This is the last spicy episode of 2024. There will be more of these conversations in 2025. Hide the kids and animals for this episode. And thank you for all of the birthday love. On this episode of the Liquor Talk Podcast, Vic welcomes Eve Hall, the host of the Please Me podcast for an eye opening conversation on the importance of open conversations about sexuality and sexual health. They explore Eve's personal journey from a sexless marriage to sexual liberation, the significance of understanding sexual desire discrepancies in relationships, and the role of scheduling intimacy. They also address the societal taboos surrounding discussions of pleasure and the empowering concept of 'Big Clit Energy' as a way for women to reclaim their sexual confidence. The dialogue also explores food as an aphrodisiac, underrated sex positions, and debunks myths surrounding post-sex fatigue. Follow and support both platforms everywhere.
[00:00:01] Liquor Talk, a brand new episode starts now. Welcome on, welcome everybody to another edition of the Liquor Talk podcast. Check out this podcast and other great podcasts on the NBG Podcast Network as well. So ladies and gentlemen, we want to tell you right now, this episode is going to get more spicier than a goddamn Bloody Mary, ladies and gentlemen. Joining me today, she is the host of the Please Me Podcast.
[00:00:28] Oh, it's Ms. Eve. How you doing today, Eve?
[00:00:32] I'm great. How are you today?
[00:00:34] I'm doing well. I'm doing phenomenal. Why don't you let us give your grant to it. Why don't you tell the people about your platform?
[00:00:42] Absolutely. I have a show called Please Me and it aims to de-stigmatize conversations about sex and sexual health. And I'm also a licensed physical therapist and I treat conditions of the pelvic floor and sexual health conditions.
[00:00:56] So my podcast and my profession go hand in hand. And I really try to make my shows, you know, talk in layman's terms. I'm not talking medical jargon. This is real talk with, you know, people that are, you know, interested in, you know, really de-stigmatizing those conversations about all sorts of topics regarding sexuality, whether it's from kink all the way to speaking to a gynecologist.
[00:01:26] And, you know, everything in between. So I really try to cover a lot of different topics.
[00:01:32] That's amazing. So why do you feel like it's so hard to have those conversations? It used to be, well, now we're moving into 2025 where at least it's a little more accepted now.
[00:01:43] But why has it always been so hard to have those kind of conversations?
[00:01:48] I think, you know, we don't early on learn how to have conversations about difficult things.
[00:01:53] And sexuality is one of those conversations that's very taboo.
[00:01:59] You know, there's, you know, the societal pressures and norms and there's the religious pressures and norms and then your family's pressures and norms that often, you know, inhibit us from wanting to have these conversations or, you know, feel comfortable having those conversations.
[00:02:16] So it really takes practice to have conversations about sex and sexuality.
[00:02:23] And so I think that, you know, we all need a little bit of help in that arena.
[00:02:27] And so that's what I'm here to help you guys do.
[00:02:31] Exactly. That's amazing.
[00:02:32] So so what was the motivation behind starting your podcast?
[00:02:37] So about six years ago, I went through a divorce and I was in a sexless marriage for probably five of the eight years that I was married.
[00:02:47] And when I got divorced, I promised myself that that would never be the case again because I had always been a very sexual person.
[00:02:55] And I knew that that was going to be something going forward that was going to be important to me in my relationships.
[00:03:01] And I've been a physical therapist for over 20 years.
[00:03:04] My original specialty was pediatrics, believe it or not.
[00:03:08] And when I moved to Florida, pediatric positions were not as easy to come by.
[00:03:14] And I happened into the sexual health arena because I went through my own sexual revolution, so to speak.
[00:03:24] And I really wanted to help other people go through what I went through and help them with their sexual healing and with their, you know,
[00:03:34] getting on that road to sexual liberation.
[00:03:37] That's right. Hold on.
[00:03:38] Now, you just said my home state.
[00:03:40] So what part of Florida are we talking about here?
[00:03:43] I'm in Wellington.
[00:03:45] How about you?
[00:03:46] I'm in Tampa.
[00:03:48] Okay.
[00:03:49] Okay.
[00:03:49] Okay.
[00:03:49] So we're not too far apart from each other.
[00:03:52] Tampa's about three and a half hour drive from here.
[00:03:54] Now, is Wellington like North Florida or South Florida?
[00:03:58] It's South Florida.
[00:03:59] It's Palm Beach County.
[00:04:01] Oh, okay.
[00:04:02] I know plenty of people from Palm Beach.
[00:04:04] I know plenty of people from that area.
[00:04:06] A lot of people, they leave Palm Beach.
[00:04:07] They come up to, they go to Orlando, they go to Tampa, or some go to Miami.
[00:04:12] So, but another thing, another personal question that just came to me.
[00:04:16] How did you stay in a sexless marriage for five out of the eight years?
[00:04:19] How the hell?
[00:04:20] How the hell do you be with somebody you're not, and there's no intimacy?
[00:04:24] How does that happen?
[00:04:26] Well, that was one of the main reasons why I wanted to get a divorce, honestly.
[00:04:30] We went through therapy for years, and we talked about it, and it just never improved.
[00:04:38] And how did I stay?
[00:04:41] That's an interesting question.
[00:04:42] And I have to say that it probably stems from the fact that I was abused as a child,
[00:04:51] sexually abused as a child.
[00:04:53] And if you know anything about trauma, you know that people that go through trauma
[00:04:59] often find that they, you know, can put up with a lot of bullshit.
[00:05:04] Am I allowed to say that?
[00:05:06] Yeah, you got it.
[00:05:07] You good, you good.
[00:05:07] Okay, okay.
[00:05:08] And, you know, and we know how to suffer, you know?
[00:05:13] We learn how to suffer early, and we continue suffering.
[00:05:18] And so I suffered for a long, long time.
[00:05:21] And then I finally was, you know, that was one of the reasons why I divorced.
[00:05:27] But there were others, and they compounded, and finally I had enough.
[00:05:32] But, you know, eight years later, I'm much happier.
[00:05:36] And so, you know, if people out there hear this, and they find themselves in an unhappy
[00:05:43] marriage, they have to really think about, you know, what it means to them to stay in
[00:05:48] an unhappy marriage.
[00:05:49] Or would you rather start over fresh and, you know, have an amazing life?
[00:05:54] So, I mean, I'm not saying, you know, to get divorced, but I'm saying reassess your life
[00:05:59] because you can make it better if you take control and, you know, take the reins.
[00:06:06] Yes, that's all facts.
[00:06:07] You definitely need to reevaluate things.
[00:06:10] And also, if it's not making you happy, then what's the point of saying?
[00:06:13] Like, I know divorce is so costly and stuff, but please have your ducks in order before
[00:06:18] you get up and divorce somebody.
[00:06:20] Like, because I'd hate to have somebody, oh, leave somebody, and they don't have their
[00:06:24] ducks lined up with where they're going to move to or how they're going to move and
[00:06:28] stuff.
[00:06:28] They're just up at the spur of the moment and leave the person.
[00:06:31] No, you need to have everything calculated before you leave.
[00:06:34] And also, it's 2025, ladies and gentlemen.
[00:06:37] If you're out there suffering, you need to go talk to somebody because no one deserves
[00:06:41] to suffer in silence because life is too short.
[00:06:44] I don't care if you're somebody that is a domestic violence survivor or whatever it is.
[00:06:50] It's like life is just too short to be out here stuck in something that's not making
[00:06:54] you happy, whether it's a job, whether it's a relationship.
[00:06:57] Life is too damn short.
[00:06:59] People out here dying and stuff at young ages.
[00:07:02] So I just feel like life is just too short.
[00:07:05] And I'm saying that also because I just celebrated a birthday and I'm like, I'm not trying to
[00:07:10] take advantage of, you know what I'm saying?
[00:07:12] You know, wasting years away, being stuck in relationships because you don't get those
[00:07:17] years back.
[00:07:19] 100%.
[00:07:20] 100%.
[00:07:20] Absolutely.
[00:07:21] Life is too short.
[00:07:23] And with the way the world is going, we really have no idea, you know, what our future is
[00:07:27] going to be like, right?
