Ep 302: Confessions and Sex Advice feat Pinky Swears Podcast

[00:00:02] Brand new episode starts now, walking on walking her by to another edition of Girl Folks Conversation with some liquor and shot everybody that's checking in checking out Liquor Talk for the first time or whether it's your 300's time. I definitely appreciate all the support.

[00:00:19] I mean, maybe Victor podcast here on Florida today. We've got a returning guest. She is now the host of the Pinky Swears Podcast podcast out of New York.

[00:00:28] Is Sierra Sierra. Welcome back to Liquor Talk.

[00:00:31] Hi, hi. Hey, hey, hey, what's up? What's up? I'm doing good at how are you?

[00:00:37] I'm great. It's great to have you back on in.

[00:00:40] It's the music.

[00:00:42] Yes, yes.

[00:00:44] It's great to have you back on talking about this rebrand because last summer at John it was a hurricane party. It was the wet lounge podcast. Now you're under a new podcast name.

[00:00:55] Talk to me about the rebrand. Yes, okay. So the rebrand. It's been coming for a while.

[00:01:02] If you're here and you're in the stream and you know the wet mouth, please don't curse me out because I know I have been gone for almost two years now.

[00:01:12] Almost on this grand hiatus, but in this entire time that I've been ghost online. I have been working behind the scenes to create a new podcast Pinky Swears, which I believe still holds the theme of the wet lounge, which is an explicit sex based podcast. Okay, but this time we're going to elevate that you know we're going to get a little bit more mature. We're going to get a little bit more grown in sexy.

[00:01:37] You girl is starting to already in January, okay? So we're going to elevate what I really want to do. I'd like to curate a safe space for women's of Phil scene and her but not expose because I know this one I'm out with my friends or I'm at work.

[00:01:53] The things that women say were amongst each other you never know that that's what we're thinking about certain subjects that could be motherhood.

[00:02:00] We're instead out of mother but I sympathize and I understand where my friends are coming from to the best of my ability.

[00:02:08] Or with our own men and the relationships or maybe your child's father or your husband maybe your girlfriend, however you get down.

[00:02:16] But you know it's the things that we don't talk about because society has told us women are supposed to do ABC.

[00:02:23] You're supposed to endure womenhood and it's like the girls are afraid to age they're afraid to get older they're afraid to step into those shoes of womanhood and you shouldn't.

[00:02:35] I don't feel like womenhood is something that we endure. That's something that you're supposed to show up to your supposed to conquer your supposed to actively take participation in and curate those special moments in your life.

[00:02:48] Build this community and your community will build back into you and some people may not have community so we're going to build that here together.

[00:02:54] I'm going to create a space where the girls come together and relax and release on all levels. Let's put our hair down take our wigs off, loosen the breeze whatever and let's talk about what we do it.

[00:03:08] Where we go in and how we go and get through it together you got me I got you're going to figure it out.

[00:03:15] So that's what we do on this new show. That's the rebrand.

[00:03:20] But that is what's up. I'll be early birthday. Shout out to all my January birthdays out there. I'm not going to sister and a mother who both celebrate January birthdays.

[00:03:31] One is that the top of January to others towards the middle of January. So pretty sure you follow somewhere in there.

[00:03:38] We like that. We like that. I know a lot of people born in January. So shout out to us.

[00:03:44] We want everybody else having moment because the greatest is on the way is so good.

[00:03:50] That's true. Speak them almost. I do want to give a quick chat birthday shout out to two of my burgo's.

[00:03:55] Shout out to my grandmother who are both celebrating birthdays this month. The Virgo season shout out to y'all. You know, so I know we might not talk as much great the love still there.

[00:04:05] You know, so we always got love for the family. But go back to UCR.

[00:04:09] I don't you know it was time for you to rebrand from the wet lounge podcast.

[00:04:15] I knew it was time to rebrand.

[00:04:18] By sitting on the side lines, you know, I just knew there's more that I can do here. There's more that I want to do and maybe it's just time for me to venture out so low for a second.

[00:04:31] You know, see if I can create that dream platform and I know there's always things that come about where what you expect of what you try to put in you may not get out.

[00:04:42] But I'm a very relentless person. I don't give up so I think that is time.

[00:04:48] I've also been sitting on the sidelines and I've been seeing the nonsense out here in these streets.

[00:04:53] I'm just saying nonsense. It's time to call it out. It's time to call it out. I think the streets need to be. I think they need to be. So I'm back. Okay, you got to go get an issue.

[00:05:03] Man, listen, I took like two months off and the streets while we're calling me back. I'm like, as I said, the S going on, I'm like down.

[00:05:11] I think it's just too much because all this BS going on. So it's like we did we need in these podcast streets out here.

[00:05:20] Okay, maybe you got to hear the raw and filter the Rajshad Chai, a little resin dazzle. You got to hear it. Like if you don't hear from us, if you hear from me, able by one. So you know, how do you like the queries. So just just sort of just happen which I got is we got you.

[00:05:40] Yes, we yes, we got you over here this sage got you over here as well on the look at talk. So talking about the whole process of rebranding, you know, said, because sometimes people can rebrand and the first friend was better than, you know, the current brand they trying to push on people.

[00:05:57] Right, right. I think that's always a thought like what if my first show turns out to be more successful than I let show.

[00:06:08] And I feel like that's something that's time will tell, but I mean the people go where I go. So you know, but on a serious note, on a serious note rebranding it can be hard, especially for me if you're creative like thinker if you're deep in thought when it comes to things that you like,

[00:06:27] to do and you're crashing a project, then you know what it's like to feel like you're good at everything. All of your niches and all of your ideas or hobbies, you're once you feel like you can execute it all.

[00:06:40] And that's how I feel sometimes like I can do a podcast about this. I can do a podcast about that.

[00:06:46] So I need to sit down and really think what is important to me right now, what message am I trying to get out now? And that message is speaking on women's reproductive health, especially in these current times where our rights are being taken away from us. So I want to educate the girls.

[00:07:02] I found out that I have stage two and do we trio says last October when I had an ovarian system moved off of my ovary.

[00:07:11] I'm okay everything's okay, but you know that was a little taking back for me because I know what endo is, but I only know the fearful side of endo, we trio says so when I got the news or whatever, I felt like wow my life was over but I have a doctor she is a black woman.

[00:07:31] And she sat me down and she educated me on the real facts in the midst of endo. And I feel better you know I do what I have to do some days are hard some weeks are hard, but it's this is what we do.

[00:07:47] I show up, I show up, I keep going and I keep curating those moments despite what's happening in the background of my life.

[00:07:54] So I got to manage on it, but there are so many girls that don't know that they have endo because we are told that womenhood hurts you know these things hurt.

[00:08:06] It's supposed to feel like this, you're too young to feel like that and I want to teach women of all ages of all ages because it's never too late to learn about self advocacy.

[00:08:16] I want to teach everyone to speak up for yourself. Nobody will believe you as hard as you believe yourself.

[00:08:24] You have to keep going, you have to keep talking to people and so someone listens and that's in every aspect of your life. You have to keep speaking, you have to keep speaking up and speaking out.

[00:08:34] And I just want the girls to know that. On top of tapping into their cells, tapping into their egos, tapping into their true inner beings you know you don't have to be performed, you don't have to be afraid to say I don't like this or I really want that.

[00:08:50] Speak up for yourself. So that's what I want to do and a fun caring and educational way.

[00:08:55] And yeah, so once I got that together, I knew I was perfect to do this. I was ready to come back. I had my facts. I had everything set up. So now we hear.

[00:09:08] That is what's up. I'm glad you were able to overcome that disease. I started. I had to hear that you haven't seen but I'm glad you fully recovered from that while always rooting for you over here.

[00:09:19] And also I appreciate you for sharing even sharing that because that's definitely deep. You know, it's not definitely.

[00:09:25] Definitely appreciate you sharing that and definitely putting us on game on that kind of matter itself. So black people we definitely need to talk to our doctors and stuff.

[00:09:33] And also now can members of fathers, a mid that our fathers subdaughters. What should advice to them in listen to his podcast?

[00:09:43] I really feel like maybe they can get something from this as well to help them understand because they always say us men don't really understand women until we have a daughter of our own.

[00:09:53] And I believe that in a lot of cases that can be true and that's okay to a certain extent. But I think that as a society we should stop weaponizing the lack of know how that mills may be presenting because the information is out there.

[00:10:11] But on the other side of that, I understand that there may not be spaces where men feel like they can go to learn these things without being judged or a feeling as though their motives are different than what they're saying and I understand that. So hopefully watching the show you will learn something that you can use to maybe your daughter or your wife or yourself in general, you know, but listen to your daughters when they talk about their pains.

[00:10:35] They're not just the emotional but those physical pains, you know, like my parents had me young at like 20 and 22 and growing up, you know black people. You hurt him if it's not broken and bleeding. Go later. You later on you later on.

