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[00:00:12] We are 10 episodes away from 300 ladies and gentlemen, listen, the podcast journey is on
[00:00:19] the ground but it's we still grinding podcasts not Seattle she has the host of the life unscurd
[00:00:27] the podcast and four other podcasts. She's a business entrepreneur. She helped
[00:00:32] everybody with their podcast. It's Danny Marie. She was in the comments section a few weeks ago,
[00:00:37] and now she's on Likertop just that fast. That's how we do things. How you doing tonight Danny?
[00:00:42] And what's less, less, less, thank you so much for having me. I'm doing wonderful. I appreciate
[00:00:47] you having me on the platform. How are you? I'm doing great. You know what I'm gonna get this
[00:00:51] platform look right? Yeah, the Likertop podcast. Yes, I'm my my my my retirement podcast and
[00:00:59] you were tiring? April Fool's motherfuckers. If you're motherfuckers believe that,
[00:01:05] it's April Fool's happy April Fool's month. Ladies and gentlemen. You got me on my way.
[00:01:13] What 300 in your already what? Tapping out my such a good new chart. I got 300
[00:01:18] mule in me. Okay, bless. I love this. Happy April Fool's month. Ladies and gentlemen,
[00:01:24] I hope y'all didn't get pranked. Y'all here didn't fall funny. Pranks are drafts. You know, so
[00:01:32] but Danny tell us about your journey. You got five platforms. Talk to me about everything.
[00:01:38] They tell us about all your platforms. Well yeah, thank you so much again for having me.
[00:01:44] I am a single millennial mom based in Tacoma, Washington and we shared just a moment ago that's
[00:01:49] about 30 to 45 minutes south of Seattle. So most people know either Washington DC or Seattle,
[00:01:56] Washington. I'm in Tacoma, Washington, south of Seattle. And basically my journey for podcast
[00:02:02] things started in I would say I was first introduced in 2020. My live driver at the time,
[00:02:08] so to see told me that he was a producer for podcasts and that he had his own studio.
[00:02:14] It wasn't until I got laid off from my second full-time job as a single mom,
[00:02:20] taking care of my one year old at the time trying to make ends meet doing two full-time jobs,
[00:02:26] but because of COVID knowing that I was going to be laid off from both full-time jobs,
[00:02:32] I knew I needed to kind of push myself into something different. The fact that I was a new mom
[00:02:37] with a child during the pandemic, trying to figure things out, the loss of my dad and just all
[00:02:45] of this newness I really struggled for a bit with myself identity all over again. And so podcasting
[00:02:53] seemed to be a natural progression for me, a space where I can talk openly and candidly to kind
[00:02:59] of deal with all of these interpersonal issues. So I started a podcast with my mom that gentleman who
[00:03:05] was my live driver back in 2020 wasn't back to my producer. We did 20 episodes together as a unit
[00:03:13] and before we ever released a single episode, we batched all of that content
[00:03:19] and that was actually at the till end of my second pregnancy. So I pretty much talked to my
[00:03:29] podcast with my mom about mental health, childhood trauma, generational curses, and societal
[00:03:34] stigmas that single mom space because again, I was a single mom raised by a single mom
[00:03:40] trying to figure myself out. And that basically set the trajectory for me kind of getting addicted
[00:03:46] to podcasting. I've always been a person that people can come to and kind of lay everything out on
[00:03:53] the table, very non-judgmental, very open. And yeah, that's pretty much the reason and the way
[00:04:03] that I've gotten into it, just kind of like I said in my open book, I have a master's degree
[00:04:07] in educational leadership. I have an associate's degree in human services. I have a bachelor's degree
[00:04:13] in liberal arts. And so all of that kind of combined creates this nice packaging for me to kind
[00:04:20] of lean into helping people on a large scale through podcasting. It's always been a passion of mine
[00:04:27] to amplify people's voices, to take care of people who find themselves in difficult situations.
[00:04:33] And so here I am no longer doing mother and daughter dual podcasts, but my long-term goal is
[00:04:40] to go back and do mother and daughter dual podcasts, but create a network around it. But I'm kind of
[00:04:46] like exercising my muscles and just throwing out different darts and playing with different ideas.
[00:04:53] And so I have motivation Monday, mommy meet up. That's a podcast with busy moms who both have
[00:05:00] a business and deal with parenting and try to balance the two the best that we all can.
[00:05:08] That's group attendance. We have about upwards of five moms who come on. We use a quote to kind of
[00:05:14] talk about how we're feeling, how we relate to the quote, and kind of like talk around that.
[00:05:22] And then we have life and script. It is a one on one interview style format. And that's
[00:05:27] pretty much where I have a guest on to come talk about most of the time it's a business coach,
[00:05:32] business or coach consultant or author. That's pretty much those people that kind of come
[00:05:39] on life and script it and they talk about their arc and their story. They're pitted. They're
[00:05:43] transformations and how they arrive to become who they are as of today in the present time. We have
[00:05:50] throw it back Thursday where we have myself and two other people talking about mainstream
[00:05:56] median. We talk about social media, everything media, everything in the news and things that
[00:06:01] we are inundated with every day and how we all reconcile with the stuff that we see on our
[00:06:09] platforms on social media and on the news. And then follow me Friday again group attendance were
[00:06:15] upwards of five people joined. Everybody has about 15 minutes of fame on the platform talking
[00:06:21] about who they are, what they do where they're from and essentially why people should follow and
[00:06:24] support your movement. And then the last is plan to podcast which is I would say kind of a
[00:06:32] branch off from my business plan to podcast helping industry experts launch grow and monetize
[00:06:39] their podcasts but we decided to create a podcast around it talking to podcasters about their
[00:06:44] podcasts. And so that has been me for the past few years now and I love it.