[00:07:28] So we have to focus on the now.
[00:07:30] And are you happy now?
[00:07:32] How can you be happy now?
[00:07:34] Yes.
[00:07:35] And we definitely got to focus on how can you be happy now?
[00:07:38] And also, you got to make the moves, but you better be ready for the repercussions
[00:07:42] if those moves are made correctly.
[00:07:46] Absolutely.
[00:07:47] Absolutely.
[00:07:47] And hopefully the repercussions are going to be beneficial and positive.
[00:07:53] That's real.
[00:07:54] That's definitely real.
[00:07:56] So talk to me a little bit more about your podcast.
[00:07:59] What's something you've learned about yourself while doing the podcast?
[00:08:07] Well, I mentioned trauma earlier, sexual trauma when I was a child.
[00:08:11] And it's interesting because I went through my healing journey really in my 20s.
[00:08:16] And I did a lot of therapy in all sorts of arenas.
[00:08:20] I won't go into all of the details.
[00:08:22] But I really felt like walking into this podcast, I was healed.
[00:08:26] You know what I mean?
[00:08:27] Like I was past the healing.
[00:08:28] And having spoken to so many amazing coaches and women and people that are experts in their
[00:08:35] fields, I found that having the show was actually another layer of that healing journey
[00:08:43] that I did not anticipate.
[00:08:45] So that's been a beautiful thing.
[00:08:48] And through that, I've learned a lot of different things that have helped me to really peel another
[00:08:55] layer of that healing away.
[00:08:57] So that's been a beautiful thing.
[00:08:59] Yeah, I definitely agree.
[00:09:01] It definitely has been beautiful.
[00:09:03] I know for the fact that you can really heal by something by talking about it and also bringing
[00:09:07] light to it.
[00:09:08] And you don't feel like, oh man, I just feel like shit right now, you know, because I
[00:09:13] could talk about past traumas and guess what?
[00:09:15] I could smile about it.
[00:09:16] I could joke about it because I went through the time where it hurt, but now it don't really
[00:09:20] hurt no more.
[00:09:22] Yes.
[00:09:23] It's great to get to that point where you can really talk about it.
[00:09:26] But, uh-oh.
[00:09:27] Hold on.
[00:09:28] My internet can't.
[00:09:29] There she goes.
[00:09:31] Yeah, it's definitely great to get to that point.
[00:09:35] Hold up, y'all.
[00:09:36] I think we lost her.
[00:09:37] She going to come back.
[00:09:38] Ladies and gentlemen, this is Look A Talk.
[00:09:40] The more you drink, the better we sound.
[00:09:43] But ladies and gentlemen, yes, I'm glad y'all got that point.
[00:09:47] You guys really need to get to the healing part of everything.
[00:09:53] If you don't, please go see somebody.
[00:09:56] While we're here, ladies and gentlemen, while I'm waiting for my guests to come back, I need
[00:09:59] to remind y'all that this is Lick A Talk.
[00:10:01] We are in the midst of the final episodes of Season 7.
[00:10:06] Season 7 has been wonderful.
[00:10:07] I want to thank everybody that's been on.
[00:10:09] So if you're interested in coming on, go ahead and let me know.
[00:10:12] We'll make something happen.
[00:10:14] And also, while we're sitting here waiting, a quick note.
[00:10:17] I want to thank everybody that gave me some birthday love, that wished me a happy birthday,
[00:10:21] that hit me up for the birthday.
[00:10:24] You know what I'm saying?
[00:10:24] Because I don't take that for granted.
[00:10:27] If you didn't show me birthday love, it is what it is.
[00:10:30] Also, to my employer who tried to ruin my birthday, fuck you.
[00:10:35] I still take the paycheck.
[00:10:37] I'm still going to work hard.
[00:10:38] But for y'all to try to ruin my birthday, fuck y'all.
[00:10:43] Y'all didn't.
[00:10:44] Cheers.
[00:10:46] Oh, by the way, if y'all want to know what I'm sipping on, I'm sipping on a little tequila
[00:10:49] right now.
[00:10:50] Y'all already know around here, we don't mention the sponsor unless, of course, that they're
[00:10:56] that they're, um, that you know, I don't know.
[00:11:02] I think she has an internet issues, ladies and gentlemen.
[00:11:05] I'm going to try to get her back up, um, uh, one moment, ladies and gentlemen.
[00:11:20] But, um, but I hate, I hate how jobs try to ruin, ruin a good thing, you know, but I'm
[00:11:28] not mad at them.
[00:11:29] I just wish they would do better.
[00:11:31] You know what I'm saying, y'all?
[00:11:34] Um, hey, y'all, I think I'm going to try this episode another way.
[00:11:39] Um, one moment.
[00:11:41] Hold on.
[00:11:42] Hold on.
[00:11:43] Here she come.
[00:11:43] Here she come.
[00:11:44] Here she come.
[00:11:47] Can you hear me?
[00:11:49] Yeah, I can hear you.
[00:11:50] Are you back now?
[00:11:51] Yes.
[00:11:52] Okay.
[00:11:52] Sorry about that.
[00:11:53] I don't know what happened.
[00:11:54] It just went away.
[00:11:56] Um, I don't, I don't know either.
[00:11:58] Um, it's all good.
[00:11:59] But like I was saying, um, I was just telling people to, um, thank, thank everybody for showing
[00:12:04] my birthday love.
[00:12:05] And also, also, I wanted to tell people to never let something or someone try to devalue your
[00:12:11] theme of the week.
[00:12:12] Because my job was on the job.
[00:12:13] Because my job was on some bullshit.
[00:12:14] And I just was like, you know what?
[00:12:15] I'm not going to let y'all try to ruin my birthday.
[00:12:17] So, and also, those bastards didn't even tell them to have birthday, but it is what it is.
[00:12:23] Wow.
[00:12:23] And that shows you exactly the type of place you're working.
[00:12:26] So, you know, you need to keep that physical, you know, that emotional distance because,
[00:12:31] you know, people are not valuing you.
[00:12:34] Um, you need, you need to be conscious of that, you know?
[00:12:37] So, um, I hope you had an amazing birthday.
[00:12:40] Hope you had some good times.
[00:12:43] Yeah, I still have some good times.
[00:12:45] Um, one thing I didn't know is I need to just start planning shit for myself.
[00:12:48] Um, because sometimes when you're rolling solo, don't really have nobody with you.
[00:12:53] It does suck, but it is what it is.
[00:12:56] I'm blessed to see another year.
[00:12:57] Um, 20, 25, be here before we know it.
[00:13:00] All right, let's get back into it.
[00:13:02] Um, talk to me about your last episode.
[00:13:04] Um, talking about sexual, sexual desire discrepancy.
[00:13:08] What exactly is that?
[00:13:10] So that was an episode with Dr. Liz and she, uh, talked about sexual desire discrepancy.
[00:13:18] And what that means is that in a couple, uh, two people have different, um, desires, right?
[00:13:23] For sex.
[00:13:24] Some might need it five times a week and the other one might need it two times a week.
[00:13:30] And so there's a discrepancy and trying to figure out how to come together so that
[00:13:35] both partners can be happy is important because in almost all relationships, you're going to
[00:13:41] find that there is some discrepancy.
[00:13:43] And so you really have to work on trying to make it work, uh, work for both sides.
[00:13:48] Yeah, that's definitely true.
[00:13:50] But I also feel like that's something you find out while you're dating the person before
[00:13:54] y'all decide to tie it down.
[00:13:56] That's something you find out.
[00:13:57] You need to try to find out while, you know what I'm saying?
[00:13:59] And while we're still going through the dating phase, still learning about each other because,
[00:14:04] and also because I've had to learn that too, the hard way with women, because not every
[00:14:07] woman is the same when it comes to sex.
[00:14:10] Like some women, they, they like this way.
[00:14:12] Some women don't like this way.
[00:14:13] And also the frequencies as well.
[00:14:16] And also I noticed y'all talked about scheduling sex.
