Everyone over 30 can relate to the struggle of finding someone to love after 30. Single people hang in there and continue to better yourself until someone comes into the picture. On the episode of Liquor Talk Vic welcomes Simone from the neighborhood sessions podcast for another grown folks conversation you will need some rum and coke to enjoy. Topics discussed on this episode are themes of healing, self-discovery, and the importance of mental health, while also discussing the impact of societal expectations on personal choices. The conversation highlights the significance of honesty in relationships and the need for individuals to understand their worth and intentions. In this engaging conversation, Victor Jones and The Neighborhood Homegirl explore various aspects of relationships, including the importance of breaking unhealthy patterns, the dynamics of age gaps, the quest for true companionship, and the significance of friendship in romantic relationships. They emphasize the necessity of self-love and personal growth as foundational elements for healthy relationships. Please follow and support both platforms.
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00:00:21 --> 00:00:25 Ladies and gentlemen, this is episode two of season eight of the Liquor Talk
00:00:25 --> 00:00:27 Podcast. I'm your man, Victor.
00:00:28 --> 00:00:32 And joining me today, podcasting out of Los Angeles, California,
00:00:32 --> 00:00:34 it is Simone, the neighborhood homegirl.
00:00:35 --> 00:00:37 Welcome to Liquor Talk. How are you doing tonight?
00:00:37 --> 00:00:41 Hey, Victor. I'm good. How are you doing? I'm wonderful.
00:00:42 --> 00:00:45 I'm back where I love to be, which is on the mic, you know, because,
00:00:45 --> 00:00:49 hey, it's the one thing. It brings stress and relieves stress just to get on the mic.
00:00:49 --> 00:00:53 Thank you for blessing the Liquor Talk with your presence. We got a long-distance
00:00:53 --> 00:00:57 episode, y'all, because I'm in Florida, she in California.
00:00:57 --> 00:01:01 To all my content creators out there, I'll give y'all this quick note.
00:01:02 --> 00:01:05 If you want to find quality people that will show up for you,
00:01:05 --> 00:01:06 get people not in your hometown.
00:01:07 --> 00:01:11 I'm just being real. To all those people out there, hey, I'll give y'all grace,
00:01:11 --> 00:01:13 but hey, take it for what it is.
00:01:13 --> 00:01:16 But hey, nevertheless, Simone, why don't you tell us about your platform,
00:01:16 --> 00:01:18 The Neighborhood Homegirl? Mm-hmm.
00:01:19 --> 00:01:22 Well, I'll give you like a little quick backstory like about me.
00:01:23 --> 00:01:30 So... In college, I majored in English and then I, for my graduate's degree,
00:01:30 --> 00:01:31 I have a graduate's degree in creative writing.
00:01:32 --> 00:01:35 I was, my first goal, my first dream for myself, I should say,
00:01:35 --> 00:01:36 was to be like a filmmaker.
00:01:36 --> 00:01:42 So I had like my own production company and I would like, you know, produce, write, cast.
00:01:42 --> 00:01:49 I would do like everything. I was wearing so many hats, my own like short films and like web series.
00:01:49 --> 00:01:52 And I had like one little music video or whatever that was basically like paying
00:01:52 --> 00:01:54 homage to The Fresh Prince.
00:01:55 --> 00:01:59 So I knew that in order to be like, to like.
00:02:00 --> 00:02:04 Basically navigate into like an industry that's very competitive,
00:02:04 --> 00:02:08 which is like the film industry, one of the many industries in the entertainment
00:02:08 --> 00:02:10 industry that's very competitive.
00:02:10 --> 00:02:14 I was like, in order to get in those doors, I would have to be doing something different.
00:02:15 --> 00:02:19 And I was like, I was already a writer. So I was like, hmm, maybe I should start,
00:02:19 --> 00:02:21 you know, considering journalism.
00:02:21 --> 00:02:27 So I reached out to an individual and I started, he owned a magazine company.
00:02:27 --> 00:02:33 So I kind of helped him like, I guess you can say, how do I say it nicely?
00:02:33 --> 00:02:39 I kind of helped him, I guess, be a little bit more like professional.
00:02:39 --> 00:02:42 I don't want to say that, but yeah, I mean, to be honest, he was just all over the place.
00:02:43 --> 00:02:47 So I kind of helped him like, you know, conduct business differently.
00:02:47 --> 00:02:49 So I went from like writing and
00:02:49 --> 00:02:53 for him to like editing, like content management. I was doing like a lot.
00:02:54 --> 00:02:58 So I would say that that's where I started, you know, really falling in love
00:02:58 --> 00:03:00 with journalism. I love telling people stories.
00:03:00 --> 00:03:03 So I've been I've been a journalist for a little over 10 years now.
00:03:04 --> 00:03:06 And I've written for like numerous like publications or whatnot.
00:03:07 --> 00:03:11 But then I was like, I want to start telling my own stories and like stories
00:03:11 --> 00:03:15 that were like close to home to me and that resonated with me or whatnot.
00:03:16 --> 00:03:18 So I started The Neighborhood Homegirl.
00:03:19 --> 00:03:22 And I wanted it to be specifically for like black culture black
00:03:22 --> 00:03:25 lifestyle you know I'm rooting for every everybody black
00:03:25 --> 00:03:29 type of thing right in my Easter egg list so I
00:03:29 --> 00:03:34 created like a website but I did it on my own it's not perfect but like these
00:03:34 --> 00:03:38 like people that do the websites like I know we paying for your time but those
00:03:38 --> 00:03:41 things are pricey so I was like let me just do it for myself just something
00:03:41 --> 00:03:47 to get started so I created a TikTok for that and I would just post like my articles and stuff.
00:03:47 --> 00:03:50 But my friend was like, maybe you should start doing videos talking about it.
00:03:50 --> 00:03:51 And I was like, I don't really like talking.
00:03:51 --> 00:03:55 Like I'm more so like a, like a selfie type of person, like a duck lips and
00:03:55 --> 00:03:58 a little kissy face peace sign. That's it for me.
00:03:58 --> 00:04:02 But I started getting more comfortable, like in front of the camera.
00:04:02 --> 00:04:04 And then I'm like, okay, this would be a way for people to like,
00:04:04 --> 00:04:07 you know, come to, you know, visit my website.
00:04:08 --> 00:04:12 So I started doing that. And then I just had the idea to start the neighborhood
00:04:12 --> 00:04:14 sessions, which is my podcast.
00:04:15 --> 00:04:18 And I wanted it to be like real conversations with like, you know,
00:04:19 --> 00:04:22 old friends, new friends. I like to call them my homegirls or my homeboys.
00:04:23 --> 00:04:27 And so, yeah, that's just a little bit about that. And I'm currently going to
00:04:27 --> 00:04:29 upload a second episode. I already have one on YouTube.
00:04:30 --> 00:04:33 And yeah, so that's a little summary about me.
00:04:34 --> 00:04:36 That's what's up um that one you did it did
00:04:36 --> 00:04:40 sound like you're a real natural at it so and following
00:04:40 --> 00:04:43 up from that episode now why
00:04:43 --> 00:04:46 do you feel like people will get into a
00:04:46 --> 00:04:50 relationship knowing they're not healed but then when they become healed it's
00:04:50 --> 00:04:53 like now they don't want the person this is something i've never understood
00:04:53 --> 00:04:59 because sometimes i admit i've done it way in the past but it's like why settle
00:04:59 --> 00:05:04 for somebody that you wouldn't deal with when you're healed self wouldn't deal with?
00:05:05 --> 00:05:09 It's crazy because I had an ex and I told them that exact thing. Maybe it was me.
00:05:10 --> 00:05:15 This person was really a narcissist. I don't like to diagnose people with stuff,
00:05:15 --> 00:05:17 but he had every train of a narcissist.
00:05:17 --> 00:05:22 I would tell him, you're talking to all these people, but would the healed version of you talk to them?
00:05:22 --> 00:05:29 To answer your question, why do we get into relationships with people when we're not healed.
00:05:31 --> 00:05:36 I mean, I would say some people are afraid to be, it can be for numerous reasons.
00:05:36 --> 00:05:38 Some people are afraid to be alone.
00:05:39 --> 00:05:47 Some people, like I said, they battle with narcissistic tendencies or disorder or whatever,
00:05:47 --> 00:05:50 and they just feed off of people's like
00:05:50 --> 00:05:55 energy whether it being positive or negative some
00:05:55 --> 00:05:57 people yeah like some people just I don't know like I just feel like some people
00:05:57 --> 00:06:01 just want like companionship they just want to have just someone
00:06:01 --> 00:06:04 in their their corner corner I have
00:06:04 --> 00:06:07 friends who like they deal with people like guys
00:06:07 --> 00:06:10 that they you know they're not really interested in because
00:06:10 --> 00:06:13 they just don't want to be like alone so I'm
00:06:13 --> 00:06:16 like I'm telling them like well how can you
00:06:16 --> 00:06:19 just you know lay up with a person and
00:06:19 --> 00:06:22 you don't even you're not even interested in that person you know like it's just
00:06:22 --> 00:06:27 someone to like pass time but then it's just like you know let's say i invite
00:06:27 --> 00:06:32 you out somewhere and you're laid up with your homeboy or homegirl and your
00:06:32 --> 00:06:35 king or your queen could be at the place i'm trying to invite you at and you're
00:06:35 --> 00:06:41 at home you know like yeah it's it's i don't know people have their own like traumas and stuff but.
00:06:42 --> 00:06:46 Yeah it is i
00:06:46 --> 00:06:49 feel like people it's like you said nobody don't want to be alone
00:06:49 --> 00:06:52 and also maybe they just maybe they
00:06:52 --> 00:06:55 just feel like they just better under somebody than to
00:06:55 --> 00:06:58 sit down and just address the issues like yeah
00:06:58 --> 00:07:01 for all that matter i'd rather you just go see a therapist
00:07:01 --> 00:07:04 than to be laid up and booed up with somebody you know you're
00:07:04 --> 00:07:07 not going to be dealing with long term or you know that
00:07:07 --> 00:07:10 if you're in your right mind then you're not going to be dealing
00:07:10 --> 00:07:13 with them but sometimes we'd be hypnotized by whether it's
00:07:13 --> 00:07:15 in the bedroom or this person buy me things or this
00:07:15 --> 00:07:19 person is actually making time for me it's like a person
00:07:19 --> 00:07:22 could be making all the effort in the world be it you don't want them so this
00:07:22 --> 00:07:26 is why i kind of respect the people that will just say hey i'm not interested
00:07:26 --> 00:07:30 compared to the ones that will pretend they're interested just to get the benefits
00:07:30 --> 00:07:34 because they don't want to be alone and because they don't want to address the
00:07:34 --> 00:07:36 issues that I am with themselves.