[00:06:51] Wow, I'm glad you love it. Rest in peace to you that thank you never want to lose a parent
[00:06:57] and I just wish it was just wish that you could see this great work. So how would you find your
[00:07:03] love for it to keep going because this shit can be a struggle you know. Oh yes. Because I have
[00:07:08] my days I'm like to hell with this because it's some BS but as you feel like nobody hears you
[00:07:14] you're pushing out work you putt nobody hears you but you got five different platforms like
[00:07:19] how do you what motivates you to keep going. Yeah and I like that question because I told you
[00:07:24] I was listening I'm always listening to my friends and my peers and so I was listening to
[00:07:29] your podcast yesterday with shout out to you author Mickey is how she coined herself when
[00:07:35] in social media but you guys were saying some of the barriers are people don't like to show up
[00:07:41] it's hard to find guests all of those things so there are a lot of different reasons why people
[00:07:46] would get in it and not be able to sustain because it is difficult at times but I think because
[00:07:54] I have five shows it keeps the variety and keeps me kind of interested so even if people don't show
[00:07:59] up or I have a which I haven't had much of the bad guests experience. But there's so much variety
[00:08:07] in my day day-to-day week to week that's what keeps me going like I can kind of just brush off
[00:08:14] the last experience because I already have another one lined up the same day but also it's just
[00:08:19] really fun and invigorating for me to just have these conversations with people. I just love it
[00:08:27] yeah that's the reason that's how I keep going and of course I want to get to that space where
[00:08:32] I can create a network and so that's also what keeps me and then for first and foremost above all
[00:08:37] else I feel like it is a passion within me that a purpose that God has placed in me to kind of
[00:08:44] continue to amplify voices. I thought it would be educating people in a classroom but it's
[00:08:49] educating people on a large scale through podcasting and it doesn't have to necessarily be
[00:08:54] me always being at the forefront and teaching it could be facilitating an experience where other
[00:09:00] people can come on a platform and educate. So that's what kind of drives my purpose and then my
[00:09:05] two boys you know we've got to have something to bring in some money so that's my driving force.
[00:09:12] I feel you own that home, I feel you know also I'm shout out to Nikki Favre me on her platform
[00:09:17] and I also shout out to Nikki as well she came on look it's out early in the month of March so
[00:09:25] we did the trade-offs you know I'm saying and also I'm not kind of feeling on people not
[00:09:29] be on a sustainable podcast because I can tell you a number of people that I haven't had on
[00:09:34] I go to their page today and they're not even recording. I'm like I'm like what the fuck because
[00:09:40] it's like it's it's fun and it's like a big rate and always thought it's something new so yeah
[00:09:45] you always wonder what happened to them. Yeah it's like after five episodes a lot of people fall
[00:09:51] off and so back to my business plan to podcast which I'm sure we will get into but I do feel like
[00:09:57] if you start with the plan and the clear focus then it's easier for you to be sustainable.
[00:10:05] So what you're we'll get into that uh what's your business well who the kind of people you
[00:10:10] look for or the people that say they want to start a podcast because you know that I've realized
[00:10:15] in your my years of podcasts I've dealt with people at home they tell me how I want to start a podcast
[00:10:20] I want to do this I'm gonna do that but you go to their page and you go to their social media
[00:10:25] then I don't see them going alive I don't see them with a name I don't see nothing. Yeah
[00:10:31] well how do you determine who I need to help out and who might just be a waste of my time?
[00:10:38] So for me and I still kind of not struggle with that but I still do kind of play with the language
[00:10:45] around that because yes there are a lot of people who have flaked you know we set up a meeting
[00:10:52] and then they don't even show up for the meeting it's like you pursue to me I don't know why
[00:10:58] it's so hard for people to just take that next step I think for a lot of people podcasting is
[00:11:04] intimidating um they see a lot of people doing it and they feel like they can do it but then once
[00:11:09] the reality hits that okay let's move in the direction if you say you want to go in it let's go
[00:11:14] in it but I feel like people feel you need to be polished you need to have all of the tools
[00:11:20] in the programs and the equipment to get started so I think that is a big deterrent for a lot
[00:11:27] of people but in terms of who I would like to work with I say industry experts people who
[00:11:34] already have been in their field who've already been like coaching who already have a sustainable
[00:11:41] business who are already doing the work and so this is just adding another extension to what you do
[00:11:47] and another stream of revenue for you potentially like that's the goal to launch grow and monetize
[00:11:53] but people overall who aren't ambitious and usually those are industry experts who are already
[00:11:59] in their respective fields and already making ways you know in their field that's real now going back
[00:12:08] to your mother daughter podcast what motivates you to say I want to do a podcast from a mom because
[00:12:16] you might have a little inspiration my way because I remember last year my mom would pitch me she said
[00:12:21] hey you should bring me on the podcast for for mother's day and I my mom said no this but there's
[00:12:28] some things that I feel from but I'm like mom are you ready to have a conversation with your son
[00:12:33] while sipping on some liquor you know right you should be ready for that so what will you do to
[00:12:41] have a podcast with your mom yeah for me after like how did my first born child there was like no
[00:12:48] other way like I had to address a lot of the stuff that we've never talked about so for me I had
[00:12:55] to lean into it if I was going to be raising a boy another child another human being there's a
[00:13:01] lot of things in my past that I had to address with my mom so she really had no choice in it
[00:13:06] I basically pulled her along and she was like you know okay again yeah I'll do it that's my
[00:13:12] full name obviously but she was a willing participant even though at first it was like what do you