[00:14:18] Now I would though, I've got to push back a little bit because I feel like if you got to
[00:14:23] schedule it, it might not be as good because it may seem like it's a chore or you might,
[00:14:28] you never know how that person is feeling or you, you might not be in the mood that day.
[00:14:33] So what do you say to that?
[00:14:36] You know, the reason why I like scheduling the idea of scheduling sex is because, um,
[00:14:42] you know, sometimes people are so busy, you know, and if you have two busy people, you
[00:14:48] know, when you try and come together and it's not scheduled necessarily, one person's mind
[00:14:53] might be on something else at the moment and not necessarily on the pleasure that you're
[00:14:58] trying to accept.
[00:14:59] Right.
[00:14:59] So when you schedule, it becomes like a date.
[00:15:02] You look forward to it.
[00:15:03] You plan for it.
[00:15:05] You take a shower, you put that sexy lingerie on and you are ready.
[00:15:09] And, you know, sometimes if the other person is not necessarily in the mood, right, it can
[00:15:15] still be a sensual time.
[00:15:17] It doesn't always have to involve penetration.
[00:15:19] It can be, Hey, let's, you know, I'm not really in the mood for, you know, penetration
[00:15:24] tonight, but maybe we can, you know, masturbate together or maybe we can do massages together
[00:15:31] or something else.
[00:15:33] Like it opens the, uh, the conversation up for other potential things that you can do
[00:15:38] together and connect in a sensual way.
[00:15:41] Hmm.
[00:15:42] That's interesting.
[00:15:43] Um, because we never really thought about that.
[00:15:46] So, so do you really, so how does one go about saying, have that conversation of let's,
[00:15:52] let's plan some intimacy.
[00:15:54] Let's plan to have some sex tonight.
[00:15:56] Like does, does it, is it blatant like that or how, how do we do that?
[00:16:00] I mean, I do it all the time.
[00:16:02] Like, you know, when I'm feeling like I need, um, some love, you know, I'll tell my partner,
[00:16:10] you know, I need you tonight.
[00:16:12] And, um, you know, most of the time he'll say I'm ready, you know?
[00:16:17] Um, and he's, he likes mornings and I personally am not a morning person, uh, when it comes
[00:16:23] to sex.
[00:16:24] So, you know, that is because, and the reason is because I'm not, I'm, I have a lot of stuff
[00:16:31] in my mind in the mornings.
[00:16:32] I wake up and I have like a list of to do's and, um, and my mind is not focused on it.
[00:16:40] So, um, you know, if he wants a morning session, we can, you know, do that on the weekends when
[00:16:45] I don't have so many things going on in my, in my to-do list in my mind.
[00:16:50] Um, but I, it, it, it's fun, you know, and then you can kind of banter back and forth
[00:16:55] throughout the day and text messages or conversations, you know, when you're talking with them and sort
[00:17:02] of build the anticipation.
[00:17:03] So it's actually a lot of fun to schedule.
[00:17:06] It doesn't have to be, you know, months in advance.
[00:17:08] It could be the day of, or, you know, Hey, what are you doing in the afternoon at four
[00:17:14] today?
[00:17:15] You know, um, I'm going to be home.
[00:17:17] I'm going to have a few hours to myself, you know, come join me, um, in the shower or something,
[00:17:24] you know, and, um, and it's, it, it becomes a lot of fun.
[00:17:27] You know, when you start to open up and have these very, um, frank conversations about sex
[00:17:33] with your partner, it becomes a flirtation.
[00:17:36] It becomes a lot of fun.
[00:17:38] Um, that, that's very interesting.
[00:17:41] Now, do you feel like a lot more couples would stay together if they, and not cheat on each
[00:17:45] other?
[00:17:46] If they had these conversations, because based on everything you're telling me, I feel like
[00:17:49] they would, I feel like more couples would stay together and not be out here cheating
[00:17:54] on each other.
[00:17:54] If y'all would just simply have those conversations, because I'm really impressed by this to, um,
[00:18:00] tell my partner, um, Hey, I might need you tonight.
[00:18:02] Or now what happens?
[00:18:04] Uh, well, we'll talk to, I'm going to get to that one thing, but what do you think about
[00:18:08] the cheating thing?
[00:18:09] Do you think that will cut down on cheating?
[00:18:12] I think so.
[00:18:13] I mean, I feel like a lot of times people cheat because they need attention, right?
[00:18:18] And their partner's not giving them the attention that they need.
[00:18:22] And it could be because there's a discrepancy in sexual desire.
[00:18:26] Um, it could be for other reasons, but they need attention, right?
[00:18:30] So if you are asking for attention, right?
[00:18:34] You're asked like, you know, hands down saying I need attention, right?
[00:18:39] And, um, and your partner is willing to give it to you.
[00:18:43] Then you're going to be satisfied.
[00:18:44] You're not going to be looking outside of the relationship.
[00:18:47] So I definitely think it would definitely help.
[00:18:50] And I think a lot of people do cheat because they need that intimacy and it becomes, it
[00:18:55] kind of fizzles away as life gets in the way.
[00:18:58] We get, we become very busy.
[00:18:59] If we have kids, we become very busy with them.
[00:19:02] And, um, and so it just like, there's just not enough time in the day.
[00:19:06] So if you are focused on that and making it a priority in a relationship, then, um, then
[00:19:12] you're going to be in a happier relationship and you will less likely want to,
[00:19:17] look outside of the relationship for those intimacy needs.
[00:19:23] Yes.
[00:19:23] And you know what?
[00:19:24] And come to think about it, because I know life gets, uh, gets hectic.
[00:19:28] It gets busy for specials being content creators.
[00:19:31] And then we have jobs outside of this.
[00:19:33] You know what?
[00:19:33] We need to go ahead and say, sit down.
[00:19:35] Hey, this day we're going to do something together.
[00:19:38] Um, I don't care if we're too tired.
[00:19:40] I'm like, because not me personally.
[00:19:43] Um, if somebody tells me, oh, they're with somebody and they, they're always too tired.
[00:19:48] My ass, even if I'm tired, I will go get an energy drink or something.
[00:19:52] I know this ain't healthy, but I will, I will make that sacrifice for my partner.
[00:19:57] And you got to have somebody that's willing to go the extra mile.
[00:19:59] Because one thing I've learned about some couples is people are just lazy nowadays, especially
[00:20:04] when it comes to pleasuring others.
[00:20:07] Yes.
[00:20:08] And you definitely want a partner that is going to want to pleasure you.
[00:20:11] Right.
[00:20:12] And, you know, that's what my show is all about.
[00:20:14] It's called Please Me.
[00:20:15] And it's about women taking their pleasure back because, you know, there is something
[00:20:19] called the orgasm gap.
[00:20:20] Right.
[00:20:20] And a lot of times women don't get the same amount of pleasure as men do.
[00:20:24] So really owning that pleasure, asking for that pleasure and, um, and, and, you know,
[00:20:30] communicating with your partner so that you can get your pleasure needs met.
[00:20:33] So I a hundred percent agree.
[00:20:36] Okay.
[00:20:37] Staying with that pleasure, because I've, I've done, I did a couple of episodes, um, with
[00:20:42] previous sex hosts as well.
[00:20:44] They all, they all kind of got on to men about the pleasure and stuff.
[00:20:49] So what do you think a woman's role and her pleasure is like, because there's gotta be
[00:20:54] a reason, um, though there's a discrepancy in the orgasm gap.
[00:20:59] There is a reason.
[00:21:00] And the reason is that what we see in porn, what we see in movies, what we see on television
[00:21:06] is always penetrative sex, which is how men orgasm.
[00:21:11] Women need external clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm.
[00:21:15] Only three to 5% of women can orgasm from penetration alone.
[00:21:19] So if you're not giving external stimulation, oftentimes your partner will not get there.
[00:21:26] Right?
[00:21:26] So what is the woman's role?
[00:21:28] The woman's role is her role is to teach her partner what works for her.
[00:21:32] Every woman is different.
[00:21:33] And just like every man is different, right?
[00:21:36] You may like anal play.
[00:21:38] Another guy may not like anal play.
[00:21:40] Right?