[00:10:53] And that's it, you know, but you have no idea what those things can lead to when they're older. So I'm dealing with things that I experience as a child that I'm taking care of now and that's cool because again, you take charge of your life.

[00:11:10] But listen to your daughters, you never know what they're going through and it's their first time. It's their first time every year that they get older. They are taking a step towards womenhood and they're figuring it out.

[00:11:23] So they don't know everything and you don't want them to get that information from their friends and with the way social media is today you do not want them to feel like they have to learn something about their bodies through a threat on Twitter.

[00:11:36] That's not that's not conducive. You really don't want that for them and I get that it may be uncomfortable but that's why I do this show because we've got to tackle those conversations where it's like, oh, I would never say that I don't allow. Well you have to that's the problem. We got to say these things out loud because we don't will never bridge these gaps.

[00:11:53] And I believe you know if you speak to your daughter now, she may not want to talk about it. But give her grace, give yourself some grace is your first time as well dealing with it.

[00:12:04] I speak to the left of it all that they came talk to you and just listen, listen before you ask the question is because they might talk and answer the question anyway. So just just take your no senior just keep going.

[00:12:18] That's right. I definitely will so listen, send me a lot of that with daughter as you heard from Sierra you definitely listen to your daughters and also what single moms with sons you definitely need to see sons as well because that education is important as well as like we've got to deal with our pains whether whether we're young or spoken we can't be what I work for our parents it ain't gonna work for us. So we definitely got to educate our says because

[00:12:44] times it's changing now and this is giving you more ridiculous every day.

[00:12:49] Every single day and you really have to be surprised. It seems like for the younger generation of the boys and the girls they don't really have excuse me the widest getting to me.

[00:13:03] It doesn't seem like they really have spaces you know like we had there were 10 clubs up you know there were 10 clubs that you could go to the roller skating rinks they were open there were more handball courts that were open the kids were outside even if it was just outside and front of the building you know they're jumping rope in one of the bikes and scooters.

[00:13:22] They're at the after school centers, but they don't have these things anymore and they're so purpose like after school is social media and it's just an out of place for kids there's some things that are kids from the online.

[00:13:36] But for the most part they're getting all the damaging parts of society shut down in your brains 24 7 and that's the problem.

[00:13:47] That's the problem to a certain extent because they're young they're impressionable it's easy to tell them to don't pay go outside such some grass is easy to tell them to don't that because by this point you should be able to differentiate which we should issue regardless of what social media says but to a kid.

[00:14:03] Everything is a joke everything is a party you know you don't care about any of that so you know it's like it's it's very sad so I would say if you can.

[00:14:14] Mentor the youth that was a conversation I seen on Twitter, you know, members saying they don't want to mentor the youth if they're not speaking with these these kids parents and it's like that's that's actually terrible like.

[00:14:26] What do we even say to that that's terrible because those kids don't act to be here maybe they do have fathers what about the ones that have fathers but their fathers are disabled and can't take them outside and do things with them.

[00:14:37] So they have to suffer like you know like we have to show up in our community guys everybody has to show up everybody complains that there's no village but are you pouring into yours that's the question that you have to act just so.

[00:14:51] For real definitely for real we definitely need to be tapping it.

[00:14:55] Taping tapping back into our villages and stuff we definitely need to be looking up for our kids regardless of the relationship with the mother or father or whatever we definitely need to because we had that grown up is no Santa because.

[00:15:08] Some of the methods was I had that they weren't trying to hit it with my mom you know saying and it's like so if we had that grown up we definitely give that to these kids nowadays because the government trying to shut all this shit now.

[00:15:22] We got to care about each other now more than anything matters matters for us and that is where the kids everything is really going on and doing it like what's what's the harm to show it up for people away that you want to show up for you.

[00:15:35] I'm not saying over the same yourself I'm not saying you're fool for anybody but.

[00:15:40] You can't get what you don't put in so.

[00:15:44] That's really that's so real ladies and gentlemen once again this is look at talk to more your drink the better we sound shot everybody list this on apple podcasts Spotify I are radio also to any potential sponsors listen to is.

[00:15:57] Hi, let your boy and I'm saying it because we will be probably liquor's on here as well so.

[00:16:01] Speaking of liquor's on somebody show favorite.

[00:16:06] What was your I'm not going to ever drink again store because we all have this store that everybody says oh I'm never going to drink again which is cat.

[00:16:16] But anyway what shows for you I'm never going to drink again.

[00:16:20] Oh my god I feel like I have so many Jesus Christ.

[00:16:26] I feel like I just have one two weeks ago.

[00:16:29] I'm really mad.

[00:16:34] Man, man, oh man.

[00:16:36] I don't even know how I made it so work.

[00:16:38] I don't know how I made it so work and it's so bright in there.

[00:16:41] I feel like I was dying at that desk.

[00:16:44] Okay my never drinking in.

[00:16:50] Let me see four Christmas is a go.

[00:16:53] I'm in DC and we're drinking red nephews from if y'all familiar.

[00:17:00] Oh shit.

[00:17:02] Yes that was my first time having it my first time and it was so nasty it was that that's all we got that's what we're drinking.

[00:17:13] I'm like okay I'm a tough it out I'm a tough it out I don't know what happened.

[00:17:18] I know I had to be shut.

[00:17:20] I know I had two mixed drinks.

[00:17:23] I know I had five yellow shots.

[00:17:25] I don't know anything else.

[00:17:28] I woke up in the morning.

[00:17:30] My lashes were in the toilet.

[00:17:32] My wig had vomit in it.

[00:17:34] My clothes had vomit on.

[00:17:37] It was terrible when I say my head was hurting.

[00:17:41] It felt like somebody hit me with a hammer directly into my eyes.

[00:17:45] I'm directly in between my eyes and hurt so that sleeping did not help.

[00:17:50] I never my life.

[00:17:51] I was contemplating going through the ER just to get the IV.

[00:17:55] I've never in my life felt like that.

[00:17:57] Like let me go to the no, I never taught that I would be doing that but I was getting drugs like yeah we're going to go to the ER.

[00:18:04] Mind you when DC George Washington's ER that's like a 14 hour wait.

[00:18:11] They don't have to go through it.

[00:18:12] You're going to shut you're going to sit down.

[00:18:15] They don't care out there.

[00:18:17] They do not care.

[00:18:19] I was going to go and sit there to get the IV and then I realized what's the play by the time I get there

[00:18:25] I won't be drinking more.

[00:18:27] So I talked it out.

[00:18:29] I threw up all day long.

[00:18:31] My throat started bleeding from throwing up.

[00:18:35] And that's what I said never the fuck.

[00:18:39] I will never do this again.

[00:18:41] I was off liquor for 45 days and then I broke and did it again.

[00:18:48] Yeah, I felt that that's crazy.

[00:18:52] I'm seeing when you're first like one of you because I was hanging out with some people a few weeks ago

[00:18:57] We had to ran if you they were watching what they say.

[00:19:02] They were just like hey, he's taking these.

[00:19:05] So at least they were looking out.

[00:19:07] It's not like you're fringest thing.

[00:19:09] I'm not going to be like, oh, no, no, no.

[00:19:09] Nobody warned me.

[00:19:10] And I mean we're there with the IT's because it's the uncle's.

[00:19:15] Nobody warned me.

[00:19:16] Nobody ever warned me.

[00:19:18] It's like people look forward to seeing me look a hot mess off the liquor.

[00:19:23] Nobody ever warned me.

[00:19:25] It's ridiculous.

[00:19:26] And I think sometimes before I drink,

[00:19:29] it just, I don't know what it is.

[00:19:31] Like, if we're home for the night and we decide we're getting drunk.

[00:19:35] We're getting drunk like so.

[00:19:38] I don't know, but I don't know.

[00:19:41] I actually calm down.

[00:19:42] So now I drink in doses if I drink.

[00:19:45] But in songs this month, I'm a relax.

[00:19:47] Do it again and maybe three weeks.

[00:19:50] You know.

[00:19:51] Yeah, I definitely cook at it.

[00:19:53] I don't, I definitely, I know only my mid-30s.

[00:19:56] I don't drink like a damn college.

[00:19:59] Because you know, college students take it.

[00:20:02] You know what?

[00:20:02] I'm so sorry. That's the sounds of drugs.

[00:20:06] Oh, Lord. We got this cup.

[00:20:09] Cops going on in the Bronx.

[00:20:12] And the crazy part is I am so sure the sirens don't need to be on.

[00:20:17] They always act like they do a siren.

[00:20:18] You know what I mean?

[00:20:21] Yeah, New York's police is really energy with sound self-satisfied.

[00:20:25] Okay, it's right now.

[00:20:26] I'm sorry, y'all. I look want to say a little bit more.

[00:20:30] Yeah.

[00:20:30] Oh, damn. That's unfortunate.

[00:20:33] Living on the second floor, you know what I'm saying?

[00:20:36] Yeah, that's out to New York's finest for introducing themselves to the final.

[00:20:44] Yeah.

[00:20:45] And I was praying like so hard that would not happen.

