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[00:00:29] Joining me tonight for tonight's vibes, bringing the vibes. She's from podcast out of Georgia.
[00:00:36] She's Kashari, the host of Kay's Vibes Entertainment. All right, Kay, want to tell people about
[00:00:42] yourself and thank you for joining me on Liquor Talk. And also, big thank you for having me on your podcast.
[00:00:49] Absolutely, you know, support, support networking always. I really appreciate you letting me come
[00:00:56] on to your show. Most definitely, I'm sorry, I don't have my liquor on me right now, you know,
[00:01:02] I took medicine so it can't really, you know, but next time I'll have that wine on me.
[00:01:08] But a little bit more about myself. I'm from Georgia, but I reside in Alabama,
[00:01:16] I'm a Phoenix City, Alabama. I'm a
[00:01:20] actor. I used to act, I'm still at. I perform poetry and I also do, you know, spoken word. That's my
[00:01:29] passion. And you know, I began this journey of podcasting because of my love of poetry.
[00:01:36] I knew that I wanted a platform for people to be not silenced. I wanted a filter, no judgment
[00:01:43] like you, you know, you've got your cup of wine or liquor. We're going to tell the truth. And that's
[00:01:48] my platform filter. So that's why I came along with Kay's Vibes. So that's a little bit about me.
[00:01:55] I'm all around just very energetic and very blunt and love to be about people. So that's why my
[00:02:03] podcast I promote, you know, businesses and music. And I love to V-Log and cook because
[00:02:11] you know, you got to have a girl who cook. Yes, you definitely got to have a girl cook out here
[00:02:16] because not a lot of them know how to cook. But hey, you got to and ladies also bonus points
[00:02:23] also bonus get your man that can cook as well. You know what I'm saying? Y'all really fuck some
[00:02:27] shit up together. Yes, most definitely, you know, you could have a little intimate
[00:02:34] day cooking with your bae. Yes, cooking with bae. That's that's that's what's up. Hey tell the people
[00:02:44] so how'd you get started with your podcast? What inspired you to go ahead and launch your brand?
[00:02:51] So I had a book that I wrote it was from a sortment of poems I wrote throughout my years.
[00:02:58] And that really just motivated me to, you know, I wanted to speak more around the world
[00:03:04] towards young women and younger ladies. But then I started writing it and I wanted to speak to the
[00:03:10] young brothers to all age range about life, you know, about life and the obstacles we go through
[00:03:21] every day and day to day things. I just felt like there's somewhere that we need to talk about
[00:03:27] those uncomfortable conversations and have a platform that you won't be judged and
[00:03:35] be supported. So that's where K's vibe came from. And the journey I started with just a cell phone
[00:03:43] on podcast is for anchor podcast of Spotify, excuse me, it was called anchor. And I just
[00:03:51] started that way and I got my name up with consistency. And I'm jumping back into it now so
[00:04:00] that's a little bit. That's what's up, you know, I'm saying at least you're being consistent like
[00:04:06] some people and don't feel bad. I started off on anchor as well, you know, saying it's like,
[00:04:12] and then I'm still on anchor but now I record over here on stream yard and stuff. So
[00:04:18] what's your biggest, what's something you wish you were known about podcasting before you got started?
[00:04:27] I would say being consistent is one thing and research, research, research. I have learned
[00:04:35] now with, you know, networking and I've gained like a mentor, a best friend that not necessarily
[00:04:43] equipment is important but audio and pronunciation and you know, quality imaging and branding and
[00:04:55] advertisement and marketing is very important of yourself. And I had to learn that too,
[00:05:01] you know, on the back end of having a book, I noticed that, you know, you don't want to
[00:05:07] be the person who has your book left on the shelf and is getting, you know, some dust
[00:05:13] and you're just selling it to your brothers and family and such. You want to have that vision
[00:05:19] to go around the world. So my vision was to go around the world but you know, sometimes you let
[00:05:26] life hit you and I did but back back up and I'm back up and we coming back with a banger.
[00:05:33] This is where K's vibe came back to and this podcast through everybody else, me supporting
[00:05:40] everybody, they motivate me to keep going, keep spreading the word, keep putting my talents out,
[00:05:48] you know. Yes, we definitely need you to continue to put your talents out. You definitely got strong
[00:05:55] vibes and good vibes and stuff so we definitely need you to keep putting that talent out and
[00:06:00] we need everybody out there to keep put your talent out and also to keep on the grind.
[00:06:05] All right, now we're going to pick it up from your podcast which we talked about the ups and downs of
[00:06:11] being a content creator and there are definitely a lot of downs and stuff so talk to me about
[00:06:17] some of the downs you've experienced and how did you get through those downs?