[00:21:40] And you would never know that until you're intimate with the person.
[00:21:44] So knowing what the other person likes and doesn't like, what works for them and doesn't
[00:21:48] work for them is really essential.
[00:21:50] And the woman's role is to teach their partner what they like and don't like, to tell them,
[00:21:55] to explain to them, to, you know, build them up and make them feel like they are the one
[00:22:01] that they want to be with.
[00:22:02] And also, on the other side, the man's role is to listen and to accept that information
[00:22:11] and also to tell their partner what they like.
[00:22:14] I mean, if you're into a kink and you've never told it to your partner, shame on you.
[00:22:20] You know what I mean?
[00:22:21] We need to be able to have these conversations because we want to be happy in our relationships.
[00:22:26] And if you're into kinks, some kinks, and your partner doesn't even know about it, guess what
[00:22:31] you're looking for outside of the relationship?
[00:22:34] Someone to fulfill those kinks.
[00:22:35] So it's important to have these conversations.
[00:22:38] Both partners should be equally getting their needs met.
[00:22:43] Yes, both partners should definitely be getting their needs met because if not, somebody else
[00:22:48] is going to go cheat or we're going to leave to, they might not even cheat.
[00:22:51] It might be a breakup.
[00:22:52] So I definitely agree to that.
[00:22:55] And also, you got to have those conversations, men and women.
[00:22:59] We need to have the conversations about, hey, what are we doing, not doing, or what are
[00:23:04] we not doing?
[00:23:05] What are we doing, what are we not doing?
[00:23:06] Like, if we got to go be like coaches, break over tape and stuff, stuff like, hey, I'm not
[00:23:14] now, personally, I'm not trying to film unless it's going to be on OnlyFans.
[00:23:17] But, you know, even if we got to break down X's and O's, be like, hey, I liked it when
[00:23:21] you did this.
[00:23:22] Hey, I didn't like it when you did that.
[00:23:24] Because I kind of had to learn that hard way.
[00:23:26] Because some women, they like to be fingered differently.
[00:23:29] But then some women, they don't even like it.
[00:23:31] They just like it when you go down on them.
[00:23:32] They don't even want you to use your hands with it.
[00:23:34] Every person is different.
[00:23:36] So people, we need to be having these conversations.
[00:23:39] And also, if it's tough to have the conversations, then you might need to find a partner.
[00:23:47] You know, and sometimes it's just tough because you're just not used to having these conversations,
[00:23:51] right?
[00:23:52] But practice makes perfect with everything.
[00:23:54] And these conversations are a clear, you know, it's also in that category where if you
[00:24:01] practice and you're having these conversations frequently, they're going to get easier and
[00:24:05] easier and easier.
[00:24:06] And, you know, I remember when I was in my 20s, I could not even speak my needs.
[00:24:11] I had to write them down on a piece of paper and hand them to my partner.
[00:24:14] So I had trouble communicating.
[00:24:16] And now I have no trouble at all because I've practiced and practiced and made it a priority
[00:24:21] in my life.
[00:24:22] So practice makes perfect.
[00:24:24] That first conversation may be awkward and uncomfortable, but the next one will be a
[00:24:30] little bit less.
[00:24:31] And until you are, you know, talking away and, you know, telling all of your partner, all of
[00:24:36] your needs and desires and dreams and, you know, kinks and all of those things, all fantasies
[00:24:44] and all of that.
[00:24:45] So, yeah, I just encourage people to be honest and open because if you're choosing someone to
[00:24:50] spend your life with, right, that's the person that has got to hear all of these things.
[00:24:56] And if you're not sharing those things, you're really cutting yourself off from really connecting
[00:25:01] with that other person.
[00:25:03] Yes, you are.
[00:25:04] You really are.
[00:25:05] Because if you're not sharing them and you're not open to that, better believe they got somebody
[00:25:10] else that is.
[00:25:11] Because nowadays, people out here, they know for talking to multiple people out here.
[00:25:15] So if you ain't doing it, you better believe someone else is really doing it.
[00:25:20] So, and while we're on this talking about pleasure, why do people still believe talking about pleasure
[00:25:26] is taboo?
[00:25:27] Like, it shouldn't be.
[00:25:28] We're about to be in 2025 in a few weeks.
[00:25:31] We're about to be in 2025.
[00:25:33] Why haven't people grown the fuck up?
[00:25:35] Why do you tell people haven't grown up?
[00:25:37] I think it's a process.
[00:25:39] You know, I definitely think growing up is a process that takes some people well into their
[00:25:44] 50s and 60s to finally get there, right?
[00:25:47] And some people grow up faster and in their 30s, they're like, you know, able to have
[00:25:52] these conversations.
[00:25:53] It really just depends on the person.
[00:25:56] But why is that the case?
[00:25:58] I mean, all of the, you know, the patriarchy is still strong.
[00:26:02] Right.
[00:26:02] And there's still a belief that when you get married, you belong to your partner, right?
[00:26:09] And you are now property of that person, you know?
[00:26:12] And so that really can mess with a person's mind and how they relate to the other person.
[00:26:20] So really, you know, when you, if you think about each person being on their own individual
[00:26:25] path, right?
[00:26:26] You're on your path.
[00:26:27] I'm on my path, but we decide to come together to be in a relationship, right?
[00:26:33] Respecting that the other person is their own full person, right?
[00:26:37] With their own full life, with their own full desires, with their own full profession, with
[00:26:42] their, you know, all of that.
[00:26:43] And respecting that, and you then will be able to sort of tease out the conversations that
[00:26:51] you need to have with that other person.
[00:26:53] So I think, you know, because of societal norms, I think because of religious norms that
[00:26:58] are all still present, right?
[00:27:01] In our society and family norms, you know, and then of course, the, the culture of purity,
[00:27:09] purity culture, right?
[00:27:10] That's still very prevalent in our country.
[00:27:13] Mm-hmm.
[00:27:14] Okay.
[00:27:14] All of that inhibits people sexually.
[00:27:17] And so unless you are really trying to get rid of that mindset, it's going to affect
[00:27:25] you.
[00:27:25] And so you have to really make an active effort to change.
[00:27:30] Yes.
[00:27:31] You got to make that little effort to change.
[00:27:34] And I'm living testament there because before, before podcasting, I went, I went there to
[00:27:40] talk about it.
[00:27:40] I talked about it every now and then with, with either my homeboy, if I had a question,
[00:27:44] I'd talk to some homeboys or homegirls.
[00:27:46] But never in a million years that I think I'd be doing sex episodes.
[00:27:50] And also, I ain't gonna lie, the sex episodes, they'd be a lot of fun to record.
[00:27:54] Also, we talking about some sex.
[00:27:56] Shout out to my first co-host, LaShawna.
[00:27:59] LaShawna.
[00:27:59] She, she helped me open up and really, once I got comfortable with her talking about those
[00:28:04] kind of things, it's like the floodgates opened.
[00:28:07] You know, I got to the point where I could have the conversations about sex, even though
[00:28:11] whether, whether I'm getting any or not.
[00:28:14] So shout out to my first co-host.
[00:28:15] We're, we're still cool today.
[00:28:17] Ladies and gentlemen, this is Look and Talk.
[00:28:19] The more you drink, the better we sound.
[00:28:21] Thank you to everybody that's checking out the podcast on iHeartRadio, Spotify, the MBG
[00:28:26] Podcast Network.
[00:28:27] Or if you watch this virtually on YouTube as well.
[00:28:30] Thank you to everybody that's been tapping in for 2024, because 2025 is going to be a
[00:28:35] big year as well.
[00:28:36] So when I first met you at the Afros and Audios Podcast Conference this past year, you had
[00:28:41] this shirt called Big Clit Energy.
[00:28:43] What exactly is Big Clit Energy?
[00:28:47] Well, are you familiar with the term Big Dick Energy?
[00:28:50] Yeah, of course, because most men and most men walk around with Big Dick Energy.
[00:28:54] So yeah.
[00:28:55] Okay, exactly.
[00:28:56] So Big Clit Energy is the female equivalent of Big Dick Energy.