[00:20:47] We were doing so well.

[00:20:50] But hey, we got through.

[00:20:51] Hey, we still don't do it though.

[00:20:53] You know what I'm saying?

[00:20:55] But let's talk about these confessions because I see

[00:20:58] you be posting this stuff and how you be in one.

[00:21:03] People are confess to you instead of enormously.

[00:21:06] So what's the best of these confessions you've got so far?

[00:21:09] Okay, so I'm going to hope because when this does drop obviously I'm going to be

[00:21:18] posting this on my story. So y'all know what to tap it and tell your parents.

[00:21:23] But I'm praying like this guy don't watch it because

[00:21:27] he follows me now.

[00:21:29] So this guy, and he doesn't seem to understand.

[00:21:33] But when you text somebody that you know,

[00:21:37] Apple will say maybe that person.

[00:21:40] You get what I'm saying like for those I have.

[00:21:43] Yeah, Apple does do that.

[00:21:46] Yeah, Apple Apple was a dry sledge.

[00:21:49] But but the guy text the line

[00:21:52] and he explains to me that he enjoys having sexual relations.

[00:21:58] With trans-sexual women.

[00:22:01] However in the case,

[00:22:02] the same guy is constantly on Twitter

[00:22:07] bashing trans-sexual women.

[00:22:10] And I'm looking at the text he's like and I got a girlfriend and she don't know.

[00:22:15] And I'm trying to get her to understand that I want to ask play.

[00:22:19] So I'm reading and I'm like this is not a confession.

[00:22:22] This is a story. You're telling me a story.

[00:22:25] You wrote paragraphs.

[00:22:26] Because he's really getting into how he wants to be.

[00:22:29] But he's like I'm trying to explain

[00:22:30] I heard that I want to buy her a strap and I want her to put it in the line.

[00:22:33] And I really want her to fuck me like I'm fucking hurt.

[00:22:35] And I'm like well now I want to ask them how he's fucking

[00:22:38] or like you have a one leg up.

[00:22:40] Like what you're doing? What you're doing?

[00:22:41] I don't know but I don't text that.

[00:22:44] So he's just right and he let him go.

[00:22:46] He's like but I feel like if I do that,

[00:22:48] she's going to think I'm gay.

[00:22:49] Of course that's what you think.

[00:22:50] I've got all the things that you said.

[00:22:52] Your biggest concern is looking gay out of everything you just said.

[00:22:56] Because he's really descriptive.

[00:22:58] He was like I want to put the dough dough inside of her.

[00:23:00] He was like then I want to put it in my ass.

[00:23:03] So we could fuck each other at the same time.

[00:23:05] And I have like how does that work?

[00:23:06] Because I never did bullshit like that.

[00:23:08] So I'm thinking damn how's that work?

[00:23:12] Like this is really a something free to ask for.

[00:23:14] Like this is ridiculous.

[00:23:17] So like this can't be what I think it is.

[00:23:20] Lo and behold is the nigga that's always bashing somebody on Twitter.

[00:23:23] I'm like see you can't act like that.

[00:23:26] That's very ugly sir because I know who you are now.

[00:23:29] I know who you are now and that's very ugly.

[00:23:32] So I want to be fucked by your girlfriend.

[00:23:34] But you judge it on the people that want to be fucked by their girlfriend.

[00:23:37] I like that.

[00:23:38] I like that but whatever he submitted it.

[00:23:42] It's going up.

[00:23:43] It's going to be posted.

[00:23:44] I want people to give him some advice.

[00:23:46] I got to live ice that ended.

[00:23:47] Figure it out.

[00:23:48] Because you ridiculous.

[00:23:50] I think you're.

[00:23:52] My only advice to him will be come up.

[00:23:54] Got them closet, man.

[00:23:55] Because that's the only thing I can think.

[00:23:58] It's like, oh my god, damn closet.

[00:24:00] If you like a man just say that, you know what I'm saying?

[00:24:03] Because what man is going to talk about getting fucked in there?

[00:24:07] That's the description of being gay.

[00:24:09] And that's what I'm trying to explain to him.

[00:24:11] You get what I'm saying.

[00:24:12] That's what I'm trying to explain to him.

[00:24:14] I'm like, I can't write that because that's just not what we do.

[00:24:18] I don't write that.

[00:24:18] I'm going to post it in the people on the page.

[00:24:21] They will talk to the, to the anonymous person.

[00:24:24] And also I don't want them to know that I know who he is.

[00:24:28] Because that was not the goal.

[00:24:29] Let's, that's a disclaimer.

[00:24:31] If you had my personal number at any point in time,

[00:24:35] please get a fake number for the text that text number.

[00:24:40] Because yes, that's a Google number.

[00:24:41] But it's set up to like home.

[00:24:43] You get what I'm saying.

[00:24:45] So it will come up as maybe so and so even if I believe it's the number already.

[00:24:50] So I'm trying to present you all identity, a best thing you want to take from this protect yourself.

[00:24:54] Get a fake app for two minutes.

[00:24:56] Then delete it.

[00:24:57] But yeah, I want to make sure I want to do it.

[00:24:58] I'm a read in me.

[00:24:59] So it is what it is.

[00:25:03] Yes, that that's amazing.

[00:25:05] So what made you say?

[00:25:07] I want to read these people's confessions because I've seen some confessions.

[00:25:10] And I'll be like.

[00:25:12] You said that in the show.

[00:25:14] So that's the whole spill of the pink you survived.

[00:25:17] Yeah, it's like I said, you know, it's a safe space.

[00:25:20] So we're going to talk about it all.

[00:25:22] Like we're going to talk about sex.

[00:25:23] Like talk about your fantasies.

[00:25:25] The things that you would like to try,

[00:25:27] but you feel like if you disclose that to a man,

[00:25:30] he may look at you sideways because who can't see me looks at you sideways.

[00:25:34] Get another man.

[00:25:35] Like it's a couple of times like why are we limiting ourselves here?

[00:25:39] So you know how long like can be if you live long enough.

[00:25:43] Like the soul long,

[00:25:45] do you really want to be 72 years old and feel like 40 something years

[00:25:49] to spend on mediocre sex?

[00:25:50] You don't want to be that guy.

[00:25:51] You don't want to be that girl.

[00:25:53] I want to be that girl.

[00:25:55] Have better sense people have better sense.

[00:25:57] Let it out there just relax.

[00:25:59] Let it out.

[00:26:02] So that's what we're going to do here.

[00:26:04] We're going to talk about it.

[00:26:05] We're going to talk about it because we're going to talk about it.

[00:26:09] Why not?

[00:26:10] Who's going to stop us?

[00:26:11] Nobody's going to stop us.

[00:26:12] So that's just how it is.

[00:26:13] We're going to talk and hopefully like through doing that,

[00:26:16] people will talk to people like this person like what I like.

[00:26:19] That person can't sell.

[00:26:20] I can't you know it's not just me.

[00:26:22] But people are always talking about their kids and shame.

[00:26:25] And it's like that's why the black community is so small within the

[00:26:29] can't community.

[00:26:30] Everybody want to do something.

[00:26:32] Nobody want to talk about it.

[00:26:33] Talk about it.

[00:26:34] Everybody else is how you want to join a party if you want to get involved.

[00:26:39] Yes, yes.

[00:26:41] We need to talk about it.

[00:26:42] We definitely need to be out here talking about it.

[00:26:45] Because as the podcast says, I enjoy the sex podcast.

[00:26:47] I enjoy having the sex podcast is come on.

[00:26:51] We have these sex conversations.

[00:26:53] So I enjoyed that shit you know what I'm saying.

[00:26:56] So we definitely need to have these conversations and we need to be comfortable with

[00:27:01] being uncomfortable with the conversations.

[00:27:04] And that's really what it is.

[00:27:05] People don't want to look at certain way.

[00:27:07] People don't want to and I get it and I totally get it.

[00:27:11] I have this guy recently and he hit me up.

[00:27:15] God, I hope he doesn't watch this episode.

[00:27:18] But if he does, sorry, right?

[00:27:20] I'm talking about you.

[00:27:23] But we probably kicked it maybe four times.

[00:27:26] You know, did the little grown-up or whatever.

[00:27:30] But that was years ago like I'm talking like under 25.

[00:27:35] Like I was probably 21 or something like that.

[00:27:39] Like I had to wrote that right and so long.

[00:27:41] I don't even want to know what it's like anymore.

[00:27:43] I want to see what's sitting for.

[00:27:44] But he's always asking a link and I'm always telling him no.

[00:27:48] And he asks why and I have to explain well, you give that head.

[00:27:52] And it's 21.

[00:27:52] I didn't know how to say it but it's 29.

[00:27:54] I'm not telling you.

[00:27:55] It's not good.

[00:27:58] It's not working for me.

[00:28:00] So to save you the heartache, I'm just not going to come over because that has

[00:28:05] been a bad and you're so in the fact that's not going to work.

[00:28:08] It's not going to work for me.