[00:06:23] So a recent down was I became a professional mode on Facebook for not one page but two pages,
[00:06:34] my personal and my business page and it took me maybe a month and a half to get to a thousand
[00:06:43] followers which was my goal for my podcasting page but it took me literally forever to realize
[00:06:55] that consistency is a key because when I stopped doing consistent episodes waiting on people to
[00:07:02] get back to me with their scheduling times for as guests it kind of backed up my episodes which I
[00:07:11] usually have on track. You have a schedule, you keep it like that because more the story, I was at 70K,
[00:07:21] 50K, 80K reaches almost to a million reaches. I was having people in boxing me for influence
[00:07:32] and content to promote them and everything and guess what it dropped to 20K reach and I had to
[00:07:43] rebuild everything up because now people like you're lost we're trying to remember you you know
[00:07:51] so I say that's my down with everything you know trying to get back up and let people know that
[00:07:57] your girl K is still here that's with my YouTube page too. I stopped with that too because I hate
[00:08:04] editing, I still hate editing so it's like a motivation every day for somebody to keep pushing me
[00:08:11] to edit not so much as content but to edit it's harsh but on China you know
[00:08:23] yes it's definitely harsh I definitely grew true editing and stuff and um yeah but I definitely
[00:08:28] grew true editing. Edding does take forever you know I'm saying does take sometimes takes
[00:08:34] the little studios forever to get the audio right you know I'm saying so I definitely feel
[00:08:38] you there and also I definitely feel you won't just stop in but you know what I just I realize
[00:08:44] I'm just non-stop because you have a natural passion for it you're just non-stop at it but
[00:08:49] I personally do take breaks you know so I know I'm gonna take a break at the end of May so but
[00:08:54] I do do take breaks not to get drained and stuff but another downside of podcasting which
[00:09:00] is definitely I definitely grew true about not scheduling guests and stuff sometimes
[00:09:05] it's like yes you guys we know some people be knowing when this is about to go down but then
[00:09:10] something happens they hit your day up oh I can't do it I'm like seriously you know what the day of
[00:09:17] and usually I remind you a day beforehand so you know what but what I realize is people who
[00:09:23] don't communicate they're not a type of guest. Absolutely people who not communicating right
[00:09:31] are absolutely not a person to come back on my show your band you're absolutely not I've had
[00:09:37] before where a person supposed to show up on the open mic show sent information everything
[00:09:45] advertising ads we advertise ads everything gets with no show your band I'm sorry no yeah I'm sorry
[00:09:55] and another thing that I will say that we'll get somebody banned real quick
[00:10:00] is if you if I show up for your show but you can't communicate with me okay your band
[00:10:05] and also another thing that really annoys me about some podcasts is they quick to try to
[00:10:09] hop on your show but they will drag their feet when featuring you on theirs they will feature
[00:10:15] everybody but you I'm like what the fuck seriously I don't know if you are experiencing
[00:10:21] you better tell me you better tell it yes yes I think this is why I do constellation calls
[00:10:30] a little bit before I get some on my show because I want to know about them but I also want to know
[00:10:36] are you the type of guest who wants to really work together do you really want to see success
[00:10:42] within us too that means you need to push this episode like you push your own episode
[00:10:49] you need to think about it's not just an episode between us too but it's us having a success period
[00:10:57] that means that if you see somebody else there might be a good fit for me hey my girl kashar I
[00:11:04] think this person good for you or and me too hey Vick there I think this person would be good
[00:11:09] for you y'all can collab together or in that such that's good people people need to stop
[00:11:15] thinking so gatekeeping and small minded yeah they are small minded they're all small minded
[00:11:22] are gatekeepers in here and also they're people that have beef with each other it's like you know what
[00:11:27] it is 2024 life is too short for beef over petty shit you know I'm saying let's come together
[00:11:33] let the rappers have to be you know I'm saying we need to be coming together and collaborating
[00:11:38] and building each other's network stuff and stuff so it's just it does get ridiculous but you
[00:11:43] gotta just keep pushing keep going now on the flip side what's up positive what's something positive
[00:11:50] you could say you experienced through podcasting I would say the positive things will be the people
[00:11:57] that I meet they're very you know energetic they're very realistic real they're very nice
[00:12:06] you know they support you and they don't even know you I have a a host on my other show from all the way
[00:12:16] in another state don't even know me but it seems like we're best friends that she's so invested
[00:12:23] in pushing me that she motivated me to keep her going too and that's the person who keeping me
[00:12:30] going so those type of people when I say ups and downs are what they say keep like minded people around
[00:12:38] you you know keep that around you that's our ups and the other ups is just being able to go to
[00:12:47] different events and stuff and meet people who have the same interesting you like podcasting
[00:12:55] or even you know being able to get your name out there you know one day I'm gonna be on somebody
[00:13:01] Netflix movie one day I'm gonna be on somebody's talk show because yeah you heard of my talk show
[00:13:07] so I'm on your actual talk show so that's the ups yes you better believe it and also another
[00:13:14] up I will say is going to a podcast convention or podcasting and people recognize you like
[00:13:22] you see you start networking people start talking to people and you share social media information
[00:13:26] you find out you're already following each other and then there's some people coming up to you oh
[00:13:31] you're the man from the song so it's the I'm like you better come on now you know I'm saying
[00:13:36] and then you have those like minded people empowering you and telling you hey you've
[00:13:40] got this keep going and also they rated it for their time to come on show like
[00:13:46] I can't tell you how many guests I've had come on right after this podcast
[00:13:51] convention called Afros and Audio's to lead listen man I'm promoting this thing for you man
[00:13:56] so show me some love but there's this podcast convention called Afros and I was a black
[00:14:01] podcast convention I hope you hope to see that it's gonna be in Baltimore in October
[00:14:07] so I definitely get you some more information and fingers crossed I will be speaking again
[00:14:13] there next year so you know later this year so definitely go ahead book your trip to Baltimore
[00:14:18] you know I'm saying because it was a fun experience to network with like minded individuals so
[00:14:24] I would definitely say that's definitely up for me you know I'm saying even more motivation to
[00:14:28] keep going because there are people I know I said this on your podcast but kind of not there