[00:29:00] And it's basically the confidence that you have in your sexuality, in your ability to
[00:29:06] perform in the bedroom, in your ability to have multiple orgasms, you know, when you want
[00:29:12] to have them and you have confidence in your sex life and your sexuality.
[00:29:17] That translates to all areas of our lives.
[00:29:20] It translates to the boardroom.
[00:29:22] It translates to having these conversations on a podcast and, you know, getting in front
[00:29:26] of an audience.
[00:29:27] All of that is Big Clit Energy.
[00:29:30] And so I like to talk about how you can hone that energy and use it to your advantage.
[00:29:36] Just like men have been using Big Dick Energy, right, for years now.
[00:29:41] When I started my podcast, I was really looking for the female equivalent of Big Dick Energy.
[00:29:47] And I searched and searched the internet and really came up short.
[00:29:53] A couple articles I read said that women can also have Big Dick Energy.
[00:29:57] And I was like, why would I want Big Dick Energy?
[00:30:00] I don't have a dick.
[00:30:01] I want to have what my body has, which is the female equivalent of the penis is the clitoris.
[00:30:07] So that's why I came up with the term Big Clit Energy.
[00:30:11] And I actually just recently trademarked it.
[00:30:14] And, you know, so it's going to be a whole thing.
[00:30:19] Yes, yes.
[00:30:19] I'm glad you trademarked.
[00:30:21] I'm congratulations on getting that trademarked because I was like, oh, shit.
[00:30:26] I saw that.
[00:30:27] I'm like, okay, she confident in that, you know what I'm saying?
[00:30:29] So I kind of picked up on it.
[00:30:32] I picked up on it.
[00:30:34] I don't know about everybody else.
[00:30:35] But, you know, it's like, so do you have to have those conversations whenever somebody just stops you or tries to condemn you for it?
[00:30:43] I hope not because those people are idiots.
[00:30:46] When I wear my Big Clit Energy t-shirt?
[00:30:48] Yeah.
[00:30:49] I'm pretty sure you get them haters like, oh, why are you objectifying women's bodies and stuff?
[00:30:55] Stuff like people who haven't grown up.
[00:30:57] Yeah.
[00:30:58] You know, it's funny because I wear my t-shirts for conferences, for podcasting conferences.
[00:31:05] It's not something that I, like, necessarily wear, like, out and about all the time because I honestly don't like t-shirts that much.
[00:31:11] I like to wear, like, pretty feminine clothes.
[00:31:15] But I wear those t-shirts specifically during my conferences because it really attracts the people that are supposed to talk to me because they're interested in what I have to say.
[00:31:28] Right.
[00:31:28] And then it also, on the other hand, repels all the people that don't want to talk to me, that are, you know, afraid to talk to me or that are turned off by, you know, having a conversation about Big Clit Energy.
[00:31:42] So, I use it in that way.
[00:31:45] And then, you know, I've worn it to parties also, like lifestyle parties, you know, ethical non-monogamy parties.
[00:31:53] And it's a big hit there, too.
[00:31:57] I'm glad that's a big hit.
[00:32:00] Hey, we support the Big Clit Energy movement over here.
[00:32:03] We support all the naked movements over here.
[00:32:05] So, yes.
[00:32:07] Now, I got to deal with this.
[00:32:10] With the year ending, what is something you learned about sex in 2024 that you didn't know already?
[00:32:17] Hmm.
[00:32:19] Something I learned about sex that I didn't know.
[00:32:22] Huh.
[00:32:25] That's a good question.
[00:32:27] I think, well.
[00:32:28] I think, you know, one of the things that I learned in this year of, you know, my podcast is about the orgasm gap.
[00:32:37] I knew about the orgasm gap because I had experienced it for myself.
[00:32:42] And basically what the orgasm gap is, is that, you know, men typically in heterosexual relationships have more orgasms than women.
[00:32:51] So, you know, in married relationships, let's say, like, men have 95% of the time and women have, like, 56% of the time orgasms each time they have sex.
[00:33:00] So there's a big gap, right?
[00:33:02] So I knew about the gap because I had experienced it myself.
[00:33:06] Like, we would get to the end of our sex session and I hadn't had an orgasm.
[00:33:10] And I was, okay, that's a, there's a gap.
[00:33:12] But I didn't really know that it was a phenomenon that happened across the board in all heterosexual relationships, from hookups all the way to marriage and everything in between.
[00:33:23] So that's something that I learned about through this podcast.
[00:33:26] And my podcast has been around for about a year and a little couple months.
[00:33:31] And so that's something that I learned.
[00:33:34] And as soon as I learned about it, I was like, everyone needs to know about this.
[00:33:38] Everyone needs to know what the orgasm gap is because we all have the potential to close that gap for ourselves with education and with empowerment.
[00:33:47] And so that's why I like to talk about it so much because that is something that I recently did learn about, not just because I experienced it myself, but because I heard about the statistics around it and was like, wow, this is important information that I think everybody needs to know about men and women.
[00:34:04] Because men want to pleasure their partners, right?
[00:34:06] But if they knew that their partner wasn't getting it, right?
[00:34:10] Maybe they're faking it or maybe they're saying that they came but they didn't.
[00:34:17] Men need to know too because they want to pleasure their partners as well.
[00:34:22] Yes.
[00:34:23] And also, us men need to know as well because that way we ain't walking around here with some big dick energy thinking we did something when really we didn't do nothing.
[00:34:31] Because let's say, God forbid, that relationship don't work out.
[00:34:35] The next one we run into, she might be honest with us and then we looking stupid.
[00:34:40] So I really feel like I definitely agree with you.
[00:34:43] I feel like everybody needs to have that conversation.
[00:34:46] Like, hey, if you didn't get yours, then what can we still do?
[00:34:50] Because most times we still interject.
[00:34:54] We don't zap out all the energy in us.
[00:34:56] So we got to figure out ways to go ahead and get them off.
[00:35:00] So I agree with you.
[00:35:02] I agree with you.
[00:35:03] And, you know, what you just said is like, what can you still do?
[00:35:06] Because just because the man suddenly, you know, has an orgasm, right?
[00:35:11] And he came, that doesn't necessarily mean that the whole session's over, right?
[00:35:15] You can continue doing other things.
[00:35:17] So I like that perspective.
[00:35:18] I definitely do.
[00:35:20] And, you know, so absolutely.
[00:35:24] Yes.
[00:35:24] Yes.
[00:35:24] And we got to.
[00:35:26] And I think the biggest thing I learned this year is it's always the ones you don't expect
[00:35:30] that will give you a good time when it comes to sex, you know?
[00:35:33] Because you might be messing around with somebody.
[00:35:36] You're thinking, okay, this is just a one night thing or whatever.
[00:35:40] And then next thing you know, you're like, damn, that was good shit.
[00:35:44] You know?
[00:35:46] Yes.
[00:35:47] Sometimes it's the silent ones that, you know, are the most surprising.
[00:35:54] Never know until you try.
[00:35:57] Yes.
[00:35:58] You never, never know when you try.
[00:36:01] So do you think that's why a lot of women, going back to the pleasuring thing, do you think
[00:36:07] that's why a lot of women are nowadays okay with being in girl and girl relationships?
[00:36:13] It's interesting that you say that.
[00:36:14] And I want to go back to one thing that we were just talking about and checking in after
[00:36:20] having sex, right?
[00:36:21] So, and I think the kink community does this really well because in the kink community,
[00:36:25] they do something called aftercare.
[00:36:27] And aftercare is when you are finished with, you know, the session, you check in with each
[00:36:33] other, you take care of each other, you bring them water, you, you know, you make sure that
[00:36:38] they feel good and whatever that aftercare may be for each person, right?
[00:36:44] But it's a perfect time to check in and say, hey, that position that we just did, like two
[00:36:50] positions ago or whatever, that was it.
[00:36:53] That angle was like exactly what I liked.
[00:36:55] So checking in afterwards is a really great thing to do.
[00:36:59] And maybe it doesn't have to be directly afterwards.
[00:37:01] If you don't feel comfortable at that point and you can do it later, that's fine.