[00:28:09] Maybe somebody else, not the needle.

[00:28:13] And he don't get it.

[00:28:15] Like he feels like I'm bugging out.

[00:28:16] I'm like, is this thing on?

[00:28:20] Like can you hear me?

[00:28:21] Like what's wrong with you?

[00:28:23] That head does not equate to getting fucked.

[00:28:26] That's not how that works.

[00:28:28] He not kids.

[00:28:29] You're not going to put up with certain stuff to be nice.

[00:28:32] Like bugging nice.

[00:28:34] That shit like, I don't want it.

[00:28:37] I do not want it.

[00:28:39] He still think I'm playing.

[00:28:41] So maybe I need to see this episode.

[00:28:43] Maybe he'll realize I'm not playing.

[00:28:45] Bro, it's not good.

[00:28:47] Yes, I.

[00:28:49] You got to put out a way to improve that head.

[00:28:52] You know what I mean?

[00:28:56] It's like no.

[00:28:57] It's not good because with those type of conversations come up with the girls.

[00:29:01] He's always one of the people I think of when I think of a mediocre time as far as head is concerned.

[00:29:06] Just like that's all I know.

[00:29:08] I'm not just saying it to be funny.

[00:29:09] I truly mean it.

[00:29:11] It was not good.

[00:29:12] Like stay away from me with that.

[00:29:13] I don't want it.

[00:29:14] Like stay over there.

[00:29:16] You know, believe you know, I don't grow shown that because believe her.

[00:29:20] There's missing one of that.

[00:29:21] They don't give good heads to.

[00:29:22] I'll be like, man, if you're doing this like it's a goddamn short.

[00:29:26] If you don't perk up at an appointment start and you show me what you're doing.

[00:29:31] I'm working with.

[00:29:32] Okay.

[00:29:33] If I got to get on my face, you know what I'm doing?

[00:29:39] I'm screaming.

[00:29:41] No, no, that's so real.

[00:29:42] That is so.

[00:29:44] That's so real.

[00:29:46] Because I know people.

[00:29:49] I know people and I have seen certain people's videos.

[00:29:53] Oh, whatever.

[00:29:54] Some of us got those friends.

[00:29:55] You might send our videos.

[00:29:57] Oh, whatever the case maybe.

[00:29:58] And I had to teach my friends like y'all.

[00:30:02] That's not that's not good headed.

[00:30:04] Because we exchange a video.

[00:30:05] They're like, you're really good at it.

[00:30:07] I'm like, what do I mean?

[00:30:09] You know, you already know.

[00:30:12] Like, like, dumb, get it?

[00:30:13] It's like, why don't you get at it?

[00:30:15] Like, do you need tips this he not?

[00:30:17] This he not tell you about yourself?

[00:30:19] Is he not judging you or the head?

[00:30:22] Like, you feel like that's okay.

[00:30:23] They're like, what you feel like bro?

[00:30:24] That's dry.

[00:30:25] They're like, how was your mouth on him?

[00:30:27] He's still dry.

[00:30:28] What type of head is that?

[00:30:30] If somebody looks you, you'd be wet right?

[00:30:32] How is he still dry?

[00:30:34] So now we're literally in her basement.

[00:30:37] Trinking teleport.

[00:30:38] We're drinking teleport.

[00:30:39] We're like 19 years old.

[00:30:42] We're like 19 years old.

[00:30:43] We're like 19 years old.

[00:30:43] Drinking teleport in a basement.

[00:30:45] And I'm trying to demonstrate how they need to give head.

[00:30:49] In order to have better outcome and get a better reaction.

[00:30:52] They're like he never makes noise.

[00:30:54] He never comes.

[00:30:55] I'm like, yeah, I don't know.

[00:30:58] I don't have that problem.

[00:31:00] Like y'all are well in.

[00:31:02] Y'all are bugging out.

[00:31:03] So I had to teach him because I can't have my girls out here like that.

[00:31:08] I can't have you out here like that.

[00:31:09] Going outside and then we all sides together.

[00:31:12] And we see the guy.

[00:31:13] They're going to be talking about you.

[00:31:15] Not he talking about me because they talking about you.

[00:31:17] We got to get you up to speed.

[00:31:18] We got to get you up to speed A-saps.

[00:31:20] The next time you see him maybe he can make some noise.

[00:31:23] You're all the fuck up.

[00:31:25] So maybe you know, maybe.

[00:31:29] But that was all of the years ago.

[00:31:31] Obviously give a class now.

[00:31:32] I would charge for it.

[00:31:35] And you will should.

[00:31:36] I would charge for it.

[00:31:37] I would charge for it.

[00:31:38] I would charge for it.

[00:31:39] I would charge for it.

[00:31:39] I would charge for it.

[00:31:41] You must make you sex.

[00:31:46] And that's what I'm saying.

[00:31:48] Like sex.

[00:31:49] I was like maybe you get a patreon account and give some class.

[00:31:52] You know, you can get it.

[00:31:52] I just have a lot of classes or some of them.

[00:31:54] I said because I got to say I have to save the girls.

[00:31:57] One class at a time.

[00:31:59] But it's okay because we go and get it together.

[00:32:01] We want to share some tips.

[00:32:02] Some tricks.

[00:32:03] You know, when we walk you out.

[00:32:05] Yeah.

[00:32:06] And well, yeah, it you might want to give some fellows some tips as well.

[00:32:09] Because I haven't gone lie.

[00:32:10] Um, when I was young girl, I checked gave me some game on how to get paid.

[00:32:13] And guess what?

[00:32:14] Just mouth, I'll help me improve for the next shape.

[00:32:17] I'm not going to hit him.

[00:32:19] Because I was a young, back when I was a young,

[00:32:23] whipper snapper still learned the game, you know,

[00:32:25] sense.

[00:32:26] That's what I was a boy.

[00:32:28] Yeah, back when I was a boy, you know,

[00:32:30] sense.

[00:32:31] So I would definitely, because you

[00:32:33] I need to give a guy some game too,

[00:32:34] because a lot of women like they ain't gonna come out

[00:32:37] and say it like you are, but now we understand why

[00:32:40] they might be keeping around this sorry as

[00:32:42] up and maybe because he probably given better hit.

[00:32:45] No, and I had some realized that I had

[00:32:48] some realized like, ladies, you gotta stop

[00:32:52] crying.

[00:32:54] That's another part of womanhood.

[00:32:56] Womenhood don't mean mediocre sense.

[00:32:58] Like, no, can we close that orgasm gap?

[00:33:01] Please, like, no way out here doing dicks.

[00:33:04] And the orgasm gap is that fucking wide.

[00:33:07] I refuse to fucking believe it.

[00:33:09] You better not fucking believe it.

[00:33:11] Get fucking active, sis.

[00:33:13] Please shake some fucking ass.

[00:33:15] Do something.

[00:33:17] No.

[00:33:18] Absolutely fucking not.

[00:33:19] How these niggas that it's not good.

[00:33:23] It's not good if you have to show him something,

[00:33:26] like, you watch porn, show him a video like this.

[00:33:30] Like if you got to show him, show him like this.

[00:33:32] And I think gets it up when you want to show him, please.

[00:33:35] Get another niggas.

[00:33:36] What they're only excited about,

[00:33:38] and they don't work, get another niggas.

[00:33:40] And that niggas don't work, get to niggas.

[00:33:42] Get to niggas if you got to.

[00:33:44] But get rid of that niggas because you lot of him,

[00:33:47] then he goes to the next girl with the mediocre sex.

[00:33:50] She always gets fucked, the she never comes.

[00:33:52] She don't tell him, hey, thank you that niggas.

[00:33:54] He goes to the next person, then he runs into me.

[00:33:56] Now I got to tell him, and he think I'm saying anything.

[00:34:01] What they're about, it's just been a story.

[00:34:03] I will not be busy.

[00:34:05] I ain't got no reason to care enough to lie to you about you

[00:34:09] or on you.

[00:34:10] And I am afraid nobody's gonna tell you to show you.

[00:34:13] Because once I tell you where does it go from here,

[00:34:15] now what you want to say, oh, like, oh, it's not good.

[00:34:19] It's not this.

[00:34:20] It's fucking like that.

[00:34:22] Licking me like the it is simple.

[00:34:24] It's simple.

[00:34:25] It's really simple because we can't keep going out like that.

[00:34:30] I'm tired of seeing the orgasm gap is like,

[00:34:32] what, what, what?

[00:34:35] 11% bro, that's not good.

[00:34:37] Yeah, I saw that too.

[00:34:38] I was like, God, damn what the hell is that?

[00:34:41] That's not good.

[00:34:42] And then we all here have been kids and not orgasming.

[00:34:47] Damn, so people don't know how you get pregnant,

[00:34:50] but you don't orgasm.

[00:34:52] That listen, but do you understand

[00:34:54] if only 11% of women out of the population women

[00:34:58] that are having sex or experiencing orgasms?

[00:35:00] But there's more than 11% of the child bearing age

[00:35:04] women that are mothers.