00:07:37 --> 00:07:42 Right. And I think the best, like me, it took me a while to learn to like be
00:07:42 --> 00:07:45 alone and love my alone time. Now I love being alone.
00:07:45 --> 00:07:47 Like I find peace, like being by myself.
00:07:48 --> 00:07:52 I feel like that's a really great way to like heal from, you know,
00:07:52 --> 00:07:55 past relationships because jumping from one relationship to another,
00:07:55 --> 00:08:00 it's like, you don't have that time to like mourn or like grieve that relationship, you know?
00:08:00 --> 00:08:06 And also it gives you a space to where it's like, you know, You spend so much
00:08:06 --> 00:08:09 time alone, you can discover new things about yourself or whatnot.
00:08:09 --> 00:08:12 And then so it's like, if you do get in a relationship, and that relationship
00:08:12 --> 00:08:14 doesn't work out, you'll be like, you know what, I'm good.
00:08:14 --> 00:08:19 I'm gonna be good by myself, because I know that I've spent time alone by myself.
00:08:19 --> 00:08:21 And I know that I'm going to be okay. Like.
00:08:22 --> 00:08:26 If this relationship was to kind of like drown. So, yeah. Exactly.
00:08:26 --> 00:08:30 And another thing about being alone from relationship and not hopping from relationship
00:08:30 --> 00:08:34 to relationship is you take time to better yourself, to take time to figure
00:08:34 --> 00:08:37 out where did I go wrong and hold yourself accountable.
00:08:37 --> 00:08:40 Now, I'm not saying don't beat the shit out yourself. You know what I'm saying?
00:08:40 --> 00:08:42 Don't beat yourself up having a pity party.
00:08:42 --> 00:08:47 Don't give yourself some grace, but also hold yourself accountable at the same time.
00:08:48 --> 00:08:51 So I feel like a lot of people, they don't do that when they just be jumping
00:08:51 --> 00:08:53 from relationship to relationship.
00:08:53 --> 00:08:57 Because after a while, people are going to realize the common denominator is you.
00:08:57 --> 00:09:02 You're the one with the problem. You're the one that's always hopping from relationship to relationship.
00:09:02 --> 00:09:08 Yeah, yeah, I agree. And then it's like, it's also kind of like you're doing
00:09:08 --> 00:09:11 a disservice to yourself, but also that other person, especially if they were
00:09:11 --> 00:09:13 looking for something serious.
00:09:13 --> 00:09:17 Because I've been on the other end of the table where it's like that person
00:09:17 --> 00:09:21 had broken up with somebody and didn't take time to heal. before getting with me.
00:09:21 --> 00:09:26 And then when they were with me, they realized that they wanted to explore other
00:09:26 --> 00:09:29 options. And I'm like, you could have done that before you got with me,
00:09:29 --> 00:09:30 had you spent that time alone.
00:09:31 --> 00:09:35 So yeah. Yeah. And that definitely happened to me too.
00:09:35 --> 00:09:37 It's like, I was definitely on the other end of that as well.
00:09:37 --> 00:09:41 And I'm like, this person is getting out of a whole marriage and now you want
00:09:41 --> 00:09:43 to talk to me. I'm like, you know what?
00:09:43 --> 00:09:46 You keep comparing me to that ex-husband a little
00:09:46 --> 00:09:49 too much it's like i know i got my flaws but
00:09:49 --> 00:09:52 my flaws ain't his flaws and it really feels like you're
00:09:52 --> 00:09:56 not giving me that grace so and honestly looking back at that situation i probably
00:09:56 --> 00:10:01 should have cut off myself but olivia did they end the relationship with you
00:10:01 --> 00:10:07 or was it like a mutual thing what's bad about this situation is they just flat
00:10:07 --> 00:10:10 out ghost me they ain't tell me what not they need space they just they just
00:10:10 --> 00:10:12 want ghost and i'm like you know,
00:10:13 --> 00:10:17 we were talking for like a good six months and they just they just went ghost
00:10:17 --> 00:10:20 and out of nowhere and i'm like right when i'm about to get shit together in
00:10:20 --> 00:10:24 my own life i'm about to things about to fall into place but you know what i
00:10:24 --> 00:10:30 look at as addition by subtraction so yeah just take a look you learn something
00:10:30 --> 00:10:32 from that i feel like in any relationship friendship whatever it is,
00:10:33 --> 00:10:37 work or whatever it is you always learn something from that you know like oh
00:10:37 --> 00:10:43 yeah next time i'm gonna move a little differently yes always all of wherever
00:10:43 --> 00:10:47 forever learning so now i know you only dropped one episode but i'll ask you
00:10:47 --> 00:10:52 this anyway what's something about podcasting you wish you have known before you got started oh.
00:10:53 --> 00:10:59 I say this a lot, but it's like people really like, people could be very disappointing.
00:10:59 --> 00:11:02 It's so hard getting guests.
00:11:03 --> 00:11:08 It's like people that even it's like, for instance, like with my experience
00:11:08 --> 00:11:11 in journalism, I've encountered people that I've interviewed,
00:11:11 --> 00:11:12 might've interviewed them in the past.
00:11:12 --> 00:11:14 And I reached out to them and I tell them like, you know, like,
00:11:15 --> 00:11:20 hey, I'm, you know, I'm creating this platform for myself. I would love to have you.
00:11:20 --> 00:11:23 Like I try to build a working relationship, you know?
00:11:23 --> 00:11:28 And then they either like ghost me or they say they're going to do it.
00:11:28 --> 00:11:31 And then, you know, they don't end up doing it or they get too busy.
00:11:31 --> 00:11:33 It's just a lot of the runaround.
00:11:33 --> 00:11:35 So I would say definitely just getting those people.
00:11:35 --> 00:11:38 And a lot of times I would utilize like my friends and stuff.
00:11:38 --> 00:11:42 But even then, some of them just don't have their own things going on or some
00:11:42 --> 00:11:43 of them are camera shy or,
00:11:43 --> 00:11:46 you know, and it's like when you're doing this, you want it,
00:11:46 --> 00:11:49 you want, especially if you're spending like money and stuff,
00:11:49 --> 00:11:51 like you want it to be done a certain way.
00:11:51 --> 00:11:54 So yeah at least I got no of me like
00:11:54 --> 00:11:57 me renting out that studio and stuff like I could not afford to
00:11:57 --> 00:12:01 have like one of like my friends come because I didn't have anyone and
00:12:01 --> 00:12:03 I invite them to come and then they're they're shy in front of the camera they
00:12:03 --> 00:12:06 they keep messing up and they want to like you know
00:12:06 --> 00:12:10 because once that button is record like people could be really talking to him
00:12:10 --> 00:12:13 over the phone or on FaceTime but once you're like in a setting like that like
00:12:13 --> 00:12:19 this or in a studio like it's it's a whole different ball game so yeah yes you
00:12:19 --> 00:12:22 hit the nail on the head with that You definitely hit a home run right there
00:12:22 --> 00:12:25 because that's something a lot of us deal with.
00:12:25 --> 00:12:29 Because I even had friends that started off at hay but realized that I can't
00:12:29 --> 00:12:31 count on them to show up. You know?
00:12:31 --> 00:12:34 And I've had people ask me about the podcast.
00:12:34 --> 00:12:37 But then when I give them an opportunity, they're nowhere to be found.
00:12:37 --> 00:12:39 I'm like, make it make sense.
00:12:39 --> 00:12:42 But, you know, one thing, you just got to keep going, you know?
00:12:43 --> 00:12:45 That's the one thing I tell everybody. Of course.
00:12:46 --> 00:12:49 And just try to, you know, like you said, like...
00:12:49 --> 00:12:53 Even, like, reaching out to people, like, on social media that you don't know.
00:12:53 --> 00:12:57 Yeah. I've had a lot of people, like, a lot of, like, supporters and stuff is
00:12:57 --> 00:13:00 the people, are the people that I don't necessarily know, like,
00:13:00 --> 00:13:04 on TikTok or whatever it is. So, yeah. Shout out to them.
00:13:05 --> 00:13:08 Yes. Shout out to the strangers we don't know.
00:13:08 --> 00:13:11 Ladies and gentlemen, this is Look A Talk. The more you drink,
00:13:11 --> 00:13:14 the better we sound. Now, tell me, what is your favorite kind of liquor you
00:13:14 --> 00:13:16 like to drink or do you even drink?
00:13:16 --> 00:13:19 Yes, I do. what's funny enough is that
00:13:19 --> 00:13:23 i did not start drinking until like i was like like really
00:13:23 --> 00:13:26 drinking until i was like 30 i'm 35 so
00:13:26 --> 00:13:28 i'm gonna be 36 in may but my favorite drink of
00:13:28 --> 00:13:31 choice would have to be tequila even though it
00:13:31 --> 00:13:35 don't do me right the next day sometime but i would say tequila i'm
00:13:35 --> 00:13:38 not like a henny girl a douce girl or i i can't
00:13:38 --> 00:13:41 it's what about yeah i i've
00:13:41 --> 00:13:44 definitely feel you i'm versatile i can do both but if
00:13:44 --> 00:13:47 it's a white it's definitely it's definitely tequila
00:13:47 --> 00:13:50 like because i can't eat i did vodka so much
00:13:50 --> 00:13:53 in college to where my body's like nigga please what what
00:13:53 --> 00:13:56 is you tripping so it's like i can't
00:13:56 --> 00:13:59 really do vodka like that because i was in
00:13:59 --> 00:14:02 that era of hey partying hard on some rock and
00:14:02 --> 00:14:05 stuff and and it's like but then after a
00:14:05 --> 00:14:08 while you drink a lot you drink something a lot then your body's
00:14:08 --> 00:14:13 just like nigga please yeah no i did
00:14:13 --> 00:14:16 enjoy like cut waters when they first came out it's like
00:14:16 --> 00:14:19 it was lime margaritas it was delicious I feel
00:14:19 --> 00:14:22 like the taste over time has changed but that was
00:14:22 --> 00:14:26 my that was one of my go-tos for sure for sure
00:14:26 --> 00:14:31 yeah yeah I know a lot of things change huh yeah what are you sipping on now
00:14:31 --> 00:14:36 I'm sipping on a little rum and juice um I I didn't have time to really get
00:14:36 --> 00:14:40 fancy with it now see if I was at a studio I would definitely try to get fancy
00:14:40 --> 00:14:45 with it um which reminds me I will be bringing drink recipes later this year.