[00:37:05] But checking in afterwards, aftercare is so key.
[00:37:09] And so you just brought up the LGBTQ community, right?
[00:37:13] And, you know, they don't necessarily on both ends, men and women don't experience the orgasm
[00:37:20] gap like heterosexual relationships do.
[00:37:22] And the reason is that because their parts align differently, right?
[00:37:27] They have to have these conversations about who likes what, who does what.
[00:37:32] But you're going to be the top, you're going to be the bottom, you're going to, you know,
[00:37:35] I like oral, I don't like fingering, I don't, you know, all of the things that you would
[00:37:40] have a conversation about to make sure that the other person is comfortable.
[00:37:45] In, you know, the LGBTQ relationships, they talk about early on in relationships.
[00:37:51] And I think that heterosexual relationships can learn a lot from those relationships.
[00:37:56] Because we all should be having these conversations, not just the LGBTQ population, but all people
[00:38:04] in relationships should be having these conversations about pleasure.
[00:38:09] Yes, we, you were, you said, I definitely agree with everything you said.
[00:38:13] We definitely need to have the conversations.
[00:38:15] And if you can't have the conversation with the person, why are you fucking them?
[00:38:19] If you, if you can't have that conversation, then why are we fucking in the first place?
[00:38:23] If we can't have that conversation, I don't care if it's a one night stand or if it's somebody
[00:38:28] I've known for years, if, if you can't bet me, we got to have, we got to have the conversations
[00:38:34] because you just never know.
[00:38:36] And also the sex is a little bit better when you are communicating.
[00:38:39] And I definitely agree with you on that aftercare and stuff, because it's nothing more embarrassing
[00:38:45] than hearing somebody say, oh, a day later or two days later, hey, I didn't get mine.
[00:38:50] I'm like, why you want to say something while we were still there?
[00:38:53] Like, I was still feeling good.
[00:38:55] Like we could have kept going.
[00:38:56] So we need to ask for care.
[00:38:58] Like, even if it's just, we take a little water break and then go over a few things,
[00:39:03] we can keep going.
[00:39:05] Exactly.
[00:39:06] It doesn't end just because the man comes.
[00:39:09] Yes, it does not.
[00:39:11] It don't stop just because we get ours.
[00:39:14] No, we need everybody to get theirs.
[00:39:17] So ladies and gentlemen, yes, we need, we need everybody to get theirs in 2025.
[00:39:25] So that's a nice goal.
[00:39:28] Yes.
[00:39:29] So what is something that you feel like people should start doing in 2025 that, that, that
[00:39:35] can help them get to that point?
[00:39:40] Communication, communication, hands down.
[00:39:42] Telling your partner, you know, let's say top three things that are your favorite, say,
[00:39:49] positions or the way that you like to be touched or whatever it may be.
[00:39:56] Top three things.
[00:39:57] I think that that's a good place to start, you know?
[00:39:59] And talking to your partner is absolutely key.
[00:40:03] Also talking about how you, how you have an orgasm with, without your partner, right?
[00:40:11] What are, what are you doing to have an orgasm without your partner?
[00:40:15] And translating that to the bedroom.
[00:40:18] Don't just say that it's just for when your partner is not in the room with you.
[00:40:22] Why not bring that information right into the bedroom and share it with your partner?
[00:40:28] And, you know, most men want to pleasure their partners, right?
[00:40:32] I think that that's the case.
[00:40:34] I mean, if you're with the man that doesn't want to pleasure you and that doesn't care
[00:40:37] about you, only cares about his own pleasure, then you need to really reevaluate that relationship.
[00:40:42] But I think that in most relationships, men want to pleasure their partners.
[00:40:46] So having those conversations is key.
[00:40:49] And also men need to get over the fact that toys are their friends.
[00:40:54] Okay.
[00:40:56] And, and not to be intimidated by a toy, because if you know the statistics that only three
[00:41:01] to 5% of women can, can orgasm from penetration alone, what's left?
[00:41:07] You need to be able to stimulate the clitoris and not everybody can do it with their hand,
[00:41:12] you know, with the man's hand or the woman's hand.
[00:41:15] Sometimes they need a vibrator or a toy.
[00:41:18] So don't be intimidated by it.
[00:41:20] If you really want to pleasure your partner, be open-minded.
[00:41:22] And it's only going to expand your sex life and make it even better because then you can
[00:41:26] bring in other toys and other things that are, is going to really like blow your mind,
[00:41:30] you know?
[00:41:31] So in 2025, you know, have that goal to like have mind-blowing sex.
[00:41:36] Cause we all can get there.
[00:41:38] Yes.
[00:41:39] With all the shit going down in 2025, all the things that might be stressing us out,
[00:41:44] we need to be having some mind-blowing sex to relieve our minds.
[00:41:48] And, and also to the men out there, I need y'all to be taking out supplements as well.
[00:41:54] You need to start taking the She Legit.
[00:41:56] Order it off.
[00:41:57] I'd rather you order off the TikTok shop or Amazon.
[00:42:00] Don't be going to the goddamn gas station, get them honey packs.
[00:42:03] Cause I'd have heard the damn, I'd have heard people saying they got headaches and stuff
[00:42:08] from getting them damn honey packs.
[00:42:09] And also we need to be taking care of ourselves as well with our diets as well.
[00:42:14] Like it's getting some more fruits in our diets as well.
[00:42:18] And also we got to take, really do better with taking care of ourselves because if we
[00:42:23] do that, we'll be able to last longer.
[00:42:25] And that way we can help them get to their orgasm.
[00:42:27] And yes, and now that is something I'll admit that is on my bucket list.
[00:42:31] So use a toy on a woman.
[00:42:33] To the ladies out there, if I use a toy on you, I'm motherfucking like you.
[00:42:41] You might find that you really like it a lot and you're going to start buying more and more toys.
[00:42:46] And then you'll have a toy chest to choose from, you know, because, um, you know, all of
[00:42:50] them are a little bit different and it's, it is a lot of fun.
[00:42:53] Doesn't every child like to play with toys.
[00:42:55] So adults like to pay with toys too.
[00:42:58] And sex is how adults play.
[00:42:59] And you mentioned feeling good, right?
[00:43:02] And, and, you know, how we can like relieve stress and sex is a stress reliever and it releases
[00:43:08] endorphins in our body.
[00:43:09] It releases those feel good chemicals in our brain and it makes us feel relaxed and it
[00:43:14] makes us feel good and it makes us feel, um, you know, happy.
[00:43:18] So absolutely, um, striving for that mind blowing sex is always a goal.
[00:43:24] Yeah.
[00:43:25] Striving for that mind blowing sex is a goal.
[00:43:27] So would you ever recommend going to a, um, adult toy store with your partner?
[00:43:32] Now, what would you say if somebody wanted to say that to you?
[00:43:34] Like, because I went to an adult toy store and I'm like, you know what?
[00:43:38] I've been in here.
[00:43:39] It's pretty funny, but I would love to go in here with a lady.
[00:43:43] That's, that's another thing on my bucket list as well to hit up the couple stores because
[00:43:48] whatever it, you got to do whatever it takes to keep the people happy.
[00:43:51] Ladies and gentlemen.
[00:43:53] Absolutely.
[00:43:54] And how would you know, you know, what the person's into if you don't explore those things
[00:43:59] together?
[00:44:00] Right.
[00:44:00] So you, if you don't feel comfortable going into a store, you know, um, in person, right?
[00:44:07] Because you're like, oh my gosh, there's so many things in here.
[00:44:09] I don't know where to start.
[00:44:11] And, you know, I'm embarrassed or feel uncomfortable.
[00:44:14] Online.
[00:44:15] Amazon has an amazing sex store, you know, and then there's organic loving.
[00:44:20] You can look on please me dot online.
[00:44:22] I have a huge store on my website.
[00:44:24] You know, look at it with your partner, see what looks interesting to you.
[00:44:28] Do you like to be tied up?
[00:44:30] Do you like to be blindfolded?
[00:44:33] Do you like to, you know, have sensory play?
[00:44:37] Um, do you like vibrators?
[00:44:40] What kind of vibrator do you like?