[00:13:19] have me in and then of course coming from a black household whatever happens in our home stays in
[00:13:25] our home all of that but I think once she started to hear the feedback she saw that this was helping
[00:13:33] not just us but other families other mother and daughter doos but ultimately because I was a mom
[00:13:39] and I was raising a single parent household and I was becoming a single mom there was a lot of
[00:13:44] stuff that we needed to address I say you know I was like a 12 year old girl still in a grown adult
[00:13:52] body not actually I'm still like very petite small sometimes looking like a boy but anyway
[00:13:58] I'm 37 years old but still a lot of part of me was still like 12 years old when it came to my
[00:14:06] mother and it's just because we haven't got to talk about things like both being molested or both
[00:14:13] being single moms or the absence of my dad his physical absence when he wasn't around in her
[00:14:19] emotional absence or the fact that she was a helicopter mom how was I going to parent my son
[00:14:25] being as though I was raising a helicopter household in a large key household at that too
[00:14:32] so all of those things were the reasons why I had to lean into you know those tough discussions
[00:14:40] with my mom because I wanted to like address everything that was haunting me including the mental
[00:14:47] health childhood trauma generational curses and stigma that single mom space and so that's
[00:14:53] those were the issues I was passionate about and so that's why we focused on those four things
[00:14:57] and that's the reason why we decided to lean in and have tough conversations abandonment issues
[00:15:04] parenting styles daddy issues all of those conversations we talked about
[00:15:11] so through those conversations was your mom able to take accountability for maybe her wrong
[00:15:16] doings and you know saying where your come up and stuff because the one thing I will admit about
[00:15:23] my mom is like sometimes she kind of struggled with having to take accountability of what went wrong
[00:15:30] in the past did you have that issue with your mom or was she open to honest about okay I effed
[00:15:35] up here um I fucked up here and you know this is why this is how it should have been done yeah
[00:15:42] so great question she actually was able to take some accountability but really the honest
[00:15:47] was on me and a lot of the stuff that I probably kept haunting and not haunting kept on
[00:15:56] what would be the word I would use kept at the time I was able to convey and articulate my feelings
[00:16:03] a lot more on the podcast but before I didn't necessarily have the words so I would just kind of
[00:16:09] throw darts or have a lot like a resentful spirit and it she couldn't understand where it was
[00:16:15] all coming from so I think a lot of the honest was on me taking accountability but the biggest
[00:16:21] thing that we were able to get over was the molestation situation so my mom being a single mom
[00:16:29] she had to kind of send me away to other people at times in order for them to care after us
[00:16:34] and so that meant that she sent me to a babysitter's house and the parentals were not there
[00:16:41] the oldest son was there and he you know groked and molested me and she and I never had that
[00:16:49] conversation and I never knew what the outcome was but on the podcast she said you know I apologize
[00:16:56] I did confront the family you guys never spoke to them again I did confront them I had no idea
[00:17:02] and just hearing her say I confronted them was enough for me like all this time I thought that it
[00:17:08] was kind of brushed under the carpet but also coming to find out she had experienced some of her own
[00:17:13] issues as well with molestation and so sometimes that is the case sometimes our families don't have
[00:17:19] the words because they've been through the same type of trauma and that will just resurface
[00:17:24] trauma for them so that's why sometimes it's difficult but I would say that I put my mom through a lot
[00:17:31] having that vengeful resentful spirit and so really the honest was on me and I think just being
[00:17:39] able to put that out in the open we were able to kind of get over it and past it and our relationship
[00:17:45] is a lot better than it was for sure hmm I pre-lice I appreciate you sharing that story about the
[00:17:53] most molestation on the avenue because that's majoring you know saying because not many people
[00:17:58] want to share that yeah um did that person get thrown in jail for that because that's no you need
[00:18:04] to be thrown in jail what no again I don't even think I think she addressed the family but never
[00:18:11] pursued anything else after that so no he did not no I figured with the whole me two movement going
[00:18:19] on and how everybody if those kind of things happen sexual assault happened back in a day now all
[00:18:27] those things are coming to the light now and a lot of those things are right like yeah about
[00:18:32] celebrities you know name drop in ditty and Cassie like a lot of people are coming out and saying
[00:18:39] you know that this person violated me and I think people get to a point in life where they feel
[00:18:44] that they're empowered to do something like that but in my instance no but I do say that
[00:18:51] um to those people that would argue why are you just now speaking that after so long
[00:18:58] I guess you can never really put a time on somebody else's trauma and I'm learning that too
[00:19:03] yeah and I want to know who I had to learn that as well because my thinking is if something happens
[00:19:08] to you your first instinct should be the dates authorities but sometimes you don't have that
[00:19:14] strength to go to authorities because sometimes the authorities they might not even believe you
[00:19:18] right yeah for sure we've seen a lot of that happen too and it's very troubling in a very
[00:19:26] slippery slope because now you have some women who are in media and they kind of use that to
[00:19:33] to bait men or to get a come up and they're not fully honest or sometimes they allow themselves to
[00:19:40] be in a situation knowing what the potential outcome could be but they much rather kind of
[00:19:48] you know just like for instance um not necessarily name dropping any people but just we know
[00:19:55] young women who want to be a part of the industry who want to be celebrities who want to make it
[00:20:03] and they would use a situation or a scenario to put themselves in a scenario where they feel like
[00:20:08] I'm just going to do this because he has the potential to get me where I want to go