00:14:46 --> 00:14:49 Okay and side note and i'm like i can't believe you're older than me i'm like
00:14:49 --> 00:14:55 god damn how old are you if you don't mind me asking 34 i'll be 35 in december
00:14:55 --> 00:14:59 listen shout out to all the people in their 30s who don't look like they're
00:14:59 --> 00:15:01 in their 30s who look like they're literally.
00:15:02 --> 00:15:08 Like college years yes yes shout out everybody in their college years and also
00:15:08 --> 00:15:12 shout out to everybody uh that's all the aries out there because um because
00:15:12 --> 00:15:17 we just hit aries season and And to the women that did me wrong who are Aries, I forgive you.
00:15:17 --> 00:15:20 And also, ladies and gentlemen, I will say this. It is 2025.
00:15:21 --> 00:15:25 People need to stop using their horoscope to justify their bad behavior.
00:15:25 --> 00:15:30 Don't be like, it's the Virgo, it's the Sagittarius, it's the Cancer Me.
00:15:30 --> 00:15:35 I don't want to hear that shit because I know somebody that same sign and they're an amazing person.
00:15:36 --> 00:15:37 I don't know what's up with your bad behavior.
00:15:38 --> 00:15:41 I think it's just like yes like I think like
00:15:41 --> 00:15:44 certain zodiacs have certain like
00:15:44 --> 00:15:47 characteristics or traits but I do also think it's the
00:15:47 --> 00:15:50 person too how they were raised their experiences
00:15:50 --> 00:15:53 like how they view the world whether that
00:15:53 --> 00:15:56 being like relationships or whatever it
00:15:56 --> 00:16:00 is like it's definitely not just the zodiac you
00:16:00 --> 00:16:02 know there are certain zodiacs that do have certain traits I
00:16:02 --> 00:16:05 would say but yeah it's also just a
00:16:05 --> 00:16:08 person uh yes it's the person yeah i
00:16:08 --> 00:16:11 would definitely i definitely feel like it is the person but i
00:16:11 --> 00:16:15 do agree with you certain zodiacs do have certain traits but i i've reached
00:16:15 --> 00:16:19 a point where i'm like it's just a person because now you can't be telling me
00:16:19 --> 00:16:24 all these certain zodiacs are all the same person question is there a certain
00:16:24 --> 00:16:29 zodiac that you you know dealt with romantically that you're like about like
00:16:29 --> 00:16:31 i would never talk to them again.
00:16:31 --> 00:16:34 You know i in my younger years i
00:16:34 --> 00:16:37 would have said i would easily said aries is tied
00:16:37 --> 00:16:40 between aries and cancers but now that i'm older i'm
00:16:40 --> 00:16:43 like you know what i'm flexible i'm like i really don't
00:16:43 --> 00:16:46 care what your sign is it's just like can you be consistent and
00:16:46 --> 00:16:49 can you can you communicate and can you make some shit
00:16:49 --> 00:16:52 happen you know because because i can't i
00:16:52 --> 00:16:54 can't hold on to the zodiac signs can't punish the one
00:16:54 --> 00:16:57 zodiac because i ran into a stupid idiot because
00:16:57 --> 00:17:00 i'm giving this stupid idiot a place in my head rent
00:17:00 --> 00:17:03 free so that's how i look at it what you think
00:17:03 --> 00:17:10 i agree like zodiac that i wouldn't talk to yeah i mean i can't say i would
00:17:10 --> 00:17:14 say the same as you but i did have some really bad experiences with cancers
00:17:14 --> 00:17:22 but that doesn't mean that all cancers are you know bad because i've met some good ones but yeah,
00:17:23 --> 00:17:27 I would probably say like cancers, but that was just like two experiences.
00:17:27 --> 00:17:31 And then one of a friend, one friend, I was like, but then I have another friend
00:17:31 --> 00:17:32 who's a cancer and she's not like that.
00:17:32 --> 00:17:35 So I don't, so I'm like, I think it was just those people.
00:17:36 --> 00:17:40 Yeah. I think those, those people as well, because I got a best friend from high school.
00:17:41 --> 00:17:44 Like he's been my best friend since like years. Me and him been knowing each
00:17:44 --> 00:17:47 other for almost 15 years and he's a cancer.
00:17:47 --> 00:17:51 And, you know, and the women I've dealt with that were cancers.
00:17:51 --> 00:17:55 I'm like, they were just the idiots, you know? So that's how I know for a fact
00:17:55 --> 00:17:58 they ain't all of them. It's not all of them, no.
00:17:59 --> 00:18:00 Like I said, it's just the person.
00:18:01 --> 00:18:06 It's just, like I said, how they're raised, how they view the world.
00:18:06 --> 00:18:11 That kind of determines how they'll be in a relationship or how they'll be in
00:18:11 --> 00:18:15 a friendship or how they'll be as, like, someone you work with.
00:18:17 --> 00:18:21 Yeah, so I definitely feel you there. But once again, shout out to all my Aries.
00:18:21 --> 00:18:24 Um i know y'all go ahead turn
00:18:24 --> 00:18:27 up because i know y'all season just started and also shout
00:18:27 --> 00:18:31 out to the pisces i hope y'all enjoyed our time as well so but
00:18:31 --> 00:18:33 nevertheless speaking of since we're both
00:18:33 --> 00:18:37 over 30 quick question i do not
00:18:37 --> 00:18:41 if you count like dogs i have three um i
00:18:41 --> 00:18:44 don't i ain't got no kids either i just got like
00:18:44 --> 00:18:47 two little cats that run around you know so and we
00:18:47 --> 00:18:51 which is why i asked this question why
00:18:51 --> 00:18:54 do people feel like it's a red flag that somebody is
00:18:54 --> 00:18:57 in well in their 30s and don't have no kids and then
00:18:57 --> 00:19:00 I also see that somebody also felt that's a red flag and it's also
00:19:00 --> 00:19:04 another red flag if you've over 30 ain't never been married like why are they
00:19:04 --> 00:19:10 making this a red flag I honestly I don't know I don't think it's a red flag
00:19:10 --> 00:19:15 there's a lot of I feel like the idea of like the nuclear family which is like
00:19:15 --> 00:19:19 you know the husband the wife the two kids the,
00:19:20 --> 00:19:25 dog and whatever it is like I feel like that's kind of like progressed I should
00:19:25 --> 00:19:31 say over time like you know now it's like you know you might have like a one a mom who you know.
00:19:33 --> 00:19:36 Or a woman, like, let's say, like, for me, like, if I don't,
00:19:36 --> 00:19:38 you know, find love, that's not going to stop me from having kids.
00:19:38 --> 00:19:40 Like, you know, science is real.
00:19:41 --> 00:19:46 Science has progressed over time. So there's always an option of that.
00:19:46 --> 00:19:49 Even there's some people who they can't have kids.
00:19:49 --> 00:19:54 They might be infertile and they might not be able to have kids or if that might
00:19:54 --> 00:19:57 not be in their journey, like they might not want to have kids.
00:19:57 --> 00:20:03 So I think, you know, it is kind of insensitive to say that someone's a red
00:20:03 --> 00:20:07 flag if they don't have kids or if they're, you know, they're not married,
00:20:07 --> 00:20:09 they might have traumas they're dealing with.
00:20:09 --> 00:20:15 So, yeah, I mean, I would say like growing up, I would say like by this age,
00:20:15 --> 00:20:20 I'm going to have these many kids, like by 25. I'm 35 and I should have like,
00:20:20 --> 00:20:24 I should be married already with like four kids and I'm not.
00:20:24 --> 00:20:28 So yeah, I guess it's just like, it's subjective.
00:20:28 --> 00:20:32 It's, it's, it really like depends on the person and how they choose to like
00:20:32 --> 00:20:38 live their lives. Because, I mean, ultimately it's like, you're calling me a
00:20:38 --> 00:20:40 red flag for not having kids and a husband.
00:20:40 --> 00:20:43 But then, you know, what if like you get, you have kids and you,
00:20:44 --> 00:20:48 sometimes motherhood is not for certain people. Maybe being a wife. Hello.
00:20:49 --> 00:20:52 And isn't for certain people. So it's like, you can't really say that because
00:20:52 --> 00:20:53 you don't know the person.
00:20:53 --> 00:20:57 Just because that's the route that you chose to take, it's not for everybody.
00:20:57 --> 00:21:02 Some people just want to pour everything they have into like their business
00:21:02 --> 00:21:06 or, you know, their family that they have already or their friends or,
00:21:07 --> 00:21:09 you know, maybe their pets. I don't know.
00:21:09 --> 00:21:13 Yeah that sucks yeah it sucks it
00:21:13 --> 00:21:16 does suck and it sucks for people in this generation that really
00:21:16 --> 00:21:19 believe that i'm like because and also what's
00:21:19 --> 00:21:22 bad is our older generation they look down
00:21:22 --> 00:21:25 on you as well and because i remember one time i met
00:21:25 --> 00:21:29 with somebody he said an older man he said well when i was your age i was on
00:21:29 --> 00:21:33 my third child i was in my i was married i had my child i'm like sir back when
00:21:33 --> 00:21:39 you were my age shit was not so goddamn expensive you know sir f do you not
00:21:39 --> 00:21:43 know the The price of eggs is that goddamn $6 or $7 right now, sir.
00:21:43 --> 00:21:46 Back in your time, back when you were making them damn kids,
00:21:46 --> 00:21:49 it was more affordable to raise the family.
00:21:49 --> 00:21:55 Now it's like, oh, hell no. It's like you got to rob everybody just to pay about two or three people.
00:21:56 --> 00:21:57 It's not stable.
00:21:58 --> 00:22:02 And plus, people need to realize that their journey is not someone else's journey.
00:22:02 --> 00:22:05 You can't project your mistakes and your journey onto someone else.