[00:44:41] You know, all of those things, all of those things can be really fun conversations to have
[00:44:45] with your partner.
[00:44:47] Yes, I definitely agree.
[00:44:48] I definitely feel like those conversations we need to be having because not know what the,
[00:44:53] um, with the orgasm gap.
[00:44:55] We definitely need to have those because there's definitely no excuse of why, you know, no,
[00:45:01] no people are still not having orgasms in 2025.
[00:45:06] A hundred percent.
[00:45:07] I'm with you on that.
[00:45:08] Now, um, now I did pull something from another one of your episodes.
[00:45:13] Um, what is something, what is something you can make for somebody that should, that should
[00:45:17] automatically trigger in their mind?
[00:45:19] Hey, I want to have some sex tonight.
[00:45:21] Like, like as food wise, what's something you could take as a restaurant you could take
[00:45:25] them to, or is it something you can make for them at the house to be like, Hey, that should
[00:45:30] be a, that should be somewhere in their mind.
[00:45:32] I want to have sex tonight without saying I want to have sex tonight.
[00:45:37] You know, I talk a lot about the watermelon challenge and a big bowl of watermelon left on
[00:45:43] the counter can be a perfect indication that you want to have sex that night and watermelon
[00:45:49] hydrates you.
[00:45:50] Um, so it, it, you know, increases your blood flow.
[00:45:55] Um, it also has a chemical called citrulline in it, which acts as Viagra basically, and
[00:46:01] opens up the blood vessels so that more blood can flow to your genitals.
[00:46:06] So, you know, leaving out if you're, you know, partner's not going to be home till late
[00:46:12] and you're already in bed waiting for them, leave them a big bowl of watermelon on the
[00:46:16] counter, you know?
[00:46:17] And, um, that could be a good indication.
[00:46:20] And also it's good for them.
[00:46:22] And so the watermelon challenge is something that I often tell my clients to try.
[00:46:26] It's one week of having watermelon every single day.
[00:46:30] And for, um, you would have four cups of watermelon.
[00:46:34] If you're having red watermelon, there's also such a thing as yellow watermelon, and that
[00:46:39] has more citrulline.
[00:46:41] So you only need one cup of that a day.
[00:46:43] Um, so if you can find the yellow, one cup of yellow, or if you can't find it, four cups
[00:46:47] of the red every single day and see how your body changes over that week.
[00:46:52] And I can tell you that at the end of that week, you're going to have rock hard, um, erections.
[00:46:57] It makes a huge difference with erectile function.
[00:47:01] Oh, that's, that's good.
[00:47:02] Now, as a man, what is something I could give to my lady to be like, hey baby, I want you
[00:47:07] tonight.
[00:47:08] Uh, ordering oysters at dinner is a good indication.
[00:47:13] I think you're talking about the episode with Amy Riley, who is an aphrodisiac expert.
[00:47:18] And that was a really fun episode.
[00:47:20] We came up with this really incredible, um, dinner that you can plan for your partner.
[00:47:26] That was really fun.
[00:47:27] But, um, or yeah, ordering oysters, um, and feeding it to your partner, um, at dinner would
[00:47:33] be really sexy or just feeding each other in general is really sexy too.
[00:47:39] Mm.
[00:47:40] Yeah.
[00:47:41] That's exactly the upside point.
[00:47:42] I'm like, yeah, look at you.
[00:47:43] You know, your episodes like the back of your hand.
[00:47:47] I, I mean, I, it's only been about a year and a little bit over a year and every single
[00:47:53] person I learned from.
[00:47:54] So it's, it's, it's, and that one wasn't too long ago, but she was really interesting.
[00:47:58] And, um, that was a fun episode.
[00:48:01] Yeah.
[00:48:01] Um, yeah, I definitely agree with you.
[00:48:04] And, um, I feel you on that because every, that's why, if you look at my calendar, I've
[00:48:07] had over different guests over the years, cause you learn something from all of them.
[00:48:12] And it's really amazing thing to really learn, um, from all of them from, because you want
[00:48:18] something from everybody new, even people you don't expect to learn something from, you definitely
[00:48:22] learn something from them.
[00:48:24] Definitely.
[00:48:25] Definitely.
[00:48:25] It's been, like I said, it's been a growing process.
[00:48:28] It's been like a healing process, which was unexpected, but definitely a growing process,
[00:48:33] you know, talking to many different coaches and, um, experts in the field.
[00:48:38] So, um, it's been so much fun.
[00:48:41] That's real.
[00:48:42] Now, when it comes to going back to sex, so give them a, what's the sex position that you
[00:48:47] feel like people need to try?
[00:48:49] That's like, it's very underrated because most people, we always go for missionary.
[00:48:54] We always go for doggy or we always go for cowgirl.
[00:48:57] Uh, what is a position that's very underrated that people don't talk about enough?
[00:49:05] Hmm.
[00:49:06] I personally, my personal favorite is reverse cowgirl where the woman is facing away from
[00:49:13] the man.
[00:49:14] Um, because it opens up the area of the clitoris where you can use a, uh,
[00:49:21] toy or your hand to stimulate yourself while you're getting penetrated.
[00:49:24] So any position where you can, uh, touch yourself either with a vibrator or with your
[00:49:34] hand and get penetrated at the same time is an amazing position.
[00:49:39] Those are my favorites.
[00:49:39] Um, also another position that I really think is underrated is, um, the, the spooning position
[00:49:48] where your partner is behind you, the woman's in the front and you're getting, um, penetrated
[00:49:53] from behind.
[00:49:54] Um, and it's incredible how much movement you have available to you in that position.
[00:50:02] Um, you know, it's, it can be like a lazy position when you don't feel like, you know,
[00:50:06] holding yourself up anymore, but it's also a position that can be very active on both
[00:50:12] sides.
[00:50:12] So, um, you know, trying that out, uh, as well.
[00:50:17] Hmm.
[00:50:18] That's some, those are some very interesting positions.
[00:50:22] I hope ladies and gentlemen, y'all are definitely taking note.
[00:50:25] If you haven't done so already, I hope y'all are definitely, um, taking note.
[00:50:29] Um, so based on the feedback that you've gotten from people, what's the position that you feel
[00:50:34] like people just need to stop doing because it's not good for the, it's not good.
[00:50:39] There is no position.
[00:50:40] That's not good.
[00:50:41] Okay.
[00:50:42] That's what's up.
[00:50:43] Yeah.
[00:50:44] There is no position.
[00:50:45] That's not good.
[00:50:45] And I have to say like during my first season, what my, my final question of every single
[00:50:51] episode was what's your favorite sex position.
[00:50:54] Right.
[00:50:54] And, um, I was surprised to hear missionary because that's my least favorite sex position.
[00:51:00] Um, and, and the reason why it's my least favorite is because when the man is on top
[00:51:05] of me, I can't reach to touch myself.
[00:51:08] You know, there's just no space.
[00:51:10] So, but missionary also has a lot of ways to, um, change it up.
[00:51:15] Right.
[00:51:15] So you can do missionary with legs over the shoulders.
[00:51:18] You can do one leg over the shoulder.
[00:51:20] You could do legs over their elbows.
[00:51:22] There's a lot of ways to change up missionary where you do create some space between the
[00:51:27] man and the woman so that you can have that, um, uh, external, uh, stimulation of the clitoris.
[00:51:34] So, um, playing with the positions is something that is also fun too.
[00:51:39] It doesn't always have to be exactly the same, right?
[00:51:41] So, um, all positions are good.
[00:51:44] And I was surprised to hear so many people loved missionary.
[00:51:47] Um, and the reason why, um, most of the people said that they loved that position was because
[00:51:54] they could look into their partner's eyes and they can eye gaze with them.
[00:51:59] And that helped to form a connection with them emotionally.
[00:52:03] So, um, if that's what you're into and you want that emotional connection, that is a great
[00:52:08] position.
[00:52:08] So really it's, you know, every position is amazing and trying different ones is a lot of
[00:52:15] fun and finding out what your faves are is part of the exploration.
[00:52:19] I mean, like I said, this is how adults play.