[00:14:34] are people in other states that are tuning into your show and hell even other countries because
[00:14:41] on episode 292 I had somebody from Italy on the podcast and also I had somebody from
[00:14:46] England on the podcast in previous season so that kind of motivation as well talking to people
[00:14:52] in other countries that's a motivator as well like god damn I'm okay making making these connections
[00:15:01] I agree because even me looking at my insight sometimes is not necessary about the numbers
[00:15:08] all the time when you know mango right now to be consistent but when I see that it's someone in
[00:15:15] like Italy like you said or it said Germany the other day I sing oh my my my my
[00:15:27] I felt that you know so I definitely felt that I'm like and then I think I saw
[00:15:32] I think I saw Nigeria once I'm also oh shit people in Nigeria rocking with me oh come on now
[00:15:39] motherland yes the motherland so you know what I'm not even gonna worry about the local people
[00:15:47] who don't show love because I got people in the motherland showing love that's right and
[00:15:55] you know what you said about the you know local people it's kind of funny but you know
[00:16:00] you get people outside that support you more but I get it so much why I used to that's why I'm getting
[00:16:07] back consistent oh my gosh Keshara saw your podcast online I'm are you the girl Keshara
[00:16:16] from kids vibe with that book melon and pop I said oh people know me even guys listen about
[00:16:27] the same as women which was strange because why would men want to listen to a podcast usually
[00:16:34] there was mainly talking about women but I switched it up so yeah welcome everybody
[00:16:41] listen I can answer because we want to know how y'all think sometimes and also
[00:16:45] we want to know how y'all think you know so we really want to know too you know
[00:16:49] know how y'all think so we know how to deal with y'all and me personally I'm listening
[00:16:53] because I can have y'all on the podcast so I gotta know what the hell to talk to you about you know
[00:16:58] I'm saying so so yes it goes both ways you know I'm saying and that trust I'll be shocked here some
[00:17:03] women be giving me feedback on the men's rounds and stuff I'm like oh y'all be listening to hear
[00:17:08] what a whole bunch of men talk about oh shit okay okay ladies y'all wrong with your boy you
[00:17:14] know I'm saying because we us men we're giving you logical advice we don't not some but not
[00:17:19] all of us be on that red pill shit you know that's what we need that's what we need to realize and also
[00:17:24] I've also realized and listen to y'all platforms that a lot of y'all y'all actually have our brothers
[00:17:29] backs out here you know so y'all actually y'all rocking with the brothers y'all holding the ladies
[00:17:34] accountable or stuff so I can respect that most definitely we got y'all bad we do we got it
[00:17:41] when y'all right now when y'all wrong we're gonna speak up and but we got y'all we got you and we
[00:17:50] got y'all too as long as that matters ladies and gentlemen this is look at talk to more your drink
[00:17:55] the better we sound this podcast sounds a whole lot better when you get some liquor in your system
[00:18:00] y'all so keep tuning in keep pouring it up whether it's on Apple podcast Spotify iHeart radio
[00:18:06] wherever you get your podcast at kashari now i gotta ask you this what was your favorite episode of
[00:18:13] your podcast that you can look back and say damn this was one of my favorite episodes
[00:18:19] my favorite episode actually is the one that's the number one it was about um it was about a sex
[00:18:27] talk you know I was talking about different sex talks and sex experiences and tips and that such
[00:18:35] and I know on one I made a funny funny funny noise anybody who listen know what noise that is when
[00:18:43] I'm on my mom so I was mocking a woman morning I was like oh my gosh anybody let me hear y'all
[00:18:49] morning sound but it really was a great episode because I felt like people just need to come more
[00:18:56] out and be honest all these talks you have with your homeboy and homegirl let's make it real
[00:19:02] everybody come together let's talk about sex we talk about it all the time it's fun to talk about
[00:19:09] so that's my yeah listen I'm not a lot oh my into the number one episodes are be the ones that
[00:19:19] we talk about sex I'm like you motherfucker so like all this other stuff I'm talking about all the
[00:19:25] good conversations I'm having but y'all swing into the sex episodes they tune into the episodes
[00:19:33] when I done had a porn star on y'all didn't tune into the episodes when I have the crazy sex talk
[00:19:39] with ladies on shouting naturally I'm bothered y'all tune into that I'm like I just gotta go with it
[00:19:45] you know and I'm like and luckily I'm like and sometimes I gotta be weary of those episodes
[00:19:51] because I'm like I know one time I had I had a supervisor of mine just knows the ass supervisor
[00:19:57] I guess he was a private investor yeah he wouldn't know some about all his guys
[00:20:01] he found out I had a podcast I'm like and my head I'm like oh shit I'm like but luckily it wasn't one
[00:20:07] of sex episodes it was a man talk that he was like you're really good I'm okay I'm okay but I'm like
[00:20:14] sometimes I'd be scared about them sex episodes because I don't need my mama listen to that damn
[00:20:19] sex episode and call them in like mom grow up well mama damn family damn family group chat
[00:20:29] well because I know they talk about me I don't hear before my cousin funeral to my
[00:20:33] shower be talking about such a said I jay be shaking my head I'm be knowing what she's talking about
[00:20:38] she ever hit somebody's you know exactly what I'm talking about if you don't want to he keep
[00:20:43] scrolling because we are grown and sure grown now hell yeah I'm grown and you know what I haven't
[00:20:52] had cousins talking shit about my podcast I might look you've gotta be glad I'm telling my story
[00:20:57] unlike some of these other men out here who out here committing crimes and stuff
[00:21:03] I'm just on the podcast telling my story and you're not gonna stop me so guess what
[00:21:07] you might as well just turn it off if you don't want to hear it exactly we're not going to keep
[00:21:14] sweeping stuff under the rubble in the black community like they want us to do we don't
[00:21:18] keep saying it out loud if you don't like it then keep going because y'all know we tell them
[00:21:24] the truth and sometimes the truth hurts they do it really do but on another subject I know you're
[00:21:32] not feeling well which is why I appreciate you coming on a podcast even though you're not feeling
[00:21:36] well because I literally had somebody else cancel me because they said oh I wasn't feeling good
[00:21:40] I'm like you don't believe me a vision but that's just another conversation for another day
[00:21:45] what's your favorite thing to drink who you know so I like to drink wine I've been trying
[00:21:55] different wines and so it has to be a sweet type of wine sweet not too sour so I would say red wine
[00:22:05] I love some Stella but red wine is okay yeah what I've learned is red wine does the job you know
[00:22:14] I'm saying you know what and um and I also said I'm not gonna let one of my exes stop me from enjoying
[00:22:20] red wine you know because I'm like hey red wine does the job this ex is just a bum but it is what it is