[00:35:06] Something eight right here, something's not right here.

[00:35:09] Get active, tell these and niggas is bad.

[00:35:12] Tell them it's bad so that when somebody does finally tell them,

[00:35:16] maybe they could say, well, so when some did's home

[00:35:18] that before, maybe she not just saying shit.

[00:35:22] That's why let them re-know you like to massage.

[00:35:25] Let's live on a gay gang up,

[00:35:26] so something go get inspired or some shit.

[00:35:30] But we cannot keep allowing,

[00:35:32] we can't keep weaponizing a bullshit.

[00:35:35] We just can let.

[00:35:36] We just gonna have some, the 11% y'all can have some fashion.

[00:35:39] I'm not for it.

[00:35:40] I'm not for it.

[00:35:41] So, no, be local.

[00:35:45] That's real, that's real.

[00:35:47] Now I feel a question day of pop up on my mind.

[00:35:50] When do we tell them to help them work it out?

[00:35:53] Or is it, how does it taste?

[00:35:56] How do you know if it's somebody that you want to help them

[00:35:58] improve, you know what I'm saying or compare it to somebody

[00:36:01] you just want to get them out here

[00:36:02] because it's so bad.

[00:36:03] What's the difference?

[00:36:06] It's that that where you can't even consider

[00:36:10] helping them then don't.

[00:36:12] I always say if it's not a fast yes,

[00:36:14] it's a slow no and a no is still a no.

[00:36:18] So you may as well just say no,

[00:36:21] like just saying all of you don't want to do it.

[00:36:24] Like anything else because at the end of the day

[00:36:27] like pussy, little good to guard the safety guy,

[00:36:29] little pussy but are you working?

[00:36:32] That's the thing.

[00:36:33] Like are you coming?

[00:36:34] That's the real issue here.

[00:36:35] So it's like yeah, figure it out

[00:36:38] and figure it out fast

[00:36:39] because that's going to build resentment.

[00:36:42] You bad, did you never have an orgasm?

[00:36:46] He's just delusion.

[00:36:47] So he's not getting it together.

[00:36:50] You not, you not in it to help him.

[00:36:53] You not feeling good just just leave.

[00:36:56] Let it be somebody else's problem

[00:36:57] and hope that she gets out of it fast enough.

[00:37:00] But it don't got to be a problem

[00:37:01] because that's his problem.

[00:37:02] But if that's your person

[00:37:04] if that's the person you really want to be with

[00:37:06] if you feel like this is different than sex

[00:37:08] you can't teach them something.

[00:37:12] Then hey, you know how I do that

[00:37:13] but just knowing to get off like when you find yourself

[00:37:16] angry for no reason he even did that.

[00:37:19] Just leave.

[00:37:21] That's true, it's like yeah, I don't know

[00:37:23] you just leave because if this somebody

[00:37:25] I feel like we can make some work.

[00:37:28] I'm still let's go to the sex.

[00:37:29] So let's buy some.

[00:37:30] Let's just try some shit.

[00:37:31] You know, let's roll up when he's got them sex stores.

[00:37:34] Let's just try some shit, you know what I'm saying?

[00:37:36] Right, right.

[00:37:38] That's an interesting thing.

[00:37:39] You share the great shit I don't know.

[00:37:41] Some something like go on the website,

[00:37:44] some mutual masturbation and go to the sex stores,

[00:37:48] go online, find a favorite porn star watch there.

[00:37:51] Make some tape your phones to the ceiling,

[00:37:54] record just those.

[00:37:55] So like things something.

[00:37:57] Yeah, it just please don't go live

[00:37:59] and try to act like you got that.

[00:38:02] I'm looking at you long.

[00:38:04] I'm looking at you long.

[00:38:06] Go on.

[00:38:07] Because I'm like, what do you think?

[00:38:10] I know who's selling.

[00:38:11] Well, what do you where you think I'm like?

[00:38:13] Guys, first of all, first of all,

[00:38:15] I just my first reaction was,

[00:38:18] is he talking that bitch through it?

[00:38:20] That's the last thing I ever wanted to take here

[00:38:22] was shed and sharp talking somebody through their orgasm.

[00:38:26] I never needed to hear that.

[00:38:28] I never needed to think could have put my whole life.

[00:38:30] My second thing was that man and that damn life.

[00:38:33] You know, you're a liar.

[00:38:34] He's like, you're because you're following life

[00:38:39] by accident.

[00:38:39] You've never been on life on Instagram ever.

[00:38:43] But also, and we live by accident now y'all.

[00:38:46] I'm not always laughing but I have to use it a few times.

[00:38:48] Correct me if I'm wrong.

[00:38:51] That only happens that you've been on life before.

[00:38:53] When you're very first going life

[00:38:55] with the first time, there's like the little props that pop up

[00:38:58] and you got to press the okay,

[00:39:00] but in all that other nonsense,

[00:39:02] you're phone did not go through them props and press the okay,

[00:39:05] but it just find you tossing it on the bed.

[00:39:07] Who kind of iPhone you guys?

[00:39:09] Cause I don't got the 15, maybe the 15 to say now.

[00:39:11] I don't know about, but you're following that first all

[00:39:14] been put in on the way from your hand to the sofa.

[00:39:18] You and a lot, if you try to beat them allegations,

[00:39:20] I say, I see you, I see you, I think.

[00:39:23] That's true.

[00:39:24] That's true.

[00:39:24] I'm like, my life process is like,

[00:39:27] that's probably, that's probably what you're trying to do

[00:39:29] is come clean and show y'all look.

[00:39:31] I'm not this gay, I said, you're trying to make me out to be.

[00:39:35] Because because I know for a question,

[00:39:37] it's time you gotta go through them props to go

[00:39:39] and they're gonna check it, connection and shit.

[00:39:41] So you got to go live.

[00:39:43] So yeah, you're not fooling up by over here.

[00:39:46] Right, right?

[00:39:47] Like that's not going to, like as soon as I heard,

[00:39:51] explanation, I was like, he lying in here on my home room.

[00:39:54] Oh, he's so stuck.

[00:39:55] Oh, he's so much of my lie.

[00:39:56] I said, cause motherfucker's being lying girl,

[00:39:58] I was like, he lied.

[00:39:59] I was like, you've been a lot of good boy.

[00:40:01] I was like, it's not a one button process.

[00:40:03] It's not like taking a picture by accident.

[00:40:06] I'm like, how is phone do that?

[00:40:07] She's like, oh no, you're right.

[00:40:08] I'm like, oh no, I'm right.

[00:40:09] Like get off my dick.

[00:40:10] I know I'm right.

[00:40:11] I know.

[00:40:12] I know.

[00:40:12] I said that.

[00:40:14] He's lying.

[00:40:15] But somebody told me that on his podcast,

[00:40:18] he admitted that he did it on purpose.

[00:40:23] I didn't watch the full podcast.

[00:40:26] So I don't know.

[00:40:26] I just see the clips on mine.

[00:40:28] So maybe he did admit to do it on his own.

[00:40:32] But as a stands right now with my mind,

[00:40:34] that nigga was lying.

[00:40:37] Yeah, he was lying.

[00:40:38] He did come out and say yeah, that was me.

[00:40:40] But I'm like, you can't be standing,

[00:40:42] make them a shit about your phone.

[00:40:44] If you write on your phone,

[00:40:45] immediately it was you.

[00:40:47] So you kind of gave yourself up, you know?

[00:40:51] Just lie to us for what we have.

[00:40:53] Could it just need to do the job?

[00:40:55] Right.

[00:40:56] And if whoever's doing your PR, they need to be fired, man.

[00:40:59] Because that's the only one PR.

[00:41:01] They should just tell you, hey, just come out now

[00:41:03] and just say it was you because guess what?

[00:41:06] The internet slips are going to find out.

[00:41:08] They didn't of course everybody was looking for who this chick was.

[00:41:12] I'm like, you know, Zimada fuckers.

[00:41:18] They go through all these people.

[00:41:20] That's all of it.

[00:41:22] I'd like you, motherfucker.

[00:41:24] You're trying to pay out who this Michelle is.

[00:41:26] And they got people named Michelle Sam.

[00:41:28] No, it would be me.

[00:41:30] I'm like, okay.

[00:41:32] I love it.

[00:41:33] I love it.

[00:41:35] It was hilarious.

[00:41:36] Oh, man, with the funny part was the conversations

[00:41:39] that sparked from that on Twitter shortly after.

[00:41:42] Like I didn't realize that there was so many women

[00:41:45] that have never been talked through their orgasm.

[00:41:48] And it's just like, y'all not fucking with the real love

[00:41:51] to do.

[00:41:52] Y'all not fucking with the real dickers.

[00:41:55] Like, I'm not talking through it.

[00:41:57] What's he doing?

[00:41:59] I don't know.

[00:42:00] I don't know.

[00:42:00] I don't know.

[00:42:01] I don't know.

[00:42:01] I don't know.

[00:42:02] I don't know.