[00:52:22] So if you're only playing one game your whole life, you're going to be bored.
[00:52:25] But if you're playing all different sorts of games, you're going to have a lot more fun.
[00:52:29] So explore exploration is key.
[00:52:32] Yes.
[00:52:33] I definitely need somebody that wants to explore because it's boring as hell when the person
[00:52:38] only wants to do one position saying what's funny is that person only wants to do missionary.
[00:52:43] I'm like, ma'am, I know it's good and all, but can we, can we explore switching up?
[00:52:48] God damn.
[00:52:49] Absolutely.
[00:52:50] Absolutely.
[00:52:51] And, you know, sometimes you have to try something new and, and see how they like it
[00:52:56] and then try something else and see if they like that too.
[00:52:58] I mean, it has to come from both sides, but you're right.
[00:53:01] If you're only doing one position all the time, that is extremely boring.
[00:53:05] And that's why, you know, sometimes sex starts here in early on in relationships.
[00:53:10] Right.
[00:53:10] And, you know, maybe the other person is doing it because they know that they want to catch
[00:53:15] that partner.
[00:53:15] Right.
[00:53:15] But once they get them, they're like, I don't want to do that anymore because it's kind of
[00:53:20] like not as exciting or it's not, it doesn't feel that good.
[00:53:24] And I've just been doing it because, you know, I want to please them, but it wasn't really
[00:53:28] pleasing me.
[00:53:29] Both sides need to be pleasured.
[00:53:31] So it's important for both sides to be pleasured.
[00:53:35] Yes.
[00:53:35] Both sides need to be pleasured.
[00:53:37] And also you got to keep that same energy in the relationship because from the start of
[00:53:42] the relationship to the end of the relationship, you got to keep that same energy because people
[00:53:46] get bored quick.
[00:53:47] If you say we're going to have sex and it's just the same positions, people are going to
[00:53:52] get bored quick and then you might not be orgasming from those positions.
[00:53:56] Unless of course, it's just that position that we already know that it's going to get
[00:54:00] there, you know?
[00:54:01] So, and variety is key.
[00:54:05] Variety is the spice of life.
[00:54:08] Yes.
[00:54:09] Variety is definitely the spice of life.
[00:54:11] Now, going back to the episode where we were talking about the different kings and stuff,
[00:54:17] what is something people need to avoid like eating or having before having sex?
[00:54:25] Oh, okay.
[00:54:26] Okay.
[00:54:28] So I would say anything that is going to make you gassy, I would definitely avoid.
[00:54:35] So, and everybody's body and constitution is different.
[00:54:37] So for me, it's like cabbage, you know, Brussels sprouts.
[00:54:43] You know, there are certain things that like I put into my body and immediately I'm like,
[00:54:47] oh, that was not a good idea.
[00:54:49] You know what I mean?
[00:54:49] And everybody knows what those things are for themselves.
[00:54:53] So avoiding those types of foods.
[00:54:55] Also, what my guest had said on that episode was avoiding heavy foods because, you know,
[00:55:03] you don't want to eat like a gigantic steak and then your body is all the blood is flowing
[00:55:08] to your stomach to process and to break that down.
[00:55:11] So you're going to have less blood flowing to your genitals afterwards.
[00:55:15] And if you want to bring that person home after a nice meal, you want to eat something light,
[00:55:20] something easy to digest so that you have that blood flow later on for other areas.
[00:55:25] And blood flow is the key to great sex because a man needs blood flow for an erection and a
[00:55:30] woman needs blood flow to be engorged.
[00:55:33] And a lot of people don't realize that a woman has to become engorged in order to have sex.
[00:55:37] Otherwise their body's not ready and they might not enjoy it.
[00:55:40] It may be painful.
[00:55:42] So blood flow is key for both a man and for a woman.
[00:55:47] Yeah.
[00:55:48] Well, now see, I just learned something new right there because I knew we needed blood flow.
[00:55:53] I didn't realize that women needed blood flow as well.
[00:55:57] So that's something.
[00:55:58] The blood flow is the key, ladies and gentlemen.
[00:56:00] So if y'all got to eat light or take some supplements to get the blood flow right, then
[00:56:05] you got to do that.
[00:56:07] Absolutely.
[00:56:08] Absolutely.
[00:56:08] Or, you know, have some watermelon on the side afterwards.
[00:56:11] That's going to help with that blood flow.
[00:56:14] Yes.
[00:56:15] Yes.
[00:56:15] Now, can we debunk the myth before we get out of here?
[00:56:18] Because so many people think you're supposed to be dead tired after sex.
[00:56:22] Because I remember years ago, people, I had a sex podcast host on.
[00:56:27] They were like, how the hell were you still energetic enough to play video games after sex?
[00:56:32] I was like, I was just energetic shit.
[00:56:34] Yeah.
[00:56:35] So do you have to be dead tired after sex for it to be good?
[00:56:40] No, absolutely not.
[00:56:42] You know.
[00:56:42] Thank you.
[00:56:44] Some people get sleepy after sex.
[00:56:47] And, you know, that is common.
[00:56:49] But not everybody does, right?
[00:56:50] And so if you want to play video games or you want to cuddle or you want to go have a meal
[00:56:55] or you want to have snacks or whatever that may be, you know, it's totally normal.
[00:57:01] Yes.
[00:57:02] A lot of times people do get sleepy, but and men often have a refractory period where they
[00:57:07] need a little bit of time before they can get another erection.
[00:57:11] And oftentimes they'll get sleepy during that time.
[00:57:13] But not everybody's the same.
[00:57:15] Right.
[00:57:15] So know your partner.
[00:57:17] Figure out what works for them.
[00:57:18] That is the key because everybody's different, whether it be a man or a woman.
[00:57:23] Yes, that's real.
[00:57:25] All right.
[00:57:25] So what is your major plans for your podcast for 2025?
[00:57:32] Well, I'm going to keep putting out episodes every week.
[00:57:35] I just started doing ad free episodes on Patreon.
[00:57:41] So I'm going to be building up my Patreon, you know, profile to have even more amazing
[00:57:50] content on their webinars.
[00:57:53] And I will be taking big clit energy to a course.
[00:57:59] So I've done a couple of speaking engagements about how to get big clit energy.
[00:58:05] So I'm going to be taking that and creating a course around how to get big clit energy.
[00:58:11] And so that will be an offshoot of my show.
[00:58:14] That's real.
[00:58:15] And lastly, why don't you tell the people why they need to subscribe and tap in with the
[00:58:19] Please Me podcast.
[00:58:21] I mean, why wouldn't you?
[00:58:23] If you want to have mind blowing orgasms, this is the place to go to listen to all sorts
[00:58:29] of conversations regarding sex, sexuality, sexual health.
[00:58:33] And if you have a sexual health condition, this is a great place to go to learn more about
[00:58:39] those conditions so that you can get those issues fixed so that you can have that mind
[00:58:45] blowing sex.
[00:58:46] Right.
[00:58:46] Because there is no shame in having any kind of sexual health condition.
[00:58:51] Yes, that's real.
[00:58:52] And Eve, I want to thank you for joining me today on Liquor Talk.
[00:58:56] Thank you for having me.
[00:58:57] Thank you for joining the Liquor Talk.
[00:59:00] Now, if you ever need a male's perspective on anything, remember, we're in the same state.
[00:59:05] So if you need me, I'm just a DM away.
[00:59:07] I look forward to collaborating with you again.
[00:59:09] If you ever want to come back on because you want to talk about some more sexual things,
[00:59:13] I'd definitely love to have you back on.
[00:59:16] And I'd love to help you out any way I can.
[00:59:19] Fantastic.
[00:59:19] I love when we help each other out.
[00:59:22] That is so key.
[00:59:23] And absolutely, I would love to be back on the show.
[00:59:25] And yeah, we need to talk about maybe you coming online.
[00:59:28] Let's see what we can decide to talk about for the show.
[00:59:31] It'll be a lot of fun.
[00:59:33] Yeah, let's do it.
[00:59:34] And thank you again.
[00:59:35] And thank you again to all the subscribers.
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