[00:20:12] and then unfortunately find themselves in a situation that they really don't want to be in
[00:20:18] and so we do have to be vigilant we have to be very careful in the spaces that we succumb to
[00:20:23] and place ourselves in and be very mindful protect yourself at all costs but again if something
[00:20:30] does happen to you don't be shamed and say well I'm not going to speak out because I know I kind
[00:20:36] of put myself in this situation just avoid the situation if you can but also don't be ashamed
[00:20:43] if it does happen to you yes I would definitely say avoid the situation and that goes for both
[00:20:48] women and men I need both parties to avoid the situation because there's other ways around it
[00:20:54] and also it's just it's sad this it's all this is coming out now and also
[00:21:00] I'm glad some people will live to tell about because there are some people that got off
[00:21:06] and now we're finding out why they got healed and it's like
[00:21:10] business setup yeah this is the sick world we live in ladies and gentlemen this is look at talk
[00:21:18] the more you drink the better we sound ladies and gentlemen we sound a whole lot better even if
[00:21:23] it's a serious conversation on the real conversations with some liquor thank you for everybody
[00:21:28] supporting but support on our podcast Spotify I heart radio youtube twitch wherever you get your
[00:21:35] podcast at now how do you manage how does one manage five podcasts because I know your best
[00:21:42] deep podcast and every day mm-hmm I say a podcast plan I say a workflow I say scheduling systems and
[00:21:51] tools and so like there's this big argument that I have with a lot of people and I know we're on
[00:21:57] a platform called string yard but I would advocate for like zoom that's my major key because in zoom
[00:22:05] a lot of the tools are easily accessible and therefore you within the app so zoom has forms for
[00:22:12] your guest to fill out a scheduling feature for them to click the link to schedule with you they
[00:22:18] send out the alerts in the emails or the text messages you have the option to pre-record or
[00:22:26] live record you have the option to download audio or video or both so I love zoom but I would just
[00:22:33] repeat that it's a workflow a plan and then an app or tools that are going to help your workflow
[00:22:42] and then I ended up hiring three people total but I recently let two people go and that was for no
[00:22:51] other reason then I'm moving in a different direction and so they did good for what they could help
[00:22:57] with and provide at the time but they plateaued so that's why I took this break and I'm kind of
[00:23:04] pivoting and I will be changing the brand up a little bit and I think change is good for everyone
[00:23:10] you constantly working on evolving the brand but I do have to give credit to my team when they
[00:23:16] were a part of the team they were able to help me as well and so I think that if you want to take
[00:23:21] podcasting seriously you might want to consider having someone who's a talent booker and goes out
[00:23:27] to find talent for people to be on your episode or your podcast you might want to get a virtual
[00:23:33] assistant who can help you repurpose your content into a newsletter or a ebook or a book
[00:23:42] or put your description on your YouTube so yeah that's and then I have a third person who helps
[00:23:49] me with the business side plan to podcast which is the scheduling people who want to launch
[00:23:55] grow and monetize the podcast as well that's real those are some major key points right
[00:24:02] that anybody that want to get in the podcast who's already in podcast you know Santa because
[00:24:07] I myself I myself I'm looking at after I get the 300 I'm definitely going to repurpose
[00:24:14] repra and I'll do all those things and so shot you as well then I do appreciate you for coming on
[00:24:20] and um so what is the biggest piece of what's the biggest thing you wish you would have known
[00:24:25] about podcasting before you got into it
[00:24:28] hmm the biggest thing I wish I would have known about podcasting
[00:24:42] hmm I'm not normally stumped but that one is stumping me
[00:24:46] really that's the one I'm still playing I know because I I have to try to be truthful and nothing
[00:24:55] really stumped me or surprised me or took me it has taken me a back because I was like
[00:25:02] I had a lot of time to think about what I wanted to do and I had everything kind of planned out
[00:25:07] from from creating the GoFundMe page that I never really used to creating a tea spring website
[00:25:15] to sell my merch before I launch one single episode so I was pretty pretty well prepared
[00:25:23] I would say I could have leveraged because I did create so much buzz and momentum
[00:25:28] when I first came out like even down to my marketing strategy of how I
[00:25:33] premiered the podcast when I had the podcast mother and daughter deal podcast so
[00:25:38] I told you guys I was pregnant my third trimester and what I did was
[00:25:44] went on social media went off the grid didn't tell anybody about my pregnancy and when I finally
[00:25:49] told everybody about my pregnancy it was on the tail and well I combined the news with the
[00:25:54] podcast and the news with my pregnancy so I rented out a movie theater I rented out like one of those
[00:26:01] banners and the banner said the premiere and I was premiering the pregnancy in the podcast hand in
[00:26:08] hand and so I could have used that momentum and that buzz and probably boosted some ads
[00:26:16] so that I can create even more buzz around it but I just kind of
[00:26:21] kept it in between my friends and my family and my close circle that would probably be the
[00:26:26] thing that I would have changed wow that that's amazing that you did all that for the first
[00:26:32] as I'm thinking back years ago all I did was I recruited a new co-host and we just went from
[00:26:39] there we shared on new social media and we didn't have the grand premiere like that you know saying
[00:26:45] I was like but you know you know I think big or now you know it's not a stupid thing about it you
[00:26:51] got to be thinking big brooch yeah yeah so I did do all of those things and again like I said
[00:26:59] for me it was never going to be just a hobby it was supposed to be like a business I was going
[00:27:03] all in because I was getting laid off from two jobs so I had to make this kind of work so I wanted
[00:27:09] it to be like this big thing and create buzz but I could have probably boosted an ad or something in