[00:42:03] It all goes back to what I said.

[00:42:05] You got to curate those moments.

[00:42:07] Like, I'm very big.

[00:42:08] I haven't been experiences.

[00:42:11] So I'm very selective when I have sex because I always feel this

[00:42:16] low because of the orgasm.

[00:42:18] I got, there's a chance that this man may come and I may not.

[00:42:23] And I can't have mediocre sex.

[00:42:27] So I try to hand-pick certain things like news to gauge if this is going to be a good

[00:42:34] time or not.

[00:42:35] You know what I'm saying?

[00:42:37] So I like to proudly say, I'd be fucking with the real dickers.

[00:42:40] I'd be fucking with the real dickers.

[00:42:42] I haven't had mediocre sex in a couple of years.

[00:42:46] Ever since I started taking charge and getting straight forward, just being about it,

[00:42:54] just not being around the bush.

[00:42:56] Things have been going my way in certain categories.

[00:43:00] And I love that for me.

[00:43:03] So yeah, no.

[00:43:05] Like, get sure of that.

[00:43:05] That's going to talk you through it.

[00:43:07] You know what I'm saying?

[00:43:08] Don't pull your hair.

[00:43:08] It might slap a little bit.

[00:43:10] If you answer that.

[00:43:11] Don't let nobody slap you.

[00:43:12] That's not your thing.

[00:43:14] Don't don't accept that.

[00:43:15] That's that's marketing.

[00:43:18] So you got to carry some moments.

[00:43:19] You got to go out there what you want.

[00:43:23] You're blessed.

[00:43:24] You are a really blessed, you know what I'm saying?

[00:43:26] It's amazing.

[00:43:27] So give away this one.

[00:43:30] Bless you guys.

[00:43:31] Because I don't want people to think like, oh, so every experience is like, no, if

[00:43:35] there are some languages, I don't get them wrong.

[00:43:37] I come across the languages a lot.

[00:43:39] But you got to gauge who you entertain and how you entertain them.

[00:43:45] I don't believe everybody that gets your number should link you or sleep with you because

[00:43:52] they got your number off of your parents in a quick conversation.

[00:43:56] But in that time, speaking, no way you can met with everybody.

[00:43:59] You need.

[00:43:59] So you shouldn't be sleeping with everybody.

[00:44:00] And you want to do what to do because such a little bit of a tough one would be

[00:44:03] safe.

[00:44:05] But that's just now my vibe.

[00:44:06] You get what I'm saying.

[00:44:07] And I can tell, I know how I like to be treated.

[00:44:10] I know how I intend to treat a man.

[00:44:14] So if the conversation is my goal in a certain way, if you're telling me off,

[00:44:18] rip that our intentions aren't aligned, is you even like certain ideologies.

[00:44:24] I can't get behind like certain ways that a man thinks they'll turn me off and now we're

[00:44:29] never having sex because you think like that, you think like an insult.

[00:44:32] And that's not going to work for me.

[00:44:34] So some people call it judge me.

[00:44:36] I just call it picky.

[00:44:38] You get what I'm saying.

[00:44:39] Like, I know doing some all different types of walks of life.

[00:44:42] But everybody cannot have access to you and they shouldn't.

[00:44:47] So I just feel like be picky.

[00:44:49] And I feel like because I'm picky that's why I have the good experiences.

[00:44:53] But don't get me wrong.

[00:44:54] A lame get blocked every month.

[00:44:57] But blocked in the book, this two different things.

[00:45:00] I have the blocking they're going to say I've booked and they never realized he's lame.

[00:45:02] So hey, it happens.

[00:45:06] You know what I'm saying?

[00:45:06] We sometimes just got to take our elves and move from himself.

[00:45:11] Like that morning signs.

[00:45:13] And if you feel like maybe I'm being too harsh, really, really think about it.

[00:45:17] And if you've got to act the most unbiased person, you know,

[00:45:21] action, mom.

[00:45:23] Because the answer might piss you off.

[00:45:24] But I bet you she ain't going to love action, mom.

[00:45:27] And if she say that she sound crazy, maybe maybe you sound crazy.

[00:45:31] But if she agrees with you, then maybe it's not you.

[00:45:36] Maybe it's actually what you're thinking and you should go comfortable enough to say it.

[00:45:40] If you were comfortable enough to to link them in half such,

[00:45:43] you shouldn't be comfortable enough to say whatever with respectable means of course.

[00:45:49] Yeah, that's true. That's real.

[00:45:51] Now for the men down listen to this, what's something you would just let's all you see

[00:45:55] in all the men that we're like, you know, you need to fix this shit, you know.

[00:46:02] Men not letting the women be women.

[00:46:05] You're not letting the girls be girls.

[00:46:08] And it's so annoying.

[00:46:10] It's so annoying to me like, okay, like that little fun, you know,

[00:46:15] that little fun phrase.

[00:46:16] I'm just the girl.

[00:46:17] Like it's men like, I don't know if you keep it, like,

[00:46:20] don't be like in the comments like, oh, when they were more applied to something

[00:46:23] like in the shade room, and she's like, I'm just the girl.

[00:46:26] Random men that don't know this girl from corn, corn y'all,

[00:46:30] and he like, I'm sick of you bitches.

[00:46:33] You will grown out so many people about 30,000 years old.

[00:46:35] I was like, you're a hell of fucking mad in these comments.

[00:46:39] You don't even know her.

[00:46:40] Like what is all that even about?

[00:46:42] It's just the same.

[00:46:44] It's just fun.

[00:46:44] You upload people are doing this for real, for real, and their professional lives.

[00:46:48] And I don't mean just chit chat with their coworkers.

[00:46:51] They're dead as doing this in their professional lives.

[00:46:53] It's just the social media joke.

[00:46:56] Let women be women.

[00:46:56] Like, you don't want to see women dance.

[00:46:58] You don't like to see women wear wigs.

[00:47:00] You don't want to see women go out with their friends.

[00:47:03] Like, it's weird when a man says,

[00:47:05] where's the women with no friends?

[00:47:06] Why do you want to women with no friends?

[00:47:08] So that way every time you want to be alone,

[00:47:10] she's always with you because she has nothing else to do.

[00:47:15] Like, that's what that is.

[00:47:17] Like, a person with no friends, you should run from me

[00:47:20] because why do you not have any friends of your own?

[00:47:24] Like, it's cool to be with your person, even if you always want to be around them.

[00:47:28] Like, you have no other outlet outside of your person.

[00:47:31] That's a problem.

[00:47:33] So I always wanted to be able to grow Tesla and

[00:47:35] never looking for a woman with no friends.

[00:47:37] Like, that's just strange to me because I bet you got friends don't you?

[00:47:40] Like, it's just strange.

[00:47:42] Like, let girls be girls.

[00:47:43] Like, let them go out with their friends.

[00:47:45] Let them go on trips.

[00:47:47] Like, the fuck, like, look them wear makeup.

[00:47:50] They don't want to swear makeup.

[00:47:51] They don't want to see get our nails done.

[00:47:52] They're like, they don't want you to do shit.

[00:47:54] But the type of women that they say,

[00:47:56] like, they never go on after their women.

[00:47:58] Like, I'll never understand it with dudes that don't like girls that go out.

[00:48:02] Be talking to me.

[00:48:03] Like, you might be a happy hour.

[00:48:05] Clearly, I like to go out.

[00:48:07] So you're shitting, be talking to me because I have no intentions on not going on.

[00:48:10] To happy hour to make you happy.

[00:48:12] I don't know you.

[00:48:14] I don't know what to hell y'all are meeting me these men at.

[00:48:17] But I'm like, that's just childish to me.

[00:48:19] And this is coming from a man's appointment of view over here.

[00:48:22] Because I'm like, that's just childish.

[00:48:24] I've learned from Mary.

[00:48:26] I've taught the Mary couples and they all have said the same thing.

[00:48:28] Sometimes you got to let your partner go out and have a life outside of you.

[00:48:33] Let them miss you in something like that.

[00:48:35] Let them have a story to tell you when they come back.

[00:48:37] That's why I don't be respecting dudes that always want to be up under the girl ass out of time.

[00:48:42] I really don't be respecting them there.

[00:48:43] I'll be like, I've been going to check them but then I'm like,

[00:48:46] it's not my place.

[00:48:47] You know what I'm saying?

[00:48:47] But they're like, I'm like, mm-hmm.

[00:48:50] No, no, no.

[00:48:51] It's crazy.

[00:48:52] No, no, no, no, no.

[00:48:54] If you happy, you happy.

[00:48:56] I wouldn't tell nobody what to do.

[00:48:58] I'm just saying because we all know those people.

[00:49:01] You always put that person but it's so easy because you don't have friends.

[00:49:05] Because you know what you did.

[00:49:06] You would be with them at some point in the month.

[00:49:08] You only put that person because you do not have friends.

[00:49:11] And I just think that it strange for a grown-in man with a job and friends of his own.

[00:49:16] So not once you have friends of your own, why do you see not what you're going to go outside?

