, oh, he's sassy. You just sassy.
00:53:40 --> 00:53:45 Any man that does this, man, what the fuck you want us to? You want a man who just walk all over?
00:53:45 --> 00:53:50 Because if you have a man that you can just walk all over, you're going to be like, oh, he's boring.
00:53:51 --> 00:53:52 And then you'll be cheating on
00:53:52 --> 00:53:56 him. And then you'll be back to square one when he kicks you to the curb.
00:53:57 --> 00:54:02 Mm-hmm. Why does a woman not like a man who sets boundaries?
00:54:03 --> 00:54:07 I think because it's abnormal in society.
00:54:08 --> 00:54:14 What we see is the man is supposed to protect and provide. It doesn't say anything
00:54:14 --> 00:54:19 about protect his own peace or provide for his own sanity.
00:54:19 --> 00:54:23 So for a man to say, no
00:54:23 --> 00:54:26 I don't like that and I won't go for that or
00:54:26 --> 00:54:29 to hold a woman accountable yeah you're
00:54:29 --> 00:54:34 probably going to get a negative reaction if she is not emotionally intelligent
00:54:34 --> 00:54:41 and she is incapable of understanding why he has set boundaries because you
00:54:41 --> 00:54:46 know I feel like if a man has boundaries then it's either something has happened
00:54:46 --> 00:54:48 or he's trying to prevent something from happening.
00:54:49 --> 00:54:55 So who am I to say you can't have boundaries or standards?
00:54:55 --> 00:54:58 You should have standards. Because if you're a free-for-all,
00:54:58 --> 00:55:01 then that's alarming. And I'm a little concerned about that.
00:55:02 --> 00:55:05 Yeah, I would definitely be concerned if you're a free-for-all,
00:55:05 --> 00:55:09 you're just down with whatever just because you want to have a woman around.
00:55:09 --> 00:55:12 No, because you are going to wake up, you're going to get tired,
00:55:12 --> 00:55:17 and that woman is going to walk all over you and use you and abuse you.
00:55:17 --> 00:55:21 It's just, and sometimes you get tired of seeing people with good hearts get
00:55:21 --> 00:55:23 taken advantage of or taken for granted.
00:55:23 --> 00:55:27 So I think men, women, men, everybody need to have standards,
00:55:27 --> 00:55:29 like, and it's not the end of the world.
00:55:29 --> 00:55:33 And if you're a woman getting mad or you don't want to step here and get mad
00:55:33 --> 00:55:36 when a man enforces his standards and his boundaries, then, ma'am,
00:55:36 --> 00:55:39 I'm going to suggest you take a hard look in the mirror of yourself because
00:55:39 --> 00:55:41 that says more about you than does that man.
00:55:42 --> 00:55:50 Yeah, I think with boundaries, it's very tricky because people set boundaries,
00:55:50 --> 00:55:54 but then they don't respect the boundaries themselves that they set for themselves.
00:55:55 --> 00:55:59 Like, for example, let's say a guy says he doesn't want to have sex on the first
00:55:59 --> 00:56:04 night and, you know, he wants to take his time and get to know the woman.
00:56:04 --> 00:56:08 But then when you get a little alcohol in your system, you're ready to take
00:56:08 --> 00:56:11 her then and there. You're not respecting your own boundaries.
00:56:12 --> 00:56:14 So now it makes someone question.
00:56:15 --> 00:56:19 Are you true to those boundaries? Is this something that you really mean or
00:56:19 --> 00:56:22 are you just saying it to see what kind of reaction you're going to get?
00:56:22 --> 00:56:28 So I feel like man, woman, whomever, if you set boundaries, you need to stick
00:56:28 --> 00:56:33 to those boundaries and make sure that you're holding true to them,
00:56:33 --> 00:56:35 despite whatever the situation is.
00:56:35 --> 00:56:41 One thing that I found myself having a conversation with this guy on TikTok
00:56:41 --> 00:56:46 one day, he was saying how women are gold diggers.
00:56:46 --> 00:56:49 They only want men for their money. They got to have six figures.
00:56:50 --> 00:56:56 You know, we all know that saying. And so in the same token, he was saying how,
00:56:57 --> 00:57:01 you know, if a woman is a stripper, he doesn't care, you know,
00:57:01 --> 00:57:06 what her job is, he would still be in a relationship with her.
00:57:07 --> 00:57:11 And so somehow in the conversation, I was asking him, you know,
00:57:11 --> 00:57:17 what is his idea of providing? And he was like, oh, I'd pay all the bills.