[00:27:15] order for people to get for me to get more visibility that's true now what is the biggest piece of
[00:27:22] advice you want to give to people who are looking to start a podcast in 2024 we're we're only in
[00:27:28] April and there's like few more months until 2025 and you hear people all the time say all
[00:27:34] want to start a podcast I think I'm gonna start a podcast like what is your biggest piece of advice
[00:27:40] my biggest piece of advice is come how will at me hire me to help you I will create a podcast
[00:27:46] plan a comprehensive plan that is because there is so many details about podcasting that people do
[00:27:53] kind of get in it and then it's just like whoa you can go to like so many different platforms
[00:27:59] so many different directions and the equipment that you use and so to figure out what works for you
[00:28:05] instead of you kind of taking these baby steps if you want to jump in it to win it and be
[00:28:11] sustainable from the time that you start through finish then start with the podcast plan and I would
[00:28:17] say also so that it's not just all about me I would say also the fact that people will tell you
[00:28:25] that this is an oversaturated market and there's no space for you don't listen to those people
[00:28:31] you have a unique story you are the value you are the unique value proposition everything about
[00:28:38] you is why people will be attracted to what you do and want to follow and support you although
[00:28:44] it's not always your friends and your family it's mostly strangers who will be your avid supporters
[00:28:50] don't listen to people that say this market is oversaturated that's just like saying you might as
[00:28:54] well not have a social media page because everybody has a social media page or like the YouTube
[00:29:00] channel because everybody has a YouTube channel you can find what you neatly sets you apart from
[00:29:06] everyone else and that will attract people and there's enough space for everybody in my opinion
[00:29:12] podcasting is kind of like the new social media page like share your story share your passion
[00:29:18] and do it through a podcast it's not an oversaturated market and then when you do come over here
[00:29:23] make sure you tap in with the coach or somebody that can set you up proper
[00:29:28] that's real because podcasting is definitely not oversaturated and also embrace to support wherever
[00:29:35] it comes from because I there are a lot of people in different states that I've supported me like
[00:29:42] even though I get a little disappointed at people in my home state they really don't support
[00:29:46] as much but I'm like hey I'm going to embrace it embrace it from wherever it comes from
[00:29:51] and show love to wherever they return to love you know I'm saying because they got to you know
[00:29:57] because if you focus on the fact that people in your local and I support you you will get depressed
[00:30:03] yeah it's true people that know you well are not typically going to support you not because
[00:30:11] of any other reason but because I made a post about this not so long ago like sometimes people
[00:30:16] don't support you because they're so motivated by you they're trying to catch up to you
[00:30:20] and it isn't necessarily mean that it's a bad thing but also because people see you all the time
[00:30:26] you know you're just you know you're just doing your thing as are they and you're both just trying
[00:30:32] to win and so sometimes it's just like you fade to black for that person uh you kind of just
[00:30:37] become something that happens all of the time they're checking for everything that's new
[00:30:42] unfortunately and I don't think that that's bad but just think of it as your reach is broader than
[00:30:49] your hometown and you can have an opportunity to call people out and inward so most of the time
[00:30:57] things will go outward and then it'll be like the people that love and follow you most because I
[00:31:03] think I heard you say this too you were podcasting for a while but your mom is just now like
[00:31:10] lovely come over there onto the podcast you know so sometimes it happens like that
[00:31:15] it's an opportunity for you to branch out because maybe you need to reach other people and not
[00:31:20] be just hometown and then after that happens once you get this large following that's one people
[00:31:26] that you know and love so well are like okay let me see what you got going on because you're actually
[00:31:33] reaching beyond you know our hometown people want to see people that love you they want to see
[00:31:39] the evidence first before they actually buy into it which is unfortunate but again
[00:31:45] they see us all the time that it just kind of happens like that yeah and also nothing that's
[00:31:50] unfortunate about the people you love they will come up to you at events or functions and they'll
[00:31:56] say something negative about your podcast you know why you got this to be and it's I'm like
[00:32:00] what god damn why can't you give me the love shit I'm over here being consistent when my
[00:32:06] fuckers drop off after seven episodes I'm over here consistent why can't you give us the love so
[00:32:13] listen don't don't don't um team buy out there don't um you know don't fall into the
[00:32:20] trap of the love yeah I'm a tourist so I'm just kind of hard by nature and so it's like
[00:32:28] everybody can say whatever they want to say it's just gonna go in one ear and not the other
[00:32:32] anyways and I wish more people had that kind of frame of thought but not a lot of people do but again
[00:32:39] you can ask them you should be producing and not consuming instead of you talking about what I'm
[00:32:46] doing why don't you produce the show and do it the way you feel you should do it inside of
[00:32:51] step stop trying to protect me thank you and that's that's the one thing I said about some of
[00:32:57] the people and it's like and after I'm like something sad don't hear but I've got some point in
[00:33:02] life where you you didn't not the care anymore you you just listen to them but you're like you
[00:33:08] you just look at some type way now but you just you kind of alienated me but you know I look
[00:33:14] at you in a certain type way now you know saying I don't I'm not going to feed into you BS because
[00:33:20] you might be miserable with your life and you know what I say there's your loves company so
[00:33:25] meet people where they are at and that's true yes you got to meet people where they're at um
[00:33:31] moving forward ladies and gentlemen this is look at talk if you haven't got a couple look are ready
[00:33:36] go ahead and get your sum we don't promote hey if you if you have worked on drinking I'm saying