[00:49:21] And please, let's be with a whole, oh, you never know what a person will want to do.

[00:49:25] The same shit that they could do when your house.

[00:49:28] That's what a person will want to do if that's what they want to do.

[00:49:30] You got to miss me with the cycle, that people could do whatever they want to do.

[00:49:33] Whenever they choose to do it and think that's facing opportunity.

[00:49:36] The same bullshit they could do outside, they could do in your home.

[00:49:39] Let that grow go outside.

[00:49:41] It's strange.

[00:49:42] It's not.

[00:49:43] It's strange.

[00:49:45] Yes, let them go outside and if they are out there cheating on you, guess what?

[00:49:50] They will make us sick because, you know, say most of the things that just go outside,

[00:49:55] they will go outside with the intentions of cheating on you and stuff.

[00:49:58] That's just where people will need to heal from previous partners.

[00:50:03] And that means what I'm talking about?

[00:50:06] Yeah, because I guarantee if it's somebody out there who's like, oh, you can't do this.

[00:50:10] No woman needs to be doing that.

[00:50:11] It's probably because of woman did to him.

[00:50:13] He hurt and from it.

[00:50:15] And that's all that that's about.

[00:50:17] It's just, you gotta let that go.

[00:50:19] Like you gotta let that go.

[00:50:20] Papa, it's not, it's not a good look.

[00:50:24] And it's just so weird.

[00:50:25] It's just strange.

[00:50:28] Every day I be looking at it and like, I don't understand.

[00:50:31] And I get it, but it's like, I don't know.

[00:50:37] I've never understand it.

[00:50:38] I do not know.

[00:50:39] I don't know.

[00:50:40] If you're like, you're the one side of it and it's of it all.

[00:50:43] I guess for me, I noticed I have good experiences because I don't

[00:50:47] I try my best not to implicate double standards into the situation.

[00:50:53] And a lot of people, they want double standards at their convenience.

[00:50:58] They want to be able to do something while that person can't do it and it's okay.

[00:51:01] But if the roles of reverse, they don't want the roles of reverse.

[00:51:05] You get what I'm saying?

[00:51:06] And it's like, that's not what that's going to work.

[00:51:07] If you want to live under double standards, then you have to understand that

[00:51:11] that's just how it's going to be.

[00:51:13] Like, you want to be on bullshit.

[00:51:14] And she's going to be on bullshit because you're keeping up with several

[00:51:17] people who know that sense that really don't need to exist.

[00:51:21] As it needs to exist, like I've been in full relationships with

[00:51:24] dudes that have female friends.

[00:51:26] And that's okay.

[00:51:27] I have a guy friends and it's like, friends, if no, I don't have

[00:51:30] more guy friends than I have girlfriends, but I was free to go to my

[00:51:35] guy friend's house.

[00:51:36] And I'm there literally for hours.

[00:51:38] If you want to know what those hours consist of rolling up and watching

[00:51:43] long order or the temptations, like, literally we are like

[00:51:47] addicts when it comes to those two things, one order in the

[00:51:51] temptations movie.

[00:51:52] That's all we do when we're together and we do the little dance

[00:51:55] up to the movies.

[00:51:57] That's it.

[00:51:58] There's people that can't fathom that that's all that goes down.

[00:52:01] And it's like, don't you understand for something to go down, two

[00:52:04] people have to be attracted to each other.

[00:52:06] It's quite possible for this man to think I'm ugly.

[00:52:09] It's quite possible for me to think he's ugly.

[00:52:11] But we can still be friends.

[00:52:13] Like, people got to get out their heads.

[00:52:16] I just don't know what it's about.

[00:52:17] I don't know what it's about but I think people got to get out their heads.

[00:52:21] And they got to relax.

[00:52:22] You got to relax, relate, release.

[00:52:25] It's not that deep.

[00:52:27] It's not that serious.

[00:52:28] Like, touch some grass and yes, sometimes you're going to get caught out there and

[00:52:31] people will play you leave them people.

[00:52:34] You have what you got to stay with them people.

[00:52:36] You do not leave them people.

[00:52:38] Do the people that move on.

[00:52:40] Move on the next day if you want to take a year and heal.

[00:52:43] If you want to just move the fuck off and just move on.

[00:52:47] I like, I don't know.

[00:52:49] I don't, I don't want to like complicate things anymore.

[00:52:52] Like it just is what it is and it is when it ain't,

[00:52:54] move on.

[00:52:56] And that's the fact and you shouldn't have to complicate things.

[00:52:59] It's like because I definitely thought to write one a thing

[00:53:02] so I'm not going to complicate things would just slow naturally.

[00:53:05] You know what I'm saying?

[00:53:06] That's what he does.

[00:53:07] I'm going to find a way to work things out together.

[00:53:09] Like, because I'm not no double standard.

[00:53:10] I'm going to go hang on my people and hey, if someone who doesn't hate,

[00:53:14] they know what it is, you know?

[00:53:16] Right.

[00:53:16] Because keep this in mind people.

[00:53:19] People in the friends zone, not all of them want to fuck in.

[00:53:22] If they want to fuck, they would have been fucked, you know.

[00:53:25] So they keep that in mind.

[00:53:27] Right.

[00:53:27] And don't get me wrong.

[00:53:28] There are some people that wait.

[00:53:32] I thought I had a guy, my friend.

[00:53:34] We met.

[00:53:35] We were two years apart.

[00:53:36] I was 17 and he was 15.

[00:53:38] And I mean, for years, for years, we're just cool.

[00:53:42] You know what I'm saying?

[00:53:43] And then I think like year 7 of the friendship,

[00:53:49] like year 6 of another friendship, he's trying to fuck.

[00:53:52] And I'm like, did you grow three inches overnight

[00:53:54] and lose your fucking marbles?

[00:53:57] Like, bro, I, we're not doing that.

[00:53:59] Like, are you all shucking my, like, you're crazy?

[00:54:01] You're fucking crazy.

[00:54:02] We're not doing that.

[00:54:04] He's like, well, why not?

[00:54:06] I'm not going for that long.

[00:54:06] I'm like, okay, we are strangers.

[00:54:08] Mind you, we're friends for six years.

[00:54:10] I'm like, whoa, we're fucking strangers.

[00:54:12] Okay, we don't even know each other like that.

[00:54:14] What do you mean?

[00:54:16] I'm not not fucking you.

[00:54:17] How no, we never spoken can after that.

[00:54:20] We never spoken yet.

[00:54:22] And I still have to move on Facebook.

[00:54:23] Sometimes he says happy birthday.

[00:54:25] But it's just like, you fucking tweet.

[00:54:28] Like, why would you ruin the relationship like that?

[00:54:31] Why would you do that?

[00:54:32] I still have our videos and stuff that come up on Snapchat

[00:54:34] and it's like, you love your fucking mind.

[00:54:37] Like, what's wrong?

[00:54:39] Like, so in that moment, I understand when guys is like,

[00:54:42] I don't trust it, but it's like,

[00:54:44] can nobody fucking grow if you grow no one to fuck.

[00:54:47] So I do with that information which you will,

[00:54:50] like, I don't know.

[00:54:51] I don't know.

[00:54:52] It's like I said, you got friends.

[00:54:54] And she can't have friends but you got friends.

[00:54:57] Is you and your friends?

[00:54:58] That's the problem.

[00:54:59] That's how I look at it.

[00:55:01] Yeah, I'm not here for them double standards in this like,

[00:55:05] because we all go kicky.

[00:55:08] No, I'm saying, you know what I'm saying?

[00:55:09] You can't release it.

[00:55:11] But in the like and say, if there's something else,

[00:55:13] I really feel like time will show itself.

[00:55:16] You know, I'm saying because women are smart,

[00:55:18] but guess what?

[00:55:19] People can be sloppy out here nowadays.

[00:55:21] So they're going to fuck up and guess what?

[00:55:23] They will fuck up at the right time.

[00:55:25] And that's all of that comes down.

[00:55:27] So like, that's all you always come down.

[00:55:29] You just got it and joy today for what it is.

[00:55:32] And that doesn't mean like be a fool again,

[00:55:34] but like just enjoy the day, enjoy the people you hit,

[00:55:38] be thankful to what you've gotten.

[00:55:39] Just move forward.

[00:55:40] Like just enjoy the vibes because it could be going tomorrow.

[00:55:45] Or you might be here for another 100 years.

[00:55:49] Enjoy the day because we ain't never want to be this young,

[00:55:53] beautiful little again.

[00:55:57] Enjoy it.

[00:55:58] Just enjoy it.

[00:55:59] Yes, we definitely enjoy it because I know people in their 50s and 60s,

[00:56:04] they wish and they could be in their 30s of game.

[00:56:06] You know what I'm saying?

[00:56:07] So we definitely have to enjoy this shit.

[00:56:11] Right.

[00:56:11] And not just that like, I don't know what I've realized.

[00:56:15] What size?

[00:56:16] Because I never really live by double standards.