00:57:18 --> 00:57:22 And, you know, regardless of whatever her situation is, so if she don't have
00:57:22 --> 00:57:26 a job, I'm going to take care of her anyway. She doesn't need to have a job.
00:57:27 --> 00:57:31 And then he explained to me the type of women that he were going for was where
00:57:31 --> 00:57:33 he had to be super save-a-ho.
00:57:33 --> 00:57:41 So for me, I feel like you can't sit here and try to label women as gold diggers
00:57:41 --> 00:57:46 when you are willingly wanting to provide for them.
00:57:46 --> 00:57:51 Like, that doesn't make sense to me. Maybe you can shed light as a man,
00:57:51 --> 00:57:53 if that makes sense to you.
00:57:53 --> 00:57:59 But if a man is willing and wanting to provide, and the women that he is selecting
00:57:59 --> 00:58:04 are those who are showing they're incapable of taking care of themselves,
00:58:04 --> 00:58:08 how is it that women could be labeled a gold digger?
00:58:09 --> 00:58:13 You know, I feel like he just doesn't. I feel like this man,
00:58:13 --> 00:58:17 he is probably used to women using him and he's just embraced it.
00:58:17 --> 00:58:22 And it just really doesn't sound like he is just, it sounds like he doesn't
00:58:22 --> 00:58:26 really love himself and he doesn't really have standards or boundaries set for himself.
00:58:26 --> 00:58:31 And he's just okay with it because I guess maybe he's not looking for that woman
00:58:31 --> 00:58:35 to be his everything or to do things in return.
00:58:35 --> 00:58:40 So I can't really speak for that kind of man because it's like, no, no, sir.
00:58:40 --> 00:58:43 I was confused. that confused me too like sir and you
00:58:43 --> 00:58:46 sound like a hypocrite like how how on one hand you're saying
00:58:46 --> 00:58:49 women are gold diggers but yet you're the main one
00:58:49 --> 00:58:52 with your hand out here like hey come on ladies i've
00:58:52 --> 00:58:55 got you i'm captain seba i got it yeah that's
00:58:55 --> 00:58:59 that that never made sense to me and
00:58:59 --> 00:59:02 thankfully i just stopped trying to understand it
00:59:02 --> 00:59:07 because and and this is something that i will advice to those who are watching
00:59:07 --> 00:59:12 and listening and you find yourself in a conversation with someone who feels
00:59:12 --> 00:59:20 strongly about women being gold diggers or men being cheap and you don't want to provide,
00:59:20 --> 00:59:25 if you know that's not applicable to you, why would you say something?
00:59:26 --> 00:59:32 Hello. Why? Like, if I know I'm not a gold digger, why would I have to feel
00:59:32 --> 00:59:35 like I need to defend the gold diggers of the world?
00:59:36 --> 00:59:40 It has nothing to do with me. It doesn't because maybe because people want to
00:59:40 --> 00:59:43 want to just chime in with their two cents for no reason.
00:59:43 --> 00:59:47 Like, because I know deep down, if it's the right person, yeah,
00:59:47 --> 00:59:50 I'm going to step up and do for them because now that's how I said this person
00:59:50 --> 00:59:51 is looking out for me as well.
00:59:51 --> 00:59:56 So they look out for me. I look out for them. It's like and that's how I feel about it.
00:59:56 --> 01:00:00 But unfortunately, you got people out here who they just want to add their two cents.
01:00:00 --> 01:00:04 That's why some conversations when people talk about going on $200 dates and
01:00:04 --> 01:00:13 $300 dates, I just shut the fuck up because I don't do that shit unless it's
01:00:13 --> 01:00:14 an anniversary or something.
01:00:14 --> 01:00:18 And plus, have you seen the prices around here in this economy right now? No.
01:00:20 --> 01:00:24 And even if I could afford to do it, I'm still not going to do it because the
01:00:24 --> 01:00:28 roots people, the people with all the money, they're not out here flaunting their money.