[00:33:41] you know saying you still listen to us but um by the way just just one off though I don't know if
[00:33:45] you drink and I wish okay kind of drink yeah so I kind of stop drinking only because after two
[00:33:51] pregnancies are not drinking I just never picked it back up but when I was drinking I really only did
[00:33:58] either or so when I was out in the club I did Hennessy in a long island iced tea or I did a red
[00:34:05] bowl in a shot of Patron with the green the green one I don't remember which one that was
[00:34:12] so that was my combo hey don't let the fact that pray to see the stuff because I know
[00:34:17] plenty of single moms they still thunder babe they still something I got balls whiskey I got
[00:34:22] tequila they still out there throwing it back you know saying I'm saying that when I was pregnant
[00:34:29] obviously you cannot drink and so after being pregnant back to back
[00:34:35] I just never did pick it back up now I used to smoke weed throwing through
[00:34:41] but I also stopped smoking weed when Snoop Dogg said he stopped smoking weed I stopped
[00:34:45] smoking weed but he lied that shit he lied I believed him yeah all right okay I'm done
[00:34:56] and I never picked him back up I knew that was that's probably the biggest
[00:35:01] fool joke out there I knew it was something I'm like okay I knew it then I started to look real
[00:35:07] thing I'm like he fooled us all for the dollar there yeah yeah he got me damn how you can't
[00:35:17] let him get you like that man that's crazy
[00:35:27] now they say that April is stress awareness month and I was talking to a friend of mine they tell
[00:35:33] me how their body was breaking down because of stress and stuff and also and people noticed
[00:35:39] that with me they're like hey you like to tell you really stressed out and stuff so
[00:35:44] and I know stress is probably the reason that people could tend to go extreme and
[00:35:51] all themselves and it's just we got to find a way to manage our stress because
[00:35:57] April with April being a stress awareness month and I need to tell y'all so where some
[00:36:02] ways you manage your stress light if you feel like you're getting really stressed out from podcast
[00:36:08] yeah it used to be smoking weed but you know this month the month of well for the month of
[00:36:16] March I took the entire month off because I wanted to basically work on myself practice my own
[00:36:23] self-care so I collaborated with a few brands that can help me practice my self-care so I'm going
[00:36:29] to shout them out shout out to the gym bands brand so this you can use this like 101 ways
[00:36:39] and it's basically for fitness it is for fitness not basically it is for fitness but stretching
[00:36:45] heavy duty fitness you can use this shout out to the gym bands brand I saw I told you how
[00:36:52] I had lost my dad the day after my son's first first birthday so I collaborated with Angie Clayton
[00:37:00] she has this book called pairing into the tunnel and outsiders look into grief and how you can
[00:37:07] care for one another and your loved ones who have experienced loss and then a 30 days to increase
[00:37:15] faith a devotional challenge and shout out to Rita Henderson passed to Rita Henderson
[00:37:22] and those have been the ways that I've been managing my stress as a lately I took off the entire
[00:37:27] month of March like I said to focus on practicing better self-care especially as a single mom taking care
[00:37:34] of two kids both three and one whoo very very important ages but very rambunctious ages and then
[00:37:43] of course I don't have anyone that I can kind of just push my kids off to for babysitting for a
[00:37:48] couple hours in order for me to take care of myself but I took this month also that I can try to do
[00:37:54] better at that and whenever I do feel stressed like I said it was using recreational drugs in order
[00:38:02] to kind of keep my mind but it has been just going to Bible study reading my devotionals working out
[00:38:11] practicing my fitness just kind of like watching my favorite movie hanging out with my kids one
[00:38:17] outside those are the things that helped me practice my stress management and to the point that
[00:38:26] April is for self what is it called self care no self awareness month I was wondering why because
[00:38:33] I haven't ever heard of it so I have to do my own research surprisingly enough that shows how much
[00:38:38] I didn't care or take care of myself but I looked it up and it said it had something to do with
[00:38:44] people's taxes like those around the same month that tax season so I guess those two things coinciding
[00:38:50] and compounding our reasons why they thought to do it in April and so going back to just business
[00:38:57] a lot of us don't have a business most people that do have a business have found ways to get
[00:39:03] tax credits so they're not as stressed because they're not paying taxes they're getting money back
[00:39:09] they're getting a lot more money back and they're finding ways to work around those taxes so just to
[00:39:14] kind of put a pin in it I think that it's probably your time to start and launch that business or
[00:39:21] diversify your strings of income because you know it is a stressful time when you are low on funds
[00:39:30] when you're trying to make ends meet you're not happy at your job you feel stagnant you feel
[00:39:36] complacent so step out and do something different and this is your call to action to step out
[00:39:42] and do something for you and that might mean real estate that might mean a real estate portfolio
[00:39:47] that might mean starting a business that might mean becoming an angel investor there's so many
[00:39:52] opportunities but it's your call action to step out and do something different yes I disagree um
[00:39:59] by the way um if you're going to do that I really say um I'm just going to say a prayer for you
[00:40:03] because I know in Florida I was talking to somebody who they tell me they're up for their um
[00:40:09] their study and real estate where they told me that the study guy has almost a thousand questions
[00:40:17] but the the action says it's only going to choose a hundred and you don't know which hundred
[00:40:22] they're going to choose so I said you first up you got this you know I'm saying
[00:40:28] because that is that's stressful right there and also my people out there
[00:40:33] y'all need learn how to become independent workers you know I'm saying because
[00:40:37] that's where you really get all the tax breaks that stuff that's where you get all the tax