[00:56:18] I guess having a brother and being the oldest out of us too,

[00:56:22] I always knew double standards was bullshit.

[00:56:23] Like I was definitely that kind of daughter to call my dad out

[00:56:27] because he was like, who do things and whether we do things.

[00:56:29] And I'm actually showing you doing that because he's a boy.

[00:56:31] But he's stupid.

[00:56:32] He's a stupid boy so you're going to let him do this and he's stupid

[00:56:36] whereas I have common sense.

[00:56:38] And I can't do it.

[00:56:40] So I already knew when I got older.

[00:56:43] Like I can't, I can't do the double standard thing.

[00:56:47] But those, it's from what I've noticed,

[00:56:49] it's rare to find a guy that is on the same page as I am when it comes to dating

[00:56:58] and the flow of getting to a relationship.

[00:57:02] I'm a data like I'm not going to meet a guy today

[00:57:05] and I'm not going to not talk to other people because I'm texting this guy that I met today.

[00:57:10] That's not how that works.

[00:57:11] So like at least not for me.

[00:57:14] And a lot of people are like that but I know those people are always the ones saying

[00:57:17] they have one relationship left in them.

[00:57:19] And it's like of course you do because you're investing all of your time,

[00:57:22] all of your energy and all your emotions.

[00:57:24] It's a people.

[00:57:24] You're not even getting into full relationships with.

[00:57:28] And you can't blame anybody but you're so for that after a certain time.

[00:57:33] Because who told you to do that?

[00:57:35] Like why would you do that?

[00:57:37] Don't put all your eggs in one basket.

[00:57:39] Do you apply for one job in the shop?

[00:57:41] Do you apply for one apartment in the shop?

[00:57:43] Probably not.

[00:57:44] It's not a car.

[00:57:45] It's not a house.

[00:57:47] Shop or home.

[00:57:49] Look at what you like, how do you know what you like?

[00:57:51] How do you know what experience is what I have?

[00:57:54] If you're only looking through more number one.

[00:57:57] Like check around and I know this man they try to use fear

[00:58:01] and old societal standards to try to keep you at bay.

[00:58:05] And that doesn't work for me either.

[00:58:08] Like oh, if you sleep with everybody, it's like who said that?

[00:58:11] I said data around every time you want to date with somebody,

[00:58:13] you have to be successful with them.

[00:58:15] That's not cute.

[00:58:17] I don't do that.

[00:58:18] You do that.

[00:58:19] Now they start and try to clean up what they just said.

[00:58:21] No, you must do that because if you're saying that that's what I do,

[00:58:25] you must do that.

[00:58:26] Because that's not what dating meant.

[00:58:27] Dating meant dating, sex meant sex.

[00:58:30] Words mean things.

[00:58:33] And this is this current times that we're in.

[00:58:36] They have a habit of trying to rewrite history and change the meaning of words.

[00:58:40] And that's why everybody mad.

[00:58:41] Everybody's talking about this generation is this generation that.

[00:58:44] This generation who was the same thing,

[00:58:46] the last generation did and that the last generation did.

[00:58:48] It's just happening in a new way because there's different.

[00:58:52] There's different things there but the same way teens follow trends,

[00:58:56] teens up always follow trends even at honest villages.

[00:59:00] The teens follow trends that's going to happen.

[00:59:03] Oh, friends with benefits.

[00:59:05] Motherfuckers have been friends with benefits for years.

[00:59:08] What about the summer of love?

[00:59:09] Everybody was fucking everybody.

[00:59:11] Y'all forgot like this is not in this generation.

[00:59:14] Like we got to stop acting like that just because we're over simulated body internet.

[00:59:18] Like this is Berlin.

[00:59:19] This is what happens.

[00:59:20] Technology is not that deep.

[00:59:24] Yes, it's definitely not that deep.

[00:59:26] I'm glad you mentioned that because that's what we're going to talk about.

[00:59:30] The next up so look the next time I record,

[00:59:32] look tell us what we're going to talk about this.

[00:59:33] Dating pool is stuff.

[00:59:34] How does it need to get better?

[00:59:36] But yeah, you know what?

[00:59:38] That's why whenever older people try to talk down this generation I'd be like,

[00:59:41] you want to hook this hat cocaine.

[00:59:44] You want to hook that thing here at cocaine.

[00:59:46] Y'all didn't have the internet.

[00:59:48] Y'all all everybody went to the dance clubs and stuff.

[00:59:51] And you y'all were good things.

[00:59:53] They got had it all, man.

[00:59:55] So good.

[00:59:55] They can't even go to the club and stuff because that's what.

[00:59:58] But look, if you don't even know how to do shit, you know?

[01:00:01] The brain.

[01:00:02] And that's what I'm saying.

[01:00:03] Like, you know, I was talking to this one guy.

[01:00:05] And sometimes he sleeps together.

[01:00:09] He's a great person because he understands it is what it is and it is what it's not.

[01:00:14] Like there's no double standards with us.

[01:00:16] We just vibe.

[01:00:17] We ain't together.

[01:00:18] We're not trying to get together.

[01:00:19] We just vibe and have fun as two adults.

[01:00:21] But we always have conversations and I'm thinking to bring him on the show so you can get a better understanding.

[01:00:27] I think that he speaks great for the mental perspective.

[01:00:31] I noticed that it's a lot of people.

[01:00:35] They don't want to, they don't want to be the first in it to start the conversation.

[01:00:40] You want to know what I'm saying?

[01:00:41] Like people will get involved.

[01:00:42] The conversation is happening.

[01:00:43] But if no one opens their mouth, people don't want to be that person.

[01:00:47] I guess the ball rolling.

[01:00:49] And I'm not really sure what that is or how we can move past that.

[01:00:57] But I think people just got to, you know, take a deep breath.

[01:01:00] Just take a deep breath and like, you know, shake that off.

[01:01:02] And just start the conversation.

[01:01:04] Like, it's so easy to start the conversation and just close those gaps up.

[01:01:09] Like, there's it has to be super confusion.

[01:01:11] There doesn't have to be this fan of the third.

[01:01:14] He started the conversation of a transaction love and marriages.

[01:01:20] And he says, do you feel like today's society is based on transaction?

[01:01:24] I was like, yeah, it can be a set but has a society marriages, you know, for the most part

[01:01:31] in based on transaction.

[01:01:32] And then of course he brings it back to her grandparents, right?

[01:01:35] And I'm like, you don't think that that was transaction.

[01:01:38] Women weren't able to open a bank account on their own until 1974.

[01:01:42] Do you really think, do you really think a woman with no rights?

[01:01:47] Everything she did was for love.

[01:01:50] Like, that's not what that is.

[01:01:51] It was transactional.

[01:01:53] Granddad had a whole family and a whole town over in Grandma's state.

[01:01:57] You think she wasn't heartbroken?

[01:01:58] Of course she was.

[01:01:59] Where the fuck was she going to go?

[01:02:00] She can't get a house.

[01:02:01] She can't get a bank account.

[01:02:02] She can't work.

[01:02:03] Don't nobody like black people.

[01:02:04] Of course she stayed with her grandfather.

[01:02:06] That's called transactional love.

[01:02:09] That's why transaction love.

[01:02:10] No matter how you want to look at it, no matter how you want to twist

[01:02:13] no matter how many kids they want to have and how you came about.

[01:02:17] That's transactional love.

[01:02:20] And it's okay to say that that's what it is.

[01:02:22] That's what that was.

[01:02:25] That's what that was.

[01:02:26] Like nobody when they get married says,

[01:02:28] and then he's going to cheat on me and have kids with someone else

[01:02:30] and I'm a love of many way.

[01:02:31] Nobody says that shit.

[01:02:33] You might do it but God damn it,

[01:02:34] you know you wish you didn't have to.

[01:02:36] You know you wish you didn't have to.

[01:02:38] And you didn't have to.

[01:02:39] You chose to.

[01:02:40] But the fact of the matter is that's called transactional love

[01:02:44] to do something because you don't have much of other options.

[01:02:48] So you're doing it so you can get something in return.

[01:02:51] Like a place to stay.

[01:02:52] Somebody to provide for you.

[01:02:54] Somebody to be the man in the house and fiction and teach your sons.

[01:02:59] That's transactional.

[01:03:00] I hate to break it so you.

[01:03:02] So when you see people dating today,

[01:03:04] you like, oh, people want to be with a dancer.

[01:03:06] Getting something out of it.

[01:03:08] Yeah, just like before people are doing what society put in place.

[01:03:12] And you hate it.

[01:03:13] You hate to see it because it's being spun in a different way.

[01:03:17] And it's not coming up the way you romanticized it.

[01:03:20] But it's the exact same thing.

[01:03:24] A transaction is a transaction.

[01:03:25] No matter what year we send it.

[01:03:29] That's real.

[01:03:30] And we are going to leave it right there.

[01:03:32] I will get you out on this.

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[01:05:08] Well, see, I want to thank you for a blessing to look

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