01:00:28 --> 01:00:31 They're not out here just throwing it around like that
01:00:31 --> 01:00:34 they're out here investing it and making business moves
01:00:34 --> 01:00:37 for the next generation they're not out here going
01:00:37 --> 01:00:41 on two and three hundred dates so when those topics came up i was just like
01:00:41 --> 01:00:46 y'all gonna hate me because guess what we ain't going and i will respect the
01:00:46 --> 01:00:50 woman who'll tell me maybe no we don't need to go here except for the woman
01:00:50 --> 01:00:55 but compared to the women that were like hey let's go let's let's do it,
01:00:56 --> 01:01:03 no like i'm sorry stick a fork in me i'm done you're not about to take me out on those two,
01:01:04 --> 01:01:07 two hundred dollar dates and i
01:01:07 --> 01:01:10 don't even know if i'm gonna like you next week oh no
01:01:10 --> 01:01:13 that's money down the drain like no i'm all
01:01:13 --> 01:01:16 set i i honestly feel even when you're
01:01:16 --> 01:01:22 getting to know someone first date should not be out to eat you should not be
01:01:22 --> 01:01:26 spending money on the first state not when you're getting to know someone it
01:01:26 --> 01:01:31 should not cost for someone to sit down and have a conversation with you face
01:01:31 --> 01:01:36 to face that's ridiculous what are we doing here yes you ain't got no bills.
01:01:37 --> 01:01:42 Yes, that is. That is definitely ridiculous. But so tell me this.
01:01:42 --> 01:01:46 Why should people tap in and tune in to the Don't Judge Me But podcast?
01:01:47 --> 01:01:53 I feel you guys should tap in, tune in, check us out, the Don't Judge Me But podcast.
01:01:53 --> 01:01:59 If you are looking for some people to have fun with, we are a fun group of hosts.
01:01:59 --> 01:02:04 We tell it like it is. We have fun. And we, I said that already.
01:02:04 --> 01:02:06 That's how much fun we say we have.
01:02:06 --> 01:02:10 We really enjoy ourselves. And we say the things that you are thinking,
01:02:10 --> 01:02:14 the things that you want to say, but you're like, nah, because I don't want
01:02:14 --> 01:02:15 them to think that I'm judgmental.
01:02:15 --> 01:02:18 We say it and we say it with our chest out.
01:02:18 --> 01:02:21 So like, why not? You're going to come, you're going to learn.
01:02:21 --> 01:02:26 You're going to learn something, if not about yourself, or if not from us,
01:02:26 --> 01:02:29 you're going to learn from our audience because our audience is very interactive in the chat.
01:02:30 --> 01:02:32 You're going to come in, you're going to feel like family.
01:02:32 --> 01:02:35 They're going to greet you and you'll just you'll enjoy the
01:02:35 --> 01:02:38 vibes like our energy is on
01:02:38 --> 01:02:41 a hundred and it's something that
01:02:41 --> 01:02:44 you can easily get addicted to so let's just
01:02:44 --> 01:02:47 say just just come for one episode and if
01:02:47 --> 01:02:50 you don't like it it's not for you guess what then that's just it
01:02:50 --> 01:02:53 no hard feelings well said
01:02:53 --> 01:02:56 i think i think i feel that same way about liquor talk but
01:02:56 --> 01:02:59 hey you said it best brie i want to thank you for joining
01:02:59 --> 01:03:02 me on this episode of liquor talk whenever you want to have me
01:03:02 --> 01:03:05 on don't judge me but podcast just let me
01:03:05 --> 01:03:08 know i might be in florida but i'm a dm away and i
01:03:08 --> 01:03:11 will be in atlanta later this year like months
01:03:11 --> 01:03:14 from now so in the
01:03:14 --> 01:03:20 meantime if you need me just let me know yes i would love to invite you to next
01:03:20 --> 01:03:24 week's episode if you're available because we're actually talking about boundaries
01:03:24 --> 01:03:31 like no meaning no hey just just give me a time Send me a link and I'll be there. I got you.
01:03:32 --> 01:03:36 I got you. Yes, we're going to do it. Definitely. Thank you again for having me on, Vic.
01:03:36 --> 01:03:40 I appreciate it. I have fun. I love the conversations.
01:03:41 --> 01:03:46 And I absolutely, even without my liquor, I love the liquor talk with you. Yes.
01:03:46 --> 01:03:49 Thank you. Thank you, Brie, for joining me. Thank you out there,
01:03:49 --> 01:03:53 everybody that's listening and pouring up with us. Thank you for pouring up with us.
01:03:54 --> 01:03:58 Continue to pour up because we are taking over for the 25 and the 26.
01:03:58 --> 01:04:03 This has been the liquor talk podcast until the next episode keep pouring up
01:04:03 --> 01:04:06 and because remember everything in life is temporary so keep pouring up and
01:04:06 --> 01:04:09 keep pushing we all just thank y'all peace.