[00:22:29] and that white liquor that white liquor oh you like that white liquor okay you like the clear
[00:22:36] liquor like the tequila's the room the room the vodka's I got you all right talk all right we
[00:22:46] gotta talk about something I know you've seen this in the news right talk about the downfalls of
[00:22:52] entertainers like because because I've seen people come up and then they all of a sudden
[00:22:59] come crashing down you know I don't always want to talk about us because I keep seeing it on TikTok
[00:23:04] and it's like this one celebrity is just it's like his downfall is just everybody's watching
[00:23:11] and now he like I'm about to take everybody down with me like what do you think when you see the
[00:23:16] downfall of an entertainer that we thought so highly of but now all of this mess comes out about them
[00:23:24] what are your thoughts a lot of times I'd be like I'm sad because we put this in put this image in
[00:23:34] our head that this person with that this person is so awesome this person is up there you know
[00:23:39] for our people and you know great music great energy great period like whatever they do whether
[00:23:47] it's a music industry or entertainer or um realtor anybody I'm just gonna say diddy I'm just gonna
[00:23:57] say R. Kelly like I look the R. Kelly you know family reunion stuff in the name of love
[00:24:05] hey or cookie ooh like a Oreo you know just the stories and how strong R. Kelly was that he's
[00:24:15] a powerful writer and and everything and diddy too like you will never see that these people who care so
[00:24:23] much about so-called people and the music industry and pushing people and everything you wouldn't think
[00:24:30] that they will also be abusing people and using people but hey um that's the world around us
[00:24:38] but we just see that growing up and we like oh my gosh I didn't see them like that now we just like
[00:24:46] dang should we believe this and I'm like are you serious and then I'm seeing stories about all these
[00:24:54] parties and I'm like all these cameras all these videos since I'm like if these people I'm like
[00:25:01] god damn these people can't even enjoy their party and peace you know I'm saying you
[00:25:05] were out here videotaping them I'm like oh my goodness I always thought it was just music but then
[00:25:12] thanks to tiktok you learn about how dirty the music game is it's like oh my goodness you gotta do
[00:25:19] all of this just to get your music out there it ain't not just in music way you gotta do all this
[00:25:28] and it all comes out it's all like and if you don't agree to it they blackmail you or
[00:25:33] they make it a whole hell for you yes and it's just not the music game it's the um at the industry too
[00:25:42] how they try to come for tally pair to saying that tally pair was one that chooses masculine men
[00:25:48] because that's who he attracted to and he did something wonderful or how they came for tdj's
[00:25:54] the preacher with getting on all that time out they made on sex clubs and stuff or you know why can't
[00:26:03] they live their life from private but they know that in this industry nothing is private so there
[00:26:10] is gonna be videos and there is gonna be movies and everything all around we're gonna see everything
[00:26:16] eventually yeah it's like I say what done in dark always comes to the light but it's like
[00:26:23] everybody's talking about what did even to everybody's like but now a whole bunch of people got their eyes on
[00:26:29] oh jay-z oh he next and stuff but i'm like you know what if he did his dirt it's gonna come out you
[00:26:35] know i'm saying everybody keeps saying he gonna be this dirty stuff i'm like it's gonna come out too
[00:26:40] just like just like having for diddy i'm like it's gonna happen and also i've heard there was
[00:26:46] some real sickos like somebody made me aware of q hefner that he was a real sicko it's like
[00:26:53] but the real sickos though are the rich billionaires those are the real sickos and stuff because i'm
[00:26:59] talking to somebody about that they were like those billionaires they think because they have
[00:27:03] all that money they got they can experience just sick fetishes i'm like some of the
[00:27:08] shit i heard they were doing i'm like what the fuck absolutely absolutely it's always those
[00:27:17] it's not even folks we thinking that broke folks be having so much uh nasty sex or whatever no
[00:27:26] it's the rich folks the rich folks with the money the lawyers the judges the police officers the
[00:27:35] probably president you don't never know who them be the main one is doing all these got sick
[00:27:43] fetishes with feet or with uh animals or with children sex trafficking come from all that they
[00:27:52] might even i saw one little movie where the dude it was like a museum and he watched the dude
[00:28:00] getting beat up and that kind of turned him on like getting beat the mess out of him outside
[00:28:08] the hell is wrong with y'all and then also i hear stories about some of these women i'm like
[00:28:14] you ladies don't love yourselves if you want to let a rich man piss on you or rich man
[00:28:20] make a shit on you you don't fucking love yourself that that whatever that man can do for you
[00:28:27] it ain't really worth it you gotta do that i'd rather you go get it out the mud like the rest
[00:28:32] of us don't don't devalue yourself by letting some rich man do that that's just sick well in that moment
[00:28:42] people are not worrying about value they're worrying about monetization okay they're worried about
[00:28:49] their money what's coming up next what they gotta do to get to their money they're not worrying
[00:28:53] about um value because it will just their image of that moment will just be erased to them
[00:29:01] later on yeah but what but you say that but um but we'll have that motherfuckers recording you you
[00:29:10] know saying they want to blackmail you because they want you to do something you're not willing to do
[00:29:15] they're like oh i'll just release this i'm like are you serious and that's why you will turn
[00:29:22] her around and blackmail them the best way you gotta learn ways if you're gonna do dirty stuff
[00:29:29] like that and i i that we're talking about it i saw it on a movie where the lady blackmail rich man
[00:29:39] rich man knew that they had fetishes with nasty things little girls and everything and she created
[00:29:45] a place for them to come and do whatever they want and she video record their stations to blackmail
[00:29:53] them in case they didn't want to give her her money in case she needed residual income she had a blackmail
[00:30:01] so that one was smart you know sam but people if you got those sick festures you need to find places
[00:30:11] that are discreet you know i'm saying that you don't have because that some of that she's just sick
[00:30:17] you know i don't care how much money it is you're not going to catch me doing some of the sick things
[00:30:25] and stuff that say they go on a hollywood and stuff because i'm not about to have stories about me
[00:30:31] coming out oh this and that you know and now every year now every artist entertainer you're assuming
[00:30:38] because they made it they gay and stuff i'm like you know what if they're gay just go ahead come
[00:30:43] out with it you know i'm saying if you buy go ahead come out even though it's not accepted for
[00:30:48] men to be by but you know just come on out because eventually it's gonna come out to the light
[00:30:54] and a lot of them keep it in just because of what music industry and the just industry period