00:22:05 --> 00:22:08 And it's like that's why I'm blessed that that my family
00:22:08 --> 00:22:11 they haven't been pressing me for kids I'm I'm I'm really
00:22:11 --> 00:22:14 I'm blessed with that you know because some families they'll be like oh
00:22:14 --> 00:22:17 when you gonna have a grandkid or when am I gonna have a
00:22:17 --> 00:22:20 great niece or great nephew or when we're gonna have some cousins
00:22:20 --> 00:22:23 I'm like no but I thank god my family like
00:22:23 --> 00:22:26 that I know I know yeah it's
00:22:26 --> 00:22:29 definitely it's it does it does suck hearing
00:22:29 --> 00:22:32 like your family say that but then it's like also dating was
00:22:32 --> 00:22:35 different back then like they didn't have social media they didn't have instagram they
00:22:35 --> 00:22:38 didn't have like tiktok and a comment section
00:22:38 --> 00:22:42 and like like all this stuff kind of like plays into
00:22:42 --> 00:22:47 like some people not wanting to be in a relationship or have kids like you know
00:22:47 --> 00:22:53 like dating is different now like is it different for you or is it just me because
00:22:53 --> 00:22:58 i feel like the dating pool is like a little it's it's a little it's a little
00:22:58 --> 00:23:00 tainted like it got some stuff in it.
00:23:01 --> 00:23:06 So yeah that's why it can be kind of hard to find like a good partner sometimes so,
00:23:07 --> 00:23:10 yeah yes you know you're not lying the
00:23:10 --> 00:23:13 dating pool got everything but in it and it's like
00:23:13 --> 00:23:17 and it's kind of hard to find gems in the dating pool because you think you
00:23:17 --> 00:23:22 found something and then the next thing you know this person goes ghost or they
00:23:22 --> 00:23:26 just stop communicating or they'll just tell you oh you're only good enough
00:23:26 --> 00:23:30 to be a friend or they'll make up some damn excuses so So it's like,
00:23:30 --> 00:23:33 I don't know what's up with this dating pool.
00:23:33 --> 00:23:39 And also, another thing I have seen is women complaining that men don't show up to single events.
00:23:39 --> 00:23:44 Now, I'm like, for years, a lot of women have told men that they're not good enough and stuff.
00:23:44 --> 00:23:50 But I'm like, so what did y'all expect when now I'm seeing TikToks and Instagrams
00:23:50 --> 00:23:53 of women being at dating events and there are no men there?
00:23:53 --> 00:23:58 I'm like, well, what'd you expect? and plus the man that you would probably
00:23:58 --> 00:24:00 give the time of day to he ain't there.
00:24:01 --> 00:24:05 I mean, dating events as far as like speed dating and stuff like that.
00:24:05 --> 00:24:09 Yeah, like speed dating or networking events or dating game events.
00:24:10 --> 00:24:14 You know what's crazy is that I had a conversation with somebody about that.
00:24:14 --> 00:24:18 A lot of people, I think like if they go to like these events like speed dating
00:24:18 --> 00:24:21 or whatever, I feel like they think that they look thirsty.
00:24:21 --> 00:24:24 I think it's all about people's like image and how they perceive,
00:24:24 --> 00:24:26 like they want to be perceived to the world.
00:24:26 --> 00:24:29 Like I feel like they think like if I do show up to like a speed date,
00:24:29 --> 00:24:32 I'm gonna look thirsty. I'm gonna look like I don't get girls or I don't get guys.
00:24:32 --> 00:24:35 And it's just like, no, like these are all, this is what you've been waiting for.
00:24:36 --> 00:24:40 Like you want to be in a room with single men and women or whatever it is.
00:24:40 --> 00:24:43 You want to be in these spaces to meet somebody.
00:24:43 --> 00:24:46 I don't think it's thirsty because I think it's like kind of the same as like
00:24:46 --> 00:24:51 if you are on a dating app, you know, or if you're like on Instagram, it's the same thing.
00:24:52 --> 00:24:56 Like, I don't, I don't know. I guess people's perception of being thirsty is
00:24:56 --> 00:24:58 different from mine, but yeah.
00:24:59 --> 00:25:04 I don't feel like he's being thirsty either. I really feel like it's bad marketing, number one.
00:25:04 --> 00:25:08 I feel like y'all not really out here doing the marketing job.
00:25:08 --> 00:25:12 Y'all not really out here pressing the guys to come to events.
00:25:12 --> 00:25:15 Y'all not really showing guys love and telling them, hey, show up to these events
00:25:15 --> 00:25:17 and stuff. Y'all not really out here marketing.
00:25:18 --> 00:25:21 Y'all out here marketing, gearing it towards the ladies when y'all need to be
00:25:21 --> 00:25:23 gearing it towards both parties.
00:25:23 --> 00:25:27 And it's not a bad thing if you find your day of love and life on a date nap.
00:25:27 --> 00:25:30 I mean, who gives a fuck at the end of the day? You found somebody, right?
00:25:31 --> 00:25:34 I know a lot of people who found their loves on their love on dating apps.
00:25:34 --> 00:25:39 But I will say this is that I feel like the dating apps like I feel like back
00:25:39 --> 00:25:42 like years ago, it's it was kind of it was different.
00:25:43 --> 00:25:47 I don't know compared to it is compared to now because people could get on a dating app.
00:25:47 --> 00:25:51 And then say like, oh, you know, I'm looking for a relationship,
00:25:51 --> 00:25:52 something long term or whatever.
00:25:53 --> 00:25:56 And they say that because they want to meet people. And then they end up,
00:25:56 --> 00:25:57 you end up hanging out with them, meeting them.
00:25:57 --> 00:26:00 And all they want to do is just, you know, like mess around.
00:26:00 --> 00:26:02 They don't want anything serious.
00:26:02 --> 00:26:06 And dating apps also give you like too many, too many options.
00:26:06 --> 00:26:09 So it's like now you're like, who do I talk to today?
00:26:10 --> 00:26:15 Do I message her back or him back? Like, yeah, it could be a little, little overwhelming.
00:26:15 --> 00:26:18 Yeah i mean it's a it's a
00:26:18 --> 00:26:20 little easier for y'all because y'all get all the matches but meanwhile it's
00:26:20 --> 00:26:24 just at this point it's just i look at whoever replies back
00:26:24 --> 00:26:27 or just replies consistently then then we
00:26:27 --> 00:26:29 move forward but sometimes it's like people will
00:26:29 --> 00:26:32 reply to you one day the next day it's i don't
00:26:32 --> 00:26:35 even know where you're at or they might reply to you and
00:26:35 --> 00:26:38 then three hours later you already deleted i'm like what the
00:26:38 --> 00:26:41 hell did i even say like y'all you
00:26:41 --> 00:26:44 that damn cucko you got that damn mean that's just that i
00:26:44 --> 00:26:47 can even say i just said hello to you it's already
00:26:47 --> 00:26:51 deleted i'm like what the hell did i even say yeah that's
00:26:51 --> 00:26:54 why i said it's definitely i don't know it's definitely changed
00:26:54 --> 00:27:02 over time yeah it's definitely changed over time and also another thing i will
00:27:02 --> 00:27:06 say is to all the people hating on podcasts out there that talk about this stuff
00:27:06 --> 00:27:10 you don't have to listen hey you know we still gonna be out here talking about
00:27:10 --> 00:27:12 this stuff because it's relevant,
00:27:12 --> 00:27:16 So quit hating on it because I saw the clip of a past of being like,
00:27:16 --> 00:27:19 oh, there's too many podcasts out here with single people talking about dating.
00:27:20 --> 00:27:23 Well, guess what? We've been through some things and we're telling our stories
00:27:23 --> 00:27:27 so someone else that's listening won't have to go through the same shit we experienced.
00:27:27 --> 00:27:32 Right. Yeah. I feel like sometimes people need this type of stuff.
00:27:32 --> 00:27:37 Honestly, I remember I was in a really dark space in my life and I was going
00:27:37 --> 00:27:42 through a breakup and stuff. and I found this vlogger on YouTube.
00:27:43 --> 00:27:47 And her videos really helped me. I felt like she was talking to me.
00:27:47 --> 00:27:51 Her videos really helped me get through that breakup.
00:27:51 --> 00:27:56 So I would say, yeah, podcasts are definitely needed.
00:27:56 --> 00:28:00 Yes, we definitely need it because it's helped me get through some dark phases
00:28:00 --> 00:28:05 when I was in relationships because it's like, hey, I got to a point where I
00:28:05 --> 00:28:08 could just laugh at my pain now. I don't even take it seriously.
00:28:09 --> 00:28:12 I've gone from being sound and depressed on the podcast to now I could just
00:28:12 --> 00:28:16 laugh at my pain because, I know that there are other people out there that relate to it, you know?
00:28:17 --> 00:28:21 Yeah, of course. It's always going to be somebody to relate to your story.
00:28:21 --> 00:28:26 I feel like we all go through similar experiences, just probably different times
00:28:26 --> 00:28:30 of our lives with different people, but we can all resonate with one another.
00:28:31 --> 00:28:35 And I think, you know, we should all like, you know, show each other some grace.
00:28:35 --> 00:28:38 Like if someone wants to get on here and even if they want to just sit and rant
00:28:38 --> 00:28:41 about their exes or about a horrible date they had,
00:28:41 --> 00:28:44 let them do that because there's somebody out there that you
00:28:44 --> 00:28:47 might be in you know california and
00:28:47 --> 00:28:50 there's somebody on the other side of the world who probably went through
00:28:50 --> 00:28:53 the same thing you did the same day so somebody's listening
00:28:53 --> 00:28:56 yes yeah definitely somebody's listening i and
00:28:56 --> 00:29:00 also i would rather you rant about it or get on the mic and talk about it then
00:29:00 --> 00:29:05 for you to be out here either you take your own life or you take that person's
00:29:05 --> 00:29:09 life because i've seen too many stories where a woman or a man done killed somebody
00:29:09 --> 00:29:14 because they'd have been rejected or they'd have been dead wrong and we don't need nobody.
00:29:14 --> 00:29:17 We don't need no more dead bodies out here. We need to be living and living
00:29:17 --> 00:29:21 for the fullest because if you kill yourself and you kill the other person,
00:29:21 --> 00:29:21 that's not helping nothing.
00:29:22 --> 00:29:28 No. Yeah, mental health is definitely real and it should definitely be taken seriously for sure.