[00:40:41] write-ups um becoming an independent worker and nothing about becoming an independent worker is
[00:40:46] it's on you to tell them that hey I'm not gonna make it today and they'll be like okay no problem
[00:40:51] but if you tell them yeah because uh compared to like a nine to five job where
[00:40:57] you can't ever take that time off and another thing I would tell you about
[00:41:01] relieving stress is go out in network go out and meet people and go out and travel you know I'm
[00:41:06] saying but going back to network because you never know somebody they might be able to tell you
[00:41:10] something that helped you so get out there and go out in network because you can't let stress win
[00:41:22] agree I absolutely agree ladies and gentlemen this is looking tough don't have support if you
[00:41:30] haven't done so already the merch is coming y'all we me and my buddies were talking about when we
[00:41:35] get the merch going um now we're gonna shift into relationships because the one thing I see is
[00:41:43] also a lady literally at a basketball game now they weren't at court side and she decided to
[00:41:51] leave this man because they weren't at court side and left them right that game but they still
[00:41:56] had a good view and then I saw another video of a woman getting mad with a man because this man
[00:42:04] sent her like $30 for lunch I'm like what the hell do you be in that cost more than $30 for lunch
[00:42:11] so and it turns out in these situations they weren't together they weren't in the committed
[00:42:17] relationship so why do people expect so much at the first and when they're in the day phase
[00:42:29] whoo so my honest truth if I'm being for real I don't believe any of those stories I think that
[00:42:37] it's all skits because right now we live in this stage where we're just putting on to try to get
[00:42:43] used so I don't believe them I don't know which stories you're talking about but I don't believe them
[00:42:48] but it's not to say that people don't actually think that way people do actually believe that
[00:42:54] and think that way and I think um I think that's just not the person for you period like if that's
[00:43:03] the person not saying that they require too much of their high maintenance and it's not something
[00:43:08] that you are willing to put out then don't but I think that some people do have these crazy outrageous
[00:43:15] standards but then also some people don't believe that their high standards at all it's just a
[00:43:19] boundary that they've set I would say though that if you can't provide those same things that you
[00:43:26] are asking for then you you need to check yourself and if you are always looking for a handout or
[00:43:35] a handout especially within a relationship like that goes back to that saying what do you bring to
[00:43:40] the table then you need to check yourself but I think that for some reason I don't even know what the
[00:43:49] do you whose address after millennials who what is the name for the people that are coming in?
[00:43:56] I think it's Gen Z I think it's Gen Z and Alphas I don't know how who the Alphas are but
[00:44:02] I've heard of that but I think Gen Z is they're finding that these skits and
[00:44:09] these ways of kind of appealing to the audience is what's going to get you popular on social media so
[00:44:13] I feel like it's all made up. I mean it may show that's all made up but there are people that think
[00:44:19] like that um I've met people I've seen people in the Facebook groups I've seen people on social media
[00:44:27] that think like that I've seen people on podcasts that talk like that you know I'm saying so
[00:44:33] I just think you people y'all need to grow up and re-evaluate where you these standards shall have
[00:44:39] because y'all have standards until it's somebody not in your case but unless it's somebody that
[00:44:48] does not you up like you know y'all have them standards and so but then you look at the person
[00:44:54] that knocks you up and like you're not here saying all these standards right but look at your first
[00:44:59] baby daddy well first baby mom it's true but also these young people Gen Z years they do live in
[00:45:09] a different time like a lot of them are making a lot of money uh just on social media like we could
[00:45:15] have never had baddened and so the requirements and boundaries are a little different like they
[00:45:21] are actually able to pay for the Louis Vuitton and all the trafficking things and like
[00:45:28] people have made that the new normal so if you cannot provide it for yourself then I think again
[00:45:36] you need to assess that but if you can it's okay to have a boundary and say well this is what I
[00:45:40] require I do you think that it's not okay to be vain and to be self-absorbed and feel like
[00:45:49] people need a cater to you but if you're not if there's no reciprocity across the board then that's
[00:45:55] an issue if you're saying that this man needs to do this this this this and this and all you feel
[00:46:01] like you come like it's just like opening your legs and it would have cooking clean but that's not really
[00:46:10] that's not really reciprocity that's not really the leveling out the playing field that's not
[00:46:16] anything equal I would imagine a man would tell you I could cook and clean I don't really need
[00:46:22] you to cook and cream for me so if that's all you feel like you can contribute and yet here you
[00:46:28] are asking for the person's all of the fashion the highest ticket on the menu like that is
[00:46:37] a little OD but a lot of women they sell in wigs they sell in clothes they got their boutiques
[00:46:44] they sell in nurses outfits I mean they figured it out so a lot of them can actually provide that
[00:46:51] for themselves and so I feel like it's okay to ask and require that for somebody yeah and what's
[00:46:56] funny is those women they'd be the cool they'd be the real ones they'd be the coolest ones the
[00:47:01] most down to earth you know I'm saying but it's the ones that don't have it then be the assholes
[00:47:08] instead of being an asshole people go get it shit
[00:47:15] well now I can't argue with that yeah I want you go get it you know check yourself boo
[00:47:24] I think also the city girls messed a lot of girls up you know what's funny is the city girls
[00:47:31] messed a lot of people but they're not even together anymore yeah so how do you feel about that
[00:47:36] because that's those are your people I know I know they're from Florida you know I'm saying but I
[00:47:41] think they just it's disappointed you let your fame and you let everything get in a way that