[00:31:01] things their record labels or their you know their managers are telling them just keep it
[00:31:08] to yourself just keep it to yourself and then once you get in good then you can be all who you
[00:31:14] want to be you could be your full self but after you get the audience first yeah but listen but
[00:31:22] the thing is you say that but then you might lose the audience when you find out about all this mess
[00:31:28] but then again it's like you have those loyal people i bet there are still people
[00:31:33] probably listening to r kelly in the dark you know i'm saying and he is but i don't condone
[00:31:41] we are human i don't condone but i like it here replay it step in the name of love whatever yeah
[00:31:51] step in the name of love all the all the damn classic songs you know i'm saying that i'm like
[00:31:58] you know what god damn your aunties and stuff can't be playing him now you know i'm saying because now
[00:32:03] they all this mess that came out but he ain't on but people think it's just him he ain't the only one
[00:32:09] like yeah they see what's about to happen with diddy you know i'm saying you know
[00:32:15] oh i was shocked i was shocked but then i was like hmm i'm not really shocked because they did
[00:32:25] say something about him with tj's then they said something about russell simmons and his ex-wife
[00:32:31] how she clad he groomed her so i knew a lot of what was coming out yeah it's all coming out and you
[00:32:39] know until a lot of those women that say they were groomed i'm like you stayed though like you
[00:32:44] noticed man was kind of grooming you but why did you stay you could just say is that money
[00:32:50] money money or he got something money in blackmail it's always something underlying while
[00:33:00] woman stays or while woman hasn't told their assault story or groomed or anything so i don't
[00:33:07] really knock a person even with the r kelly everybody been like why they waited so long to
[00:33:13] tell their story why they waited so long let me tell you why that money stopped coming
[00:33:22] to them parents because the parents were the ones who really need to go to jail
[00:33:26] that money stopped coming in their lifestyle and they probably just was young and naive so
[00:33:34] yeah you know what i think a lot of parents if you allow your child to be around these
[00:33:39] predators and stuff whether it's in the music industry or the artist industry or the filming
[00:33:45] industry you need to be thrown in jail because i saw bits and pieces of that dark side of
[00:33:51] nicolodian and i'm like what how the hell is this man not been thrown in jail for all this
[00:33:58] shit he done did i still ain't watched it yet because they want to put all this stuff on all
[00:34:04] these screaming websites and want us to pay for it all individually i still haven't watched it yet
[00:34:11] but i do realize that we saw it as a kid but when you're a kid you really don't realize
[00:34:16] things till you get older and it's replayed slowly to you like on cat and on sam he had her
[00:34:26] saying sexual words to us and we didn't even know he was telling us how to do a blow job and
[00:34:32] everything oh hell no these are those new what the fuck they were doing to these kids and they
[00:34:41] still ended and the parents is well along with it i'm like is your child you pimping out your child
[00:34:48] i'm like no i wouldn't i don't have any kids but i would never do that to my child
[00:34:54] it's like i would never pimp them out like that because guess what i know eventually i'm going
[00:35:00] to get old and i know that eventually i might really be relying on that child i don't want to
[00:35:06] have any kids to where they just be mad with you and throw you in a retirement home because
[00:35:11] i saw this on tiktok how some people some elderly people have their kids just put them
[00:35:17] in a retirement home but never come see them and never come visit it's just them in there they
[00:35:21] never come check on them it's crazy and they're gonna go insane and lose their mental because
[00:35:29] in nursing homes a lot of times that's what they do when nobody come visit them or they don't
[00:35:35] actively move around because they do say when you're not moving around you could lose your mind
[00:35:42] you could lose insane and everything so definitely feel like you don't want to be that person
[00:35:48] thrown in the nurse at home yeah so so all my people kids you better be doing right by your
[00:35:55] kids and also if your kid want to do something but you know i'm saying you need to be minding
[00:36:01] certain stuff you need to be monitoring who they're going around you can't be just giving them up
[00:36:05] like like usher's mom they were usher usher i heard stories about usher's mom just giving
[00:36:10] them up to diddy and you know i'm saying i'm like damn
[00:36:18] yeah a mama apparently the mama just gave usher up to diddy like for um for him to work with
[00:36:25] the music and stuff i'm like wow you just willingly just came up with y'all and stuff nah
[00:36:31] you better be right there with them like hey we going to the studio i'm about to be right
[00:36:35] in the studio with you know i'm saying and that's when it comes down to it when
[00:36:43] strict parents sometimes are very needed very needed to it's thin yeah
[00:36:53] but don't explore your children and don't be too um you know too friendly you're not your
[00:37:01] child friend so don't let them go everywhere and do everything just be very apparent be a parent
[00:37:08] don't let them do what you don't think is wise be a role model in the example
[00:37:14] exactly always be an example um so all the people out there keep grinding and stuff
[00:37:21] don't be don't be so worried about your fall off but remember what is done in dark always
[00:37:27] will come to light so don't be out here taking secret deals or doing some shit that you wouldn't
[00:37:33] be comfortable with it coming out that hey you did this you did that don't do it just don't do it
[00:37:39] if it's comfortable if you're gonna be uncomfortable because everybody's time call comes some people can
[00:37:45] just ride off into the sunset and just retire with their money but from their hard work
[00:37:50] but then some people they have the dramatic fall off and they lose everything don't be
[00:37:54] that person that has the dramatic fall off and lose everything
[00:38:01] because do not be that place yes because the only thing we might we will forget about all the good
[00:38:07] you did we're just gonna focus on the bed you know i'm saying because we know you have some good but
[00:38:12] now you don't remember your bad because guess what that's going to ruin it for you that's gonna
[00:38:17] ruin for your kids and you know i'm saying look at what happened with ojah simps i know he
[00:38:22] passed away but you had a lot of people still saying oh good riddance i'm like seriously would you
[00:38:30] go remember the bad honestly where i saw that notification oj simps did i said oh yeah that's
[00:38:39] about what i said to i was like oh wow you know i'm saying really saying nothing too bad because
[00:38:43] i don't want to speak on the dead because guess what people don't realize when you speak on the
[00:38:48] dead that speeds up your downfall or some shit that happened to you because you spoke on the
[00:38:52] dead in a negative way but you know i'm saying you try to remember the good but it's kind of hard when