00:29:28 --> 00:29:32 So if you're out there and you're like going through whatever it is,
00:29:33 --> 00:29:34 please go talk to somebody.
00:29:35 --> 00:29:39 Get the help you need for sure. Please do. Please go talk to somebody.
00:29:39 --> 00:29:44 Please go confide in somebody because we need you here. We don't need you six feet under.
00:29:45 --> 00:29:48 Ladies and gentlemen, once again, this is Liquor Talk. If you haven't done so
00:29:48 --> 00:29:50 already, go ahead and take a shot for your boy. Go ahead and pour it because
00:29:50 --> 00:29:52 the more you drink, the better I sound.
00:29:52 --> 00:29:56 Now, tell me this, Simone. What do you think has to happen for the dating scene
00:29:56 --> 00:29:58 to improve? What do you think has to happen?
00:29:59 --> 00:30:03 I think one thing is that people need to be honest about their intentions and
00:30:03 --> 00:30:05 what they want in the beginning.
00:30:06 --> 00:30:09 Number one, because I feel like a lot of people are afraid that if they're honest
00:30:09 --> 00:30:13 about what they want, that that person is not going to talk to them anymore.
00:30:14 --> 00:30:17 But then it's like in the same breath, I feel like, you know,
00:30:18 --> 00:30:21 let that person decide whether or not they want to talk to you.
00:30:21 --> 00:30:26 Like, let's say if you meet somebody and they're into like polygamy or something, right?
00:30:26 --> 00:30:29 Or the person is a polygamous or whatever, and you, they don't,
00:30:29 --> 00:30:33 but on their dating profile, you know, say, you know, I'm monogamy,
00:30:33 --> 00:30:35 you know, practice monogamy or whatever it is.
00:30:35 --> 00:30:40 Like, but then as time progresses, that person, you know, is hiding that they're,
00:30:40 --> 00:30:41 you know, into polygamy or whatever.
00:30:42 --> 00:30:45 And then they, all of a sudden they just, you're sitting down on the couch one
00:30:45 --> 00:30:47 day watching TV and they're like, you know, like,
00:30:48 --> 00:30:53 What if you want to like, would you want to add someone to our situation?
00:30:53 --> 00:30:58 You know, so it's definitely about being honest up front and letting the other
00:30:58 --> 00:31:00 person decide whether or not they want to talk to you or not.
00:31:00 --> 00:31:02 Hello. No surprises, please.
00:31:03 --> 00:31:08 Yes, no surprises. And another thing I will say is people need to quit waiting
00:31:08 --> 00:31:10 around for somebody to make them their number one.
00:31:10 --> 00:31:13 If you are waiting if you are the side person
00:31:13 --> 00:31:16 stop waiting around for that person to make you the main
00:31:16 --> 00:31:19 person because you're always going to be that side that side
00:31:19 --> 00:31:21 person to them and then what if you become that main
00:31:21 --> 00:31:25 person you're going to be looking over your shoulder because you can't trust
00:31:25 --> 00:31:29 this person because you know they say you get them you lose them the same way
00:31:29 --> 00:31:32 you get them so you can't trust that main person you can't trust that person
00:31:32 --> 00:31:36 because how how do you expect this person to be loyal to you when they were
00:31:36 --> 00:31:39 cheating with you like what logic is that,
00:31:40 --> 00:31:44 Yeah, no, I've I have friends that, yeah.
00:31:45 --> 00:31:51 Men, male friends that definitely have those situations going on. So, yes, for sure.
00:31:51 --> 00:31:56 Yeah. I'm like, if I'm the side person, I'm just going to know my role and shut up.
00:31:56 --> 00:31:59 But but better believe once I find me somebody, you can drop.
00:31:59 --> 00:32:03 I'm not about to sit here and be your side person forever, because I know there
00:32:03 --> 00:32:07 are some people that they will be the side person for 10, 15, 20 years.
00:32:07 --> 00:32:10 Then you look up they about your grandparents age like oh
00:32:10 --> 00:32:12 i want a man i'm ready for men you don't waste your
00:32:12 --> 00:32:15 best years being a side person to somebody make it
00:32:15 --> 00:32:22 make sense right no i feel you yeah you definitely don't want to be a side that's
00:32:22 --> 00:32:26 not something you should strive for you're worth way more than that so please
00:32:26 --> 00:32:32 there's your person is out there don't try to you know wait on someone else's
00:32:32 --> 00:32:35 because that's not your person yeah and like you said like,
00:32:35 --> 00:32:38 you get them, you lose them how you get them or whatnot.
00:32:38 --> 00:32:41 So you don't want that to happen to you.
00:32:41 --> 00:32:46 You definitely don't want that to happen to you. And also you got to know that
00:32:46 --> 00:32:51 you got to know from conversation if a person is capable of giving you what you may need in a man,
00:32:51 --> 00:32:57 in a woman or a man, because sometimes we may be looking for this certain type of person,
00:32:58 --> 00:33:01 in a totally different figure, meaning you might want in this man,
00:33:01 --> 00:33:04 but you're looking at the man is you know damn well I
00:33:04 --> 00:33:07 ain't capable of doing those things you know to
00:33:07 --> 00:33:10 do those things or this kind of woman to do
00:33:10 --> 00:33:13 those things so you gotta go by and also you
00:33:13 --> 00:33:16 gotta go by a person's efforts too because you might be looking for maximum effort
00:33:16 --> 00:33:19 out of the person you want but the person you need you're
00:33:19 --> 00:33:22 ignoring it makes sense so quit ignoring
00:33:22 --> 00:33:25 people who are showing you that they're capable of
00:33:25 --> 00:33:32 giving you maximum effort I know yeah no it's the effort is definitely it's
00:33:32 --> 00:33:35 definitely something that is you should definitely take in consideration because
00:33:35 --> 00:33:39 while that person might not you know quote-unquote be like your type or whatever
00:33:39 --> 00:33:42 it is sometimes you have to switch up your type you know to find happiness.
00:33:43 --> 00:33:47 Yeah, you definitely, definitely. I've got to the point where I'm like Ray Schremer.
00:33:48 --> 00:33:51 I ain't got no type, you know, as personally, as long as somebody that's black
00:33:51 --> 00:33:56 and that got the same skin tone as me, that same, use the same comb as me and
00:33:56 --> 00:33:59 stuff that I can look and I can be okay with bringing around a family, you know?
00:33:59 --> 00:34:04 So, but, and it's like, because it's like, because you say you have a certain
00:34:04 --> 00:34:07 type, but that certain type might be doing you wrong every time.
00:34:07 --> 00:34:09 So it's like, what's the point in having that type?
00:34:10 --> 00:34:14 It's like insanity to me. It's like, you're doing, you're doing the same thing,
00:34:14 --> 00:34:15 expecting a different result.
00:34:16 --> 00:34:21 Results. Yep. Mm-hmm. Exactly. No, I agree. A hundred percent.
00:34:23 --> 00:34:28 I'm glad you do, because I'm glad you can see that because some of your counterparts,
00:34:28 --> 00:34:31 they just can't see that. And they'll be like, oh, why am I single?
00:34:31 --> 00:34:35 Ma'am, sir, ma'am, you're going for the same person over and over again.
00:34:35 --> 00:34:36 Like, what do you expect?
00:34:37 --> 00:34:40 Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Yeah, and I think that's just something that they just have
00:34:40 --> 00:34:43 to, you know, figure out and navigate on their own.
00:34:44 --> 00:34:48 One day, I'm pretty sure that they'll, you know, they'll wake up and be like, you know what?
00:34:49 --> 00:34:56 It's not working out for me. Let me, you know, try something different. So, yeah. Yes, yes.
00:34:57 --> 00:35:02 I hope that one day ain't the time where nobody's really checking for you because
00:35:02 --> 00:35:05 you're going to be, like, 50, 60 years old.
00:35:05 --> 00:35:09 I hope you don't. Now, I know black don't crack, but come on now.
00:35:09 --> 00:35:12 We'll really check for somebody in their 50s and 60s.
00:35:13 --> 00:35:18 Hey, there's people out there. They have, like, these bars for the older crowd or whatever.
00:35:18 --> 00:35:22 I feel like, you know, some people do get married in their 50s or 60s.
00:35:22 --> 00:35:25 Some people like literally like there's people like
00:35:25 --> 00:35:28 in our age like in our 30s and they don't want
00:35:28 --> 00:35:32 to settle down right now they want to wait till their 40s and 50s i
00:35:32 --> 00:35:35 feel like that is a lot of people a lot of people
00:35:35 --> 00:35:37 that that is true but they may not
00:35:37 --> 00:35:40 settle down with somebody their own age they might get somebody 20 years
00:35:40 --> 00:35:43 younger i'm like and that's why i'm like
00:35:43 --> 00:35:52 what what do y'all really talk about but yeah yeah but but i just i can't see
00:35:52 --> 00:35:56 myself settling down with somebody that's like 20 years younger than me i'm
00:35:56 --> 00:36:01 like what are we really gonna talk about no we live different.
00:36:02 --> 00:36:05 Time it's just it would just be too difficult it would be too difficult
00:36:05 --> 00:36:08 for me it would be way too difficult for me
00:36:08 --> 00:36:10 I couldn't do it no yeah I know
00:36:10 --> 00:36:13 like a lot of like back in the days or whatnot they
00:36:13 --> 00:36:16 would do that like you know like even like
00:36:16 --> 00:36:19 with our parents like like our dad might
00:36:19 --> 00:36:22 be 10 15 years older than our moms you
00:36:22 --> 00:36:25 know so but yeah yeah like
00:36:25 --> 00:36:28 and because I know my dad was like 32 too
00:36:28 --> 00:36:32 when he met my mama my mother was just like a teenager
00:36:32 --> 00:36:35 when we met i'm like what the hell were you
00:36:35 --> 00:36:37 thinking and it's less because i have
00:36:37 --> 00:36:40 i'm at my dad's age now i'm like sir what the hell
00:36:40 --> 00:36:43 you think because i'm at this age now i'm not checking for nobody in day
00:36:43 --> 00:36:45 18 or 19 i'm like i want to
00:36:45 --> 00:36:48 encourage them to go to college or do whatever to
00:36:48 --> 00:36:51 live their best life or you know i want to empower them
00:36:51 --> 00:36:54 and enlighten them and motivate them i'm not trying to settle down
00:36:54 --> 00:36:59 with somebody that young no so
00:36:59 --> 00:37:02 what's the youngest person like the age like what's
00:37:02 --> 00:37:06 your age range like the youngest and the oldest person that you would talk to
00:37:06 --> 00:37:10 i would say the youngest would i would have to say you need to be old enough
00:37:10 --> 00:37:14 to run a car and not get which would be 25 because you know if you're under
00:37:14 --> 00:37:19 25 they hit you with that fee so i would say run to do what with a car?