[00:47:47] into but I just feel like you know you can't really let fame destroy a bond you know I'm saying
[00:47:54] you can't let they you can't let that happen because that's not real bond if some fame can come
[00:48:00] in and destroy that yeah because I know there's some people that um they're famous but they
[00:48:07] still cool with their day ones the ones that really downward them when they have none and they
[00:48:11] still cool with their day ones yeah you can't ever forget about your day ones you know I'm saying
[00:48:18] the ones that were grinding with you that were that were in the trenches with you while you
[00:48:23] were getting it out the mud they were they were really really supporting you you know I'm saying
[00:48:27] because sometimes people get famous then they forget all that instead of the people that want to
[00:48:32] come along that's only difficult because you're famous it's crazy yeah you're right
[00:48:41] it's a crazy crazy world we live in crazy times for sure so what's what's your plan for your
[00:48:50] podcast going forward what you looking forward to with the podcast going forward so membership
[00:48:56] community coming in April changing I'm scrapping all of the shows that I told you about
[00:49:06] so when I said we're evolving and moving into a different direction I'm going more into like
[00:49:11] the text space and so I want to have more conversations shout out to while I'm not gonna say it
[00:49:19] I'm not gonna say it I'm not gonna say it let me think okay you heard it here first
[00:49:27] exclusive okay I want to do AI conversations and creations and so with that having guest on
[00:49:41] and we talk about AI he talked about technology but also we through our conversation create
[00:49:47] something tangible for our listeners and viewers through AI and with AI and so that's just
[00:49:53] like a teaser and then also I don't know if you caught wind of this but I'm starting a podcast with
[00:50:01] my ex-boyfriend and so we did yeah on Valentine's day we did an episode together it was a three
[00:50:09] hour episode three and a half hour episode and that got a lot of views as you can imagine like
[00:50:16] what are we talking about we're exes on Valentine's Day so that drew a lot of attention and so we
[00:50:21] decided that from that we will do a podcast together more so because we always critique each other
[00:50:28] on business ideas so we're gonna critique each other on like business ideas in relationships
[00:50:34] so that should be an interesting dynamic and just continuing with the plan to podcast episodes
[00:50:41] did you have a did you have a kid with this man
[00:50:46] hmm somebody you didn't have a kid interesting hey I did catch a little tip because I want that's
[00:50:54] a very interesting concept and you know it's like I say shout to both y'all because most exes
[00:51:00] they like to help with this month but I'm not doing business with them they don't exist you know
[00:51:06] right that's basically what we every now I have to question why do I so talk to you like
[00:51:12] we are so different and it but it was not like a sour breakup it's just like at that time he
[00:51:20] was coming out of the marriage I've never been married he had two kids we were all living together
[00:51:25] it was all too much and here I am now have two kids but yeah so it wasn't like a bad split where
[00:51:33] we could not keep in touch we stayed in touch but also we're so polar opposites from each other
[00:51:39] that's sometimes I do question why do we stop still talk to each other but it makes for great
[00:51:45] and interesting conversation and back and forth hence why we are doing the podcast I mean you blessed
[00:51:52] to have that dynamic you know I'm saying because all my exes say we just we just want our own
[00:51:57] step ways that we just fell face to the earth I don't even know if it exists so it is what it is you know
[00:52:06] but tell but tell the people why they need to tap in and they need to support
[00:52:11] your podcast and your platforms so if we are now in a time where artificial intelligence is like
[00:52:19] it's not going anywhere we are here the time is now and so if you are like at the grounds level
[00:52:25] that you're interested in getting to understand getting to know more about AI then certainly tap
[00:52:30] in with me because I'm going to be learning in real time with you so it's not like you're going to be
[00:52:35] I'm going to be eon to head of you and you won't really be able to tap in we're learning and
[00:52:41] growing together and that's what's going to make for a great conversation and again we're going
[00:52:45] to be producing something at the end of it all so I like to provide something that you can keep
[00:52:51] something that's tangible so maybe that's a workbook from the conversations we create
[00:52:55] a newsletter but every conversation the goal is to produce something that you can take and use
[00:53:01] and apply so follow the podcast because it's going to be worth your while you're going to learn
[00:53:08] something it's going to be both edgy training so it's educational and entertaining
[00:53:15] hmm that's amazing um I want that's amazing I definitely going to be checking out because
[00:53:20] I definitely figured out how to work AI my damn self you know I'm saying because if I can work
[00:53:25] AI this might make a lot of things in my podcast life whole lot easier so I'm definitely
[00:53:30] going to be tapping in with you to figure out some ways I can implement the AI that's
[00:53:34] the whole podcast thing because right now I'm still a one man working for you know so I'm still
[00:53:39] handling everything myself so I will be definitely tapping in figure out how I can
[00:53:44] implement AI into those things as well but I do want to thank you for blessing to lick
[00:53:49] a top with your presence whenever you're ready to bring me on your podcast remember I might
[00:53:54] be in Florida but I'm just a DM or a call away I'm like ready to go so whenever you want to bring
[00:54:00] me on and let me let me bless your platforms with my presence just let me know I absolutely will
[00:54:07] and thank you again for having me blessings to everyone listening under the sound of our voices
[00:54:12] if you need a podcast tap in with me if you want to join a podcast community tap in with me but also
[00:54:18] continue to support share this with everyone not just because I'm on it but because you're helping
[00:54:23] your friend you love one so thank you again be for allowing me to grace the stage I really
[00:54:30] appreciate you and blessings to everybody take care yes and thank you to listen to listen look
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