[00:38:59] that case just pops up in your head and it's like you didn't think to yourself the only reason
[00:39:04] if he got off is because of the racist criminal system that guy exposed and also he had a whole
[00:39:11] bunch of money and a whole bunch of high-powered attorneys so but you know i'm saying you want
[00:39:17] to have a gradual fall up to where people remember you on the good light but that can't happen to everybody
[00:39:24] i do not want them to remember my not necessarily my downfalls because we all human but the the
[00:39:32] bad things the bad things like the real bad things remember my good days yes yes remember
[00:39:42] my good and also and please give me i hope they give me a plaza while i'm still here and also if you
[00:39:48] got something bad you want to say about people don't wait till they did to say it either say it in
[00:39:53] their face say why they're still alive you'll have more respect for you know i'm saying and if
[00:39:59] there's something don't don't let it come because you never know when that time is coming for you
[00:40:04] right you feel so much better if you say it why they're alive until they face
[00:40:08] this exactly ladies and gentlemen this is look at how go ahead and subscribe if you haven't done so
[00:40:14] already now lastly what now when it comes to dating it does suck out here the dating pool is trash
[00:40:21] so that's why i tell my people in relationships hold on to them damn relationships until the
[00:40:27] wills fall off but how can you tell if somebody is wasting your time when it comes to dating
[00:40:39] they inconsistent um never remember anything you say or a matter of fact some don't remember your name
[00:40:50] not even the small things like they're getting to know each other steps in stage they will completely
[00:40:58] forget or they necessarily don't even care to know so that's when i know that time to go time to go
[00:41:12] and also i will like and also nothing i would say about if i tell somebody's wasting my time
[00:41:18] because if they're not really taking an interest in what you like to do or if they're not really
[00:41:22] being supportive of what you got going on or they're not really being supportive of your vision and
[00:41:27] seeing how can they help with your vision or how can i help you out any way i can if it's just
[00:41:33] all about them all about them you know what and also i could tell somebody wasting my time
[00:41:39] they keep asking me for things but you know what better return you gotta ask yourself before
[00:41:45] you ask me for something ask yourself this can i ask you for that same thing without it being no
[00:41:51] issue if the answer is no then don't ask absolutely absolutely if they're keep talking about
[00:41:59] their self all the time if you cannot get a conversation without them centering it about
[00:42:05] them them them them or if you can't even get them to take you out on a date if you can't
[00:42:12] either get them to try to do things that both of y'all want to do not necessarily about just them
[00:42:20] no or like you said like what if even thinking about the little things you know you wasted my time
[00:42:29] and you're not motivating me you're not really trying to get to know me and even if you did
[00:42:37] did you support me did you support my podcast did you share myself did you try to motivate me did you
[00:42:44] even you know listen to me after my podcast when i try to talk about my podcast did you actively
[00:42:51] listen did you listen and share if not you gotta go you gotta go anything somebody else please
[00:43:00] do because also i need you to listen to my podcast for not just be supportive don't be
[00:43:06] listening be just see if i said something about you because you know what i know a lot of people
[00:43:12] they would they will listen to simply try to listen to say if you said something about them
[00:43:16] and then they'll throw it in your face like hey keep my name out your mouth or
[00:43:20] don't talk on this or something like that well i'm like if the shoe fits then the shoe fits
[00:43:26] and also you gotta know my heart because if i'm showing you love on the podcast i'm not
[00:43:31] necessarily throwing shade at you sometimes i can just be showing your love knowing i still see
[00:43:36] you you know i'm sorry i could be showing you in my way showing you love because if i want to
[00:43:41] shade your ass i could drop the nuke on your ass and spill the tea you gave me if i wanted to
[00:43:47] you know so you should be happy if you get mentioned you know exactly anything that i say
[00:43:56] to them baby i already said to you so nothing new yep and also most times you already know how i feel
[00:44:04] about a certain situation you know what i'm saying and me just talking on the podcast but it's just
[00:44:09] because it popped up in my mind and hey you know what and that's how it is that's how it came out
[00:44:16] gonna let the wheels fall off say how it is and how it came out
[00:44:22] yes and how it say how it is and how it came out you got to and also people
[00:44:26] quit wasting people's time if you know damn well you ain't hit rate for relationship or rate of build
[00:44:32] something with or have somebody to talk to get this stepping because you know what i've seen men
[00:44:37] and i've seen women deal with somebody that's going above and beyond for them only to tell
[00:44:42] them oh i'm just not ready for that yet man listen the dating pools are already trash so
[00:44:49] if you find somebody to do you better hold on to them you know
[00:44:53] baby they're not ready for commitment and if you're not ready for commitment
[00:44:57] if you don't want a relationship jb unn it's in blunt tell her what you want that's what i said
[00:45:03] do you want to sneak a link do you want a sex partner do you want company
[00:45:10] do you want somebody to talk to or do you want a man do you want to want me what is your
[00:45:15] definition of a relationship let it be known we all grown you know what you want men really do
[00:45:22] know what they want and women do too we just need to stand on our boundaries yes and also
[00:45:29] women y'all need to also people need to stop setting unrealistic expectations and being
[00:45:34] disappointed when they're not met because you know what because a lot of people you're
[00:45:39] passed by the person that probably could exceed your expectations for a some bum
[00:45:44] for a bum woman or a bum man who you know damn well can't exceed can't meet any of your expectations
[00:45:52] and then y'all want to get a lot of me like women ain't this and men ain't that on social media when
[00:45:58] you're probably passed by a lot of decent people just to choose the bomb well honestly you
[00:46:05] don't know a person is a bomb until they show you the true colors a person is a catfish a lot of times
[00:46:12] they'll put on a persona a whole mask just because you're telling them the things that you want
[00:46:19] they will start to do that and imitate it just to get you in and then be a whole different person
[00:46:26] now if they come out the gate telling you that they this person then you just to fool yourself
[00:46:33] but other than that I know for sure they catfish and I know for sure we have expectations but
[00:46:40] it's about standing on it and do you have realistic expectations whatever you asking him to do you need
[00:46:47] to do for yourself and do for him too like if you asking him to do such a search for you he
[00:46:55] need to make this money he need to be the breadwinner were you the breadwinner before