00:37:20 --> 00:37:21 Rent a car. You know them car running places?
00:37:22 --> 00:37:26 Oh, rent a car. Yeah. Yeah, you know the rent a car, they'll hit you with them fee if you're under 25.
00:37:27 --> 00:37:32 Yeah. Yeah. So I would say I would say 25 and up, you know.
00:37:33 --> 00:37:39 And the oldest? Oldest, I would say somewhere in their 40s. No older than my mother.
00:37:40 --> 00:37:42 My mother's in her 50s. So, I mean.
00:37:42 --> 00:37:45 So that's a pretty narrow age range. What about you?
00:37:46 --> 00:37:49 Hmm. I would definitely say maybe like,
00:37:49 --> 00:37:52 29 would probably be the youngest but you
00:37:52 --> 00:37:55 would have to be turning 30 this year and that
00:37:55 --> 00:37:58 makes sense the oldest will probably be like
00:37:58 --> 00:38:07 440 yeah see we make sense because i'm not gonna i saw the tiktok of the lady
00:38:07 --> 00:38:12 that was 27 years old that was married to a 51 year old man and she was posting
00:38:12 --> 00:38:16 about it i'm like ma'am what the hell were you expecting like she,
00:38:17 --> 00:38:22 posting like bad things or like she i guess she posted the days of her life
00:38:22 --> 00:38:26 and i guess and i guess people talked about it i'm like well what the hell were
00:38:26 --> 00:38:28 you expecting i'm seeing those yeah,
00:38:28 --> 00:38:34 yeah well you know love is love you can't help who you love i i guess you you
00:38:34 --> 00:38:38 can't help who you love but at the same time i'm like well what the hell y'all
00:38:38 --> 00:38:42 really doing together you know besides fooling around like what are y'all doing
00:38:42 --> 00:38:47 you know are y'all starting a business together or what are we really doing here?
00:38:48 --> 00:38:51 Because, hey, and also you need somebody with that same mindset that,
00:38:51 --> 00:38:54 you know, that's why I would look for somebody definitely older,
00:38:54 --> 00:38:57 you know, not somebody just going to college.
00:38:58 --> 00:39:02 Oh, absolutely not. Absolutely not. No, no.
00:39:02 --> 00:39:08 Yeah. And also, I'm not trying to be looked upon, which is why I can respect
00:39:08 --> 00:39:14 what you said about date, your age race, because I know a lot of women who are 38, 39,
00:39:14 --> 00:39:19 looking at young boys in the NBA, like 22, 23. I'm like, ma'am.
00:39:19 --> 00:39:23 But y'all know, society knows if it was the other way around,
00:39:24 --> 00:39:25 everybody would be raising hell.
00:39:27 --> 00:39:37 Yeah. If it was an older guy with a young 23-year-old, I bet who's in the spotlight,
00:39:38 --> 00:39:39 everybody be raising hell about it.
00:39:39 --> 00:39:44 But nobody's saying anything about these 39, 40-year-old women who get knocked
00:39:44 --> 00:39:47 up by these 20-year-old men who are NBA players and stuff.
00:39:50 --> 00:39:56 But it's crazy. People do talk, though. i mean from like me seeing like on social
00:39:56 --> 00:39:59 media people do have you know certain things to say but i mean they don't care
00:39:59 --> 00:40:02 they're living their life and they're happy so they're probably like uh.
00:40:02 --> 00:40:05 I don't care yeah i know everybody said
00:40:05 --> 00:40:08 i don't care either but i'll still be like you know what what
00:40:08 --> 00:40:11 are y'all really thinking i couldn't talk to
00:40:11 --> 00:40:14 somebody younger than 25 it would just be
00:40:14 --> 00:40:17 just they haven't experienced life yet like
00:40:17 --> 00:40:20 they haven't they barely just
00:40:20 --> 00:40:23 came the league became the legal age to
00:40:23 --> 00:40:26 like drink and go to clubs and like you know i
00:40:26 --> 00:40:29 mean i feel like the our 20s is
00:40:29 --> 00:40:32 for a time of us like really like having fun and you
00:40:32 --> 00:40:35 know and i feel like 30s we're still having fun but
00:40:35 --> 00:40:38 we're also like settling down and stuff some people settled down in
00:40:38 --> 00:40:41 their 20s but i don't know yeah it would have to be i just
00:40:41 --> 00:40:44 couldn't i couldn't do it it's not for me yeah clearly it's
00:40:44 --> 00:40:47 not for me either and it's like because they say
00:40:47 --> 00:40:50 a 20s is supposed to be your selfish time you know it's time
00:40:50 --> 00:40:53 to find yourself time to explore the world go turn up
00:40:53 --> 00:40:55 you know and then worry about that when you're in your
00:40:55 --> 00:41:00 30s and stuff because you're 20s you have all the energy in the world and stuff
00:41:00 --> 00:41:05 you ain't ain't nobody part you know yeah because me personally i would think
00:41:05 --> 00:41:10 like okay yes but then it's like when i when they're in their 30s i will be
00:41:10 --> 00:41:14 like pushing 50 so what like Like, you know, like, I don't know.
00:41:14 --> 00:41:17 It would just be, it would be too weird for me. Yeah, I can't do it.
00:41:17 --> 00:41:21 Yeah, it would. I definitely agree with you because I would definitely,
00:41:21 --> 00:41:24 I feel like, yeah, I'm about to hit that same age.
00:41:24 --> 00:41:28 No, I'm not trying to do that because their mindset might be different.
00:41:28 --> 00:41:32 And also, they might be trying to leave at that point. I mean, you never know.
00:41:32 --> 00:41:37 Right. Yeah. You just never know. You never know. You never know. Yes. Yeah.
00:41:39 --> 00:41:43 And you're right. I wouldn't want to take that chance either. No, definitely not.
00:41:44 --> 00:41:49 So it's like I'll stick to my guns and take my chances, but I'm not going to
00:41:49 --> 00:41:52 go that low now because it's like you just never know with them.
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00:42:06 --> 00:42:10 Now, Simone, I got this to ask, going back to the dating field.
00:42:10 --> 00:42:15 Why is it that no one is seeking companionship? And what a companion is,
00:42:15 --> 00:42:17 someone is that can do everything.
00:42:17 --> 00:42:20 They can be the homie when you need a homie. A lover when you need a lover.
00:42:21 --> 00:42:23 A therapist when you need a therapist. a motivator when
00:42:23 --> 00:42:26 you need the motivator and that person that can be an
00:42:26 --> 00:42:31 all-around person that you know that is down for you nowadays people are in
00:42:31 --> 00:42:34 relationships that we seek things it feels like they just want to see what a
00:42:34 --> 00:42:40 person has instead of seeking a companion which is somebody that that can encompass
00:42:40 --> 00:42:44 everything no matter what they bring to the table so are you saying like.
00:42:45 --> 00:42:49 Speaking like they're in a relationship and it's like why they're not being like,
00:42:50 --> 00:42:52 they're not seeking companionship and they're already in the relationship or
00:42:52 --> 00:42:56 you mean prior to the relationship prior to the relationship because
00:42:56 --> 00:42:59 this might go back to part of the reason the dating pool being
00:42:59 --> 00:43:01 trash it's like nobody's really seeking a companion because
00:43:01 --> 00:43:05 i remember watching a clip of someone saying
00:43:05 --> 00:43:08 that their their ex-husband that they they
00:43:08 --> 00:43:10 made more than them but they know this person really loved them and this
00:43:10 --> 00:43:13 person would go above and beyond for them and this
00:43:13 --> 00:43:17 person would show those qualities of a true companion but
00:43:17 --> 00:43:20 today it's like people just want to either hurt
00:43:20 --> 00:43:24 somebody before they get hurt or they want to use someone for whatever they
00:43:24 --> 00:43:30 can for whatever they have well I think it's very important before you get into
00:43:30 --> 00:43:35 a relationship to be that person's like friend I feel like it's very important
00:43:35 --> 00:43:39 to like date and talk and get to know each other even before you get in a relationship.
00:43:40 --> 00:43:45 That's why, you know, I mean, listen to people who jump into relationships after
00:43:45 --> 00:43:47 like a week or a couple of weeks, like that's, that's you.
00:43:47 --> 00:43:52 That's what you want to do. That's, that's, you know, that's your prerogative or whatever.
00:43:52 --> 00:43:57 But like, for me personally, I do think that getting time to know somebody would
00:43:57 --> 00:44:00 definitely, how do I word it?
00:44:01 --> 00:44:05 Getting, taking the time to actually becoming friends with that person will kind of like,
00:44:05 --> 00:44:10 it will add to like your relationship because I don't want to be in a,
00:44:10 --> 00:44:13 I don't want to be in a relationship with somebody who is not my friend,
00:44:13 --> 00:44:18 who I can't come to and confide in, who I feel uncomfortable if I needed help,
00:44:18 --> 00:44:20 like paying like a bill or something.
00:44:20 --> 00:44:24 I feel uncomfortable asking them for money or whatnot. You know what I mean? Like.
00:44:24 --> 00:44:28 Because I've jumped into situations really fast with a person and it was just
00:44:28 --> 00:44:37 really awkward and it was just strictly like romance, but it wasn't like, it was no depth to it.
00:44:37 --> 00:44:40 Like it wasn't like, we really didn't have good conversations. I was like, why am I?
00:44:40 --> 00:44:44 But this was like when I was way younger. Why am I? So why am I with this person?
00:44:44 --> 00:44:48 But then I spent like some time getting to know somebody and becoming a friend.
00:44:48 --> 00:44:50 I'm like, oh yeah, you know.
00:44:50 --> 00:44:53 But then on the other side, it's like, you know, it doesn't work out.