[00:46:59] you asking him to come in and if he have his bad days can you step in for your man
[00:47:07] mm-hmm and also don't don't let and also people can't let one relationship overwhelm y'all set
[00:47:15] your standards so ridiculous to where somebody decent somebody with a good hell in their shows
[00:47:20] comes along and they hear your expectation and you're just like and they're like oh hell no
[00:47:26] because that's some people that they get in the one bad relationship it's so bad that they just
[00:47:31] jack up everything they fucking that they just have all these unrealistic expectations
[00:47:37] because of one idiot I feel you where you come from with that I'm that person but not the
[00:47:47] unrealistic expectations I would be just I would say if one relationship messed up I'd be single
[00:47:54] forever well I'm the empty with no cats cuz I'm like animals in the house by myself to the day to pull
[00:48:01] horrible yet I won't let it dictate you know me going back out there but my mindset to change
[00:48:11] it has to change in me first like basically that person need to heal work on they sell first
[00:48:18] and then when they worked on they sell first and they mind change within they sell
[00:48:24] then their option who they looking for will change too a lot of folks say that I saw that
[00:48:33] a woman keeps going for the same person in a cycle like you are who you're trapped
[00:48:39] I never understood that statement until it was really explained
[00:48:44] you're you are who you attract at that moment so if you're going through something right now and
[00:48:49] you're damaged somebody really damaged you then you're gonna attract a damaged man you're gonna
[00:48:57] attract a man who has a lot of baggage and who is still working on himself so if you want a man
[00:49:06] who is on that high level who has his shit together who is making that money then you need
[00:49:12] to be working on that within yourself to making that money who see yourself as the most valuable
[00:49:18] and speaking that then you attract it that's real and also and when it comes you better not fumble
[00:49:26] it you know I'm saying but I find a way to hold on to it you know I'm saying because
[00:49:30] that look how my diamond does you know I'm saying lightning doesn't strike twice you know so
[00:49:36] if you catch lightning in the body you better run with it you know I'm saying no matter what
[00:49:39] stage you are you know I'm saying because sometimes you may be like am I ready for this but if it's there
[00:49:44] you better just work to hold on to it and plus a real one will work with you even though you're
[00:49:49] working on yourself most definitely most definitely now I'm gonna close with this because I got
[00:50:00] this crazy ass situation I saw on Facebook and I gotta share this with y'all this person I thought
[00:50:08] I don't know how this popped up on my timeline because I don't follow baby mom baby daddy drama but
[00:50:14] here's here's the scenario I had to read this because I read this the other day I'm like are you
[00:50:20] serious all right this person says need advice my baby daddy kept stepping out the cheat and I just
[00:50:26] couldn't take it no more so I told him if you want to cheat I have to get some play too
[00:50:32] well I'm tired well I was tired of him always leaving so I let him find a living side piece
[00:50:39] she stays in the basement with her kids so I can have the main floors to myself and my son with my
[00:50:46] son then I meet an amazing dude on twin on tinder and we decided to move him into the
[00:50:52] basement with her just because it makes it easier for me and my baby daddy to go down there
[00:50:57] and mess with them well my side dude at his side piece wound up falling in love and now she's
[00:51:04] expecting but we don't know if it's my baby daddy's baby or my side dude's baby now we're all arguing
[00:51:10] because we don't know who's gonna claim what on the tax next year I'm thinking me and my baby
[00:51:16] should claim any kids that come for our basement because it's our basement but the side pieces
[00:51:23] want to get the DNA test to see if we need to claim it as their kids so I need advice
[00:51:29] my advice when I read that I'm like what in the fuck because how the hell you guys are
[00:51:36] gonna allow that to happen what do you think this sound like an unorganized sister wives
[00:51:44] of some messed up polygamy because first of all this sound all jacked up so why you got everybody
[00:51:52] living in your house let alone the basement is this some flowers and the added shit
[00:51:58] like come on I didn't you over here talking about some tax paper you just want the money
[00:52:05] they help like what are they doing like are they helping or are they helping y'all with the rent
[00:52:13] and stuff because if they help y'all with the rent and stuff because the rent is high and y'all
[00:52:18] in the house with a basement so I know that shit is high how big is the basement and why they how
[00:52:25] do you fall in love how your side piece falling love with his side piece why is they living in
[00:52:32] your house you might as well become polygamy and I'll be a happy family yeah that sounds
[00:52:41] like polygamy to me just become a happy family have everybody put all their money in the house
[00:52:47] and y'all just figured to shit out because this definitely sounds like polygamy like
[00:52:51] I got my side piece living in the house and he got his side piece I'm like but my question is why
[00:52:58] the hell would you put them in the basement like y'all can find a bigger house because
[00:53:02] if you put both in the basement of course they're gonna mess around you exactly around and do
[00:53:10] you really thank them as something lower because why are they in the basement you should thank
[00:53:15] of them as value if there's something to you why is they in the basement and second of all why
[00:53:21] are you putting two human beings together if you already knew that your man was gone
[00:53:27] having sex with somebody else and created a side piece and then you thought you need to go get
[00:53:32] you son too then they think they need to get some to you threw them in the basement
[00:53:37] together y'all left them alone they might got bored and started talking and you know family with you yeah
[00:53:45] yeah I'm like did y'all not think that was gonna happen like I understand the part where y'all want
[00:53:51] to have them to live in together but I'll put them in several rooms not know both in the basement
[00:53:57] so that way something happens but something can still happen if they're in the same house it
[00:54:03] don't matter where they at it just matter about communication that's where people want to play
[00:54:08] like they want to do polygamy but they really don't you don't know the all attributions that come with
[00:54:17] polygamy and then you're gonna get mad at this happen yeah you call it what it is yeah it feel
[00:54:26] like you were asking for it to happen because when I read I'm like it feels like you were just
[00:54:30] asking for trouble like I understand the part of y'all just have your side pieces in
[00:54:36] peace you know I'm saying because plenty of people in relationships they do that you know I'm saying
[00:54:40] they got to a point where you know what let's just be polygamous you know I'm saying let's all
[00:54:43] have our side pieces but not all living together don't live together and if you're gonna live
[00:54:50] together then live happily live happily and be ready for whatever comes of it because
[00:54:58] that shit right there is crazy don't be writing in places asking for advice because you in this
[00:55:05] situation you don't know what the hell you know this was gonna happen all right ask each other
[00:55:10] for advice baby go to a therapist y'all need to all go to a therapy session a marriage
[00:55:15] therapy session could see like something's gonna happen something happening y'all over here arguing
[00:55:23] about tax dollars like come on now come on now you worried about so many worried about your side
[00:55:31] piece gone you might need to work things out with your main man uh huh yeah that might force y'all
[00:55:37] to just go ahead and come together and work out the same things so we all y'all don't have to be
[00:55:43] making a side piece kind of side pieces because y'all around here sound like a damn love
[00:55:48] connection around here y'all sitting y'all side pieces of stuff just start a new show called love
[00:55:57] connection or triangle would you like to join us in the basement join us in the basement where it
[00:56:08] goes down in the Legion of Doom it goes down come come be with us we'll find your love
[00:56:14] and that love with Hunter yes y'all need help man y'all let y'all side pieces live in basement
[00:56:26] i'm like the rent already high everywhere you know i'm saying i'm like are they at least
[00:56:31] contributing to the rent at least are they helping pay some bills around the house you know i'm saying
[00:56:37] y'all worried about the damn tax dollars because this y'all y'all fucking raw and like god damn
[00:56:43] does anybody not work on them anymore shit okay you know when do they ever win one if they did
[00:56:54] well one we won't have so many high rates of s cities everything else and all babies
[00:57:02] with this abortion little um situation coming on right now with Donald Trump okay well
[00:57:08] no they don't wear condoms yeah that might have to force you to start wearing condoms i know they
[00:57:15] don't i know condoms don't feel good but hey i'd rather put the condom on in the proof then not
[00:57:20] have a baby by somebody that i barely even know just get the skin like or whatever you know
[00:57:29] feels good it feels similar whatever the slogan is yeah whatever it is i don't remember the slogan
[00:57:40] i know what you're talking about but um i don't remember that slogan is because these states in
[00:57:45] the south it's like they have a war against abortion it's like y'all don't care about
[00:57:50] anything else but abortion abortion like just leave it to the to the woman leave it to the
[00:57:58] woman don't try to tell him out he leaving it to the states so national not gonna be in it
[00:58:04] it's the state's choice we are for the people that he said we're gonna vote for it in the states
[00:58:10] so whatever the state says whatever what goes and i say it's a pro and con today
[00:58:21] yeah because you know what because leave some safe in the sounds because they they scared about
[00:58:27] becoming a minority i'm like you know what y'all doing more hurt than y'all y'all do anything you
[00:58:33] know so you're hurting your own people you know i'm saying i don't know when it comes to that subject
[00:58:41] it's very sensitive and i would say just leave it to the person who birthed it just leave it
[00:58:48] but then again sometimes you can't be like that because you have people with medical situations
[00:58:54] and they can't really thank for their own you've got people in nursing homes still hunting you've
[00:59:00] got people with disabilities or whatever you don't need and they such i need them to have
[00:59:06] discretion discretion what's the word you know what i'm talking about when it comes to different
[00:59:13] yes different situations it need to be a something in place yeah set your boundaries
[00:59:21] people set your boundaries set your discretion you know i'm saying don't overstep your boundaries
[00:59:26] you know because shit craze out here and also you know because like i said i live in a retirement
[00:59:32] state as well i'm like i'll shop to hear about how all these retirement homes got the highest rates
[00:59:37] of stds i'm like damn grandma grandpa y'all this sick i'm not sure i believe this shit
[00:59:44] they just getting it on getting it on like back in the day getting it on
[00:59:50] that's why a lot of asses got 50 damn grandkids and stuff
[00:59:56] they have more kids than the our generation my generation but over here looking at it when we
[01:00:01] pop out with kids oh they they got another little baby i'm like didn't y'all have 13 kids
[01:00:08] ancestors said you got 13 kids don't look at me yeah shout out to uh shout out to somebody
[01:00:16] with their like on facebook shout numb ladies and gentlemen so shout them but yeah i'm like
[01:00:21] i'll be saying the same thing too because i remember i had an older gentleman he's asked me
[01:00:25] he said i told him i was in my 30s and went man well no joe is i had three kids and so i'm
[01:00:29] like well sir when you were my age shit was cheaper okay man gas was probably only a dollar
[01:00:40] a gallon back when you didn't pop down the babies and stuff so excuse me for not wanting another
[01:00:47] expense but you know it was cheaper better life was much a little bit easier they had no care
[01:00:56] in the world so they was able to pop out all these kids nowadays it's it's the struggle is rough
[01:01:03] for its tire we think twice about popping their baby not about papacucho but
[01:01:16] hey listen i'm thinking twice about who who i who i'm like hey okay let's go ahead and do this
[01:01:22] rosson had his baby you know i'm saying nah nah we we uh we have discretion around here
[01:01:30] right as you should so what's your plan for the for the podcast for the remainder of the year
[01:01:40] um so i want to talk more about you know sex talk also about self-care self-love and just the
[01:01:50] controversial type of topics in the uncomfortable ones people don't talk about a lot so i'm just
[01:01:55] going to be getting more awareness with those you're going to see more engagements with musical
[01:02:02] artists and promoting them promoting business getting back to my community which i love and getting
[01:02:09] back to my talent which is singing and you're going to see more cooking you know all around
[01:02:16] you know rainbow do a little bit everything that's real that's real so all right you got a
[01:02:23] wonderful platform because obviously you have me on it and obviously i have you here so watch other
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[01:02:42] you need to subscribe if you want to laugh and subscribe that's real well k i want to thank you
[01:02:50] for blessing the liquor talk with your presence and thank you for having me on kaze vibes um we know
[01:02:56] if you need a man for that sex talk let me know i'll come back through if anything else just remember
[01:03:01] i might be in florida but i'm just a dm away so if you need me to come back through let me know
[01:03:06] we get some work in absolutely will let's get this work yes yes thank you for coming through
[01:03:16] and thank you to listeners for subscribing to liquor talk and checking this episode out until the next
[01:03:21] episode keep pouring it up and keep remembering to keep pushing through whatever you got going on
[01:03:26] keep pouring up keep pushing we pushing y'all for we taking over the 20s what four and the 25
[01:03:32] we out this thing y'all peace