00:44:53 --> 00:44:56 You're like damn we should have remained friends because that definitely happened
00:44:56 --> 00:45:00 to me before but yeah yeah i
00:45:00 --> 00:45:03 i personally think that being friends with your
00:45:03 --> 00:45:07 partner is is number one very important
00:45:07 --> 00:45:09 yes you need to be friends with your
00:45:09 --> 00:45:12 partner i definitely agree with that and also i wouldn't
00:45:12 --> 00:45:16 hit on somebody that is already a friend because that happened
00:45:16 --> 00:45:19 to me too back in college you hit on somebody that that has
00:45:19 --> 00:45:22 been a friend that's like because it wasn't because personally
00:45:22 --> 00:45:25 i was like this other shit ain't work for me so why i
00:45:25 --> 00:45:28 look at somebody that's already a friend but i would definitely
00:45:28 --> 00:45:33 say if they're already a friend for if you've been friends for over a year don't
00:45:33 --> 00:45:36 even look at them just look at them as friends but the only thing about being
00:45:36 --> 00:45:41 friends with somebody is sometimes you get trapped in that some people realize
00:45:41 --> 00:45:44 how good you are and they'll be trying to trap you as a friend and be like oh
00:45:44 --> 00:45:46 you're just good enough to be a friend And I'm like,
00:45:46 --> 00:45:51 you are fucking missing a lot over here just leaving me as a friend.
00:45:51 --> 00:45:54 Meanwhile, you still get your heart broken, you know, and you're expecting me
00:45:54 --> 00:45:58 to have empathy for you. But I'm be like, ain't no damn empathy.
00:45:59 --> 00:46:01 You could have had me, but you still get your heart broken.
00:46:02 --> 00:46:07 I mean, I guess I've had I've heard of success for success stories with people
00:46:07 --> 00:46:08 like starting off as friends.
00:46:08 --> 00:46:15 I think it just depends on how emotionally mature a person is. You know what I mean?
00:46:15 --> 00:46:18 But I don't know. Okay, so I have a question because I talk to,
00:46:18 --> 00:46:20 I have a friend and we talk about this all the time.
00:46:20 --> 00:46:25 Do you think that friends of the same, like, sex, like male and female,
00:46:25 --> 00:46:29 could be friends, strictly friends?
00:46:30 --> 00:46:35 I think they can. As long as y'all establish boundaries and y'all know what's
00:46:35 --> 00:46:39 up, then yeah, because I have homegirls from college that we may not talk as
00:46:39 --> 00:46:42 much today, but we were always together.
00:46:42 --> 00:46:46 We knew that we were just friends and because that this home girl was always
00:46:46 --> 00:46:50 giving me advice and that I was giving them advice and feedback and stuff so
00:46:50 --> 00:46:54 yeah I think it's very very possible but as long as everybody,
00:46:54 --> 00:46:58 establishes boundaries and stuff but if you feel some kind of romance towards
00:46:58 --> 00:47:01 them just put it out there don't let it go,
00:47:01 --> 00:47:05 sometime and you know where y'all already been established as friends because
00:47:05 --> 00:47:09 then they're gonna look at you some type of way if like say you've been friends
00:47:09 --> 00:47:13 for six or seven months but then you look at them I'm like, hey, I want to date you.
00:47:13 --> 00:47:16 Y'all know damn well, y'all going to be looking at them some kind of way.
00:47:16 --> 00:47:19 Like, now you want to date me instead of just being friends?
00:47:20 --> 00:47:23 And then do you think you could come back from that? Like, once somebody crosses
00:47:23 --> 00:47:26 that boundary, do you think that you can go back to just being friends?
00:47:26 --> 00:47:28 Like, if somebody confesses their love for you, can you really just be their
00:47:28 --> 00:47:31 friend like that again? Like, will it go back to normal?
00:47:32 --> 00:47:38 I mean, if you don't feel that same way, I mean, it would take some years, honestly.
00:47:38 --> 00:47:42 It would really, it would take some years. I would say nothing immediate,
00:47:42 --> 00:47:46 but it would really take some years for that bond to come back.
00:47:46 --> 00:47:49 It's not like you're going to make a new enemy out of it, but it would really
00:47:49 --> 00:47:52 take a year or two out of it.
00:47:52 --> 00:47:57 And it's going to take some years before y'all can get back to being that kind of friend again.
00:47:57 --> 00:48:01 Because you're going to be feeling hurt. Like, damn, I really loved you like
00:48:01 --> 00:48:03 that. You're going to be really feeling hurt, you know?
00:48:03 --> 00:48:08 Yeah, and I think things could be very awkward. Especially if that one of the
00:48:08 --> 00:48:12 either parties get into a relationship and then their partner might not want
00:48:12 --> 00:48:15 y'all to be friends anymore because, you know.
00:48:16 --> 00:48:20 They know that the friend had a crush on them or wanted to, you know,
00:48:20 --> 00:48:21 be in a relationship with them.
00:48:21 --> 00:48:25 So it can definitely be a little awkward, but it's definitely awkward.
00:48:25 --> 00:48:30 And also in certain cases where you're in that case, it sounds like the person
00:48:30 --> 00:48:34 don't really trust that partner because, because part of being in a relationship,
00:48:34 --> 00:48:35 you got to trust your partner.
00:48:35 --> 00:48:37 And also you got to trust them.
00:48:38 --> 00:48:43 But then if they do some stupid shit, give it time, it will reveal itself. I mean, yes, yes.
00:48:43 --> 00:48:46 Ladies are definitely smarter than men, but guess what? y'all make mistakes
00:48:46 --> 00:48:49 too and men y'all make we make mistakes as well
00:48:49 --> 00:48:52 and guess what the person will find out at the right time
00:48:52 --> 00:48:55 so if it happens then yeah yeah no
00:48:55 --> 00:48:58 one's perfect no one's perfect yes no
00:48:58 --> 00:49:01 one is perfect and now should do
00:49:01 --> 00:49:04 you feel like people should seek a companion a person that
00:49:04 --> 00:49:07 can do everything instead of just trying to seek out
00:49:07 --> 00:49:10 somebody just for their benefits or what how they can benefit you
00:49:10 --> 00:49:13 okay are you meaning like so i
00:49:13 --> 00:49:17 can understand the question so i said i met
00:49:17 --> 00:49:19 someone right and are
00:49:19 --> 00:49:23 you meaning like me strictly just being their friend and
00:49:23 --> 00:49:26 like we gain from each other that way but it's
00:49:26 --> 00:49:29 not a title behind it yeah something
00:49:29 --> 00:49:32 like that because because a lot of times people will look
00:49:32 --> 00:49:35 to hop in a relationship just so they have somebody to
00:49:35 --> 00:49:37 oh pay my bills or somebody to lay
00:49:37 --> 00:49:43 up with or somebody that can give me a ride to places or some men they might
00:49:43 --> 00:49:47 be looking for a relationship just to have somebody to sleep at you know or
00:49:47 --> 00:49:54 and a car to use which I'll be like ma'am do better ma'am do better oh no I
00:49:54 --> 00:49:56 definitely would never seek that I feel like.
00:49:57 --> 00:50:01 Like I want to have my own stuff going on aside from like my partner.
00:50:01 --> 00:50:07 I would never, I would never, no, absolutely not. I don't want to rely on anybody to do anything for me.
00:50:07 --> 00:50:10 Like my trust is like out the window a lot.
00:50:10 --> 00:50:13 Like, I don't know. I could be a little guarded sometimes, but that's,
00:50:13 --> 00:50:15 you know, whatever working on that.
00:50:15 --> 00:50:20 But I would say absolutely not. No, I don't ever get into relationships because
00:50:20 --> 00:50:21 this person has X, Y, and Z.
00:50:22 --> 00:50:26 Even if I was to meet somebody tomorrow and they could be like super rich.
00:50:26 --> 00:50:30 I don't think I would ever ask them for anything. I wouldn't expect anything. It's not my money.
00:50:30 --> 00:50:34 So definitely not going to expect anything from them. If they want to offer
00:50:34 --> 00:50:38 it to me, fine. But I don't want them to feel like they're obligated to give me these things.
00:50:38 --> 00:50:42 You know, it's, yeah, it will never be about money for me.
00:50:42 --> 00:50:45 Because there are some people with money and they're really crappy people.
00:50:45 --> 00:50:50 And I don't want to be associated with someone like that. So I would definitely not.
00:50:51 --> 00:50:54 No, I would never get in a relationship with somebody just because,
00:50:54 --> 00:50:55 just for what they have. That's not me.
00:50:56 --> 00:50:59 Agreed. I definitely wouldn't get in a relationship with somebody just with
00:50:59 --> 00:51:02 whatever they have either because they might have everything,
00:51:02 --> 00:51:04 but they might be a crappy person.
00:51:04 --> 00:51:10 They might be out here cheating on you. They might abuse you physically and mentally.
00:51:10 --> 00:51:15 They might shit on your dreams. No, you need somebody that's going to empower
00:51:15 --> 00:51:19 you and also need somebody with ambition nowadays because, well,
00:51:19 --> 00:51:23 you meet somebody is that can change, you know, because if you have the right
00:51:23 --> 00:51:24 ambition with the drive,
00:51:25 --> 00:51:28 they can make something happen and you could be that driving force behind them, you know?
00:51:29 --> 00:51:32 Of course. And then it's like when you meet someone, they're always going to
00:51:32 --> 00:51:35 put on their best self. You know what I mean? Because they're trying to win you over.
00:51:35 --> 00:51:38 And like you said, things over time can definitely change.
00:51:39 --> 00:51:45 So, yeah, I did. Yeah. I can't, I can't do it. I don't have that, like, mentality.
00:51:47 --> 00:51:52 I would want, like, a partner, just someone that can make me happy.
00:51:52 --> 00:51:55 If they do come from money or if they have, like, you know, something good,
00:51:56 --> 00:52:00 you know, money, like, going for themselves or whatever, that's cool, too.
00:52:00 --> 00:52:06 But I would not look at them as, like, I'm their employee and they're my employer
00:52:06 --> 00:52:08 or something like that. No, absolutely not.
00:52:09 --> 00:52:13 Respect. you ain't trying to be the trophy wife or the
00:52:13 --> 00:52:16 trophy person no i couldn't do it no no
00:52:16 --> 00:52:19 because i it's like i got we all got
00:52:19 --> 00:52:23 our own things we're trying to do and if you want to help with that great but
00:52:23 --> 00:52:27 i'm not looking for you to help that you know just be that person you know be
00:52:27 --> 00:52:33 now if i was right and if i was to be the individual and they wanted to help
00:52:33 --> 00:52:37 me i'd like support my support my podcast or, you know what I mean?
00:52:37 --> 00:52:39 Like fund that dream. I don't want like.
00:52:40 --> 00:52:43 Like chanel bags and like
00:52:43 --> 00:52:46 stuff like that i don't want that i don't
00:52:46 --> 00:52:50 wear that already like i've never had like never dreamed
00:52:50 --> 00:52:55 of like having all these expensive things like i'm happy with like you know
00:52:55 --> 00:52:59 if i wherever i shop if it's she in or fashion nova or forever wherever it is
00:52:59 --> 00:53:05 i'm happy with that no agreed i agree i mean you sound like a real catch over
00:53:05 --> 00:53:07 here you know it's like Like,
00:53:07 --> 00:53:10 because it's like you sound really like down to earth.
00:53:10 --> 00:53:15 I can really respect that because not a lot of women are like that from my point of view.
00:53:15 --> 00:53:18 Like, not a lot of women are like that. They're just like trying to figure out
00:53:18 --> 00:53:19 what they can get out of you.
00:53:20 --> 00:53:23 And also, they just, I don't know, they look for benefits.
00:53:23 --> 00:53:25 A lot of them, they got to humble themselves.
00:53:26 --> 00:53:30 I'm like, ma'am, that's why I say rest in peace to Kevin Samuels because sometimes
00:53:30 --> 00:53:33 his advice may have been harsh, but he was telling the truth.
00:53:34 --> 00:53:37 You know what I also think that it's like if you get
00:53:37 --> 00:53:40 a relationship with somebody with money and you're used to like live in a certain
00:53:40 --> 00:53:46 lifestyle let's say if that relationship like ends it's like it can also affect
00:53:46 --> 00:53:50 you like your mental health because you're used to living a certain lifestyle
00:53:50 --> 00:53:54 and now all of a sudden like instead of like taking trips every month or driving
00:53:54 --> 00:53:57 a a Porsche and all that, you, you know,
00:53:57 --> 00:54:00 like all that stuff has like, you know,
00:54:01 --> 00:54:05 it, you lost all that stuff once that relationship, you know, ended.
00:54:05 --> 00:54:10 So I think it could definitely like, you know, take a toll on like your mental
00:54:10 --> 00:54:13 health, because I feel like you're going to always be like in that mentality.
00:54:13 --> 00:54:15 Like I have to date somebody rich.
00:54:15 --> 00:54:17 I have to date somebody with money. I have to date somebody that spoils me.
00:54:17 --> 00:54:21 And I don't think that's a really good mentality to like live,
00:54:21 --> 00:54:23 you know, It's cool to chase a bag,
00:54:23 --> 00:54:31 but not to where it's going to affect you in a sense to where it's like now
00:54:31 --> 00:54:36 you're putting yourselves in situations that you're not happy and you're unhappy
00:54:36 --> 00:54:38 just to live a certain lifestyle.
00:54:39 --> 00:54:43 Agreed. And also, if you know, if you had a mindset, we can chase a bag together
00:54:43 --> 00:54:46 or you can go get a bag yourself, then there won't be a problem.
00:54:46 --> 00:54:52 But not a lot of people have that mindset of, I'm going to go get this bag with
00:54:52 --> 00:54:54 or without you, you know, they don't have that mindset.
00:54:54 --> 00:54:57 And a lot of and a lot of people and a
00:54:57 --> 00:55:00 lot of people they rely on the gender they rely on
00:55:00 --> 00:55:03 gender roles a little too much instead of learning how
00:55:03 --> 00:55:06 to do the shit yourself to where you don't have to count on
00:55:06 --> 00:55:08 somebody to make it happen for you so that way if this
00:55:08 --> 00:55:11 person left tomorrow you gotta have the mindset that
00:55:11 --> 00:55:14 you're gonna be all right now it's like a lot
00:55:14 --> 00:55:17 of people they don't have that mindset to go get it and to go do
00:55:17 --> 00:55:20 shit themselves they want it done for them like and
00:55:20 --> 00:55:23 to the men out there if you want to live with somebody be
00:55:23 --> 00:55:26 with somebody just because you need a place to stay i'm like bro you
00:55:26 --> 00:55:29 need to go ahead and get you a place to stay go ahead and get you a
00:55:29 --> 00:55:31 car i mean it ain't that damn hard now i know
00:55:31 --> 00:55:34 times it's tough but i'm not giving you that excuse you
00:55:34 --> 00:55:37 know no you should definitely not rely on anybody for
00:55:37 --> 00:55:40 anything because like i said that person can wake up and
00:55:40 --> 00:55:44 be like i'm tired of you and leave you and then now
00:55:44 --> 00:55:46 you have this car that you can't pay for you're in
00:55:46 --> 00:55:49 this this loft or apartment that
00:55:49 --> 00:55:53 you can't afford and now you're stuck and in
00:55:53 --> 00:56:00 debt and it's never worth it yes it's never worth it it's it's never worth it
00:56:00 --> 00:56:04 and last word what's the one thing you want to leave the single people with
00:56:04 --> 00:56:08 who are out here like because i'm personally i tell them this on every episode
00:56:08 --> 00:56:11 y'all need to hang in there because I'm fucking hanging in there with y'all right now.
00:56:12 --> 00:56:16 Like a piece of advice I would give to single people out here?
00:56:16 --> 00:56:20 Yeah, because apparently it's a lot of people because we ain't the only ones.
00:56:21 --> 00:56:29 I would say just chase self-love. Love on yourself more and more each day.
00:56:30 --> 00:56:35 Spend time by yourself. Be your own love languages. If your love language is
00:56:35 --> 00:56:39 acts of service, I don't know, go cook for yourself.
00:56:39 --> 00:56:43 Or something, or if it's, you know, words of affirmations, like tell yourself
00:56:43 --> 00:56:45 you're beautiful and you're worthy every day.
00:56:45 --> 00:56:50 So just finding that, like that self love, because I feel like no one's going
00:56:50 --> 00:56:53 to love you the way you can love yourself.
00:56:53 --> 00:56:58 Cause I know what I love and I know what, you know, I want and what my worth
00:56:58 --> 00:57:01 and, you know, the type of person I'm, you know, looking for.
00:57:01 --> 00:57:05 And until then I'm going to love myself enough.
00:57:05 --> 00:57:11 So when that person comes, I'm already just enough, alone and i'm just you know
00:57:11 --> 00:57:17 little i'm they're my cherry on top and i'm the full sunday so yes.
00:57:18 --> 00:57:21 Yes agreed i definitely agree you definitely got love on yourself you got to
00:57:21 --> 00:57:26 empower yourself to push through and also don't look for nobody to empower you
00:57:26 --> 00:57:30 don't know look for anybody to help you out you got to bring your own shit to
00:57:30 --> 00:57:34 the table don't look for them to compliment you and like you said they got to be the cherry on top,
00:57:35 --> 00:57:39 Yeah. What about you? What would you say? I definitely got to say you got to
00:57:39 --> 00:57:42 keep pushing and also don't fucking settle.
00:57:42 --> 00:57:45 Don't be out here trying to settle because, like, personally,
00:57:46 --> 00:57:50 like, no offense to single moms, but I just can't really take them seriously
00:57:50 --> 00:57:54 because they're going to be looking at me like, you need to be doing this, need to be doing that.
00:57:54 --> 00:57:58 I'm like, ma'am, I didn't make a baby here. I'm not the man you made the baby
00:57:58 --> 00:58:01 with, you know, so I don't need you.
00:58:01 --> 00:58:04 So my advice would definitely be to hang in there, number one.
00:58:04 --> 00:58:09 And number two, don't settle for no single mom or no single dad.
00:58:09 --> 00:58:14 Now, if you got the heart to do so and you really love this person, go for it.
00:58:14 --> 00:58:18 But don't do it unless, don't fucking settle for anybody.
00:58:19 --> 00:58:22 Right. Just choose you because you're the prize.
00:58:23 --> 00:58:28 Always believe you're the prize. Yes, always believe you're the damn prize.
00:58:28 --> 00:58:30 I don't care how old you are and you ain't got no damn kids.
00:58:31 --> 00:58:35 We winning right now. People that are childless. we winning right now i don't
00:58:35 --> 00:58:38 give a damn what people gotta say we winning right now because the shit's expensive
00:58:38 --> 00:58:41 and we we all gotta take care of ourselves.
00:58:43 --> 00:58:47 So what you got planned for the podcast for the list for the rest of the year.
00:58:49 --> 00:58:53 Um i would say definitely i'm gonna like produce more episodes like i have one
00:58:53 --> 00:58:57 coming i think i'm gonna post it on sunday so i'll definitely share it with
00:58:57 --> 00:59:01 you i'm trying to film again next month I'm trying to get my people going,
00:59:01 --> 00:59:03 like the people that I'm going to invite on.
00:59:03 --> 00:59:05 So, yeah, I'm just just working on that.
00:59:07 --> 00:59:10 That's real. Lastly, why do people need to tap in with the neighborhood sessions?
00:59:12 --> 00:59:15 If you want like a good laugh, you want to feel like you're sitting in front
00:59:15 --> 00:59:20 of the, how I always say it is like when my, when the guests I have come on,
00:59:20 --> 00:59:26 I want you to feel like, number one, I want them to feel comfortable enough to like be themselves.
00:59:26 --> 00:59:29 Don't feel like they have to act a certain way just because the cameras are rolling.
00:59:29 --> 00:59:34 And then number two, I want, I want everyone at home to feel like they're just
00:59:34 --> 00:59:39 sitting in front of two friends, just having a conversation about like life
00:59:39 --> 00:59:41 and sharing their experiences and stuff.
00:59:42 --> 00:59:47 And I want like my guests to feel like they're sitting across from their home
00:59:47 --> 00:59:49 girl and they're just so happy to be a camera in front of us.
00:59:50 --> 00:59:55 So yes, but it's like plenty of laughs, you know, and we're going to touch on
00:59:55 --> 00:59:59 a lot of topics that I'm sure will definitely resonate with a lot of you.
01:00:00 --> 01:00:05 That's real. Well, Simone, I want to thank you for having around me on The Liquor Talk.
01:00:05 --> 01:00:10 And whenever you need me to pop on your podcast, I might be in Florida, but I'm just one DM away.
01:00:10 --> 01:00:15 So whenever you want to make that happen just let me know and i am there but
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